Episode 11
Episode #11 - Why Should I Care?
The age-old question of determining how we can best move forward through our lives with the fluctuating energy patterns and differing priorities can be extremely tedious and difficult! What if we are just overdoing it and need to rethink our "cares" in our lives? In this episode, we explore the various opportunities that we can start immediately (TODAY!) in order to start changing our mindset and cultivating more wholesome experiences in our lives, even if that means traveling across the country by car to do it!
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
Intro:determination, all converge into an amazing, heartfelt experience.
Intro:This is Speaking From The Heart.
Joshua:Welcome back to episode number 11 of Speaking from the Heart.
Joshua:Today we're going to talk about the enduring question as why we should
Joshua:continue the push forward regardless of the obstacles that we face, and I know
Joshua:that that is so much of a broad subject matter in itself, and which is why we're
Joshua:going to narrow it down in this episode more particularly about the ways in
Joshua:which we can just find the energy within ourselves to endure, to create, and
Joshua:to make amends in some cases as well.
Joshua:For many of us, I know that we can talk about this subject at great length,
Joshua:even when it comes to the different things that we do on a daily basis.
Joshua:Whether we're getting up, brushing our teeth, getting dressed for work,
Joshua:even if that is for in person or just walking across the living room and
Joshua:logging in, it doesn't matter where we find ourselves in a particular
Joshua:given time or space of a certain day.
Joshua:We definitely have all kinds of different things that we have to abide by with
Joshua:struggles, with scheduling, with personal energy levels in which we have to
Joshua:utilize to continue moving in the right direction, and I know for many of us,
Joshua:trying to find that ability to do just that might be a struggle within itself.
Joshua:Now, if you recall in episode number seven, one of the values that we talked
Joshua:about of the business, Your Speaking Voice, was about determination, and that
Joshua:is really the type of energy that we're referring to when we're having this sort
Joshua:of conversation, because for many of us, whether that is a personal relationship
Joshua:or a professional relationship, the ways in which we engage with other people
Joshua:can certainly dictate the way in which we go about our lives, and that is so
Joshua:important to consider, given the fact that for many of us, we don't have that
Joshua:time to spend on meaningful relationships.
Joshua:"Meaningful relationships?
Joshua:Don't you mean my family?
Joshua:Well, Josh, I spent a lot of time doing just that!", and I'm not saying
Joshua:that you don't, but for many of us, we might be listening to this
Joshua:very episode thinking, "Oh yeah.
Joshua:When's the last time I actually talked to so-and-so and saw how they were doing?
Joshua:What can I do to reach out to them?
Joshua:I know that they just been in the hospital recently.
Joshua:Should I send them flowers?
Joshua:Should I go visit them and bring a meal?
Joshua:Should I do something else?"
Joshua:I think for some of us, it's not necessarily that we forgot about it, it's
Joshua:that we have to worry about now that we remembered that we should do something
Joshua:about it, and having the obstacles that we face to try to do something like
Joshua:that, amongst all the other things, such as taking the kids to soccer practice,
Joshua:taking them to the next great adventure that might be at a rollercoaster
Joshua:or even a ride in amusement park.
Joshua:Even taking them to Vacation Bible School, which I'm sure many of us
Joshua:are doing amongst this time of year.
Joshua:However, I'm not just simply talking about those sort of things.
Joshua:What about for you?
Joshua:What is it that you should do so that you have the energy level to
Joshua:continue doing all those things that I just listed, let alone so much
Joshua:more, and it's all about balance.
Joshua:The balance of being able to say that I need to take care of myself at this
Joshua:important juncture, or being able to understand, more fully, the ways in which
Joshua:we can move forward and move backward when we need to move backward because somebody
Joshua:forgot something at the house and I have to drive all the way back and get it.
Joshua:Really, the ultimate question is, with all those things going on, sometimes
Joshua:we're asking ourselves, "Why should I care?", and I'll tell you that for
Joshua:many years of my own life, before I even started the business, that trying
Joshua:to find that care, that compassion for something else, was really tough.
Joshua:It meant examining some of the things that were going on in my own life,
Joshua:which personally I didn't have very good influences, and I don't know about you,
Joshua:but maybe you have some influences in your life that certainly talk in that
Joshua:length, but they also don't really talk to that great length either when it comes
Joshua:to not only the things that we need to do for ourselves, but even for each other.
Joshua:Trying to find ways in which we could find that energy to say, "I care, because...",
Joshua:often means making a sacrifice.
Joshua:I know for me, I had to take that sacrifice to a whole new level
Joshua:by taking care of myself first, and this leads into a story that
Joshua:I want to share with all of you.
Joshua:Eight years ago, while working at one of the state agencies that I worked
Joshua:at, my boss saw me just completely dejected, completely removed, feeling
Joshua:as if I had the whole weight of the world on my head and shoulders.
Joshua:She said to me, "What are you still doing here?
Joshua:You have plenty of time built up.
Joshua:Why don't you take a long vacation?"
Joshua:I thought about it, pondering at my desk, thinking about all the piles of
Joshua:files that are around me that I needed to work on, along with the various amount
Joshua:of purchase orders and things of that nature to be processed so that people
Joshua:can be happy where they are at right now.
Joshua:Thinking about it some more, and then realize that, "Ah
Joshua:yes, I do need to do this.
Joshua:Aha!
Joshua:This is the time to do it.
Joshua:I want to take a vacation", and I remember October 2015 as being one of
Joshua:the more memorable experiences of my life when I loaded up my 2010 Dodge
Joshua:Caliber filled with supplies in which I was able to eat, consume along the
Joshua:way, and to take a road trip from the middle of Pennsylvania all the way over
Joshua:to the southeastern part of California.
Joshua:Now, I will tell you that this is the first time I transversed the United
Joshua:States in a road vehicle across all the various interstates, the majestic beauty,
Joshua:especially being early fall, before even any snow laid, was probably one of the
Joshua:biggest adventures in my entire life.
Joshua:It woke me up to the question of, yes, there are things to care about.
Joshua:Being on the road, traveling through the variety of different states,
Joshua:including even Colorado, and the most beautiful of the Rocky Mountains,
Joshua:gliding across the plains that are open, and also seeing thunderstorms in the
Joshua:horizon coming down into Arizona, all the way around the bend of California
Joshua:with its rocky mountains as well.
Joshua:I was really happy.
Joshua:I was really content of doing this road trip, and I was able
Joshua:to see a friend that I didn't see for over six years at the time.
Joshua:It was one of those moments in my life where I really felt like I
Joshua:could enjoy what was around me.
Joshua:The Pacific Ocean, looking at it for the first time with my own two
Joshua:eyes was something of a sight to be seen, especially as sunset occurred.
Joshua:I was almost sad to leave.
Joshua:As I packed my bags yet again for another few days of travel all the way to
Joshua:Pennsylvania, I took the southern portion of the route, going all the way through
Joshua:Texas, all the way up then back home.
Joshua:It was one of those experiences of a lifetime in which I wish, even now packing
Joshua:up my bags, taking this podcast on the road would be something of great adventure
Joshua:as well, but we can always do that.
Joshua:We can always make that opportunity for ourselves if we're just willing
Joshua:to carve out that time to do it.
Joshua:The question of where that energy came from really originated with one
Joshua:person, and that was my boss, Dawn.
Joshua:Dawn is somebody in my life that had forever influenced me and understanding
Joshua:that there are some great supervisors out there, and if you don't have a boss
Joshua:like Dawn in your life, I know that we can get some opportunity for you
Joshua:and others to really circle the wagons and help you to have an adventure just
Joshua:like that, but even with all those things in mind, why should I care?
Joshua:Josh, that's fantastic that you were able to recharge yourself and come back, have
Joshua:that experience in your belt and move on.
Joshua:Whoop de do.
Joshua:What about the things in which we might not have that money?
Joshua:We might not have that opportunity.
Joshua:What are some of the things that we can start the practice in order to
Joshua:create some of those opportunities in our own lives without spending even $1?
Joshua:Well, here's a couple of things that I have learned over the years,
Joshua:especially the last several months that might be helpful for you, especially
Joshua:as you're set out on that journey.
Number one:Think about the relationships that you have in your
Number one:life and leverage them to the fullest.
Number one:Huh?
Number one:People?
Number one:Talking to them?
Number one:Helping me?
Number one:Why yes!
Number one:You might not even realize it, but there are people surrounding you right now that
Number one:could have those opportunities waiting for you just to venture into the grand
Number one:unknown, to have opportunities that you otherwise would've never seen yourself.
Number one:Things that allow you to move on and have practice of commitment and
Number one:inspiration for moving forward to the greatest opportunities that are ahead.
Number one:That means setting a plan for yourself so that you're able to create some of
Number one:those great adventures for your own.
Number one:To even have the energy to do that means that you have to put a
Number one:little bit of yourself out there.
Now, I understand:some of you are not ready to have that sort of plan ready,
Now, I understand:so you might be asking, "Josh, what can I do instead of that, especially
Now, I understand:if I'm not quite sure what to do next?"
Now, I understand:If you aren't ready to talk to people about it, the best thing to do to start
Now, I understand:out is to simply have a pen and paper and start writing out all the things
Now, I understand:in which you truly do care about.
Now, I understand:It's really about separating the things that you do care and do not care about,
Now, I understand:and yes, you have to identify the things that you should not care about.
Now, I understand:Those could be people in your life.
Now, I understand:Those could be things that you continuously do over and over again and
Now, I understand:you're just not quite happy about how those outcomes come to be what they are.
Now, I understand:If you are able to just simply write down: where does some of the things that really
Now, I understand:give you joy, while also helping you to understand the things that don't give
Now, I understand:you joy, you could start to purge some of those things that might be energy suckers.
Now, I understand:Those are the things in which really detract from the opportunities that really
Now, I understand:present in front of themselves, because really, you're shrouded in a cloud of
Now, I understand:darkness every time that you actually look at that item on your list and think,
Now, I understand:"Man, do I really have to do this?"
Now, I understand:It's almost as if we get up in the morning as I even explained earlier, brushing
Now, I understand:your teeth, getting dressed, maybe there's some things that you can minimize in that
Now, I understand:process in the beginning of the day so that you're ready and more energetic to
Now, I understand:take it on, but even with talking with people and even writing it down, one of
Now, I understand:the most effective ways in which helped me to even get started with what I'm
Now, I understand:doing is thinking about and brainstorming out loud: What are some of the things
Now, I understand:that could be by envision future?
Now, I understand:What could be in your future?
Now, I understand:Maybe it's something that you can just do within the next week.
Now, I understand:Maybe it's something that you've been putting off for a long time.
Now, I understand:Maybe that thing that need to be fixed around the house.
Now, I understand:Maybe that's leak in the car that needed to be plugged and you need to take it to
Now, I understand:the mechanic, or it could be as simple as doing something for yourself that you
Now, I understand:have never been able to do for quite a long time; maybe going to your favorite
Now, I understand:restaurant, maybe going to a arcade.
Now, I understand:There are places that allow you to have all kinds of different types of fun,
Now, I understand:whether that is for ax throwing, whether that is for the different types of things
Now, I understand:that you could exercise within yourself.
Now, I understand:It's all about understanding a little bit more of not only the things that you can
Now, I understand:do to create some of those opportunities, but giving yourself a little bit of
Now, I understand:love and acceptance along the way.
Now, I understand:Even being able to do that starts to change your brain
Now, I understand:pattern, and that's the goal.
Now, I understand:There are many different ways in which we are able to do that, in which I've
Now, I understand:listed three of them for you to begin, but even with that said, each of us
Now, I understand:have unique struggles, which is why I'm offering you to reach out to me.
Now, I understand:Contact me on my website, www.yourspeakingvoice.biz, and let's talk.
Now, I understand:Let's figure out a way in which we can start to re-engage in that conversation,
Now, I understand:and figure out what might be the best fit for you, because the path in
Now, I understand:which we overcome with obstacles is complex and full of different types of
Now, I understand:landmines that are placed along the way.
Now, I understand:Being able to navigate that, even with a compass in hand, and even a map for
Now, I understand:that matter, whether that's on our phone or physically, can still be challenging
Now, I understand:in itself, but we need to figure out the ways in which we can care, not
Now, I understand:just about ourselves, but about each other, and that is really the key.
Now, I understand:We've already had guests on this show that talked about how we could truly
Now, I understand:care whether that is from the people that are differently enabled as just
Now, I understand:the last episode talked about, or even to people that are human centric.
Now, I understand:It's about connecting yourself with a vast network of different individuals
Now, I understand:and even people for that matter that allow you to see not only the things and
Now, I understand:the opportunities that are out there, but also seeing what could be possibly
Now, I understand:on the horizon, just like that sunset I got to see just eight years ago.
Now, I understand:The opportunities that we present, to not only each other, but to
Now, I understand:others, really starts at its core.
Now, I understand:We need to make a commitment to be able to spend a little bit of time to do that
Now, I understand:and that can be the most challenging thing, given our wide network of
Now, I understand:different things that we do on a daily basis, but it's easier than you think.
Now, I understand:You can certainly start anywhere, as long as you're taking baby
Now, I understand:steps, and that's the key too.
Now, I understand:It doesn't mean we have to exert so much energy in which we have
Now, I understand:to do what is the latest fad.
Now, I understand:That doesn't mean essentially going on this crazed diet in which we're able
Now, I understand:to feed ourselves with this nutritious food, which later might not be as
Now, I understand:nutritious because we overdid it.
Now, I understand:We didn't listen to the experts.
Now, I understand:We should have been doing it a completely different way.
Now, I understand:I think of things that are fads.
Now, I understand:Those fads can really do more damage than actually do good, which is
Now, I understand:why it's so important to invest in yourself with having a pencil and
Now, I understand:pen, and taking some time to journal about what those sort of things
Now, I understand:are, that might be obstacles or not.
Now, I understand:By simply writing down a list of what you care about and do not care
Now, I understand:about, you can certainly start to ask yourself the question of, "Why
Now, I understand:should I care about these things that are not giving me any return?"
Now, I understand:After all, it could actually turn into some of the things that maybe
Now, I understand:you've been putting off for a long time: divorce, career change, getting
Now, I understand:that medical procedure done, maybe something completely different than
Now, I understand:those three reasons, because no matter what it is that faces us, we can
Now, I understand:certainly find the reason to care.
Now, I understand:All we need to do is repurpose it into something that we truly believe is
Now, I understand:necessary for ourselves, not to just make amends, not to just even move on
Now, I understand:in our lives, but that brain change can certainly help us create some of
Now, I understand:the best versions of ourself if we're willing to think outside the box and
Now, I understand:that's truly what this is all about.
Now, I understand:Learning how we can adapt in this ever-changing world by
Now, I understand:simply thinking about ways in which we can care differently.
Now, I understand:Even if it is just the small amount of writing down and taking some time for
Now, I understand:yourself, just as you're taking time to listen to me, you can start to make
Now, I understand:strides in that direction that you always wanted to take, and for that, that
Now, I understand:makes you a great person to work with.
Now, I understand:That makes you a great person in which you are going to become something that you
Now, I understand:never thought possible because starting with that, you have unlocked the door
Now, I understand:that has been shut for a long time.
Now, I understand:That door of "why should I care?", and you're walking through it, knowing
Now, I understand:that you are going to be able to help yourself, and possibly others, in seeing
Now, I understand:what it means to not only be personally enriched, but professionally developed.
Now, I understand:You can have a Dawn do just that.
Now, I understand:You can experience some of the most majestic beauty of the United States.
Now, I understand:You can even enjoy some of the things that are just in your backyard no
Now, I understand:matter where you are in the world.
Now, I understand:All it takes is for you to push forward, knock those obstacles down and see that
Now, I understand:those setbacks are no longer setbacks.
Now, I understand:They are you getting out of your own way.
Now, I understand:Thanks for listening to episode number 11 of Speaking From The
Now, I understand:Heart, and I look forward to hearing from your heart very soon.
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