Episode #120 - It Is Time To Pull The Fire Alarm!

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode number

120 of Speaking From The Heart, and before

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you go rushing to call 911 because you

need help with your situation, whether

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personal, professional, or your business,

maybe you should take some time to listen

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to what I have to say, because today's

episode isn't about pulling the fire

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alarm when it comes to all the things

that you need help with, it's about

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really listening to yourself, learning

from others, and maybe on a part time

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basis, getting a coach to help you out.

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Now I'm going to really debunk the

coaching industry today, because I have

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this revolutionary concept that maybe

might be helping you to figure out maybe

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the way to afford a coach, especially

when you need the coach the most.

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Now it's easy for me to be able

to talk about this subject today,

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because for many corporations that are

really large in nature, they are able

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to hire whoever they want to hire.

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They might even have their best friend.

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They have a family member.

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They might even have somebody that

they've been working with before,

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and let's face it, if you have

any of those types of competition,

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you might as well just forget it.

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They've already been hired

to work on their goals.

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That means you have no shot of being

able to hire them, and that's okay;

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maybe those are not the people that

you should be surrounding yourself

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with because if they're very selective

about who they work with, maybe

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they're not also the best coach.

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Which I will even say that coaches can be

selective in the clients that they choose.

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It's their right.

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It's their business.

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I totally understand.

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I respect that.

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That's even one of my policies, that if

I don't think it's a good fit for me, I

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don't want you spending your money with

me, but what if we looked at this in a

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different way, in terms of the coaching

industry and how it actually works?

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Let's face it.

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I've already talked about in previous

episodes about the coaching industry

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in itself and how broken it is,

and I know, I'm a coach myself,

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and I'm saying that it's broken.

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How can I even work in an

industry that is broken?

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It's not broken in the

sense that all hope is lost.

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It's just that we've lost our way.

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People that think that we need to

spend 3,000 to 5,000 dollars to be

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serious about something that we need

to do for the next 30 days is not

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seeing the bigger, overall picture,

of what coaching should be all about.

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It's somebody that surrounds you,

that helps you on a monthly basis,

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maybe, to help you understand what

is truly important, and my model

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is probably not the most successful

model out there, and that's okay.

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I doesn't mean that I'm

looking for the quick buck.

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It doesn't mean that every time that

I have somebody going south in terms

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of my relationship, that I'm going

to get all upset, but what I do worry

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about is those people that need a

coach and think that they need to spend

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3,000 to 5,000 dollars a pop, maybe

even 10,000, 20,000, 50,000, 100,000

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dollars, a year, to work with a coach.

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Those are the people that I have

problems with, because it's not just

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about working on the things that come

up as a sour problem, or maybe even

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an emergency for that matter in which

your business is rapidly expanding,

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maybe even you, rapidly expanding into

oblivion because you can't handle all

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the things that are happening personally

and professionally, so what do you have

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to do to understand that when you pull

the fire alarm that maybe it's already

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too late, and trying to throw money

into a problem isn't going to give you

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the results that you're really seeking?

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Coaching is a long term commitment.

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It doesn't mean though that it's long

term forever because I always believe

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that coaches should have an end plan,

not just a starting out plan, for

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their clients to see the true success

that they're trying to achieve.

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It means that those needs are evolving,

and I always work with my clients on those

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evolving needs because I want to make sure

that they're getting the best bang for

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their buck, but it isn't about the money.

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It's about me making sure that I

align with their priorities, the

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strengths that they wish to work

on, and maybe even the weaknesses

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that need additional help the most.

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When you're working on coaching,

it's not working on just the things

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that you do in a workbook, or

even talk about during sessions.

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It's about having that connection with

someone that is going to be not only

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authentic, but will challenge you, hold

you accountable, but be there by your

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side to make sure that you're not falling

into the cracks that sometimes appear.

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Let me propose something that

might be helpful for you today.

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Even if you're doing really

well and you're being absolutely

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successful; hire a coach.

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If you think that everything is

going well in your life, and you're

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thinking that things couldn't

be any better; hire a coach.

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When you are absolutely certain that

nothing could go wrong, and that

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everything will be smooth sailing for

the rest of the time that you're here on

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this pleasant earth; still, hire a coach.

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Now, you might be scratching your head,

as you always do in many of my episodes,

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and you might be asking yourself,

"Josh, why would I ever hire a coach?

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Why would I throw money into a thing

that is never a problem to begin with,

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because I feel that it's so important

to not waste my money like that,

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why would you ask me to buy into a

coaching session, or two, or three?"

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ah, now you are poorly

mistaken, my friends.

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That is not what I'm saying.

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As a matter of fact, I would argue

that you should have a fractional

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coach that will help you to engage

with all the things that you have

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going on to make sure that you

continue to be on the right track.

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A fractional coach?

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What do you mean by that?

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Well, you remember the one guest that

I've had, Ross Stockdale, from a long

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time ago, he and I had an amazing

conversation about fractional marketing,

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the concept that is just always helping

to not only give you that all important

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advantage of marketing your business,

but also giving you that extra support,

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but at the same time, they have multiple

people in which they're marketing

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for multiple other entities as well.

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What if you have a fractional coach

in which you invest a retainer those

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people, those individuals, those

things that will help you to garner

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that support on a routine basis?

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If you start to build those relationships

with a fractional coach, it might

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even turn into a full time coaching

arrangement for a benefit, not

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just for yourself, but maybe even

for your business for that matter.

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If you think about it, having a fractional

coach will allow you to routinely digest

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and dissect problems, or maybe even things

that might be small to begin with, but

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can overnight turn into huge problems.

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I think that the fractional coaching

industry has yet to be surfaced, and

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I think that we need to think about

the way in which we advertise, we

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expand ourselves, into thinking about

the ways in which we work with people

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that are on a tight budget, that can't

afford the services of a traditional

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coach, and that they're able to

understand what it means to work with

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somebody so that they feel like they

can continue to work on the skills

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and the abilities that are necessary.

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Your Speaking Voice is really starting to

look at all these different possibilities

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as they continue to grow in even our own

offerings, and I think that it's important

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to understand that, especially in this

challenging market, having somebody that

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you meet with on a routine basis, maybe

once a week, maybe even twice a week,

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depending on what you got going on.

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It might make a difference just to have

that small relationship blossom into

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something bigger, and even better yet,

having a contract with someone, whether

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it's with a month to month, three month,

six month, a year, having those sort

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of services at a set rate, allow you

to understand the importance of not

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only budgeting that into your overall

plan, but knowing that you're not fully

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committed and have the flexibility to

work on these goals that you have that

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allow you to understand and tailor your

approach to a variety of different things.

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I think that we often have to

think about coaching as we need to

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solve this big, complex problem.

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That's why it's so important for smaller

companies, individuals, to think about

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having somebody on a routine basis, and

when it's time to pull that fire alarm,

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you have somebody that already knows

what's been going on, and you can now

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dive into the details of why it became

such a big mess, and then, maybe work on

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another fractional engagement in which you

address those problems at a higher rate.

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This revolutionary concept, especially

with the things that are happening in

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the world today, allow us then to think

about what the ultimate benefits are,

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not only the things in which we're able

to work with on a personal level, the

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mental aspect, addressing mental illness

before it's too late and working on

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a plan to address it, especially if a

trained therapist for that matter, but

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we catch ourselves into this sort of

continuum of always working on ourselves,

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but yet being held accountable on a

fractional basis, to be able to make

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sure that we're not demotivated, that

we're not de-escalating those situations

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before they become bigger problems.

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When we're able to work with

something of this nature, the

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ramifications of them can be so big.

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They can help in so many different

ways to the point that we're able to

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achieve greatness on a part time basis.

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I think that we need to address

the problem that we have today.

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Coaching is not a luxury.

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I will always stand by the episode in

which I talked about that, and I encourage

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you to go back and listen to that episode.

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It's in my playlist, but I'm not

even asking you to go and listen

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to that, and dispel the belief that

coaching is not for you, or is it?

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When we say that coaching is not for you,

we're essentially blocking off a whole

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segment of the population that isn't

able to achieve anything worthwhile,

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and I think that's unfair, because I

think we're all entitled to having a

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coach, to having someone that holds us,

regardless of no matter what happens,

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into this ultimate opportunity of a

lifetime, and when we hire somebody

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when it's way too late, of course the

prices are going to be way too much.

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It's time to really rethink this

conversation about what is really

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important in your life: stay in the same

two out of ten ways, which sometimes

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most of us are in, or maybe the ten

out of ten ways that we are operating

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at, could be eleven out of ten.

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Fifteen out of ten.

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Twenty out of ten; more than double the

output that we're already doing, and

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then when we're having a bad day and all

we can do is ten out of ten, that still

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means that we're being really successful,

instead of being at that two out of 10.

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I've always said on this show that

it's really important to value the

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relationship that we have with others.

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That's what I have always mentioned to

even some of my guests is that there's

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the connection and the ability for us

to grow, not just as an individual,

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but to grow in the bigger picture

of what we're trying to achieve.

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So many of my guests have been able to

break that formula into an opportunity

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of a lifetime, but yet for some people,

struggle ultimately becomes their virtue

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of becoming successful in their own right.

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Do you need to always struggle

to be able to achieve greatness?

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That is the question that I want to

challenge you on today, especially when

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it comes to hiring a fractional coach.

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We do not have to keep

pulling the fire alarm.

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The firemen, the firewomen, and all

the emergency personnel that are coming

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cannot always come to save the day.

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There has to be a level of responsibility

in which you're taking control so

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that those emergencies don't need a

fire alarm pulled in the first place.

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Every time that we have to do it, we're

spending oodles of money, time, and

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resources to try to figure out what

is necessary for us to grow from that

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circumstance so that it never happens

again, but those circumstances in which

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I'm referencing do not have to be the

problems in which you're having a hard

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time communicating with someone else.

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You're having a hard

time closing the sale.

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You're having a hard time

finding that next job.

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You're having a hard time being able

to be an effective public speaker.

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If you start to realize that you

can work on these routine problems

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with a fractional coach, you can

change the landscape of all these

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opportunities in which you have

problems that need to be solved, but

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they're being solved in a routine,

preventative maintenance sort of way.

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Think of fractional coaching

as preventative maintenance.

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We can make sure that that machine that

you're working on never breaks down.

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You, the most important

machine of them all.

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When you know that you're feeling really

down about yourself, and you're not

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quite sure how to go about it in life,

that's when you hire a fractional coach.

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When you're not quite sure, maybe this

idea that you have can really come

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to fruition, maybe you need to have a

second set of eyes, a more qualified

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opinion of somebody that has the

education and experience to be able to be

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successful, you should hire a fractional

coach to do that review for you.

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Most importantly, above all else, if

you're struggling with just figuring

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out the day to day and you see yourself

slipping and slipping and slipping, before

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it's too late, whether you are a small

business or even a large business for

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that matter, hire a fractional coach.

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I've always said that coaches come in

many shapes and sizes, and that doesn't

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mean that I'm the perfect coach for

you, and I will always stand by that.

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I will not be disappointed if

someone does not want to work with

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me because we're not a good fit.

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I'd rather that you find someone that

is of a good fit and is willing to help

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you achieve success, but it also means

that you have to learn to say no when

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you have to say no, and you can work with

a coach to be able to do that, but when

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you say yes to the yes of possibilities,

you are able to understand then, that

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coaching isn't just about the short

term, let's fix something up situation.

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It's allowing you to lube up all the

different components of your body, mind,

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spirit and soul to achieve some of the

most amazing things that you have yet

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to achieve in your overall existence.

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That can help you power

beyond comprehension.

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I have always wished for the longest

time of my life that I could have

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hired a fractional coach and would

have even thought of that concept, but

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now, I want to challenge the industry

and challenge people's perspectives

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of thinking that you have to spend

hundreds of thousands of dollars to

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solve a routine problem that could

have been prevented in the first place.

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You might think that it's about short

term engagements and that maybe,

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just maybe, I will give you a quick

discount, but if you really want to be

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an investor and play the game of life,

you would invest in the stock market of

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what I call self development, business

development, research, and development.

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Do these concepts sound familiar?

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That's because throughout your life you

have been hearing about these things.

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Teachers, mentors, family members, all

those different types of individuals

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have been doing those things, and when

you start to realize that the fire alarm

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is not going to be there forever, and

that some people, after a very long time

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of you always pulling it, are going to

ignore you, then you'll start to realize

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that that fire alarm is not going to

be your safety device much longer.

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You have to understand that by using

and creating this value that you have

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inside yourself by working with a coach,

you're going to be able to achieve

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things that are far beyond comprehension,

and you're going to be able to solve

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problems that you never thought you

could ever solve, all because you hired,

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and invested, in a fractional coach.

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Stop pulling the fire alarm, and

start pulling inside yourself the

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many things that have that awesome

value that you get to share to

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the world by working with a coach.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 120 of speaking from the

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heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart, very soon.

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