Episode 125
Episode #120 - It Is Time To Pull The Fire Alarm!
There is a misconception that a coach should be brought on when things go “south”; in other words, when an emergency arrives and there are no other options. While some companies can find someone to hire to assist with their complex problems, what do smaller companies, individuals, and all others do when the going gets tough? This episode explores the concept of a short term engagement coach that serves in a fractional nature. This revolutionary concept, which stems from past guests on the show that perform these types of services, can help in a pinch to assure that you are not caught in a problem that can severely cripple progress or, in a worst case scenario, demotivate and deescalate the ability to become the best versions of ourselves.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode number
120 of Speaking From The Heart, and before
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:you go rushing to call 911 because you
need help with your situation, whether
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:personal, professional, or your business,
maybe you should take some time to listen
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:to what I have to say, because today's
episode isn't about pulling the fire
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:alarm when it comes to all the things
that you need help with, it's about
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:really listening to yourself, learning
from others, and maybe on a part time
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:basis, getting a coach to help you out.
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:Now I'm going to really debunk the
coaching industry today, because I have
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:this revolutionary concept that maybe
might be helping you to figure out maybe
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:the way to afford a coach, especially
when you need the coach the most.
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:Now it's easy for me to be able
to talk about this subject today,
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:because for many corporations that are
really large in nature, they are able
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:to hire whoever they want to hire.
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:They might even have their best friend.
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:They have a family member.
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:They might even have somebody that
they've been working with before,
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:and let's face it, if you have
any of those types of competition,
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:you might as well just forget it.
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:They've already been hired
to work on their goals.
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:That means you have no shot of being
able to hire them, and that's okay;
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:maybe those are not the people that
you should be surrounding yourself
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:with because if they're very selective
about who they work with, maybe
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:they're not also the best coach.
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:Which I will even say that coaches can be
selective in the clients that they choose.
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:It's their right.
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:It's their business.
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:I totally understand.
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:I respect that.
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:That's even one of my policies, that if
I don't think it's a good fit for me, I
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:don't want you spending your money with
me, but what if we looked at this in a
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:different way, in terms of the coaching
industry and how it actually works?
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:Let's face it.
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:I've already talked about in previous
episodes about the coaching industry
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:in itself and how broken it is,
and I know, I'm a coach myself,
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:and I'm saying that it's broken.
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:How can I even work in an
industry that is broken?
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:It's not broken in the
sense that all hope is lost.
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:It's just that we've lost our way.
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:People that think that we need to
spend 3,000 to 5,000 dollars to be
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:serious about something that we need
to do for the next 30 days is not
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:seeing the bigger, overall picture,
of what coaching should be all about.
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:It's somebody that surrounds you,
that helps you on a monthly basis,
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:maybe, to help you understand what
is truly important, and my model
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:is probably not the most successful
model out there, and that's okay.
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:I doesn't mean that I'm
looking for the quick buck.
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:It doesn't mean that every time that
I have somebody going south in terms
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:of my relationship, that I'm going
to get all upset, but what I do worry
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:about is those people that need a
coach and think that they need to spend
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:3,000 to 5,000 dollars a pop, maybe
even 10,000, 20,000, 50,000, 100,000
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:dollars, a year, to work with a coach.
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:Those are the people that I have
problems with, because it's not just
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:about working on the things that come
up as a sour problem, or maybe even
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:an emergency for that matter in which
your business is rapidly expanding,
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:maybe even you, rapidly expanding into
oblivion because you can't handle all
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:the things that are happening personally
and professionally, so what do you have
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:to do to understand that when you pull
the fire alarm that maybe it's already
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:too late, and trying to throw money
into a problem isn't going to give you
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:the results that you're really seeking?
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:Coaching is a long term commitment.
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:It doesn't mean though that it's long
term forever because I always believe
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:that coaches should have an end plan,
not just a starting out plan, for
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:their clients to see the true success
that they're trying to achieve.
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:It means that those needs are evolving,
and I always work with my clients on those
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:evolving needs because I want to make sure
that they're getting the best bang for
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:their buck, but it isn't about the money.
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:It's about me making sure that I
align with their priorities, the
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:strengths that they wish to work
on, and maybe even the weaknesses
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:that need additional help the most.
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:When you're working on coaching,
it's not working on just the things
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:that you do in a workbook, or
even talk about during sessions.
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:It's about having that connection with
someone that is going to be not only
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:authentic, but will challenge you, hold
you accountable, but be there by your
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:side to make sure that you're not falling
into the cracks that sometimes appear.
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:Let me propose something that
might be helpful for you today.
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:Even if you're doing really
well and you're being absolutely
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:successful; hire a coach.
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:If you think that everything is
going well in your life, and you're
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:thinking that things couldn't
be any better; hire a coach.
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:When you are absolutely certain that
nothing could go wrong, and that
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:everything will be smooth sailing for
the rest of the time that you're here on
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:this pleasant earth; still, hire a coach.
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:Now, you might be scratching your head,
as you always do in many of my episodes,
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:and you might be asking yourself,
"Josh, why would I ever hire a coach?
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:Why would I throw money into a thing
that is never a problem to begin with,
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:because I feel that it's so important
to not waste my money like that,
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:why would you ask me to buy into a
coaching session, or two, or three?"
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:ah, now you are poorly
mistaken, my friends.
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:That is not what I'm saying.
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:As a matter of fact, I would argue
that you should have a fractional
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:coach that will help you to engage
with all the things that you have
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:going on to make sure that you
continue to be on the right track.
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:A fractional coach?
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:What do you mean by that?
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:Well, you remember the one guest that
I've had, Ross Stockdale, from a long
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:time ago, he and I had an amazing
conversation about fractional marketing,
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:the concept that is just always helping
to not only give you that all important
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:advantage of marketing your business,
but also giving you that extra support,
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:but at the same time, they have multiple
people in which they're marketing
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:for multiple other entities as well.
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:What if you have a fractional coach
in which you invest a retainer those
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:people, those individuals, those
things that will help you to garner
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:that support on a routine basis?
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:If you start to build those relationships
with a fractional coach, it might
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:even turn into a full time coaching
arrangement for a benefit, not
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:just for yourself, but maybe even
for your business for that matter.
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:If you think about it, having a fractional
coach will allow you to routinely digest
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:and dissect problems, or maybe even things
that might be small to begin with, but
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:can overnight turn into huge problems.
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:I think that the fractional coaching
industry has yet to be surfaced, and
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:I think that we need to think about
the way in which we advertise, we
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:expand ourselves, into thinking about
the ways in which we work with people
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:that are on a tight budget, that can't
afford the services of a traditional
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:coach, and that they're able to
understand what it means to work with
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:somebody so that they feel like they
can continue to work on the skills
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:and the abilities that are necessary.
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:Your Speaking Voice is really starting to
look at all these different possibilities
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:as they continue to grow in even our own
offerings, and I think that it's important
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:to understand that, especially in this
challenging market, having somebody that
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:you meet with on a routine basis, maybe
once a week, maybe even twice a week,
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:depending on what you got going on.
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:It might make a difference just to have
that small relationship blossom into
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:something bigger, and even better yet,
having a contract with someone, whether
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:it's with a month to month, three month,
six month, a year, having those sort
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:of services at a set rate, allow you
to understand the importance of not
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:only budgeting that into your overall
plan, but knowing that you're not fully
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:committed and have the flexibility to
work on these goals that you have that
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:allow you to understand and tailor your
approach to a variety of different things.
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:I think that we often have to
think about coaching as we need to
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:solve this big, complex problem.
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:That's why it's so important for smaller
companies, individuals, to think about
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:having somebody on a routine basis, and
when it's time to pull that fire alarm,
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:you have somebody that already knows
what's been going on, and you can now
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:dive into the details of why it became
such a big mess, and then, maybe work on
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:another fractional engagement in which you
address those problems at a higher rate.
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:This revolutionary concept, especially
with the things that are happening in
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:the world today, allow us then to think
about what the ultimate benefits are,
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:not only the things in which we're able
to work with on a personal level, the
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:mental aspect, addressing mental illness
before it's too late and working on
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:a plan to address it, especially if a
trained therapist for that matter, but
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:we catch ourselves into this sort of
continuum of always working on ourselves,
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:but yet being held accountable on a
fractional basis, to be able to make
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:sure that we're not demotivated, that
we're not de-escalating those situations
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:before they become bigger problems.
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:When we're able to work with
something of this nature, the
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:ramifications of them can be so big.
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:They can help in so many different
ways to the point that we're able to
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:achieve greatness on a part time basis.
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:I think that we need to address
the problem that we have today.
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:Coaching is not a luxury.
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:I will always stand by the episode in
which I talked about that, and I encourage
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:you to go back and listen to that episode.
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:It's in my playlist, but I'm not
even asking you to go and listen
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:to that, and dispel the belief that
coaching is not for you, or is it?
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:When we say that coaching is not for you,
we're essentially blocking off a whole
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:segment of the population that isn't
able to achieve anything worthwhile,
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:and I think that's unfair, because I
think we're all entitled to having a
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:coach, to having someone that holds us,
regardless of no matter what happens,
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:into this ultimate opportunity of a
lifetime, and when we hire somebody
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:when it's way too late, of course the
prices are going to be way too much.
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:It's time to really rethink this
conversation about what is really
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:important in your life: stay in the same
two out of ten ways, which sometimes
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:most of us are in, or maybe the ten
out of ten ways that we are operating
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:at, could be eleven out of ten.
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:Fifteen out of ten.
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:Twenty out of ten; more than double the
output that we're already doing, and
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:then when we're having a bad day and all
we can do is ten out of ten, that still
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:means that we're being really successful,
instead of being at that two out of 10.
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:I've always said on this show that
it's really important to value the
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:relationship that we have with others.
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:That's what I have always mentioned to
even some of my guests is that there's
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:the connection and the ability for us
to grow, not just as an individual,
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:but to grow in the bigger picture
of what we're trying to achieve.
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:So many of my guests have been able to
break that formula into an opportunity
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:of a lifetime, but yet for some people,
struggle ultimately becomes their virtue
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:of becoming successful in their own right.
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:Do you need to always struggle
to be able to achieve greatness?
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:That is the question that I want to
challenge you on today, especially when
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:it comes to hiring a fractional coach.
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:We do not have to keep
pulling the fire alarm.
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:The firemen, the firewomen, and all
the emergency personnel that are coming
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:cannot always come to save the day.
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:There has to be a level of responsibility
in which you're taking control so
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:that those emergencies don't need a
fire alarm pulled in the first place.
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:Every time that we have to do it, we're
spending oodles of money, time, and
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:resources to try to figure out what
is necessary for us to grow from that
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:circumstance so that it never happens
again, but those circumstances in which
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:I'm referencing do not have to be the
problems in which you're having a hard
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:time communicating with someone else.
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:You're having a hard
time closing the sale.
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:You're having a hard time
finding that next job.
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:You're having a hard time being able
to be an effective public speaker.
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:If you start to realize that you
can work on these routine problems
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:with a fractional coach, you can
change the landscape of all these
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:opportunities in which you have
problems that need to be solved, but
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:they're being solved in a routine,
preventative maintenance sort of way.
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:Think of fractional coaching
as preventative maintenance.
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:We can make sure that that machine that
you're working on never breaks down.
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:You, the most important
machine of them all.
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:When you know that you're feeling really
down about yourself, and you're not
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:quite sure how to go about it in life,
that's when you hire a fractional coach.
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:When you're not quite sure, maybe this
idea that you have can really come
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:to fruition, maybe you need to have a
second set of eyes, a more qualified
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:opinion of somebody that has the
education and experience to be able to be
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:successful, you should hire a fractional
coach to do that review for you.
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:Most importantly, above all else, if
you're struggling with just figuring
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:out the day to day and you see yourself
slipping and slipping and slipping, before
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:it's too late, whether you are a small
business or even a large business for
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:that matter, hire a fractional coach.
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:I've always said that coaches come in
many shapes and sizes, and that doesn't
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:mean that I'm the perfect coach for
you, and I will always stand by that.
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:I will not be disappointed if
someone does not want to work with
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:me because we're not a good fit.
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:I'd rather that you find someone that
is of a good fit and is willing to help
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:you achieve success, but it also means
that you have to learn to say no when
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:you have to say no, and you can work with
a coach to be able to do that, but when
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:you say yes to the yes of possibilities,
you are able to understand then, that
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:coaching isn't just about the short
term, let's fix something up situation.
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:It's allowing you to lube up all the
different components of your body, mind,
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:spirit and soul to achieve some of the
most amazing things that you have yet
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:to achieve in your overall existence.
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:That can help you power
beyond comprehension.
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:I have always wished for the longest
time of my life that I could have
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:hired a fractional coach and would
have even thought of that concept, but
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:now, I want to challenge the industry
and challenge people's perspectives
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:of thinking that you have to spend
hundreds of thousands of dollars to
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:solve a routine problem that could
have been prevented in the first place.
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:You might think that it's about short
term engagements and that maybe,
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:just maybe, I will give you a quick
discount, but if you really want to be
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:an investor and play the game of life,
you would invest in the stock market of
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:what I call self development, business
development, research, and development.
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:Do these concepts sound familiar?
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:That's because throughout your life you
have been hearing about these things.
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:Teachers, mentors, family members, all
those different types of individuals
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:have been doing those things, and when
you start to realize that the fire alarm
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:is not going to be there forever, and
that some people, after a very long time
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:of you always pulling it, are going to
ignore you, then you'll start to realize
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:that that fire alarm is not going to
be your safety device much longer.
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:You have to understand that by using
and creating this value that you have
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:inside yourself by working with a coach,
you're going to be able to achieve
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:things that are far beyond comprehension,
and you're going to be able to solve
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:problems that you never thought you
could ever solve, all because you hired,
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:and invested, in a fractional coach.
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:Stop pulling the fire alarm, and
start pulling inside yourself the
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:many things that have that awesome
value that you get to share to
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:the world by working with a coach.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 120 of speaking from the
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:heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart, very soon.
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