Episode 49
Episode #47 - Finding Our Purpose
Have you ever had doubts about whether you are living a purpose-filled life? Building off the conversation in Episode #45 about fear, this episode focuses more about the steps that we can specifically take to help discover our purpose-filled live. It is always a great opportunity to evaluate what you are truly capable of becoming and ensuring that you are staying on the path of creating opportunity by a having drive towards your defined purpose.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode
number 47 of Speaking From The Heart.
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:Today, we're going to extend our
conversation from episode number 45 in
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:which we discussed how we can extend
ourselves beyond a fear filled life,
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:and now talk about how we can use that
to our advantage to create our purpose.
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:I think it's really important to
understand the context of which we're
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:discussing because, for many people, which
I had explained in the previous episode
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:of talking about fear, that we often live
in a life of not just the things that we
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:stay in routine and consistency, but maybe
even breaking outside of that shell, where
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:I shared a lot in the previous episode
about my personal experiences to overcome
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:and be able to share my true gifts to
this world as a result of breaking some
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:of those stereotypes, especially with
some of the things that I have kept close
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:to my heart, so with those things said,
and if you haven't, go check out that
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:episode before you dive into this one any
further, because what I really want to
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:build on today is not just the ways in
which we can use our purpose to become
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:somebody that we thought that we could
ever be, but I really want to help find
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:the ways in which we can elevate ourselves
to being capable of doing the things that
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:we can stay on our path, no matter what
might happen that throws us off, and it
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:really starts with a conversation about
how we can keep ourselves out of fear.
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:I really like to talk about the
fact that we have to understand a
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:little bit about what drives our
motivation of fear in the first place.
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:Truthfully, fear often exists because
of the ways in which we have to not
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:only tackle the day to day that we
have in our lives, in which we have to
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:make sure we make enough money, make
sure that we feed ourselves, make sure
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:that we clothe ourselves; mainly the
basic necessities, but we also have to
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:realize that we can't let certain people,
places, or other sort of circumstances
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:control the way in which we can create
some of those modalities in our life.
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:I know for many of us, especially with
some of our guests that we've had,
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:especially Michelle Westgate that was
on one of our earlier episodes when we
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:launched the podcast, it's really about
not just staying in that complacency,
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:but knowing that when somebody acts
on the outside to try to make you feel
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:like you're worthless, it means trying
now to elevate yourself to that next
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:level, so that you're not stuck in
that sort of complacency all the time.
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:We often set ourselves up with having
that sort of circumstance, mainly due to
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:the fact that we cannot change what is
happening because we assume that nothing
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:can change in the first place, but we
often confuse that with the fact that we
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:have to generate steps, often laid out
for ourselves, of the ways in which we
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:can improve, and create, those values
that we stick to through thick and thin.
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:We have to find those values, not just
in the ways in which we interact with
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:others, but also in the ways in which
we can create not just that coveted life
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:that we always sought out, but also make
sure that we're doing in such a framework
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:that helps us to continue to build the
best opportunities that life has to offer.
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:I know that sounds so generic and
it sounds so vague, but the truth
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:of the matter is that we all come
from different walks of life.
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:None of you might have grown up on a
farm like I had, which I explained in
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:episode 45 that helped me to create some
of those responsibilities, but we also
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:have to understand too that maybe those
lives that we have on a farm might be
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:completely different from what mine is.
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:It might be that you don't have a number
of degrees; maybe you have a certain
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:skill set that you have challenged;
that you have ensured that you're
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:staying on that path to help drive that
next defined purpose in your own life.
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:Regardless of what it is that has
gotten you from point A to point B
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:in the past, now it's about having a
conversation of what takes you from
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:point B to point C to point C to point D.
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:Regardless of what those points are
that are in your life that you have
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:to get to that destination, it's about
understanding what you can take today
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:as steps to head in the right direction,
so let's cover a couple things that
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:I think might be helpful for you,
especially when we're having that
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:generic, finding our purpose conversation.
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:There are numerous authors, first off,
that I could say for most certainty,
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:that might explain this concept much
better than even I, a personal and
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:development coach, could even do, but I
think that it's important to understand
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:that one framework, or one side of the
coin doesn't always mean that you have
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:all the big picture, so I'm always
encouraging people to read, and read
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:about what other people's stories are.
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:You can do that in a variety
of different formats.
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:Especially with my Toastmasters
background, I have loved listening to
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:other people's journeys of how they
got to where they are in Toastmasters,
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:the international organization that
works on communication and leadership
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:development, but each of those stories,
whether they're personal or professional
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:in nature, each combine into ways in
which we can all learn how we can get to
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:where we need to be, especially if we're
stuck in a certain sort of idea about
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:ourselves, maybe some sort of concept
about what we are going through that has
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:been time tested and proven to not be
the way in which we should handle it,
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:but more importantly, above all else,
is about learning how our experiences,
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:especially with other people, can help
us become better from learning from
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:mistakes, learning in the ways in which
they did their sort of processes, but also
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:being able to learn in a greater purpose
of how there isn't just one way to do
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:everything, and that's exactly my point.
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:How it works for one person doesn't
mean that it will work for you.
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:Finding our purpose often means looking
at the bigger wide picture of how we got
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:to where we are in the first place, so
being able to learn from others is a good
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:first step to get to where you need to be.
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:The second thing that I would also
encourage that goes along the same vein
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:of this is to watch, as many videos
as you can, of some of the greatest
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:speeches, and even some of the best
testimonies, that are out there of how
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:people got to be where they are today.
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:It doesn't mean just looking at the
some of the most famous people; maybe
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:actors or actresses, maybe politicians,
maybe even activists for that matter.
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:Although their stories are
unique in nature, I'm talking
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:more about the personal level.
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:In other words, what are some of the
people that we might even have in
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:our own lives that maybe we never
had that conversation with that could
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:help us to understand how they found
their purpose in the first place?
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:One of the greatest people, especially,
although he's very famous and no
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:longer with us in this world, Steve
Jobs, the founder of Apple, along with
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:Steve Wozniak, actually has a great
autobiography that was written about him
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:that explains quite a lot about his own
personality and how he interacted with
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:others, which was eye opening to me as
to the way in which he treated others,
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:but it also unlocks some of the beauty
of the fact that his journey, although we
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:might have some questionable doubts about
his ethics and maybe even his demeanor
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:towards others, it certainly proved that
it doesn't always mean that you have to
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:follow the same path as somebody else.
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:I always encourage people to check
out what autobiographies are out there
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:and read about some of the people
that have gotten to where they are
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:at, especially in career fields or
even in personal accolades that maybe
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:you're trying to achieve as well.
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:Obviously, I could say that
you should work with a coach.
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:It's time tested, it's something that
even as my business has done, I know I
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:really would love to have more people
come through and express that they're
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:really looking to find their true
calling, or, in my case, to find their
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:true voice in this ever changing world,
the mission of Your Speaking Voice,
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:which we cover in an earlier episode.
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:It isn't just about finding the right
coach that might be able to help you.
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:It's also understanding what is the
process that you're willing to take
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:in order to get from that point that
you're at currently to the final
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:destination, and notice that this time
around, I'm not saying just from one
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:point to the other, but looking at the
world view of what you might need to
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:do of getting from that point that you
are to where the final destination is.
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:It can be a long, arduous process,
and I can't caution you enough about
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:having that trepidation and that
courage to keep pushing forward, but
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:you also have to understand too that
it isn't just about learning how to
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:get from that one point to another.
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:You have to surround yourself
with more than just one person.
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:A great person that I have admired,
that I have gotten to know more
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:recently, has definitely done this by
taking their business, and even their
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:personal commitment to trying to get
from where they were before to another
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:place, by surrounding themselves
with not just one, two, three, maybe
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:even up towards of twenty, thirty,
fifty, a hundred people, so that they
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:are able to achieve their success.
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:Each of us holds a key, or a fire I like
to call it, deep down inside of ourselves,
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:that allows us to be passionate about
what we're able to do, so I always tell
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:my clients that I might be just one of
those pieces of the puzzle that they're
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:trying to get to, but they might need help
with other places, which is why I'm always
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:interested in collaborating with other
coaches to help each other build that
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:biggest foundation of where we need to
go in our lives, especially with running
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:our own businesses, for that matter.
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:Even with that said, the personal aspect
of what you are trying to do is about
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:living that purpose filled life, which
if you have never written down what
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:that purpose is, that big grandiose
goal if you will, of what you want to
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:try to achieve, you might want to start
working on that right now, and it doesn't
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:mean that you have to figure out what
that is right now at this very moment.
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:Just having a rough idea of what
you want to try to do in your life,
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:especially with what that purpose is,
is always a good starting place to get
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:to where you ultimately need to be.
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:Now, I might know, from some experiences,
that sometimes that goal has changed,
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:and I even have talked about, in some
previous episodes, about how my past,
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:especially with some of the people that
I've had as influences in my life about
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:what my career should be, has ultimately
led me into now, doing this podcast,
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:even being a coach, but it's still not
just about what I'm doing right now, but
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:what I'm doing to evolve myself, because
even as we speak, as of this recording,
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:I'm working on bigger aspirations of
what my plan will be, and I'm really
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:excited to be sharing that with you down
the road at some point, but I know that
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:my mission isn't always about staying
stagnant in the moment in which I'm at.
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:It's about always evolving that goal
to get to where we need to go, and
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:if I'm not capable of doing it all by
myself, I'm going to reach out to the
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:people that are capable of doing that
and getting that sound advice, and it
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:doesn't mean that you have to always
pay for someone to be able to do that.
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:Now, you might be asking yourself,
"Well, why would you ever say
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:that last statement about not
having to pay somebody else, Josh?
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:Isn't that what you're out for?
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:Isn't it about the money?"
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:Well, I have to thank my friend Kyle
Slaymaker for saying this really early on,
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:and especially as I started my business.
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:Even in his episode in which we
interviewed him, he expressed
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:something that is so true to this day.
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:It isn't about just the money.
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:It is about the connections that you
make, and the aspects of our relationships
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:with others, is what generates that
money, so think about this for a second.
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:Do you have a network that allows you to
keep building your relationships and your
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:confidence and determination so that you
can unlock the best financial reward?
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:Are you always seeking out that next penny
or that next change that's coming out of
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:the change drawer out of your business,
thinking that you're going to be able
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:to pocket that and be able to make it to
the next level of whatever it is that you
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:have 20, 30, or 40 years down the road.
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:Are you living in the long term?
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:Are you living in the short
term knowing that you can
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:create that long term success?
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:It is all about finding our framework,
and I think that we often lose sight of
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:the fact that it's always about the money.
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:It's always about the money.
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:It's always about the money, but
as I have been recently reminded
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:of, money is the root of all evil.
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:Let me repeat that.
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:Money is the root of all evil.
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:If you're not taking into consideration
the fact that if you want to have
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:just this financial success, you're
doing it for all the wrong reasons.
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:You're not doing it to lead a purpose
filled life, because if you're making
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:your worship, your idol, to be about
money, then what are you actually
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:trying to serve in the bigger picture?
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:What is it that you're trying
to serve in the bigger context?
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:One of the greatest influencers of my
life was a sister that I met at Alvernia
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:University by the name of Sister Pacelli.
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:She's no longer with us.
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:She passed away a number of years ago,
but I had been fortunate to have one
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:of her classes in which she really
explained this concept very well.
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:In that sort of aspect, we were able to
learn so much about the opportunities
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:that existed, not only in serving
a Christ filled life, but in the
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:bigger sense, what we can do in the
Franciscan way of serving others.
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:Now, if you're not Catholic, or
you're not religious whatsoever, it
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:doesn't mean that you have to be that.
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:It's about the principle.
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:You can always detach the religious
aspect from the principle, which
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:is what I'm trying to share with
you today, is that it isn't always
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:about what we're finding as money.
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:What we are trying to find, though, is
this capability of staying on that path
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:of opportunity, so that no matter what
happens, we are always staying consistent
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:with the ways in which we can sustain
that bigger goal that we set out for
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:ourselves, because we are able to create
not just those goals that allow us to
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:support that main mission that we have
in our life, but we're able to bring a
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:team around that reminds us that it's
not just about the money, it's about the
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:impact that we're trying to make, and
we need to always remember that we can
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:make that impact, because we are doing
it for the gifts that we have been given.
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:You do have that purpose, which I have
talked about leading outside that life of
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:fear, and if you stick yourself out with
your neck, and your head is exposed, I
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:will tell you that people will see what
you are truly capable of doing, because
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:they will see right through you that you
want to lead that purpose-filled life,
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:that you are the genuine article, that you
are somebody that they should get to know.
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:For the longest time in my life, I
thought that I wanted to be somebody
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:just like that, but I was doing it
for all the wrong reasons, so don't
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:take that same road that I did.
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:Learn from my mistakes, just like I
asked you earlier to learn from other
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:people's mistakes, and don't do it the
way in which now, at 36 years of age, I'm
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:finally doing what I was called to do,
because you can do what you are called
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:to do, if you're just willing to just
keep that conversation going, not just
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:with yourself, but with others as well.
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:Even if it takes a village to solve all
those different purposes that we have in
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:our life, just know that there's at least
one person that's interested in hearing
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:from you, especially with the fact that
we all need to be heard from time to time.
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:If you're not finding that support,
especially like people that have
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:gone through such situations like
Michelle, which we have interviewed
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:on this show, just know this: I do
want to hear you, because there's
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:at least one person that does care.
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:I do care a lot, and I really want to
help others realize their true potential
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:by not just seeing what it is to get
from point A to point B, but to get from
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:point A to infinity; to be able to really
say to ourselves that we are living
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:that life that we always wanted to live.
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:That we are capable of being able to
take a step outside of our comfort
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:zone, and maybe we are able to not only
create that "level up experience", but
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:to maybe create that full possibility
of not just seeing what we are doing
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:right now, but what our future self can
be doing, because you are the future.
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:You are capable of doing it.
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:You do have purpose, and I want
you to have that drive to not just
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:find your defined purpose, but to
have you be helped along the way.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 47 of Speaking from the
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:Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart very soon.
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