Episode #79 - Do Not Lose Momentum!

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode number

79 of Speaking From The Heart, and

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have you lost momentum yet because

of the new year, and the new you

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that you are trying to work on?

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I know.

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It's always going to happen inevitably.

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As a matter of fact, many studies have

shown that most people quit within the

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first few weeks, let alone the first month

of the new year, every time that they set

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themselves New Year's resolutions, and

now that we're more than already halfway

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through the first month of 2024, and soon

approaching February for that matter,

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I'm sure that you're asking yourself

the question of, will I ever get back

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on track with what I intended to do?

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We all have setbacks, and there are

all things that we need to be able to

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try to gain more momentum, especially

as we enter the next several months,

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but all is not lost, and I hope that

today's episode will speak to you about

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the importance of breaking down those

big, hairy, audacious goals that you

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have set for yourself for the new year,

and be able to get back on track for

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the things that really count the most.

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Now, I know that before we entered the

new year, we had a lot of episodes that

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talked about getting ready, being able

to prepare for what's ahead, and I highly

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encourage that you go back and listen to

some of those episodes, because not only

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will that remind you of happier times;

the Christmas season, perhaps, or even

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the expectation, or the feeling that

you had for the new year, but it will

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help you to re-engage and get into the

mindset that you need to have in order to

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accomplish what you want to set out to do.

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It's not easy to get back after all

the obstacles, the setbacks, and even

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the challenges that might've existed

previously, because they might be still

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floating around, and might be holding

you back from even accomplishing some

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of the things that you want to do

right now, so let's look at, today,

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some of the things that you might have

on your plate and being able to break

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it down into more manageable tasks.

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Some of the things I even talk about

with my clients even relate to what

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we're going to accomplish now, and

it's really about breaking things

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down into small manageable tasks.

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Many times when people set goals, they

don't break down the minor details as to

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what actual steps need to be accomplished

in order to achieve those opportunities.

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It could be as simple as even

setting aside time on your calendar

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to be able to do such goals.

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I know that for many of us, we might

rely on our calendar to not only provide

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that time in which we need to have,

but even just being able to say that

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this is the dedicated amount of time

that I'm going to be utilizing for this

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goal can make such a big difference.

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Authors do that all the time, especially

when they have to block out time for

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writing the chapters that they have

in their book, especially if they

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are pressed to get the book done.

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Another way in which you can look at this

is: How can we work on the things that we

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have by ensuring that not only our time

management is on par, but how can we use

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that to our advantage, especially when

we have the tasks that we need to do?

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Many corporations, use

what's called a Gantt chart.

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Now, if you've ever used a Gantt

chart, you're very much familiar

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with the time blocks that happen,

and I chuckle to myself because I

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work with them consistently with my

full time job, and I often have to

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look at the time factors that are

involved with each task within the

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overall processes that need to be done.

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Not only does it involve other people,

but it also involves other resources

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that need to be blocked off so that it is

accomplished within a certain time frame.

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For you, think of each goal as a

big project that you're working on.

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Sure, some of them might not require

months on end to accomplish, but,

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think of your time as being broken

down, whether it's in weeks, days,

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hours, maybe even minutes, of being

able to do the certain things that you

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need to accomplish on a day to day.

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Oftentimes, people don't know how to block

out that time that is really important to

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be able to work on those factors in order

to accomplish that bigger, overarching

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goal that they wish to achieve.

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When you set your expectations too high,

that is the reason why most people don't

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know how to get back on track, even

falling flat on their goals that they've

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set for the new year, so my best advice

to you, if you haven't done it already,

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is to break down in smaller manageable

tasks, what you can do within the time

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frames that you have available to you.

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Now, even with that said, I know

that many of you are still asking

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yourself of how to actually block

that time off when you don't even

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know how much to really block off.

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It's simple: not only are you making

sure that you spend the time that is

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needed on the things that you need to

accomplish with each of those tasks,

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but even if you estimate and you are

able to project what that time is,

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you can always go back and modify it.

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Now, don't be the person that always

modifies it because then you're not

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doing what you're supposed to be doing.

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You should be really working on then a

bigger role model in your life which might

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be even a coach, like myself for that

matter, but to do it yourself means you

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have to have consistent discipline, time

and time again, of the things that you

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need to be able to do on a daily basis.

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Each day is unique in itself.

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For me I know that every Monday,

I have to go in the office.

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I have to put that time aside and not

being able to really work as much on the

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business as I really want to, but I know

that for the rest of the week, even though

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I have to work, there is still some time

during lunch, before I start my day, and

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even after my day, in which I can cram in

as much as I possibly can to be able to

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help my coaching business thrive, so it's

about not only utilizing that time wisely,

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but knowing that I have it ahead of time.

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will allow me to block off chunks that

are needed for administrative things,

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maybe for something with my books that

I have to take care of, my bookkeeper

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or accountant, maybe even working with

my marketing person to ensure that I'm

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continuing to advocate and advertise

Your Speaking Voice LLC, but that

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allows me to have the time to work

creatively, whether it's working on the

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podcast, or working on new projects,

or clients for that matter, that are

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coming through my office, or even online.

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If I know what my daily flow

is, I can start to interwork

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those different aspects.

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And I know that might seem simpler to

some people, but for a large amount of us,

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especially those that are neurodivergent,

that can be quite a challenge.

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As a matter of fact, I have a few

clients that are neurodivergent in

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nature that they require that structure.

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They need to know exactly what they

need to do to lay out their days, and

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we give them the tools here at Your

Speaking Voice to help them provide

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that opportunity for themselves, but

even with time being considered, you

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have to think about what are the other

things that might get in the way.

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Well, there might have been family.

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There might have been

unexpected occurrences.

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I know for myself, I was very sick at

the beginning of the year, which, I

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often have joked to other people that

I can only go up from here as a result,

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but it did set me back a little bit on

terms of the momentum and the patience

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that I had with really doing a lot of

things, including even recording podcast

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episodes for that matter, but even with

that being a factor in which I couldn't

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do a lot of things that I wanted to do,

I adjusted my schedule so that I could

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make up some ground, knowing that I

have to make a little bit of sacrifice,

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and sacrifice sometimes is the biggest

challenge for many of us to be able to

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create that new momentum that we have.

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Now, it's been proven through science

and many other studies that it takes

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a few days to at least start to create

that habit, but to have a sustaining

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habit, you have to do it for a few weeks.

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You have to properly train your brain in

order to learn and create those systemic

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exercises of muscle memory, being able

to do that routine, and build it into

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your repertoire so that you're able to

create whatever you're trying to create,

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so don't be ashamed or discouraged

if it doesn't work the first time.

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Failure is always okay.

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We have had plenty of guests on this show

that have even talked about the concept

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of failure and how many times they have,

how many times they had to get back on

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the horse and just keep on trying, but

even with those things considered, talking

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about time, and knowing that failure is

going to happen, might not just be enough.

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What is the magic pill, you might

be asking, that you need to swallow,

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that you might be hearing from me,

your podcast host, to be able to

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help you get to that next level?

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Well, there isn't one exact magic formula,

and the reason for even saying that is

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because all of our goals are different.

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Say that you're trying to go to the

gym in a more consistent manner.

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I totally understand that you really

want to work on your physical health,

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but depending on what your schedule

is, whether you can actually drive to

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the gym, whether you can accommodate

with your family, whether you can

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accommodate with the relationships

that you're forming, whether you have

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a deadline for work, there are many

different factors that we might need

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to look at from a coaching perspective

to help you make sure that you stay on

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track and keep yourself accountable.

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However, on the other side of it, most

people that are looking to be fit, and

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are already doing that routine and just

are looking to enhance their structure

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a little bit better than they already

are, means that you have to just look

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at what you already have existing and

making minor tweaks here and there.

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Not one person is cut from the same

cookie cutter, and that is something

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that is so very important in order to

make sure that you keep that positive

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momentum going, especially if you have

already lost it for the year: 2024

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It isn't just about the things that

you are trying to accomplish, but it's

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really about understanding that you might

be stuck in the mundane, that things

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that are often easy for others to do

might not be as easy for you, so here's

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my pat on the back to make sure that

you get back up and keep on running.

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It's okay to know that you might not

always succeed, and that effort, where

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it might be easier for others, requires

a lot more energy for other people

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to put in to be able to accomplish

what they're setting out to do.

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It's just as simple as

putting it in this context.

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I know that my gifts are not in music

and in the arts, because I certainly

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cannot sing or play an instrument,

although I really would love to

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play an instrument, particularly the

guitar one day, but I know that I also

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can't draw accurately or coherently.

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I can draw a mean stick figure of myself,

and possibly of you, but that's about

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the extent of how far I'm able to go.

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It's because I know that I haven't

been gifted in those practices.

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Those things, which everybody is able and

capable of being taught, means that I had

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chosen at a young age to not be involved

with any of those types of activities.

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I do not find any sort of satisfaction

unless I'm able to work from an adult

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coloring book, and color in between the

lines, which even sometimes for me, I have

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a hard time coloring within those lines

because I see gray, not just black and

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white, but I know that for many of us,

it's not just as simple as putting it all

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together and being able to push forward.

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You need to be able to find something

that will help you to stay on track.

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Now, if you went on Facebook or any

sort of social media platform that's

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tracking your searches and all kinds

of other things, I'm sure that you've

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been bombarded with New Year's goals

and New Year deals, and try this and

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you'll be ready in 30 days or less, but

those are all gimmicks, because if you

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really want to work on something that

really changes who you are, you will

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set aside the time, you will set aside

the resources, but more importantly,

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you will find a way, no matter

what, to make that habit come alive.

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It all boils down to this: even if we have

all the momentum in the world to keep on

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pushing forward, we have to understand

that there are a lot of challenges

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when it comes to just being able to

see what's at the end of the tunnel.

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What's at the end of

the tunnel can be scary.

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It could be very frightful, and I

know for many of us, change is very

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scary, which in later episodes, we'll

certainly talk about that concept of

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scariness and change, because I know

that it can be a very fearful subject.

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It's the very basis in which much of

my coaching work is done on, but if

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we're able to remove the obstacles,

the setbacks, the challenges that

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exist ahead, and we break it down

into smaller items like I've mentioned

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before, we can make short work of

those things that are mundane, and

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help ourselves to keep pushing forward.

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If there was anything that I could

ever recommend to somebody is if

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you don't have the affordability

to hire a coach, find somebody that

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will at least check in with you.

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Maybe they can help you understand

a lot more about what you are

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as a person, and maybe ask some

questions as to what have been some

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setbacks, especially when it comes to

developing this plan that you have.

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I know that you might feel a sense of

failure, especially as you have gone

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a few weeks now into setting your

goals, whether they are physical,

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whether they are mental, whether

they are social, regardless of what

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it is, start with the small things.

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If you're able to just check off some

of those small aspects that you really

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wanted to do, that can help to build that

momentum back up in you again, even if

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it's just as simple as writing that letter

to somebody that you've been putting

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off for so long, having that sense of

accomplishment by just sitting down for

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30 minutes and writing it, maybe up to an

hour of writing it, can make such a big

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difference in not just what you feel about

yourself, But what that other person will

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feel about you, so if you add the feelings

that you have, plus the part the person

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is that you're impacting, imagine how

much extra momentum you can create from

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just those types of relationship building

activities, and being able to simply

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check off a small item on your list.

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There are a variety of different

types of software, let alone

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productivity boards, that you can

write out on your own, available on

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the internet, along with other sort

of productivity activities in itself.

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You ever heard of a combi board?

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That could be one way in which you track

all your things, but even just doing the

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small things on that combi board, can make

such a big difference in the bigger scheme

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of things, but regardless of any board,

tracker, software, regardless of what

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it is, remember, you are okay to fail.

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I know that for many things that we've

talked about on this podcast, it's

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been about momentum, encouragement,

relationships, confidence, and

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determination, being able to become the

best versions of ourselves, but I know

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that we often forget about the fact that

there's a human element to this, that

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even putting this into practice can be so

tough for all of us to be able to achieve,

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but what if we start to break down those

small little things that we can achieve,

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and make them easily accessible for not

only ourselves, but for others as well?

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Imagine the amount of impact that we can

make by just a small little sacrifice, a

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small little task, maybe just changing the

type of food that we put in our bodies,

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even if it's just a one teaspoon less

of sugar in our coffee, or tea for that

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matter, can make such a big difference in

not just the way that we feel, not just

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in the way that we engage, but in the way

in which we have our momentum build up.

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We are based on momentum, and

moving forward is so important,

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especially in this day and age.

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I know that we're not getting any younger,

and I know that even as you're listening

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to this, you might be thinking of all

the insurmountable things that you have

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to do to get back on track with your New

Year's goals, but here I am, cheerleading

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you again, and making sure that you

accomplish them because I believe in

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you, and I've always have believed in

you, even when you listen to some of

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those past episodes in which I've told

you that I believe in you, because it

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isn't just about learning from others.

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It's not just about

saying what's on my mind.

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It's not just saying what is really

important to hear, especially on

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a particular day or occurrence.

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It's about realizing that you have

everything to gain, but also everything

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to lose, but even when you lose, you

still win, so dust yourself off, get

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ready to build that momentum, and

let's tackle: 2024

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Consider the last few

weeks as your trial period.

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Now is your time to not just make short

work of the mundane, but make sure that

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that positivity that I've given you keeps

on pushing forward, because I want to

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see you succeed in more ways than one.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 79 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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