Episode #80 - Making Our Bold Beginnings Come Alive: An Interview With Lorayne Michaels

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart..

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 80 of Speaking from the Heart.

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Today we have Lorraine

Michaels joining us.

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She is a supercharged speaker and

coach who helps to ignite women's

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passions and also to help them

discover their God given purpose.

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She has a heart that is full of faith

and also a fierce determination to

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empower others, where she brings her

unique blend of her personal growth and

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her spiritual beliefs to guide women

towards their most fulfilling lives.

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Lorayne has a speaking career in which

she speaks about not only breaking through

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those limitations, but to unlock hidden

talents and align them with the divine

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plan that each and every one of us has.

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Her joyful, faithful approach has already

touched many countless lives, and she's

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pumped to help even more women step up

to become not only the best versions

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of themselves, but also live the best

lives that they have, and I love our

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conversation today with Lorraine, because

it has such a diverse background, leading

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all the way from emergency medicine, in

which she has practiced, all the way into

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her coaching business, Bold Beginnings,

and talking about the importance of

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fitness, where that all combines together.

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I will admit that this is one of these

episodes that I often have to take

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a step back and think, "What could I

have been if I would have just changed

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my perspective all along and shifted

it from the personality that I had

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in the past to the personality that

I have now wanting to help others see

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that fulfillment?", and I think you're

going to see quite a lot of that,

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especially in our conversation today.

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But with that, let's go to the episode.

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Intro: All right, we have

Lorayne Michaels with us.

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Lorayne, thanks for sharing

your heart with us today.

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Lorayne: Oh, my pleasure.

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I can't wait.

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Joshua: I am just so excited because I

even was telling you this before the show.

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I've been listening to your podcast,

the Bite Sized Podcast, which we'll

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certainly talk about, but love to hear

a little bit more about it as well as

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to why you started it, but nevertheless,

Lorayne, thanks for being on the show.

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Really my first question is, and ,this is

something that I've been really curious to

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learn a little bit more about, especially

as I've listened to some of your episodes

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and just been following you a little bit.

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Tell us a little bit about your story of

how you gotten to being a coach in the

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first place, because I think your story

resonates so much with the mission of what

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we do here at Speaking from the Heart, and

I think there's going to be some nuggets

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that we can talk about with that, but can

you share a little bit about that with us?

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Oh, I would love to, so I have, as

you know, I have over 15 years in my

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previous career, which was medicine,

so I worked in hospitals, in the trauma

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ICU, regular ICU, emergency department;

everywhere, front office, back office.

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I did everything you could possibly

imagine in the medical field, other

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than being a doctor or a nurse.

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I was a nursing assistant and I was an

EMT, and so yeah, 15 years in medicine.

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I lived, breathed, and thought I was going

to die in it, and it was my heart and

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I loved it and I loved helping people.

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I loved getting down in the trenches

with people when they were at their

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lowest of low and helping them through

it and helping them overcome it and

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helping them heal, so that's where

that seed kind of got planted, and I

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thought I was going to be in medicine

forever, and then: 2020

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very quickly realized that medicine was

no longer in alignment with my belief

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system: who I was, what I was about.

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That's a whole nother podcast

episode in and of itself.

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Nothing against doctors and nurses; I

absolutely love them, and I think there's

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a place for Western medicine to an extent,

but now having been transformed and now

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in just a whole new journey and learning

different things, I realized that medicine

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wasn't for me, so how I got into coaching

and speaking was when I left medicine,

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I knew that I wanted to help people.

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I knew that I wanted to encourage people.

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I knew that I really wanted to help

people see their gifts, talents,

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and abilities and help them

find the gold within themselves.

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I'm not sure if you've ever

heard of John Maxwell, but-

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Joshua: Oh yes.

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Lorayne: Yeah, he's great.

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He's my friend.

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Joshua: Hey, I would love

to meet him in person.

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I haven't had the chance yet,

but that's one of my goals.

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Lorayne: He's the biggest sweetheart, but

anyways, I had been reading his books,

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listening to his podcast, following

him for a very, very long time, and

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then I had moved from California to the

Carolinas and I heard of his event that

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he was opening up for the first time

to the public called the IMC event;

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the International Maxwell Conference,

and I was like, "Wow, I can go to that.

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I don't have to be a part of this.

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How amazing is this?", and

plus I get to go meet him.

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Sign me up, and it was in

Florida, so same coast.

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I was like, "Yes, I'm going.'

That is how I became a coach.

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I went to the conference

and I signed up with them.

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I got certified with the John

Maxwell leadership team as a

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speaker, coach, and trainer, and my

journey just has been nonstop ever

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since then, so that was in 2021.

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Ever since then, I've just been

going to conferences and surrounding

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myself with like minded people and

just being in rooms; getting in rooms

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with other coaches, other speakers,

being a part of different groups

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and yeah, I've been through a lot.

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A lot of trauma.

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I've healed a lot, and so that was

another little piece of the puzzle,

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if you will, of having gone through

that healing and been through that.

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Now it's my mission to help other people

feel seen, heard, and heal, basically.

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Joshua: I love that because it seems

like it's a little bit in the same

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field as what you left, the medical

field, to essentially not just do

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the physical healing, but now do

the emotional or mental healing-

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: And I love that direct

correlation because I think that for

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some people, they don't realize that

there is such a big stigma about mental

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health that I continue to go through.

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I know I didn't share this with you.

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I actually tried to end my life a number

of years ago because of some of the

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setbacks that I've had, not only through

emotional abuse, but also just things

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that had happened and events that have

happened in my life that caused me to

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get to where I'm at, which my audience

and listeners really know at this point,

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but I guess for you, what was the moment

in which you realize, when you were

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right at the cusp of leaving the medical

field, what was that aha moment for you?

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Was there something that happened that

made you decide, Oh, I think that being

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a coach would be much more effective."

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can you tell us a little bit about that?

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Lorayne: Oh, that's kind

of going to get very deep.

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Joshua: Go as deep as you like.

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Lorayne: The pivotal moment, and

first I want to preface that I am in

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no way, shape or form judging anyone.

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In fact I came to this realization, I

came to this decision because I feel

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everyone needs to make decisions that's

best for them, so I do not judge anyone

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for the decisions that they make, so the

pivotal moment for me was in medicine

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when I was being forced to do things

that I felt were not right for me, and

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I am a huge proponent of not what feels

good do it, but what's right for you?

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What's right for your health?

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What's right for you

personally and your healing?

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Not everything is cut and dry

and cookie cutter, you know.

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It's all different.

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That's another reason why I absolutely

love coaching and speaking is because

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everybody works differently and

what works for one person doesn't

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necessarily work for another person.

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With Western medicine, it's very much

treat the symptom, not the root, and

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now, conversely, because I'm a health

and wellness coach and I'm a holistic and

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speaking, coaching, fitness, all of those

things, you got to treat the inside first,

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and if you're not right on the inside,

it doesn't matter how pretty you are

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on the outside or handsome or whatever.

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If your insides are messed up and your

insides are ugly and your insides are not

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doing what they should be doing, what is

coming out isn't going to be the best,

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right, so I think that's where western

medicine kind of fails us as a society and

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as humanity is they're not treating the

root, and so my approach is holistic and

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fixing the inside first and getting right

with your mind and then your body and

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then everything starts to flow naturally,

and then those things that I really try

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and pull out of everybody: the gold,

their gifts, comes much more naturally.

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Joshua: It is hard for some people to

be able to see that gold that's inside

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because you're layering it with so much

different inspirations of maybe false

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idols and I know of so many things that

I've done in my life that I have to take

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a big step back even when I was starting

my business, I was thinking, "My goodness.

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I need to think about what is not

only happening for myself so that

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I can better serve my clients,

but I'm on this journey with them.

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I need to heal what's in the insides

for me too", so I love that so much

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because it ties so well with what we

need to just do not only with the things

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that we say on the outside, but also

what we say to ourselves in the inside.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: And it seems like I always tell

people, "You got to love yourself first."

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: You got to do that first.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: It's so important, but for

you, I understand and I know you've

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been public about this on your podcast,

so I feel like this is okay to ask.

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I understand that you've been through

a number of divorces because of just

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kind of going through some of those

shifting tides in your life and probably

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working on some of those insides.

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I mean,...

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how has that helped you become a

stronger person, because obviously

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I'm sitting here, I'm looking at you,

you seem much more determined and

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confident and I don't even need to

know you very well to understand that.

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I feel that people give off this

aura of just knowing what their

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life mission is at this point,

so how did you get to that point?

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Lorayne: Gosh.

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A lot of healing.

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I carried around for many, many years, a

lot of shame and a lot of guilt, and I'm

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not making any excuse for my decisions

or behaviors in previous relationships.

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I will say though that having healed

and gone through what I went through

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and now being on the other side of it,

I know that that it was not who I am,

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and I know that there was a tremendous

amount of growth that needed to happen

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and healing that needed to happen,

and so like I said about the shame and

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guilt I carried that around from my

first marriage because my first marriage

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ended completely due to my poor choices.

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My poor choices in relationships.

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My poor choices with alcohol.

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Just being immature and immature in my

faith, immature in just relationships

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in general about what my idea was about

marriage, and we live in a culture that's

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a microwave culture and if it's broke,

throw it away and get a new one rather

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than nurturing something and fixing

something and tending to something.

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You heard the saying, "the grass

is greener on the other side."

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Joshua: Oh man.

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Every time I hear that, I feel like

I should be paid every single time.

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Can't tell you how many times I hear that.

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Yup.

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Lorayne: But what I really

would like to say is the grass

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is greener where you water it.

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If you want fruit from something,

you have to nurture it.

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You don't just plant a tree

and you get fruit, right?

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You have to tend to it.

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You have to prune it.

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You have to fertilize it.

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You have to water it.

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You have to nurture it, and that's the

same with any relationship, platonic

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friendship, family, romantic, whatever

it may be, and so there was so much I

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didn't know my first marriage and if

wishes were fishes, I wish I could go

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back and redo it, but I can't, so I have

had to heal and move on and pray that

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my ex husband forgave me and forgives

me and he's healed happy and whole now.

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My second marriage: that

was It was a train wreck.

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It was filled with addiction and

infidelity and abuse and trauma, and

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again, having healed, I can realize

that we had a trauma bond and that

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was super unhealthy, and so now, in my

third marriage, it's not a cakewalk,

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and trust me, I've known what not to

do and I haven't made those mistakes

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again, but this comes with a whole new

set of problems and a whole new set

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of challenges, and so now it's just

a matter of, "Okay, so do the work."

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The results you want require

work, so what do you want?

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Do you want to put in the work or do

you want to just throw in the towel?

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For anyone that's having trouble

in relationships, it takes work,

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and you throw one out and get into

another, it's going to have its

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own problems; a different set of

problems, so what do you want?

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Joshua: Yeah, and first off, I love the

reference of the microwave culture because

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I didn't even think about the fact that

we tend to just throw things away without

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even giving it a chance to repair it, and

I've had a few people through my business

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that have gone through and we have worked

on that and sometimes the inevitable

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does happen where you might have to throw

it away, but it doesn't mean that you

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wasted the time because you always learn

something from it, so I love mentioning

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the fact that we have to take care of

our gardens or our grass for that matter,

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because I feel like we don't spend enough

time with that, and I know for me, it's

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been tough to be able to do that, to give

myself that value, so I know that for

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one of the things that you do, and maybe

you want to talk about this a bit because

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I've had fitness people on the show too,

which they've run their own businesses

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with gyms and telling our audience about

some of the things that have been involved

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with why they started in the first place.

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What has led you into taking care of

yourself, because I understand that

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you have done fitness competitions?

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: That's quite unique.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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What led me to it,

honestly, was insecurity.

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What led me to fitness?

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So, um-

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Joshua: I wasn't expecting

that answer, by the way.

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That was really surprising to me.

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I like to hear that perspective.

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That's interesting to me.

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Lorayne: So, as I guess a kid.?

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Yeah.

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I was fit.

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I loved cheerleading.

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I was in competition cheerleading,

and so that was my sport that I

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did as a kid growing up, so I was

relatively fit childhood to high school.

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My senior year until I got married;

so my first marriage, those

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years were my unhealthy years.

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Those were the years that I was drinking,

partying, smoking, not taking care

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of my body, not treating my body as a

temple; really bad relationships and

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my first marriage, so what led me into

fitness, was my ex-husband had a porn

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addiction that I really didn't know

about and I just thought that he wasn't

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attracted to me, so I started working

out to change my body, to change my

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appearance, so that my husband would

be attracted to me, and would want to

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be with me rather than looking at porn.

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Again, back to what I said; immature.

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I didn't know how to have these tough

conversations and navigate addiction

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at that point, so rather than having

the conversation of how damaging it was

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and how much it hurt me and what can

we do to get past this, it was, "Okay.

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I just need to look better.", so I started

working out, and then that just propelled

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into a very unhealthy relationship with

my body and food and competing, and he

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was totally against me competing, and

then that marriage ended and I still

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continued to compete, but then I took

a break from it as well because of how

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unhealthy it got and I was just trying

to maintain this physique that wasn't

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realistic, so I'm not sure if you're

familiar with fitness competitions

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or bodybuilding competitions, but-

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Joshua: I've known a few people

that have gone through it.

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I know it's a very tremendously

big undertaking for sure.

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Lorayne: Yeah, it takes a lot of work.

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I did it very unhealthy in the beginning,

but the end of the fitness career,

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I was a little more smart about it.

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I did it in a healthy way,

but stage weight, stage

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appearance, is not realistic.

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It's not what you look like

every day and it shouldn't be.

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You should never look like that,

and I thought I wanted to, so

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that's what led me into fitness,

but now it has transform my life.

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It has helped me with recovery.

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It's helped me with sobriety.

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It has helped me with my mental health,

because for a while, I really, really

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struggled with anxiety and depression

and, it has turned my life around and

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part of my four corners, if you will, of

my life balance and what I speak about.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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First off- I didn't realize that question

was going to turn in the way that it was.

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I am impressed by the fact that you've

taken something like this, where it

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could have been detrimental to you and

maybe led you down a different path,

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to something where it supplements you.

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It's almost like getting up in the

morning, making yourself a healthy

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breakfast, being able to then go and

work out, realizing that that's helping

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to get rid of that junk that might be

inside of you from the other day or that

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unhealthy meal, and for some people,

just being able to start that, and to

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change that thinking, is oftentimes the

most difficult thing that they can do.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: So, speaking of which, there's

been a lot of people that give up, but

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yet you have persevered and you opened

Bold Beginnings, your business, so tell

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us a little bit about the business.

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I mean, for me, as a coach, I certainly

resonate with what you're doing, my

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business being Your Speaking Voice LLC.

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I love what I do, but I love what you

do, and we were even talking about

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this before the show about the fact

that we supplement each other, so it

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isn't like I'm putting my fist up like,

"Lorayne, stop taking my clients."

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No, it's that we're all working together

because we all have a similar goal.

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Tell us a little bit about the mission.

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Tell us specifically what you do in

a bigger sense with Bold Beginnings.

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Lorayne: Oh my goodness.

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I love that.

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Thank you, and yes, there is plenty,

plenty of fish to go around for everybody.

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That was like one of the things that when

I first started, I was like, "I'm going to

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be a coach and a speaker.", and then I got

into this space and I'm like, "Oh my gosh,

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there's so many coaches and speakers.

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Maybe I don't want to."

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Joshua: Yeah.

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I know, right?

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You know, just put a logo

up and put your face on it.

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Done.

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I'm a coach.

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Yeah.

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I've seen that too many times.

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Yes.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Oh my goodness.

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Yeah.

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You're absolutely right about

that, but someone, a mentor, and I

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hope one day, I'm putting this out

there, one day will be my friend.

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Her name is Jasmine Starr.

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She's an amazing, amazing speaker

and entrepreneur, and she was

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saying that there's only one

you, whatever it is that you do.

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If you're a coach, a speaker,

a photographer, or whatever it

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is, don't have that mentality

of someone else is doing it.

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Someone else is saying it.

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There's only one you, and there's

only one way that you communicate and

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there's only one way that you coach.

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No one else does it like you, and

there's someone, or lots of someones,

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out there that will resonate only with

you, and so that really helped me because

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a lot of what I say and believe and

teach and speak and coach about I see

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the Ed Milets, and whoever it is that

you see and follow, I see and hear-

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Joshua: John Maxwell.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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John Maxwell, right.

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How did I forget?

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Joshua: Sorry, John.

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We're going to make sure

you get a shout out again.

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Yes.

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Lorayne: Sorry, coach.

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So, you know what I'm saying?

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They're saying it too, but they're

going to resonate with someone that

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maybe won't resonate with you, or

vice versa, right, and so how Bold

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Beginnings started, I named it that

was because that's exactly what I did.

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When I started this business, I was

taking a bold leap of faith and it

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was a new beginning, and that's the

mission and my premise of my hope

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for my clients or anywhere that I go

speak is that the world realizes that

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you have to take bold beginnings.

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Your story, your journey, your walk

is going to need to be bold and it

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should be because it builds confidence.

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Being bold, it takes confidence,

but it also builds your confidence.

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Joshua: I understand that 1000 percent

because I often say that it's our voice

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that counts and isn't just what we say.

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It's the actions, because that has

a voice in itself too, and with the

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things that continuously move in this

world, I know for a fact that we need

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people that are bold, that they are

confident, and they are capable of

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being what I call, even one of my

values, being determined to persevere

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no matter what the circumstances,

because it's sometimes tough to be

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able to make that challenging decision.

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I've had friends even just recently

talk about their divorce and how they

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navigate through that and how scared

they are about that, and it could be a

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challenge and hearing what your story

has been, I can understand why taking

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that bold step is really important.

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Thanks for sharing that because part

of this has been really about not

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only sharing what you do with your

business, but you do it also through not

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only your speaking, but your podcast,

which we've talked about a little

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bit earlier, the Bite Size Podcast.

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Tell us a little bit about it, and this

is your opportunity to sell that too, if

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you want to get some additional followers

from my show, but I self declared

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earlier, even before we started that,

yes, Lorayne, I'm raising my right hand.

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I was literally stalking a lot of your

episodes, but I loved it because it had

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such good content about things that we

need to write down and kind of act on.

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Lorayne: Oh thank you.

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Joshua: Yeah, so I just want to give

you those kudos officially, publicly.

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Lorayne: Thank you, so what is it about?

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Joshua: Yes.

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Lorayne: Well, the Bold Begin-, or

excuse me, the Bite Sized Podcast.

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Joshua: Yes, eIther one.

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You could call it the Bold Beginnings too.

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That would be a nice name; maybe that's

your second podcast then, you know?

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Yeah.

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Lorayne: I chose that name, the Bite

Size Podcast; it's kind of multifaceted.

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I'm a little woman.

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I'm only 5'2, and so everyone

kind of jokes about that.

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Everyone's joked about it my whole life.

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That I'm like fun size or I'm bite

size, so there was that, right,

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and the other part was I try and

keep my episodes as best as I can

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bite size: 20 minutes, 30 minutes.

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I really hope I don't go over 45 minutes,

unless if it's like this incredible

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episode where I just keep talking with

someone, but I want it to keep it, you

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know, bite size, so you can literally

pop it in, whatever you're doing:

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cooking, walking, driving, whatever

it is that you're doing, so that's how

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I came up with the title, but it is

about faith, business, life, trials,

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how you've gotten through stuff, I

like to bring value whatever I can.

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I try and think about where

I was in life, who do I want

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to help, and who's listening.

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If anyone were to pop this in and

listen to it, obviously, if they listen

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to my intro, it tells them faith,

business, health, whatever it is that

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I'm talking about, I want to make sure

that I am bringing value to the world.

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If that's with fitness tips, health tips,

business tips, life tips; I don't do

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parenting because I feel like I am not

good in that area, so I will not talk

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about parenting 'cause it makes struggle.

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Joshua: I'm not a parent myself,

so I totally understand that.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: So, yeah.

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Lorayne: I'm on the struggle bus on that

one for sure, but anyways, I try and

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bring a little light, a little laughter.

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Sometimes it's some serious

stuff, like recently, this gal

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in the network marketing world.

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She's the number one network

marketer in the world.

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I'm pretty sure her name

is Jesse Lee Bosley.

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I did a tribute for her and that was

a pretty sombering episode because

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a lot of what I speak about is me

trying to shake you guys out there

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and get you to realize that you have

a purpose and stop playing small.

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If you hate your job, quit; find a

job that you like, or figure out what

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it is that you're passionate about.

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I get so frustrated with people when

they're just living their life day to

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day, like a robot, not happy, miserable,

and they've got a gift and a talent

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inside of them that the world needs.

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Joshua: Oh man.

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I feel that.

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That is something that I have lived years

about saying to myself, "I can't do this.

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No one's going to want to use me.

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I don't feel that I have any value to

give.", and this journey that I've been

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on, Lorayne, I resonate with what you

say, with what you do to help others,

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because it's something that we often

tell these false stories about, almost

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like they're legends, and they're not.

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They're just little fiction pieces

that we've been storing in our brains,

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and honestly, if we would have a book

ban, that would be the book ban that

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I would promote: those that are false

idols or literature about ourselves.

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We throw them out onto a big pile and we

set it ablaze because it's not who we are.

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Lorayne: That's right.

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It's the lies from the enemy.

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God does not call the equipped.

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He equips the called.

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Joshua: Good stuff.

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Lorayne, we're almost at the end of our

time, but I want to give you a moment

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here, and this is something that it

isn't even before even pitching how

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our listeners can reach out to you.

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You have the stage.

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30 seconds, maybe 45 seconds.

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Tell somebody that might be listening

to this right now something that maybe

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they're in this dark hole; maybe there's

something that they're struggling with.

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Maybe they've gone through

some of the similar struggles

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that you've been through.

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Maybe they're going through this

dark period of life right now.

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What would be your piece of advice to

them if they were listening to you and

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maybe even they're a woman, because

I'll be honest with you, I've had lots

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of women listen to my podcast too.

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I know you do women coaching as well.

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Maybe there's something that you can

share with them that will radically

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change their path going forward.

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I'm going to give you 45 seconds

or so to go ahead and share that.

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Lorayne: Oh, wow.

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Okay.

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First of all, you matter.

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Your story matters, and I know

more than you know, I know the

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dark is scary and the dark.

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is lonely, but it's a season and you

can get through this and to not give

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up, and I promise, promise, promise

that there's a reason for your pain

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and there's a purpose for your pain.

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If you're willing and curious

and ready, God can make this

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a beautiful, beautiful story.

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Joshua: Wow.

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Thank you for that, and I know

there has to be someone that

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is just like, "You're right.

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This is a season and tomorrow

starts a new season where I

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don't let that hold me back."

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Lorayne: Absolutely.

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Joshua: Lorayne, you've

been awesome to talk to.

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Let's give you a few minutes here to

share with the audience how can they

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reach out to you if they're interested

in being coached by you, if they want

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to book you as a speaker, maybe they

want to check out your podcast; maybe

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they want to be a guest on your podcast.

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Why don't you give us how they can

reach out to you and I'll give you

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the last few minutes to do that.

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Lorayne: Absolutely.

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Thank you so much.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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It has been a joy and an honor, first

of all, Josh, I absolutely have loved

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being on Speaking From The Heart.

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So how you can find me; my website is

theboldbeginnings.com, and I'm on all

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the socials, most frequent Instagram

and Facebook, but if you would like

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to reach out to me, you can email me.

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My email is lorayne@theboldbeginnings.com,

or if you go to my website, you can find

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all the ways to get in touch with me.

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My email is there on the contact form.

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There's different tabs where you can

look at what coaching packages I have

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to offer, and there's also a way if

you're interested in me speaking at

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: 00:30:02

an event, there's a way to contact

me there too, or you can shoot me

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: 00:30:07

an email, or you can message me on

Instagram and my Instagram handle is

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my name, so it's @lorayne_michaels.

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Joshua: I think that you're going to

have a lot of people reaching out to

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you, Lorayne, because let's be real.

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: 00:30:20

I think that you are very authentic lady.

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I feel like I learned something from this

because, even as a coach, and I've said

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this to you, I feel like we could learn

a lot from other coaches, too, but what's

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: 00:30:33

so interesting about what your story's

been about is that you keep on getting

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knocked down, but you keep on getting up,

and I'm going to give you some awesome

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advice as one coach to another don't stop

doing what you're doing, making a big

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: 00:30:48

change in this world with what you're

doing, and I'm really honored that you've

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been part of Speaking From The Heart.

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I'm really honored that you're a

coach and you're helping others

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see their true potential, and for

all those reasons, Lorayne, thank

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you for being part of the show.

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It's been a true pleasure

interviewing you today.

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Lorayne: Absolutely.

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Thank you so much.

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It's my honor.

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Joshua: There's nothing like being a bold

beginner, just like Lorayne is, and I have

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to thank her so much for being part of

the show and sharing a lot of her journey

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from the professional development side,

going into the emergency medicine field,

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sharing her gifts to other women and being

willing to be vulnerable about all the

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different things that she has gone through

in her life, and this is an important

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distinction from many of the other people

that I'll have on the show coming up

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in the next few months, let alone the

next few years, because I think that we

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have to think about the topics that we

even talked about today as some of the

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stepping stones into that better future

that we have; that we don't have it all

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: 00:31:48

figured out, that we don't have everything

understood, especially in the moments that

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might be needed for us to help others see

that true version of themselves, which

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I've continuously preached, but I think

what's different about what Lorayne has

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talked about today that I want to spend a

little bit of time talking about, is the

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distinction between what is the medical

aspects of being able to seek treatment

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and get help where it's needed from the

emotional side, and then finding that

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process to heal; finding coping mechanisms

and tools that are necessary for us to

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: 00:32:21

get involved with pulling that gold;

nurturing that tree, as she's talked about

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in this episode, so that it can continue

to bear fruits in nature and beyond.

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: 00:32:33

It's often such a stigma to think

that when you need to go and seek

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medical treatment for something such as

depression, such as anxiety, such as ADHD,

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: 00:32:43

anything that might be a detriment to

your overall development and well being

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means that you are sacrificing quite a lot

of yourself and who you are, but I think

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: 00:32:54

that it's important to understand that it

isn't just about the things that we do to

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: 00:32:59

help us become better, but it's realizing

that we need the help when help is

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: 00:33:03

desperately needed, and I think Lorraine

recognized the fact that if she could go

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into the medical field, she could make

a big difference, but something changed.

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: 00:33:13

She wanted to see a lot more than

just what was on the day to day basis.

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: 00:33:17

She wanted to take it one step further.

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So it isn't to say that things that

are necessary in our lives have to

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: 00:33:24

continuously be the same pattern that

we do over and over and over again.

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: 00:33:30

We often have to find that pattern in

which we need to break, but sometimes

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: 00:33:33

that break happens when we least expect

it, and I think that's what we have to

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: 00:33:38

understand here, is that sometimes those

curveballs that are thrown at us, we're

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: 00:33:43

not ever ready for it, and that might

mean that we need to go right now and get

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: 00:33:47

some medical help from somebody that would

understand what we're going through, to

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: 00:33:51

be able to help us in the immediacy of the

situation, but it doesn't mean that every

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: 00:33:56

time a situation like that comes up, that

it constitutes an emergency in itself.

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: 00:34:01

You have to be able to understand

the nurturing aspects of what

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: 00:34:05

you can do to take those steps

to help you become better.

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: 00:34:10

It's not just easy, though, to throw

something away that you've always been

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: 00:34:14

wanting to do as a repeated pattern,

time after time again, to make yourself

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think that you need to do what you need

to do at that very moment, which is where

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: 00:34:24

that emotional healing comes into play.

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: 00:34:27

Now, I will never hold a candle

to what Lorayne has been through.

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God bless her, though, for what she

has endured to get to this moment; to

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: 00:34:36

make herself realize that there are

not only answers out there that she

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: 00:34:40

can seek from others that are much more

qualified, but that she's willing to

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: 00:34:44

share her perspectives, which are very

unique and very professional in nature,

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: 00:34:50

into something that we don't necessarily

need to put into what she called the

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"microwave culture", because let's face

it, if we try to heat something up and

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: 00:35:01

we just let it bake over and over and

over again, do you think it's going to

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: 00:35:04

taste good, every time that we reheat it?

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That's why they're called leftovers,

which is why we don't want to always

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: 00:35:11

eat the leftovers that are given to

us, and I know, from past experiences

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: 00:35:17

even of myself, that we don't want

to always reheat those elements

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: 00:35:22

in our lives that are often toxic.

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It might be time, instead of reheating

them, to throw them away, but there's

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: 00:35:29

something that she said about the tree

reference, and about pulling out gold

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out of these aspects that we get involved

with in our lives, that it's worth talking

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: 00:35:38

about in just a moment, but let me just

say that it's important for not only us to

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: 00:35:44

distinguish between what is the medicine

aspect of this, but to understand that

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: 00:35:50

there is another side to it, and we need

to have both play nice in order for us to

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: 00:35:55

become better at who we are, because as

she says, the grass is greener with water.

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: 00:36:03

Now let's talk about the gold.

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The gold in each and every one of us

does not just come from the things

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: 00:36:08

that we pluck out of the situations

that we go through, but you have to

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: 00:36:12

understand that each season that we

go through creates those opportunities

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: 00:36:17

to be blessed in that season.

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: 00:36:20

That season that sometimes might

be the roughest, but that is the

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moment in which you don't give up.

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You never surrender.

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You realize that's just a season and

that you have to feel those moments

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in order to get to that other side.

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That other side can be very scary.

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It can be very dangerous.

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It might be actually challenging those

worldviews and those viewpoints that

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you've been always given growing up, maybe

those things that you have never learned

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to master in the first place, which is

why we need to take care of ourselves.

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Which is why it isn't just about the

medicine, it's about the physical fitness,

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which, even after this episode, I have

been inspired by the fact that Lorayne

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continues to talk about the importance of

balancing all those things, and she lives

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what she preaches, and that is something

that is so true, even to this day, that

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if we ever want to make that systemic

change, we have to live what we preach,

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so sometimes, even I, a coach, and also a

thinker of all the different opportunities

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that I have lying ahead of me, means that

I have to think about how I can take care

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of myself and how I can use my viewpoint

to help others achieve that greatness.

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Are there always going to be those weak

moments that we have in our lives in

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which we might fall back a few steps?

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Absolutely.

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If that is the case, we have to

understand then that we are human

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beings and that nobody is perfect.

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If someone wanted to hire the perfect

coach, they will be very hard pressed

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to find those individuals, because

even those that charge $100,000 a year

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have fallacies in their own planning

and design of their own practices.

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I think that's what makes Lorayne a little

bit different, just like any other coach

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you hire can be a little bit different.

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It isn't just about understanding who

you are in terms of what your medical

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needs are, maybe even your emotional

needs, but it's about understanding a

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viewpoint that we might not understand

in the first place, and how we can

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utilize that to achieve greatness.

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How we can nurture that tree that we

have planted for ourselves to create

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the best version of who we are.

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It means taking a leap of faith

and seeing what's involved with it,

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even not knowing what circumstances

might be presented on the other

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side in order to bring that value.

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Really, the question becomes:

Who do you want to help?

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Now, I've been open for over a year, and

it's been impressive to see the number

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of people that have come through my door

and have radically changed their whole

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mindset, whether it's their own business,

whether it's their own professional

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development, whether it's their own

personal, or even public speaking

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coaching ways in which they want to see

who they can truly become, but all it

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took was really just planting that seed.

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I think that we have to understand that

there's a variety of different ways to do

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it, and whether you want to work with John

Maxwell, whether you want to work with

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Darren LaCroix, whoever you want to work

with, you have to understand this ultimate

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question that I'm about to ask you, and

it's this: Do you wish to just throw away

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all the things that you have ever done

to start anew, or do you want to find the

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gold that might be out of those things

that you have achieved in order to become

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the best version of who you want to be?

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It's not easy to be on this journey.

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It takes a lot of work, and it means

also taking a big step forward.

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It means having a bold beginning, to use

Lorayne's words of her business, but it

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also means that it's a season that we all

go through, and we never have to give up.

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We just have to believe that we have

the unlimited potential to create that

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best value of who we are, and sometimes

just working with someone, whether it's

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man, woman, or child, to see what those

fundamental differences are, that can

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ultimately change the ways in which we

can become not just the best version

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of who we are, but maybe finding that

ultimate truth that lies out in the

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distance; no matter how far away you

are, no matter how close you are to it,

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just know, that sometimes just seeking

a little bit of help, whether it is

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from that leprechaun that has the gold.

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It can make the biggest difference

not only in just who you are, but

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what you're able to become, and I

think for those that are willing to

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take that big chance of whether they

want to develop themselves or not.

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Just realize that you don't have

to throw away those leftovers.

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Sometimes it might be worthy of

throwing those leftovers, and sometimes,

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it might be just worthy of just

seeing who you can become, if you're

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willing to take that big, bold step.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 80 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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