Episode 83

Episode #80 - Making Our Bold Beginnings Come Alive: An Interview With Lorayne Michaels

Learning about ourselves means that we have to avoid the mentality of a "microwave culture" (you will learn about this term in this episode!). Trying to create the best version of ourselves means that we cannot continue to reheat the leftovers in our lives and think that they are going to taste differently. At some point, we must take bold action in order to dispel and compel ourselves to move forward in a positive direction. Today's guest, coach and speaker Lorayne Michaels, share her transformational story that led to her starting her business, Bold Beginnings, which helps to empower women through faith and personal/professional backgrounds, to create a tapestry of this new opportunity. Through a variety of different subjects, this episode leaves a powerful impression on feeling the level of support and encouragement to gain traction no matter what stage of development you are in.

Guest Bio

Get ready to meet Lorayne - the supercharged speaker & coach who ignites women's passion and helps them discover their God-given purpose! With a heart full of faith and a fierce dedication to empowering others, she brings her unique blend of personal growth and spiritual beliefs to guide women towards their most fulfilling lives. Lorayne's speaking is all about breaking through limitations, unlocking hidden talents, and aligning with the divine plan. Her joyful and faithful approach has already touched countless lives, and she's pumped to help even more women step up and live their best lives!

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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs

Transcript
Intro:

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart..

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 80 of Speaking from the Heart.

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Today we have Lorraine

Michaels joining us.

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She is a supercharged speaker and

coach who helps to ignite women's

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passions and also to help them

discover their God given purpose.

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She has a heart that is full of faith

and also a fierce determination to

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empower others, where she brings her

unique blend of her personal growth and

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her spiritual beliefs to guide women

towards their most fulfilling lives.

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Lorayne has a speaking career in which

she speaks about not only breaking through

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those limitations, but to unlock hidden

talents and align them with the divine

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plan that each and every one of us has.

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Her joyful, faithful approach has already

touched many countless lives, and she's

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pumped to help even more women step up

to become not only the best versions

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of themselves, but also live the best

lives that they have, and I love our

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conversation today with Lorraine, because

it has such a diverse background, leading

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all the way from emergency medicine, in

which she has practiced, all the way into

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her coaching business, Bold Beginnings,

and talking about the importance of

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fitness, where that all combines together.

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I will admit that this is one of these

episodes that I often have to take

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a step back and think, "What could I

have been if I would have just changed

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my perspective all along and shifted

it from the personality that I had

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in the past to the personality that

I have now wanting to help others see

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that fulfillment?", and I think you're

going to see quite a lot of that,

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especially in our conversation today.

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But with that, let's go to the episode.

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Intro: All right, we have

Lorayne Michaels with us.

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Lorayne, thanks for sharing

your heart with us today.

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Lorayne: Oh, my pleasure.

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I can't wait.

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Joshua: I am just so excited because I

even was telling you this before the show.

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I've been listening to your podcast,

the Bite Sized Podcast, which we'll

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certainly talk about, but love to hear

a little bit more about it as well as

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to why you started it, but nevertheless,

Lorayne, thanks for being on the show.

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Really my first question is, and ,this is

something that I've been really curious to

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learn a little bit more about, especially

as I've listened to some of your episodes

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and just been following you a little bit.

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Tell us a little bit about your story of

how you gotten to being a coach in the

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first place, because I think your story

resonates so much with the mission of what

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we do here at Speaking from the Heart, and

I think there's going to be some nuggets

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that we can talk about with that, but can

you share a little bit about that with us?

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Oh, I would love to, so I have, as

you know, I have over 15 years in my

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previous career, which was medicine,

so I worked in hospitals, in the trauma

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ICU, regular ICU, emergency department;

everywhere, front office, back office.

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I did everything you could possibly

imagine in the medical field, other

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than being a doctor or a nurse.

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I was a nursing assistant and I was an

EMT, and so yeah, 15 years in medicine.

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I lived, breathed, and thought I was going

to die in it, and it was my heart and

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I loved it and I loved helping people.

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I loved getting down in the trenches

with people when they were at their

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lowest of low and helping them through

it and helping them overcome it and

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helping them heal, so that's where

that seed kind of got planted, and I

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thought I was going to be in medicine

forever, and then:

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very quickly realized that medicine was

no longer in alignment with my belief

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system: who I was, what I was about.

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That's a whole nother podcast

episode in and of itself.

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Nothing against doctors and nurses; I

absolutely love them, and I think there's

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a place for Western medicine to an extent,

but now having been transformed and now

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in just a whole new journey and learning

different things, I realized that medicine

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wasn't for me, so how I got into coaching

and speaking was when I left medicine,

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I knew that I wanted to help people.

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I knew that I wanted to encourage people.

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I knew that I really wanted to help

people see their gifts, talents,

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and abilities and help them

find the gold within themselves.

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I'm not sure if you've ever

heard of John Maxwell, but-

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Joshua: Oh yes.

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Lorayne: Yeah, he's great.

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He's my friend.

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Joshua: Hey, I would love

to meet him in person.

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I haven't had the chance yet,

but that's one of my goals.

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Lorayne: He's the biggest sweetheart, but

anyways, I had been reading his books,

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listening to his podcast, following

him for a very, very long time, and

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then I had moved from California to the

Carolinas and I heard of his event that

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he was opening up for the first time

to the public called the IMC event;

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the International Maxwell Conference,

and I was like, "Wow, I can go to that.

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I don't have to be a part of this.

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How amazing is this?", and

plus I get to go meet him.

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Sign me up, and it was in

Florida, so same coast.

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I was like, "Yes, I'm going.'

That is how I became a coach.

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I went to the conference

and I signed up with them.

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I got certified with the John

Maxwell leadership team as a

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speaker, coach, and trainer, and my

journey just has been nonstop ever

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since then, so that was in 2021.

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Ever since then, I've just been

going to conferences and surrounding

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myself with like minded people and

just being in rooms; getting in rooms

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with other coaches, other speakers,

being a part of different groups

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and yeah, I've been through a lot.

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A lot of trauma.

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I've healed a lot, and so that was

another little piece of the puzzle,

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if you will, of having gone through

that healing and been through that.

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Now it's my mission to help other people

feel seen, heard, and heal, basically.

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Joshua: I love that because it seems

like it's a little bit in the same

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field as what you left, the medical

field, to essentially not just do

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the physical healing, but now do

the emotional or mental healing-

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: And I love that direct

correlation because I think that for

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some people, they don't realize that

there is such a big stigma about mental

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health that I continue to go through.

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I know I didn't share this with you.

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I actually tried to end my life a number

of years ago because of some of the

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setbacks that I've had, not only through

emotional abuse, but also just things

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that had happened and events that have

happened in my life that caused me to

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get to where I'm at, which my audience

and listeners really know at this point,

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but I guess for you, what was the moment

in which you realize, when you were

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right at the cusp of leaving the medical

field, what was that aha moment for you?

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Was there something that happened that

made you decide, Oh, I think that being

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a coach would be much more effective."

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can you tell us a little bit about that?

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Lorayne: Oh, that's kind

of going to get very deep.

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Joshua: Go as deep as you like.

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Lorayne: The pivotal moment, and

first I want to preface that I am in

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no way, shape or form judging anyone.

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In fact I came to this realization, I

came to this decision because I feel

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everyone needs to make decisions that's

best for them, so I do not judge anyone

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for the decisions that they make, so the

pivotal moment for me was in medicine

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when I was being forced to do things

that I felt were not right for me, and

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I am a huge proponent of not what feels

good do it, but what's right for you?

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What's right for your health?

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What's right for you

personally and your healing?

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Not everything is cut and dry

and cookie cutter, you know.

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It's all different.

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That's another reason why I absolutely

love coaching and speaking is because

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everybody works differently and

what works for one person doesn't

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necessarily work for another person.

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With Western medicine, it's very much

treat the symptom, not the root, and

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now, conversely, because I'm a health

and wellness coach and I'm a holistic and

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speaking, coaching, fitness, all of those

things, you got to treat the inside first,

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and if you're not right on the inside,

it doesn't matter how pretty you are

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on the outside or handsome or whatever.

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If your insides are messed up and your

insides are ugly and your insides are not

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doing what they should be doing, what is

coming out isn't going to be the best,

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right, so I think that's where western

medicine kind of fails us as a society and

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as humanity is they're not treating the

root, and so my approach is holistic and

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fixing the inside first and getting right

with your mind and then your body and

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then everything starts to flow naturally,

and then those things that I really try

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and pull out of everybody: the gold,

their gifts, comes much more naturally.

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Joshua: It is hard for some people to

be able to see that gold that's inside

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because you're layering it with so much

different inspirations of maybe false

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idols and I know of so many things that

I've done in my life that I have to take

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a big step back even when I was starting

my business, I was thinking, "My goodness.

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I need to think about what is not

only happening for myself so that

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I can better serve my clients,

but I'm on this journey with them.

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I need to heal what's in the insides

for me too", so I love that so much

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because it ties so well with what we

need to just do not only with the things

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that we say on the outside, but also

what we say to ourselves in the inside.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: And it seems like I always tell

people, "You got to love yourself first."

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: You got to do that first.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: It's so important, but for

you, I understand and I know you've

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been public about this on your podcast,

so I feel like this is okay to ask.

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I understand that you've been through

a number of divorces because of just

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kind of going through some of those

shifting tides in your life and probably

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working on some of those insides.

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I mean,...

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how has that helped you become a

stronger person, because obviously

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I'm sitting here, I'm looking at you,

you seem much more determined and

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confident and I don't even need to

know you very well to understand that.

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I feel that people give off this

aura of just knowing what their

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life mission is at this point,

so how did you get to that point?

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Lorayne: Gosh.

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A lot of healing.

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I carried around for many, many years, a

lot of shame and a lot of guilt, and I'm

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not making any excuse for my decisions

or behaviors in previous relationships.

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I will say though that having healed

and gone through what I went through

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and now being on the other side of it,

I know that that it was not who I am,

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and I know that there was a tremendous

amount of growth that needed to happen

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and healing that needed to happen,

and so like I said about the shame and

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guilt I carried that around from my

first marriage because my first marriage

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ended completely due to my poor choices.

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My poor choices in relationships.

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My poor choices with alcohol.

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Just being immature and immature in my

faith, immature in just relationships

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in general about what my idea was about

marriage, and we live in a culture that's

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a microwave culture and if it's broke,

throw it away and get a new one rather

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than nurturing something and fixing

something and tending to something.

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You heard the saying, "the grass

is greener on the other side."

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Joshua: Oh man.

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Every time I hear that, I feel like

I should be paid every single time.

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Can't tell you how many times I hear that.

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Yup.

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Lorayne: But what I really

would like to say is the grass

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is greener where you water it.

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If you want fruit from something,

you have to nurture it.

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You don't just plant a tree

and you get fruit, right?

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You have to tend to it.

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You have to prune it.

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You have to fertilize it.

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You have to water it.

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You have to nurture it, and that's the

same with any relationship, platonic

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friendship, family, romantic, whatever

it may be, and so there was so much I

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didn't know my first marriage and if

wishes were fishes, I wish I could go

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back and redo it, but I can't, so I have

had to heal and move on and pray that

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my ex husband forgave me and forgives

me and he's healed happy and whole now.

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My second marriage: that

was It was a train wreck.

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It was filled with addiction and

infidelity and abuse and trauma, and

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again, having healed, I can realize

that we had a trauma bond and that

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was super unhealthy, and so now, in my

third marriage, it's not a cakewalk,

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and trust me, I've known what not to

do and I haven't made those mistakes

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again, but this comes with a whole new

set of problems and a whole new set

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of challenges, and so now it's just

a matter of, "Okay, so do the work."

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The results you want require

work, so what do you want?

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Do you want to put in the work or do

you want to just throw in the towel?

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For anyone that's having trouble

in relationships, it takes work,

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and you throw one out and get into

another, it's going to have its

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own problems; a different set of

problems, so what do you want?

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Joshua: Yeah, and first off, I love the

reference of the microwave culture because

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I didn't even think about the fact that

we tend to just throw things away without

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even giving it a chance to repair it, and

I've had a few people through my business

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that have gone through and we have worked

on that and sometimes the inevitable

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does happen where you might have to throw

it away, but it doesn't mean that you

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wasted the time because you always learn

something from it, so I love mentioning

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the fact that we have to take care of

our gardens or our grass for that matter,

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because I feel like we don't spend enough

time with that, and I know for me, it's

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been tough to be able to do that, to give

myself that value, so I know that for

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one of the things that you do, and maybe

you want to talk about this a bit because

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I've had fitness people on the show too,

which they've run their own businesses

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with gyms and telling our audience about

some of the things that have been involved

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with why they started in the first place.

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What has led you into taking care of

yourself, because I understand that

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you have done fitness competitions?

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: That's quite unique.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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What led me to it,

honestly, was insecurity.

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What led me to fitness?

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So, um-

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Joshua: I wasn't expecting

that answer, by the way.

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That was really surprising to me.

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I like to hear that perspective.

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That's interesting to me.

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Lorayne: So, as I guess a kid.?

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I was fit.

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I loved cheerleading.

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I was in competition cheerleading,

and so that was my sport that I

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did as a kid growing up, so I was

relatively fit childhood to high school.

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My senior year until I got married;

so my first marriage, those

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years were my unhealthy years.

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Those were the years that I was drinking,

partying, smoking, not taking care

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of my body, not treating my body as a

temple; really bad relationships and

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my first marriage, so what led me into

fitness, was my ex-husband had a porn

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addiction that I really didn't know

about and I just thought that he wasn't

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attracted to me, so I started working

out to change my body, to change my

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appearance, so that my husband would

be attracted to me, and would want to

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be with me rather than looking at porn.

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Again, back to what I said; immature.

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I didn't know how to have these tough

conversations and navigate addiction

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at that point, so rather than having

the conversation of how damaging it was

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and how much it hurt me and what can

we do to get past this, it was, "Okay.

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I just need to look better.", so I started

working out, and then that just propelled

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into a very unhealthy relationship with

my body and food and competing, and he

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was totally against me competing, and

then that marriage ended and I still

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continued to compete, but then I took

a break from it as well because of how

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unhealthy it got and I was just trying

to maintain this physique that wasn't

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realistic, so I'm not sure if you're

familiar with fitness competitions

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or bodybuilding competitions, but-

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Joshua: I've known a few people

that have gone through it.

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I know it's a very tremendously

big undertaking for sure.

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Lorayne: Yeah, it takes a lot of work.

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I did it very unhealthy in the beginning,

but the end of the fitness career,

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I was a little more smart about it.

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I did it in a healthy way,

but stage weight, stage

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appearance, is not realistic.

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It's not what you look like

every day and it shouldn't be.

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You should never look like that,

and I thought I wanted to, so

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that's what led me into fitness,

but now it has transform my life.

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It has helped me with recovery.

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It's helped me with sobriety.

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It has helped me with my mental health,

because for a while, I really, really

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struggled with anxiety and depression

and, it has turned my life around and

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part of my four corners, if you will, of

my life balance and what I speak about.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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First off- I didn't realize that question

was going to turn in the way that it was.

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I am impressed by the fact that you've

taken something like this, where it

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could have been detrimental to you and

maybe led you down a different path,

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to something where it supplements you.

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It's almost like getting up in the

morning, making yourself a healthy

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breakfast, being able to then go and

work out, realizing that that's helping

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to get rid of that junk that might be

inside of you from the other day or that

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unhealthy meal, and for some people,

just being able to start that, and to

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change that thinking, is oftentimes the

most difficult thing that they can do.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: So, speaking of which, there's

been a lot of people that give up, but

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yet you have persevered and you opened

Bold Beginnings, your business, so tell

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us a little bit about the business.

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I mean, for me, as a coach, I certainly

resonate with what you're doing, my

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business being Your Speaking Voice LLC.

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I love what I do, but I love what you

do, and we were even talking about

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this before the show about the fact

that we supplement each other, so it

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isn't like I'm putting my fist up like,

"Lorayne, stop taking my clients."

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No, it's that we're all working together

because we all have a similar goal.

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Tell us a little bit about the mission.

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Tell us specifically what you do in

a bigger sense with Bold Beginnings.

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Lorayne: Oh my goodness.

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I love that.

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Thank you, and yes, there is plenty,

plenty of fish to go around for everybody.

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That was like one of the things that when

I first started, I was like, "I'm going to

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be a coach and a speaker.", and then I got

into this space and I'm like, "Oh my gosh,

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there's so many coaches and speakers.

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Maybe I don't want to."

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Joshua: Yeah.

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I know, right?

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You know, just put a logo

up and put your face on it.

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Done.

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I'm a coach.

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Yeah.

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I've seen that too many times.

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Yes.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Oh my goodness.

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You're absolutely right about

that, but someone, a mentor, and I

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hope one day, I'm putting this out

there, one day will be my friend.

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Her name is Jasmine Starr.

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She's an amazing, amazing speaker

and entrepreneur, and she was

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saying that there's only one

you, whatever it is that you do.

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If you're a coach, a speaker,

a photographer, or whatever it

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is, don't have that mentality

of someone else is doing it.

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Someone else is saying it.

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There's only one you, and there's

only one way that you communicate and

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there's only one way that you coach.

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No one else does it like you, and

there's someone, or lots of someones,

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out there that will resonate only with

you, and so that really helped me because

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a lot of what I say and believe and

teach and speak and coach about I see

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the Ed Milets, and whoever it is that

you see and follow, I see and hear-

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Joshua: John Maxwell.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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John Maxwell, right.

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How did I forget?

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Joshua: Sorry, John.

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We're going to make sure

you get a shout out again.

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Lorayne: Sorry, coach.

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So, you know what I'm saying?

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They're saying it too, but they're

going to resonate with someone that

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maybe won't resonate with you, or

vice versa, right, and so how Bold

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Beginnings started, I named it that

was because that's exactly what I did.

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When I started this business, I was

taking a bold leap of faith and it

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was a new beginning, and that's the

mission and my premise of my hope

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for my clients or anywhere that I go

speak is that the world realizes that

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you have to take bold beginnings.

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Your story, your journey, your walk

is going to need to be bold and it

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should be because it builds confidence.

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Being bold, it takes confidence,

but it also builds your confidence.

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Joshua: I understand that 1000 percent

because I often say that it's our voice

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that counts and isn't just what we say.

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It's the actions, because that has

a voice in itself too, and with the

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things that continuously move in this

world, I know for a fact that we need

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people that are bold, that they are

confident, and they are capable of

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being what I call, even one of my

values, being determined to persevere

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no matter what the circumstances,

because it's sometimes tough to be

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able to make that challenging decision.

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I've had friends even just recently

talk about their divorce and how they

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navigate through that and how scared

they are about that, and it could be a

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challenge and hearing what your story

has been, I can understand why taking

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that bold step is really important.

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Thanks for sharing that because part

of this has been really about not

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only sharing what you do with your

business, but you do it also through not

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only your speaking, but your podcast,

which we've talked about a little

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bit earlier, the Bite Size Podcast.

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Tell us a little bit about it, and this

is your opportunity to sell that too, if

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you want to get some additional followers

from my show, but I self declared

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earlier, even before we started that,

yes, Lorayne, I'm raising my right hand.

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I was literally stalking a lot of your

episodes, but I loved it because it had

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such good content about things that we

need to write down and kind of act on.

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Lorayne: Oh thank you.

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Joshua: Yeah, so I just want to give

you those kudos officially, publicly.

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Lorayne: Thank you, so what is it about?

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Joshua: Yes.

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Lorayne: Well, the Bold Begin-, or

excuse me, the Bite Sized Podcast.

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Joshua: Yes, eIther one.

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You could call it the Bold Beginnings too.

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That would be a nice name; maybe that's

your second podcast then, you know?

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Lorayne: I chose that name, the Bite

Size Podcast; it's kind of multifaceted.

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I'm a little woman.

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I'm only 5'2, and so everyone

kind of jokes about that.

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Everyone's joked about it my whole life.

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That I'm like fun size or I'm bite

size, so there was that, right,

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and the other part was I try and

keep my episodes as best as I can

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bite size: 20 minutes, 30 minutes.

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I really hope I don't go over 45 minutes,

unless if it's like this incredible

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episode where I just keep talking with

someone, but I want it to keep it, you

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know, bite size, so you can literally

pop it in, whatever you're doing:

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cooking, walking, driving, whatever

it is that you're doing, so that's how

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I came up with the title, but it is

about faith, business, life, trials,

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how you've gotten through stuff, I

like to bring value whatever I can.

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I try and think about where

I was in life, who do I want

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to help, and who's listening.

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If anyone were to pop this in and

listen to it, obviously, if they listen

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to my intro, it tells them faith,

business, health, whatever it is that

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I'm talking about, I want to make sure

that I am bringing value to the world.

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If that's with fitness tips, health tips,

business tips, life tips; I don't do

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parenting because I feel like I am not

good in that area, so I will not talk

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about parenting 'cause it makes struggle.

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Joshua: I'm not a parent myself,

so I totally understand that.

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Lorayne: Yeah.

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Joshua: So, yeah.

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Lorayne: I'm on the struggle bus on that

one for sure, but anyways, I try and

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bring a little light, a little laughter.

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Sometimes it's some serious

stuff, like recently, this gal

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in the network marketing world.

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She's the number one network

marketer in the world.

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I'm pretty sure her name

is Jesse Lee Bosley.

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I did a tribute for her and that was

a pretty sombering episode because

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a lot of what I speak about is me

trying to shake you guys out there

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and get you to realize that you have

a purpose and stop playing small.

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If you hate your job, quit; find a

job that you like, or figure out what

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it is that you're passionate about.

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I get so frustrated with people when

they're just living their life day to

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day, like a robot, not happy, miserable,

and they've got a gift and a talent

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inside of them that the world needs.

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Joshua: Oh man.

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I feel that.

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That is something that I have lived years

about saying to myself, "I can't do this.

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No one's going to want to use me.

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I don't feel that I have any value to

give.", and this journey that I've been

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on, Lorayne, I resonate with what you

say, with what you do to help others,

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because it's something that we often

tell these false stories about, almost

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like they're legends, and they're not.

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They're just little fiction pieces

that we've been storing in our brains,

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and honestly, if we would have a book

ban, that would be the book ban that

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I would promote: those that are false

idols or literature about ourselves.

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We throw them out onto a big pile and we

set it ablaze because it's not who we are.

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Lorayne: That's right.

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It's the lies from the enemy.

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God does not call the equipped.

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He equips the called.

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Joshua: Good stuff.

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Lorayne, we're almost at the end of our

time, but I want to give you a moment

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here, and this is something that it

isn't even before even pitching how

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our listeners can reach out to you.

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You have the stage.

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30 seconds, maybe 45 seconds.

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Tell somebody that might be listening

to this right now something that maybe

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they're in this dark hole; maybe there's

something that they're struggling with.

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Maybe they've gone through

some of the similar struggles

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that you've been through.

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Maybe they're going through this

dark period of life right now.

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What would be your piece of advice to

them if they were listening to you and

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maybe even they're a woman, because

I'll be honest with you, I've had lots

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of women listen to my podcast too.

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I know you do women coaching as well.

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Maybe there's something that you can

share with them that will radically

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change their path going forward.

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I'm going to give you 45 seconds

or so to go ahead and share that.

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Lorayne: Oh, wow.

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Okay.

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First of all, you matter.

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Your story matters, and I know

more than you know, I know the

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dark is scary and the dark.

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is lonely, but it's a season and you

can get through this and to not give

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up, and I promise, promise, promise

that there's a reason for your pain

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and there's a purpose for your pain.

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If you're willing and curious

and ready, God can make this

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a beautiful, beautiful story.

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Joshua: Wow.

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Thank you for that, and I know

there has to be someone that

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is just like, "You're right.

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This is a season and tomorrow

starts a new season where I

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don't let that hold me back."

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Lorayne: Absolutely.

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Joshua: Lorayne, you've

been awesome to talk to.

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Let's give you a few minutes here to

share with the audience how can they

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reach out to you if they're interested

in being coached by you, if they want

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to book you as a speaker, maybe they

want to check out your podcast; maybe

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they want to be a guest on your podcast.

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Why don't you give us how they can

reach out to you and I'll give you

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the last few minutes to do that.

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Lorayne: Absolutely.

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Thank you so much.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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It has been a joy and an honor, first

of all, Josh, I absolutely have loved

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being on Speaking From The Heart.

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So how you can find me; my website is

theboldbeginnings.com, and I'm on all

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the socials, most frequent Instagram

and Facebook, but if you would like

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to reach out to me, you can email me.

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My email is lorayne@theboldbeginnings.com,

or if you go to my website, you can find

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all the ways to get in touch with me.

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My email is there on the contact form.

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There's different tabs where you can

look at what coaching packages I have

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to offer, and there's also a way if

you're interested in me speaking at

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an event, there's a way to contact

me there too, or you can shoot me

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an email, or you can message me on

Instagram and my Instagram handle is

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my name, so it's @lorayne_michaels.

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Joshua: I think that you're going to

have a lot of people reaching out to

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you, Lorayne, because let's be real.

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I think that you are very authentic lady.

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I feel like I learned something from this

because, even as a coach, and I've said

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this to you, I feel like we could learn

a lot from other coaches, too, but what's

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so interesting about what your story's

been about is that you keep on getting

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knocked down, but you keep on getting up,

and I'm going to give you some awesome

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advice as one coach to another don't stop

doing what you're doing, making a big

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change in this world with what you're

doing, and I'm really honored that you've

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been part of Speaking From The Heart.

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I'm really honored that you're a

coach and you're helping others

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see their true potential, and for

all those reasons, Lorayne, thank

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you for being part of the show.

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It's been a true pleasure

interviewing you today.

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Lorayne: Absolutely.

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Thank you so much.

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It's my honor.

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Joshua: There's nothing like being a bold

beginner, just like Lorayne is, and I have

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to thank her so much for being part of

the show and sharing a lot of her journey

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from the professional development side,

going into the emergency medicine field,

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sharing her gifts to other women and being

willing to be vulnerable about all the

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different things that she has gone through

in her life, and this is an important

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distinction from many of the other people

that I'll have on the show coming up

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in the next few months, let alone the

next few years, because I think that we

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have to think about the topics that we

even talked about today as some of the

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stepping stones into that better future

that we have; that we don't have it all

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figured out, that we don't have everything

understood, especially in the moments that

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might be needed for us to help others see

that true version of themselves, which

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I've continuously preached, but I think

what's different about what Lorayne has

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talked about today that I want to spend a

little bit of time talking about, is the

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distinction between what is the medical

aspects of being able to seek treatment

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and get help where it's needed from the

emotional side, and then finding that

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process to heal; finding coping mechanisms

and tools that are necessary for us to

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get involved with pulling that gold;

nurturing that tree, as she's talked about

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in this episode, so that it can continue

to bear fruits in nature and beyond.

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It's often such a stigma to think

that when you need to go and seek

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medical treatment for something such as

depression, such as anxiety, such as ADHD,

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anything that might be a detriment to

your overall development and well being

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means that you are sacrificing quite a lot

of yourself and who you are, but I think

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that it's important to understand that it

isn't just about the things that we do to

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help us become better, but it's realizing

that we need the help when help is

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desperately needed, and I think Lorraine

recognized the fact that if she could go

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into the medical field, she could make

a big difference, but something changed.

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She wanted to see a lot more than

just what was on the day to day basis.

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She wanted to take it one step further.

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So it isn't to say that things that

are necessary in our lives have to

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continuously be the same pattern that

we do over and over and over again.

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We often have to find that pattern in

which we need to break, but sometimes

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that break happens when we least expect

it, and I think that's what we have to

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understand here, is that sometimes those

curveballs that are thrown at us, we're

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not ever ready for it, and that might

mean that we need to go right now and get

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some medical help from somebody that would

understand what we're going through, to

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be able to help us in the immediacy of the

situation, but it doesn't mean that every

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time a situation like that comes up, that

it constitutes an emergency in itself.

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You have to be able to understand

the nurturing aspects of what

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you can do to take those steps

to help you become better.

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It's not just easy, though, to throw

something away that you've always been

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wanting to do as a repeated pattern,

time after time again, to make yourself

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think that you need to do what you need

to do at that very moment, which is where

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that emotional healing comes into play.

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Now, I will never hold a candle

to what Lorayne has been through.

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God bless her, though, for what she

has endured to get to this moment; to

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make herself realize that there are

not only answers out there that she

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can seek from others that are much more

qualified, but that she's willing to

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share her perspectives, which are very

unique and very professional in nature,

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into something that we don't necessarily

need to put into what she called the

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"microwave culture", because let's face

it, if we try to heat something up and

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we just let it bake over and over and

over again, do you think it's going to

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taste good, every time that we reheat it?

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That's why they're called leftovers,

which is why we don't want to always

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eat the leftovers that are given to

us, and I know, from past experiences

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even of myself, that we don't want

to always reheat those elements

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in our lives that are often toxic.

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It might be time, instead of reheating

them, to throw them away, but there's

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something that she said about the tree

reference, and about pulling out gold

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out of these aspects that we get involved

with in our lives, that it's worth talking

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about in just a moment, but let me just

say that it's important for not only us to

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distinguish between what is the medicine

aspect of this, but to understand that

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there is another side to it, and we need

to have both play nice in order for us to

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become better at who we are, because as

she says, the grass is greener with water.

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Now let's talk about the gold.

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The gold in each and every one of us

does not just come from the things

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that we pluck out of the situations

that we go through, but you have to

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understand that each season that we

go through creates those opportunities

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to be blessed in that season.

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That season that sometimes might

be the roughest, but that is the

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moment in which you don't give up.

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You never surrender.

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You realize that's just a season and

that you have to feel those moments

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in order to get to that other side.

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That other side can be very scary.

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It can be very dangerous.

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It might be actually challenging those

worldviews and those viewpoints that

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you've been always given growing up, maybe

those things that you have never learned

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to master in the first place, which is

why we need to take care of ourselves.

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Which is why it isn't just about the

medicine, it's about the physical fitness,

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which, even after this episode, I have

been inspired by the fact that Lorayne

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continues to talk about the importance of

balancing all those things, and she lives

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what she preaches, and that is something

that is so true, even to this day, that

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if we ever want to make that systemic

change, we have to live what we preach,

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so sometimes, even I, a coach, and also a

thinker of all the different opportunities

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that I have lying ahead of me, means that

I have to think about how I can take care

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of myself and how I can use my viewpoint

to help others achieve that greatness.

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Are there always going to be those weak

moments that we have in our lives in

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which we might fall back a few steps?

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Absolutely.

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If that is the case, we have to

understand then that we are human

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beings and that nobody is perfect.

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If someone wanted to hire the perfect

coach, they will be very hard pressed

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to find those individuals, because

even those that charge $100,000 a year

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have fallacies in their own planning

and design of their own practices.

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I think that's what makes Lorayne a little

bit different, just like any other coach

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you hire can be a little bit different.

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It isn't just about understanding who

you are in terms of what your medical

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needs are, maybe even your emotional

needs, but it's about understanding a

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viewpoint that we might not understand

in the first place, and how we can

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utilize that to achieve greatness.

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How we can nurture that tree that we

have planted for ourselves to create

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the best version of who we are.

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It means taking a leap of faith

and seeing what's involved with it,

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even not knowing what circumstances

might be presented on the other

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side in order to bring that value.

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Really, the question becomes:

Who do you want to help?

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Now, I've been open for over a year, and

it's been impressive to see the number

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of people that have come through my door

and have radically changed their whole

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mindset, whether it's their own business,

whether it's their own professional

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development, whether it's their own

personal, or even public speaking

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coaching ways in which they want to see

who they can truly become, but all it

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took was really just planting that seed.

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I think that we have to understand that

there's a variety of different ways to do

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it, and whether you want to work with John

Maxwell, whether you want to work with

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Darren LaCroix, whoever you want to work

with, you have to understand this ultimate

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question that I'm about to ask you, and

it's this: Do you wish to just throw away

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all the things that you have ever done

to start anew, or do you want to find the

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gold that might be out of those things

that you have achieved in order to become

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the best version of who you want to be?

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It's not easy to be on this journey.

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It takes a lot of work, and it means

also taking a big step forward.

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It means having a bold beginning, to use

Lorayne's words of her business, but it

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also means that it's a season that we all

go through, and we never have to give up.

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We just have to believe that we have

the unlimited potential to create that

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best value of who we are, and sometimes

just working with someone, whether it's

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man, woman, or child, to see what those

fundamental differences are, that can

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ultimately change the ways in which we

can become not just the best version

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of who we are, but maybe finding that

ultimate truth that lies out in the

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distance; no matter how far away you

are, no matter how close you are to it,

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just know, that sometimes just seeking

a little bit of help, whether it is

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from that leprechaun that has the gold.

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It can make the biggest difference

not only in just who you are, but

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what you're able to become, and I

think for those that are willing to

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take that big chance of whether they

want to develop themselves or not.

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Just realize that you don't have

to throw away those leftovers.

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Sometimes it might be worthy of

throwing those leftovers, and sometimes,

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it might be just worthy of just

seeing who you can become, if you're

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willing to take that big, bold step.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 80 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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Joshua D. Smith is the Owner and Founder of Your Speaking Voice, a life coaching, business coaching, and public speaking company based in Carlisle, PA. Serving clients across the world, Joshua got his start in personal/professional development and public speaking in April of 2012 through his extensive involvement in an educational non-profit organization called Toastmasters International.

Toastmasters International operates clubs both domestically and internationally that focus on teaching leadership, development, and public speaking skills. Joshua quickly excelled in Toastmasters International and found that he had a passion for leadership and helping others find their confidence and their true "speaking voice". Joshua has held all club officer roles and most District level positions in Toastmasters International and belongs to numerous clubs throughout the organization. Joshua has also been recognized as two-time Distinguished Toastmaster, the highest award the organization bestows for achievement in leadership and communication.

Outside of his community involvement, education is something that Joshua has always taken great pride in. His academic achievements include a number of degrees from Alvernia and Shippensburg University. He earned a Bachelor's degree in political science and communications from Alvernia in 2009, a masters of business administration from Alvernia in 2010, and later a masters in public administration from Shippensburg in 2014.

In the professional world, Joshua has held multiple positions with the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania for over 14 years which includes a variety of data analytics, procurement, budgeting, business process improvement (IT and non-IT), legal compliance, and working with the blind. He has applied his public speaking and development skills in the professional world to tackle numerous public speaking engagements and presentations from all levels of the organization, including executive management.

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