Episode #197 - The Tears Have Not Stopped Flowing

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 197 of Speaking From The Heart.

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This is going to be the final monologue

episode before episode 200, and I'm super

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excited to be on this journey with you

after all this time, continuing full

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steam ahead, as it relates to not only

our personal and professional development,

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but also our businesses as well.

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So much has changed since episode

number one since we started this podcast

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almost two years ago now, but here we

are, at the precipice of crossing yet

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another threshold, and we're really

figuring out what it means to keep on

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working on ourselves, to have different

perspectives, receive advice, doing

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things differently than we might have

otherwise would have done the same

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way if it wasn't for this podcast.

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We've covered so many different types

of topics not only individually, but

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also of our guests that we've had thus

far, and although we'll have two more

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interview episodes before we reach

that , milestone that hidden door, that

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potential that we can walk through, is

what we want to cross off our bucket

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list as our final monologue topic on

today's episode, and why this hidden

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door, quote unquote, is what we need to

discover not only about what it means for

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us, but how it applies to everyone else.

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Before I even do that, I have to

say that this journey has been

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monumental in so many different ways.

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The things that we are working on, the

things that we're challenging as our

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status quo, the ways in which we believe

in ourselves; we challenge not only the

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things that are around us, but also what

we believe in, what we say, what we do.

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All the actions, all the different

things, have funneled always from

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the three principles, or the three

values, of my business: relationships,

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confidence, and determination.

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Now, if you are a newcomer to this

podcast, and if you had never listened

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to any of my earlier episodes, I highly

encourage you to check out the very first

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few monologue episodes that I featured

e way back in May and June of: 2023

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During those times, I laid out

quite clearly what the purpose

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of these values are, and how it

relates to so many different types

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of things that we do in our lives.

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The meaning of those values still hasn't

changed to this day, and I love that

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the consistency and the direction that

I have continuously pushed this podcast

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towards is about not only those three

values, but about using our voice in

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this ever changing world, that we have

this authenticity to unlock inside

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ourselves, and be able to share it

with so many different types of people.

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The components, the things that

we're trying to develop inside

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of ourselves means that we have

to keep on working what is within

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ourselves that needs to be unlocked?

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We have to figure out what it is, is

that potential that we want to achieve.

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We have goals.

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We have things that we want to see in

our lives, and so many people in this

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show have shared a variety of different

perspectives, whether it's from their

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own businesses, dealing with finance,

marketing, or some other go between job.

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Even the people that have been my

friends, my family, even influencers

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on social media have been on this show.

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People that have been on NBC, CBS, all

the different networks that have been

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able to feature our guests as well,

have come such a long way in their own

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journeys, and those journeys, even in

one snapshot of time when I recorded

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them, showcased what it means to walk

through that hidden door, but I would

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be remiss if I didn't tell you how many

times that the tears that I've shed

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on this show have not stopped flowing.

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Now, I'm not saying that I've been upset.

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I'm not saying that I've been happy.

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I'm not saying that there's anything

even in between that, but this figure

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of expression, that the tears have

not stopped flowing, means that I

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have been using all the energy, all

my persistence, to continue using

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this podcast platform as an avenue

to not only share who I am, but also

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share what other people are all about.

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This episode means so much to

me in so many different ways.

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Not only does it show where I

have been, which going all the way

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back to episode one and listening

to my voice, I definitely have

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conquered imposter syndrome.

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I have addressed things that other people

might have never dreamed about achieving

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if it wasn't for the fact that I was

looking at all the people's stories that

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we've been looking at even as part of

this experience, and taking notes as

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we've gone along the people that have

addressed so many different types of

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problems, whether it's through domestic

violence, sexual abuse, neglect, childhood

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trauma, dealing with bad relationships,

dealing with drugs, dealing with

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alcohol, dealing with all the things that

oftentimes throw us off course, including

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even organizations, like Katherine

Spallino talking about her experiences

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leaving the Church of Scientology.

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People that have engaged with different

relationships, having multiple partners,

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talking about how energy manifests

into different ghostly apparitions,

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dealing with how we have this passion,

this drive to be better, but to also

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serve others, to help each other,

see the depths of our knowledge, be

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able to be educated, informed, being

persuasive in so many different avenues,

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and even learning about our own human

connection, our human embodiment, whether

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that is through joy, whether that is

through work, whether that is through

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something else that is our passion.

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All these themes, all these different

subject matters, have been the

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heart of what these episodes, this

podcast, has accumulated into.

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To say that I would have ever thought

in a million years, let alone in the

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two years since I've started this

podcast, that we would get to this

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point is nothing short of what I

think has been a memorable experience.

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Dealing with these types of hidden

doors in our life, though, means that

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we have to be aware of these types of

subjects, learning about what other

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people's conditions are, and how they

navigate through all the different

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types of things that they got going

on in their lives, and ladies and

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gentlemen, let me tell you, it is not

easy, in some respects over others, to

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be able to do something quite like that.

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Walking through that door of passion,

of joy, is hidden, which is why

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those hidden doors, even those things

that are perspectives and advice are

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gifted to those that are deserving

and worthy of receiving that kind

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of information, and truth be told.

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I was one of those people, even

in the beginning of this podcast,

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this whole experience, that would

have never thought I would be so

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deserving of such information.

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I think challenging our status

quo means that we also have to

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challenge what's inside of ourselves.

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We're always stuck with the same

thoughts over and over again,

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thinking that if we do something just

a little bit differently, if we're

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just willing to get that quick extra

buck, if we're just willing to screw

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that other person over regardless of

what they might feel, we might feel

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a little bit better about ourselves.

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We might be even pushing

ourselves into a corner.

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We might be pushing ourselves into

a no win situation, compromising

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for that matter, to achieve some of

those successes, quote unquote, but

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what does it really mean to be able

to walk through that hidden door of

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awesome opportunity, of passion, to

see what other people are able to win

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and what they're able to experience.

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If you have about 200 some hours to

spare, essentially the equivalent of

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several days, you can certainly figure

out what that would look like in

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not only these episodes in which you

will learn about the human condition,

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and even page back through all the

different components that make up our

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individuality, our own businesses for

that matter, but how we can even navigate

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through these challenges means that

we have to have this lived experience,

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and that experience sometimes is not

very easy for us to follow along with.

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It means that we have to work on

ourselves even harder than maybe we

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normally do, and as a result of that,

that personal, professional, business,

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or whatever other perspective that you

need to bring, whether that's with your

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family, whether that's with friends,

or something else, means that you have

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to face the truth, and the truth that

we seek, the things that we try to do,

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are locked behind that hidden door.

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All the way back in episode 1, and

even in episode 100, I talked about

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what is still on our hearts; what is

it that we're still trying to achieve,

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and what is on our hearts usually

means that we have to figure out what

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it is that we want to really explore.

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What is it that really digs into our

depths and really excites us, the

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passion and the joy, and even the

feeling of euphoric opportunity, that

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might surround us, and I don't know if

I have yet, even after all this time,

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still have come to a conclusion of what

our heart looks like; what it is to

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be able to share what is inside of it.

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When we unlock that unlimited potential,

when we're able to figure out what it is

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to start moving forward, sometimes even

doing what we really thought we could

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do, means that we have to shed a tear.

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We have to endure some pain.

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We have to endure sorrow,

sometimes be in the valleys

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before we realize our greatness.

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At the time of this release, it's

been now two days since my fifth year

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anniversary of the day that I tried to

end my life would have became a reality.

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I didn't succeed, obviously.

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That's why I'm talking to you, even at

this time, even behind this microphone,

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after all these experiences, I've

learned so much about what it means to

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dig deep, what it means to live that

human condition, to be able to have the

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personal, professional, business success

in my own individual way, but I know that

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that's not enough, and I know that I need

to dig even deeper if I'm ever going to

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have that six, seven figure business, and

even do some of the things that I promised

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that I would do on this very show.

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Whether that's even practicing Reiki,

throwing a few punches at KickHouse,

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or even doing some of the things that

I have learned from my guest of how

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we process things differently, but the

problem that we all have, myself included,

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is that we have to keep on working.

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We have to keep on enduring, but

is it something that we are able to

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just take a little bit of a break,

and realize that we have what it

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takes, that we have the capability

to succeed in so many different ways?

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Truth be told, some of the things

that we have in the future on this

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show goes even deeper, goes even

broader in what we will have covered

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in the first 200 episodes, but I'll

save more for that in episode 200.

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I, think that the things that we try

to accomplish behind that hidden door

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the things that I keep on alluding

to means that we have to suffer, and

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that's something that is a sad reality.

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We don't have to necessarily

suffer in a bad way.

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We can suffer in ways in which gives

us that opportunity to push ourselves

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outside of our comfort zone to achieve

something that we would otherwise not

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be able to achieve if it wasn't for

some of the perspectives, some of the

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viewpoints, that we even have received

on this show, or even in our own lives.

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Being able to do that requires great

courage, great aspirations of what we

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wanted to do, of what we want to achieve,

on a wide range of different topics.

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That's why this show could go on

forever and ever as the landscape of the

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universe continues to change, even on

planet Earth for that matter, we have to

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realize that the tears will never stop

flowing because there is someone that

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will always be on this journey, that we

will always be pushing ourselves to be

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outside of our comfort zone, and we also

have to be that beacon of light where

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otherwise beacons aren't really shined,

especially on parts of the world that

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definitely need to have that exposure.

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When we look at even some of the things

that we've talked about, including the

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lighthouse, the most symbolic part of this

whole entire podcast, it's been about not

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only figuring out what it is that we're

trying to shine a light on, but also what

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we're trying to guide ourselves towards.

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Sometimes the tears that are in our

eyes are sometimes the things that

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might be dirt, might be grime, it

might be something else that got

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stuck in between, and we need to dig

it out so that we can see better,

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and be able to wipe those tears away.

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Tears can be used as a defense

mechanism though, figuring out what

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it is that might be hurting us; might

be causing that irritation in the

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first place, and I'm not saying that

even this podcast is an irritation

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towards what we're trying to achieve.

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It should be of great success.

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It should be of something that we are

really passionate in doing, and what

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we're trying to achieve, and what we're

trying to salvage, especially in our

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lives, especially if we're going through

something that is completely tough,

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and we need that level of support.

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I am not the same person that I even was,

experiencing the different hidden doors

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that I've been walking through as a result

of the guests, those doors not visible

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to you, but only visible to myself.

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For all those people out there that

have been following along on this

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show, realizing their true potential,

and figuring out what it means to

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live a best version of themselves.

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Today, if you haven't shed those

tears, if you haven't suffered as

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much as I have, it might be time to go

even deeper than maybe you once were.

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This podcast is about going deep.

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It's about exploring attitudes and

perceptions and different ways in which

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we've been able to achieve so much in so

little time, but yet at the same token,

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giving you comprehensive strategies,

opportunities to hear from experts, and

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to hear from my personal experiences

running Your Speaking Voice LLC to achieve

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what you will ultimately set out to do.

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If you haven't taken any action yet, and

you've just been listening to this show,

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learning from the different perspectives.

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I hope that you compile your notes

and start putting together a strategy,

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a plan in which is actionable.

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Something that you can be held accountable

for so that in a SMART goal methodology

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type of way, you're able to achieve

greatness, and of course, if you need

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that help, you need that support, you

need that push, I am here for you,

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because at Your Speaking Voice, LLC,

I do believe that those hidden doors,

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especially if they're not being shown to

us in a very healthy way, can be restored.

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Those doors, whether we need to

walk through them or not, is totally

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your choice, but what would it look

like if you were able to wipe the

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tears away from your face, use those

tiers to your advantage, and start

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leveraging the ways in which you're

able to create value for everyone else?

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What would it look like to have that

impact on other people, especially

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from your own individual self, to

continue growing, to continue expanding,

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to continue learning from others,

including these monologues and from

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guests, to change your perspective,

even from all the times that we have

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dug deep and shared what is truly

important on our hearts and minds.

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Let's be real.

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If it wasn't for this podcast, I wouldn't

be half the person that I am today,

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talking to you now, super excited about

what's ahead, even if it doesn't seem

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like I am excited, from the tone of my

voice, I am, because I've been wiping

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away the tears that have been in my own

eyes, and realizing that a bright new

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future awaits me and you as we continue

this journey of figuring out what is on

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our hearts, because what is on our hearts

is really important to not only unlocking

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those hidden doors, but to realize that

by combining all these different realms

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of knowledge together, we are unstoppable.

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We are more powerful, and we are

more conscious of our impacts

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in this ever changing world.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 197 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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