Episode #89 - Neverland DOES Exist!

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 89 of Speaking from the Heart.

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Today, we're going to Neverland.

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That's right: the place of imagination,

creativity, and opportunity awaits us.

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Are you ready to go on that

magical ride, visit Tinkerbell,

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perhaps Peter Pan himself, and

maybe even duel with Captain Hook?

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Now, if you're not familiar with this

age old tale, we'll spend some time

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talking about it, but I often think

about the possibilities that we have

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if we're able to explore that mystery,

that opportunity, that adventure that

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lies ahead if we're able to create not

just these opportunities in our lives to

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explore and to be able to understand that

we don't always have to do the day to day,

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but if we're able to think about what we

can do for the future, that's going to

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make such a big difference, and it does

tie in to self development, personal

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development, professional development,

even business development for that matter,

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and I'll certainly make that point as

we go ahead in this exciting episode.

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Now let's give you the synopsis of

really what happened during Peter Pan.

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I know I'm not giving too much of a

spoiler because this has been around

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for 120 years, so if you haven't

read Peter Pan yet, be advised, you

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might want to skip ahead so that you

get past the storytelling portion.

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This story of Peter Pan was

actually started by James M.

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Barrie's 1904 play, which he originally

wrote Peter Pan, which has been adapted

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into a variety of different films,

TV shows, and other animated series,

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but it's all evolving around three

children: Wendy, John, and Michael,

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which are all part of the Darlin family.

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Now these children were swept away by

Peter Pan into this imaginary world

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of Neverland where essentially there

was this war between not only Peter's

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gang of ragtag runaways which often

were attributed to being orphan boys

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which takes place essentially in the

areas in which children were housed

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in London, England during that time.

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That war between the runaways and

the evil pirate Captain Hook took

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place in this Neverland adventure.

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Essentially, between witnessing the war

and seeing that this was happening back

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and forth, Peter Pan rallied up the

runaways and was able to fight back

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successfully against Captain Hook.

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Part of the story that is really the

pivotal point of what we want to talk

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about today is the fact that the family,

the Darling family themselves, the

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parents, didn't believe in this nursery

of Neverland and getting fed up about

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the stories that were being told about

being able to solve all kinds of problems.

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Neverland would never exist by the fact

that if we weren't able to think about

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what opportunities that we have in our

lives to explore and potentially achieve,

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they would not become what they are today.

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Peter essentially helps, with the

assistance of Tinkerbell, which is

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the fairy that assists along the way

to help create these opportunities to

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not only address Captain Hook and his

dangerous ways of how he was thinking

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about handling all kinds of different

situations, but essentially realizing

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that in hope and finding that we can

have this make believe adventure,

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we can make everything come alive.

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Now, I know I really butchered telling

that whole story in a very few amount

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of minutes, but the main point of

it is to focus on the fact that the

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parents, who didn't believe in fairy

tales, nursery rhymes, make believe,

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were often then on the other side,

after the adventure ended, to connect

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with their children and see some of the

things that were missing in your life

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if you just take some time and refocus

on what is actually in front of you.

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Peter and his friends did go through a lot

of different things in the overall story.

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That includes not only the treachery

that took place between the different

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types of people that were involved with

the whole story, even the different

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things that would happen that led to the

fact that Tinkerbell, along with other

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friends, were able to save the day.

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I don't know about you, but for me,

listening to this story as a kid growing

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up really made me feel a sense of comfort.

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I was really a fan of the Robin

Williams adaptation of the whole

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Peter Pan story, which is called Hook.

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It was a movie that was made by Disney

based on real life characters that played

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Peter Pan and the rest of the family.

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What made the story so appealing in

that adaptation is the belief that

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we have everything that we can ever

achieve right in front of our eyes,

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but we should never lose sight of

what we're potentially able to become.

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Now why is this so important when

we think about developing ourselves?

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In many episodes, we have talked about the

importance of being able to stay focused

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on what the goal is that we're trying

to achieve, whether that is something

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that we're trying to build a routine in,

or even create opportunities to excel.

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We have to be consistent in being

able to understand where are some

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of those pitfalls that take place,

but those pitfalls, or those issues

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that might come up, don't always

translate into the fact that we have

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to overcome and address situations

that are often out of our control.

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In other words, these distractions

that we have in our lives, whether that

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is through Netflix, whether that is

through alcohol, whether that is through

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family obligations, no matter what you

want to call it, it's something that

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often distracts us from being able to

achieve what we truly want to have.

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Whether we have that fitness goal,

whether we are trying to make sense of

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the educational components of being able

to learn something new at our job, in

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education and getting that new degree,

we have to figure out what is it that we

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need to do to translate that imaginary

opportunity into the parallel real world?

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This story that is about Peter Pan

and the orphaned children, let alone

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the family that is represented, often

begs this ultimate question: How can

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we lead the best lives without feeling

pressures from those that don't want us

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to explore our own version of Neverland?

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For many years, I was distracted by

the opportunities that were set forth

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by not only the things that I was

accomplishing, but even what people

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said I was able to accomplish, meaning,

I had many distractions and they stood

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in my way from ultimately achieving

what I wanted to do in my life.

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It's not very easy sometimes to take

a big step back, look at the bigger

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picture and say, "This is what I

wanted to do for the longest time.

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Why can't I set aside time to be able to

do it?", and I find it even interesting

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in my own coaching business, looking

at a variety of different people

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that have approached me for services,

never wanting to take that first

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step, although they keep talking about

wanting to take that first step as well.

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I have even had people go so far as

they are threatened by my existence.

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Threatened by my own existence?

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I am the Captain Hook of not only personal

and professional development to them, but

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not being able to grow, because of me?

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How absurd!

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But there are people out there,

which I have also said to many of

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my guests, that sometimes, finding

the right person that isn't your

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Captain Hook is really truly needed.

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If we think about the fact that Captain

Hook in itself is a manifestation of

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resisting that temptation to change,

that ability to create that best value

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in our lives, whether that is making

more money, having more clients,

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whatever that end goal is that you

set for yourself many, many episodes

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ago, or many, many years before that,

you have to understand that sometimes

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the enemy is standing right in front

of us: ourselves, being Captain Hook.

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Now I've said a lot, and I mean a

lot, when it comes to just those

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last few statements, so let's

break that down a little bit.

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First off, why would I ever say that

I am Captain Hook in the first place?

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If you think about it, change

in itself was something that

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Captain Hook was afraid of.

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He would constantly fight this ragtag

bunch of people, these kids for that

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matter, being able to address, or

return, to a life in which they are

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able to explore who they really are.

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They knew that if they were to release

these boys, Captain Hook would be

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in dangerous trouble, so if I were

to release some of the dreams and

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aspirations and goals that you have

locked inside yourself, would you be

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afraid of actually trying to achieve them?

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Would you feel self conscious about having

someone else work with you to create

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those opportunities that you are trying

to explore and exacerbate in your life?

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Absolutely, which is why many people

put off the opportunity for coaching,

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let alone even reaching out to have

that discussion in the first place.

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Change actually means being intentionally

conscious of the ways and means in which

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you are able to reform and redesign

the things that you have in your life.

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Most recently, I have been doing that.

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The last four years.

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It has now been over four years since I

tried to end my life, and I know that this

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topic in itself does have some trigger

points for many of us, so I encourage

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you, if you are exploring this sort of

idealization of trying to end your life,

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or feeling that you're alone in this

adventure of yourself, please know that

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you are not alone, and I encourage you

to call 988, and find your way in which

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you can get back on track, because,

let's be real, sometimes we need that

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extra help to be able to do what we

need to do to create that best value in

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ourselves, but even with that said, even

if you don't do that, even if you do

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call 988 or visit the website which I'll

put in the episode notes, remember that

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talking about this and exploring this

idea means that you have to understand

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that you have opportunity in this world.

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When I tried to end my life, when I tried

to put away all these different issues,

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all these different problems that I've

had, what I always encountered more

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than anything else is the realization

that Captain Hook was trying to get me.

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The people that were trying to say

no to me were the loudest voices

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in the room; all the other pirates

that were trying to consume my life.

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I know that's a very rudimentary and cruel

way of which we're able to design and

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explain what this concept is all about,

but if we really break it down, Captain

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Hook in itself might be the manifestation

that is creating all these issues in the

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first place, which then begs the next

question: What is it that we're able

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to do, today, that allows us to explore

the opportunity to be able to understand

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and build upon that adventure in our

lives, even when Captain Hook and other

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fictitious people, or maybe real life

people for that matter, stand in our way?

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We have to design a world for ourselves

that allows us to not only crave

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opportunity, to excite ourselves with

the ability to learn and grow in a

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variety of different ways, but we

also have to understand and realize

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the true potential of ourselves by

not being able to visit Neverland.

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Neverland takes many different

forms, whether that is being in

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a car driving long distances.

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Whether that is understanding and

creating that oasis in your own house,

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maybe at a local park, maybe in a

loud, crowded environment, regardless

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of where that environment is, we

need to be able to go back to it.

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We need to be able to form that

opportunity in our lives to explore,

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gather our thoughts and realize

that we have had these dreams, these

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aspirations for such a long time.

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The hustle and bustle of old life always

seems to put us off pace of what we're

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able to really accomplish, and that

means that we have to take a big step

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back and look at the bigger picture.

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We have to understand that sometimes

trying to go through life and

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navigate through all the different

types of issues means that we're

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going to be put off course.

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In other words, being on that ship

that we're sailing on, being a prisoner

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of Captain Hook is sometimes when we

need to break free, be able to fly

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away into another land, and be able

to learn from other children, and

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other opportunities of people that we

get to associate with to help create

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what we want to create in our lives.

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How can we lead our best lives

without feeling pressure from those

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that don't want us to explore this

Neverland, or that real world that

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we want to create for ourselves?

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I can't tell you enough that it's

just about giving yourself some

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space, giving yourself the ability

to create, inspire, and set yourself

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onto a pedestal of your own.

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Give yourself that attention where you

otherwise wouldn't be giving yourself

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any attention or mind to what you look

like, feel like, or even think about.

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Many people that I have worked with,

even associated with learning from

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other podcasts, reading books, or even

designing and infiltrating new thoughts

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and ideas into the mantra and the work

that we're trying to create in our lives.

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It takes hard work, and I don't know

why, but today, it always seems that we

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have some sort of excuse to not do the

hard work, whether it's the distractions

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of everyday life, whether we're trying

to be busy, in air quotes, busy, or

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just trying to have an excuse to not

do what we should really be doing.

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Trying to explore our Neverland means

that we have to understand ourselves.

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We have to be able to learn and grow from

the things that we're developing inside

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of ourselves, so that we're able to

explore with other people that are going

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to inspire and push us into new levels.

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That's the whole purpose of even

doing coaching, which is why I try so

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hard to get mentored and coached by

others, because I want to be learning

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and growing all at the same time.

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Staying stagnant is never the answer

because when you stay stagnant and you

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stay focused on just the goals that you

have on a daily basis, as opposed to

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looking at the long term, you end up

like the parents of the Darling family:

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not feeling like you're able to see

the bigger picture, and unfortunately,

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not utilizing your imagination.

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This world is ever changing, and if

we're ever going to continue to have

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a voice in it, we have to keep using

our imaginary voice at the same time.

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Don't be afraid to challenge yourself in

the vast new opportunities, whether that

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is defeating Captain Hook, or even flying

around like Peter Pan, with his companion

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Tinkerbell, to be able to fight and sway

the different people that are feeling

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ashamed and ridiculed for their actions,

for their desires, and for their dreams,

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because if you live that best version of

your life, not only you going to create

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the opportunities that you want to see,

not only are you going to feel much better

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about flying around, but you're going

to be looked at as somebody that might

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join those lost boys in Neverland, and be

able to teach them a thing or two about

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not only responsibility, not only things

like determination, confidence, and the

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ability to form relationships, but you're

going to be able to help so many people,

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and yourself, learn new things, and hey!

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While you're doing it, why don't

you craft that new idea and stop

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putting off that plan that you've

been putting off for so long.

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You can do it in Neverland, and

using your imagination will allow

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it to turn into reality, and

reality is where it counts the most.

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Let's stop holding ourselves back and

start letting ourselves move forward for

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the opportunities that Neverland presents.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 89 of Speaking from the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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