Episode 24
Episode #23 - Finding Ways To Accomplish Goals In Our Lives
This episode focuses on another service of the business: life coaching. No matter what the destination is, goal setting is important for a variety of reasons. It is not simply about goal setting more than getting to the root of what causes inhibitions, guilt, and frustration in moving from a type of old-style thought process to a new one. Through accountability, we can develop new voices that help us to excel in our next adventure.
This is part four of a series of episodes exploring the wide variety of services that Your Speaking Voice LLC provides to interested clients.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
Intro:determination, all converge into an amazing, heartfelt experience.
Intro:This is Speaking From The Heart.
Joshua:Welcome back to episode number 23 of Speaking from the Heart.
Joshua:Today, we're going to be talking about another service that Your Speaking
Joshua:Voice LLC provides to its clients, which is one of my favorites that I also
Joshua:like to talk about quite often, and I engage with the most: life coaching.
Joshua:Now, the definition of life coaching can vary from one person to another,
Joshua:so I will give great caution to those that are listening that might have
Joshua:a preconceived notion of what life coaching traditionally means, but in
Joshua:the framework of what we provide, it's not just about what the destination is
Joshua:that you're trying to achieve, but it's about setting goals for yourself, which
Joshua:is really what I try to work quite often with when it comes to the people that
Joshua:come through my business, because goal setting, not only used in corporations
Joshua:to help solve problems that go from one extreme to another, but it also helps
Joshua:others to realize that the goals that they're trying to achieve, or trying to
Joshua:set for themselves, can be achievable if we break 'em down into some bite-sized
Joshua:pieces, and that's really helping to get to what the ultimate problem is that might
Joshua:be facing many of us going through life.
Joshua:It could be a number of different things: it could be divorce, it could
Joshua:be a change of habits, maybe after getting a medical diagnosis, which for
Joshua:myself being autistic, I had to learn to adjust in a variety of different
Joshua:ways since I learned about that, but it's also getting another perspective
Joshua:in the ways in which we were trying to filter through all the different noise
Joshua:that comes from all different angles.
Joshua:Trying to get that clear cut approach so that we can actually talk one-on-one with
Joshua:someone that helps to understand how it means to be engaged in this world, to not
Joshua:just be able to achieve the things that we necessarily need to achieve, because
Joshua:what we often see when it comes to going through these sort of services might
Joshua:be feeling such as inhibitions, feeling guilty about doing something that you
Joshua:haven't done, or even feeling frustrated.
Joshua:Maybe trying to move from an old type of thought that we had about ourselves, but
Joshua:processing it to get to a new one, but the biggest thing that I often learn,
Joshua:and I often hear from other people that they don't have in their life as
Joshua:a result of just trying to go through this service is having that level of
Joshua:accountability with someone that's willing to understand and fulfill what
Joshua:is truly needed in their lives in order to help them get to that next adventure.
Joshua:I know that for many of us, having that next adventure means we have to understand
Joshua:a little bit about who we are inside of ourselves so that helps me to also work
Joshua:with you to know what that is all about, so let's walk through a little bit about
Joshua:what you could experience as a result of all this, because as a coach, one of the
Joshua:biggest pet peeves that I have that other people sometimes forget to do is about
Joshua:learning what that person is that's coming through the door in the first place.
Joshua:In other words, why are you actually seeking coaching?
Joshua:It often disturbs me that people take on coaching assignments because they
Joshua:think that they can solve or change someone from whatever perspective that
Joshua:they're providing; me, being the coach, to somebody that is just trying to
Joshua:understand this and grapple with it, and it's always been my perception that we
Joshua:often live in the universe that we provide for ourselves and which has helped us
Joshua:get to this point in the first place.
Joshua:If I don't understand what you have gone through, I might be repeating
Joshua:some of those past travesties, some of those past issues that you had,
Joshua:but also, and more the undertone of it all, what you have accomplished
Joshua:already so that we don't repeat those same accomplishments again because
Joshua:you have been through that process.
Joshua:One of my first steps that I always look at is: who is coming into the door, and
Joshua:that's even before I even start with a client, I want to get to know them a
Joshua:little bit more, which is why I actually spend probably the most time with
Joshua:understanding someone getting started with an initial consultation of at least an
Joshua:hour, because I feel that by understanding what that problem is, by also then sharing
Joshua:what my four step process is with my clients, I can be able to understand a
Joshua:little bit more so that I know not only how much work it will take, but to be fair
Joshua:and equitable with someone that is going through this process and understanding
Joshua:what they need to do in order to create some of that best value that they're
Joshua:seeking, so I always look at getting to know someone much better, especially
Joshua:as we start with doing life coaching.
Joshua:Another thing that I try to go through and try to understand a little bit more is not
Joshua:just what that person is, but also what is the root, so that's really step two
of my process:getting to know a little bit more of what actually triggered it.
of my process:This can be very challenging in itself, because you often have to dig deeper
of my process:than maybe the surface and maybe even going through some of the things
of my process:that you often don't talk about with a stranger going down the street.
of my process:Maybe you don't even talk about that with your friends, or your family for
of my process:that matter, and I know that, and I can feel that energy level often come
of my process:through with a client, especially if they feel that it is a concern.
of my process:It is something that they don't want coming out, and they also don't want it to
of my process:be something that traumatizes them for the rest of their life, but more importantly,
of my process:they don't want that to be something that holds them back because they know that
of my process:they're able to accomplish the things that they're setting themselves out to do in
of my process:their lives, so we often have to go into the roots of figuring out what is actually
of my process:causing that problem in the first place.
of my process:That's step two.
of my process:Step three then is setting up what I enjoy more than anything else is
of my process:an exercise of writing SMART goals.
goals encompasses five parts:being specific measurable, achievable, is it
goals encompasses five parts:relevant, and then finally, how much time or time bound are you going to be relating
goals encompasses five parts:to that goal, but we do a little bit more, which I will talk about if you ever want
goals encompasses five parts:to be coached by me, so that you have a little bit more of an understanding of
goals encompasses five parts:how that process goes, but writing SMART goals, just as much as what corporations
goals encompasses five parts:do, allow us to focus and hone in even more on one of the things that you're
goals encompasses five parts:looking to be held accountable for so that you can continue to make progress, and
goals encompasses five parts:we could talk about those sort of things even during sessions for that matter.
goals encompasses five parts:Now it's always a rinse and repeat when it comes to doing these sort of
goals encompasses five parts:goal setting exercises because things change, so step four, the final step of
goals encompasses five parts:my process, is actually revisiting those goals on a periodic basis, oftentimes
goals encompasses five parts:quarterly, no more than six months out from when we set the goals initially,
goals encompasses five parts:so that we can learn a little bit more about what you have done, what are some
goals encompasses five parts:ways in which you are continuing to make progress, and what are some of the things
goals encompasses five parts:that we can say and celebrate, "Yes!
goals encompasses five parts:You have done it!
goals encompasses five parts:Let's take this off the list.", because the last thing I would ever want any
goals encompasses five parts:client to go through with me is to have this repetitious cycle of always feeling
goals encompasses five parts:that they are never going to be able to achieve the success that they are seeking
goals encompasses five parts:out from a life coaching relationship.
goals encompasses five parts:Now with life coaching, it is so much more than just setting goals.
goals encompasses five parts:It sometimes means breaking a mindset, or a stereotype, that we often have,
goals encompasses five parts:especially when we go together through some of the things that might have been
goals encompasses five parts:traumatic in your life, and I have to caution even some people that are trained
goals encompasses five parts:professionally in life coaching, which I have been by many different individuals
goals encompasses five parts:throughout my life, that life coaching creates not only the boundaries in which
goals encompasses five parts:we have that relationship with someone, but you start to set out a lot more of
goals encompasses five parts:what those expectations are; what you can and cannot do as a coach, in itself.
goals encompasses five parts:As we are working through these sort of goals, understanding a little bit more
goals encompasses five parts:of how these things are achieved and how they're able to be accounted for,
goals encompasses five parts:as it relates to what you are achieving, makes a big difference in how much level
goals encompasses five parts:engagement that you are going to stay in as it relates to those goals that you set.
goals encompasses five parts:Now, I have to be truthful because I always have people asking me this all
goals encompasses five parts:the time, "Josh, isn't this really an expensive endeavor to actually do
goals encompasses five parts:something like this, especially if it's just low key?", and I have to
goals encompasses five parts:admit to you that sometimes it might be, but the real question that you
should be asking yourself is:how valuable is it that you want to solve,
should be asking yourself is:or overcome, those situations that you have in your life, that you need that
should be asking yourself is:assistance, that short-term help, so that you can get to that next level?
should be asking yourself is:It isn't about money, and I will talk about this subject in a future episode
should be asking yourself is:as it relates to whether coaching is really a luxury or not, which I find
should be asking yourself is:to be quite perplexing why some people think it is, but in today's topic, I
should be asking yourself is:want you to consider the fact that life coaching can be something in which it
should be asking yourself is:changes who you are deep down inside your core, and you really want to move
should be asking yourself is:forward as a result of all the past inhibitions, guilts, and other sort of
should be asking yourself is:frustrations that have been continuously plaguing you in the first place.
should be asking yourself is:Being able to understand and learn so much more about what you are as a person
should be asking yourself is:and even as you're able to create these new foundations for your new life that
should be asking yourself is:you're trying to lead as a result of going through life coaching can help
should be asking yourself is:empower you, and that's one thing that I really focus on that oftentimes, some
should be asking yourself is:of my clients come in and they think that they're ready for it, but then
should be asking yourself is:they realize that they're not, because it's really about a self-examination
should be asking yourself is:of putting yourself onto a pedestal and saying for the first time in your
should be asking yourself is:life that you're really important.
should be asking yourself is:As you, being my listeners, having gone through now over 22 episodes in which
should be asking yourself is:I've talked about this subject, either with guests or even on my monologue
should be asking yourself is:episodes, you know how important it is to focus on just you; to help yourself
should be asking yourself is:understand that you have value that you can contribute to this world.
should be asking yourself is:If you are putting something off in your life and you are afraid of
should be asking yourself is:taking that next step, consider this.
should be asking yourself is:You can have freedom with anything that you decide to do if you're willing to just
should be asking yourself is:change that thought that you continuously have, or that default reaction.
Case in point:look at me, your podcast host, small business owner, just
Case in point:starting a business earlier this year, and realizing that this is really the
Case in point:most important subject for myself to continuously remind over and over again,
Case in point:which is why even I have connections with people that I talk to consistently about
Case in point:my doubts, my insecurities, my fears, because having that conversation with
Case in point:someone that I can trust in a one-on-one relationship will allow me to find the
Case in point:focus that I need to have in achieving what is truly important, and I think
Case in point:that's often what we forget about when it comes to doing this sort of exercise.
Case in point:It isn't just about what you are going to be doing, it's about what you are
Case in point:going to help others achieve as a result of your actions, and I think that's
Case in point:what's really at the depth of all this.
Case in point:If you are somebody that is one of my listeners that is struggling with this,
Case in point:and you've been holding back all this time and trying to have a conversation with
Case in point:yourself of why it's so important to move forward, let me run you through a couple
Case in point:of things that I think might be helpful.
first question to you is this:what would it take to change yourself in a way
first question to you is this:that allows you to maybe see opportunities that you have never seen before?
first question to you is this:If you're able to say that you can do that, and you're willing to embrace those
first question to you is this:opportunities, here's my second question then: are you going to be open to new
first question to you is this:ideas, new perspectives, and maybe even be challenged on your existing perceptions
first question to you is this:and challenges that you have in your life, so that you can lead yourself to a life
first question to you is this:of freedom and security for that matter?
first question to you is this:That's my second question, and if you are able to say yes to that, and you are
first question to you is this:able to move through that fear and that insecurity so that you can have that open
first question to you is this:conversation, let's ask one more question; question number three: what would it
first question to you is this:be like if you were able to envision yourself at the end of this journey of
first question to you is this:self-discovery and change, seeing yourself be more happy and more heartfelt because
first question to you is this:you are on a path of wanting to change all those things that were once holding you
first question to you is this:back, whether that was from the fear that you had in standing up for yourself at
first question to you is this:work, or even working on your divorce that you've been putting off for all this time,
first question to you is this:and knowing that you have what it takes to truly feel comfortable in new shoes?
first question to you is this:If you're able to say yes, that I want to embrace that sort of change in my life
first question to you is this:with each of those three questions, you might be just wanting to try that out.
first question to you is this:Now, if you are on the fence yet, even asking yourself those three questions,
consider this:what would it be like if you just had that first step in
consider this:the conversation of just willing to explore that, and I've done that with
consider this:number of people, and some people who are ready for it have taken on that
consider this:challenge in their lives, while others have said they're not ready for it yet.
The real question is:if you are willing to at least take step one, what's
The real question is:holding you back from step two and three?
The real question is:Is it the time?
The real question is:Is it what you have to put yourself through to get to that next level?
The real question is:Is it the money or the investment that you're going to put into
The real question is:yourself, or is it that you're afraid of what the results would look
The real question is:like if you were on the other side?
The real question is:I think in life it's about finding ways in which we can accomplish not only the
The real question is:goals that we have, the things that we set out to achieve, but it's about what
The real question is:we are willing to go the distance to in order to be able to reach that destination
The real question is:that we've always been putting off since we were a kid, or even young adult or
The real question is:even now, or even as we're older and wanting to get to where we want to be.
The real question is:We can enjoy that next adventure that we have in our lives if
The real question is:we're just willing to embrace that accountability, and that's something
The real question is:that I'm willing to offer through life coaching, because let's face it.
The real question is:Sometimes paddling that boat all by ourselves might be easy enough,
The real question is:but what would it be like if we had somebody else to relieve us, especially
The real question is:if you're on that long distance ride all across that river, that ocean.
The real question is:We would like to have somebody that's right next to us to be able to enjoy
The real question is:that ability to feel comforted and to feel that we are accomplishing something.
The real question is:You can keep paddling all by yourself.
The real question is:There's nothing wrong with that, but if you really want to embrace
The real question is:a freedom filled life that allows you to speak from the heart, and to
The real question is:accomplish goals that you never thought you could ever accomplish, maybe it
The real question is:might be time to reach out and start your life coaching journey because,
The real question is:hey, I'm here and I want to help you.
The real question is:Thanks for listening to episode number 23 of Speaking From the
The real question is:Heart, and I look forward to hearing from your heart very soon.
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