Episode #9 - Our Mission, If We Can Accept It

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination, all converge into an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Welcome back to episode number nine of Speaking From the Heart.

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Today we're going to talk about one of the last things as part of the introduction

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of this podcast to the world that is really to the heart of what I really

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want to share with you all, which is about the mission of Your Speaking Voice.

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Now for many people, you might be instantly thinking: " Wait, is

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this just about public speaking?"

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I mean, yeah, I've done a lot of things in my life that have been involved

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with public speaking, and I definitely would claim to say that I've started

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this podcast as a result of all the training that I have received through

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Toastmasters International, which we've heard a lot of different things about

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that from some of my guests that I've already had on the show, but, the mission

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of Your Speaking Voice is so much more than just public speaking training.

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The mission, if you didn't know of Your Speaking Voice, is to transform our way

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of engaging our voice in the ever-evolving world, and that is a mouthful in itself

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because that opens the possibilities and the unlimited potential of so

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many different aspects of our lives.

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It isn't about what we are projecting as just our voice, but it's actually

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talking about so much more than that and we want to explore a little bit of

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this because it's so important to think about not just the things that we can

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possibly do through our voice, which is definitely the technique that we use to

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communicate with one another primarily, but it's about how we can unlock the

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unlimited potential that lies dormant through the variety of different skills,

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the different abilities, all the different types of aspects in our lives that share

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the accumulation of this ultimate premise that we have, which is having tools at our

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disposal to become something different.

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Now, I get it, for some of you might be reading the transcripts of this

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podcast because you are deaf, and I get it, because that means that one

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of your tools is gone, but being deaf does not mean that you are taking a big

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step back because you have enhancements with all these different types of other

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tools that are at your disposal, all the other senses that are available to

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you, and that's why it's so important to consider for the bigger picture of

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this, that our voice isn't just about the verbal words that come out of our mouth.

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It's about the different things that we're able to do through the non-verbal as well.

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Let's break this down.

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What is it to be having different varieties of voices?

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Growing up as a kid, I know that I had all these different tools at my toolbox.

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I was able to play sports.

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I was able to study in school so that I could get good

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grades and go on to college.

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I was able to take extracurricular activities.

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I was involved in the local student government.

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I was involved with the Future Business Leaders of America.

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I was involved with even the television production of the morning

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announcements in which they had students, and I sat in the chair next

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to a co-anchor and read the news; well, really the school announcements.

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But the thing that we have to think about with all those different things that I had

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growing up was the building blocks that got me to the point of where I am at now.

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We can take all the cumulative experiences that we have lying inside

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of ourselves and go in any unlimited amount of direction possible.

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It's almost like when we're born, we're given a clean slate.

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We're given an opportunity to always start from scratch.

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That means it doesn't matter where you're at, where you come from, those

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are the things that are given to you.

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Now, there are wide variety of thoughts and agreements and maybe disagreements

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pertaining to that position, whether that is for and against, but what I'm

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specifically talking about is when we are starting out, we do not have

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the coping skills necessary to deal with all the things like balancing

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our checkbook, dealing with the things that are involved with washing our

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clothes, maybe even preparing dinner.

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We don't have those things.

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We learn those things, so we grow and we evolve.

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We have mentors, parents, especially, I know that you relate to this so much

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because you take the time to build and grow and find these opportunities

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for your kids to be able to explore and express themselves, and I salute

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you being that I am single and have no children whatsoever, at least at the time

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of this recording, but I know that for many of us, embracing those different

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types of opportunities that we have in our lives doesn't necessarily mean

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that they're going to come to fruition.

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I thought for a longest time that I would be a very successful

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medical doctor and a lawyer.

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That's what my step-grandfather said to me growing up, and I remember those

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voices over and over and over again.

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When I go and visit and I listen to his words of wisdom, those would

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always be the last words I would hear.

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As I'm packing my bag as my parents are picking me up: "You're going

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to be the most successful one in the whole entire family, Joshua."

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Well, maybe I am.

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Maybe I'm not.

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I'll let you, the audience decide on that, and if you want to leave me feedback, I'll

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certainly give you my email address, or you can even contact me in other means,

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but that doesn't necessarily mean that I am the most successful for myself.

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Our speaking voice isn't just about the potential of all those different

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interactions that we have in our lives, which definitely have a profound

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influence on the direction that we go, but it's about how we take those

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things, how we modify them for our own liking, and we're able to move

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forward in a variety of different ways.

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That's the basic essence of it, but I know that some people get lost.

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Those unlimited possibilities become: trouble.

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Those are the things that often create: havoc.

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Those are the aspects of our lives that become: overwhelming, and I know that

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for many of us who are trying to figure out those aspects that fit into this big

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giant puzzle piece that we call life, and we have different things that we do.

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We have the personal and we have the professional development.

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I know for the longest time, growing up, even myself, I had to go through

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and think about what I really wanted, and then it became really overwhelming

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for me and I had to seek help, and it isn't just the help that I'm specifically

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talking about when it relates to career counseling, going into the high school

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guidance counselor's office, as I did growing up, especially as the final years

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of school were upon me, it was about the options that I had, and sometimes

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being able to explore those options, knowing what our groundwork is when it

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comes to that, is often very difficult.

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I know, especially across the world, there are many different things that

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we could potentially do to help achieve those successes, and sometimes it's about

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not just seeing what we're capable of doing, meaning that we are able to foresee

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in the future what that's all about, which there's plenty of career tools

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and options available to you for those that are interested, that even as adults

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you're able to check out, but it's about the things that sometimes we take a big

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step back and ask ourselves, "how did I ever end up in something like this?"

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I think a lot of people often think about, "Why did I end up in this job

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where I have these conditions in my life that I'm really just not happy about?

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Why am I stuck in a place where I know that I have better alternatives to

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being able to see the bigger picture?"

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I know that for many of us, we get stuck in that rut.

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For me, I've been stuck in that rut several times throughout my life, and

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it often means examining the bigger picture of what exactly is going on.

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Trying to take as many thoughts and examinations as possible to see where I

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could potentially go, but also weighing those against what my current status is.

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Growing up, I never really had that much money to really do anything.

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My parents really scrounged together to make ends meet.

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Getting a video game was one of the biggest possibilities in my life,

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and I know being a gamer growing up was something that brought great

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joy of relaxation, removing myself from the world, but also seeing

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the big picture when it comes to the unlimited possibilities.

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Our mission, if we choose to accept it, is about continuously evolving the definition

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of what we have at our disposal and being able to continuously grow and evolve and

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examine what is out there, and I think that's why for many of us, sometimes

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we don't get that time to just put the brakes on the car, get out and breathe.

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Being a veteran of working in state government for several

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years, I know how that feeling is.

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Sometimes I would wake up and there would be days where I would work long

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tireless hours not being compensated for it, and I know that sounds quite

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outside the cliche or the stereotype of what some people think state government

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employees or even other types of public sector employees are about, but those

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are people that really care about helping others, and I was in that mindset as well.

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Now, don't get me wrong, I do care because those are the things that even

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to this day, I still continue to build myself on and learn some vastly great

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experiences about the importance of generating opportunity for myself by

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making professional connections and demonstrating where I can evolve, but

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sometimes we're forced in this position that we have to always go into the

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direction that we're being told to do, and that often is not what we want to do.

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I am really thankful that I've had people in my life that have stopped me along

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the way and say, this is what we are.

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This is what we're capable of doing, and these are the things that were

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potentially possible for all of us to go forward and examine how we can

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take strides in the right direction.

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Our speaking voice isn't necessarily about what we can articulate for vocal

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variety and tone and pitch and messaging and creating the steps that are needed

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to be able to have an introduction, body and conclusion, and have all the points

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that supplement the main point and have a general and specific purpose, and being

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able to share it all across the world.

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It's so much more than that.

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The nonverbal aspects are just as important as the verbal aspects, and

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I even tell people that, when it comes to public speaking, that you have

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to look at it at a holistic approach and take it at one step at a time.

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There's no difference with what you could possibly do, not only in your

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personal life, but also your professional life, when it comes to all the

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values that you stand for and want to continue growing in as time moves on.

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In previous episodes, we've talked about the values of Your Speaking

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Voice and how those all intergrain into this big, massive picture.

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It's allowing us to essentially represent the greatest opportunity, the greatest

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vision of what a future self could be, and I know that for many of us

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that can be very tough to do, but what we are able to do, by being able to

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see that bigger picture, is start to map out what is potentially possible.

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I know that for many of us being able to change in this world that is constantly

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changing and it seems like there's always something every day that's changing

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the framework of the overall foundation of our lives can be very stressful.

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It can be very tempting to say, "I don't want anything to do with this."

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It can also lead to drastic changes and isolation for that matter.

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I like to call it ghosting, and many of us are familiar with that concept,

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especially when it comes to being able to talk to people, have a physical and

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emotional connection, and then all of a sudden when you're trying to do some

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type of transaction, they're gone.

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They disappeared.

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They're nowhere to be found, and I know that for many of us that can

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be very upsetting and it seems to be a trend that continues to grow,

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especially with the advent of many of the communication tools that we have.

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Instead of wanting to be connected, we want to be more disconnected because

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we are overwhelmed more than ever before with the opportunities of this

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technology that can forever change and scope out the ways in which we're able

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to achieve our dreams and aspirations.

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What if I told you that you can use those prudently?

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What if I told you that you would be able to control what's ahead of you by being

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able to harness the vast energies that were within you based on just the life

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experiences that you have, along with the opportunities that are yet to come?

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Finally, what if I were able to say that you would be able to walk away thinking

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a whole, completely different perspective on the things that you had once thought

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were creating some of those roadblocks?

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For me, I had that problem for the longest time.

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I let those roadblocks stop me from being able to see what I was able to accomplish.

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I was limiting myself, and so many people would tell me,

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"Josh, you know you can do this.

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You have that ability, but I don't think you quite see it in yourself yet.

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I really want you to see this for yourself because I know you are a good person.

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I know that you can create so much value for yourself, but

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you've got to give yourself grace.

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You've got to give yourself love.

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You've got to give yourself attention.

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Don't keep pushing this away."

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Those feelings along so many more are things that I continue to

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say and do now in this moment.

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Those moments can always change.

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The things that we hear, the things that we absorb, the things that we try

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to accomplish in our lives can often be difficult in seeing the bigger picture,

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and that means too, taking a look at what is holding us back, what could

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be holding us back, and what might be holding us back, which are all different

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aspects of looking at the same problem.

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Even if you don't think you have a problem, even if you think everything is

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great in my life, things are fantastic, I could not ask for anything more, there's

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always room for improvement, and it's all about changing that mindset and

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seeing what is out there for the picking.

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It's about unlocking what already lies within us.

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It's already lying deep inside of us just waiting to be used.

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We have to embrace those dormant qualities because when we do that, we can see more

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fulfillment than ever before in our entire life, and if we can unlock that, if we can

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do that through the variety of different tools that we have in our toolbox, nothing

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is impossible for us to accomplish.

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Even if you think that everything is fine, know that it's always great

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to have a different perspective.

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Continue the conversation.

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See where, even if you are complacent where you're at now, how can you

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take it to the next level by being able to see and give back to others.

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It doesn't have to necessarily be for a profit.

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It doesn't necessarily have to be out of some sort of service.

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It can be out of so many different types of other opportunities that you have deep

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inside that maybe others can benefit from.

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Maybe we can create a teamwork, a population of people that are able to

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see the greater mission that's in within ourselves, the greater humanity that

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we have and that we commonly share, so that we are able to see how we can

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accept it, not just for what it is, but what it could potentially become,

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because let's face it, if it wasn't for the power of the Internet, I wouldn't

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be talking to you today, because we all have the opportunities that we share

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because we all want to be part of this great experiment of humanity and being

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able to share and experience what lies ahead, and if you need that coaching,

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if you need that support, if you need that perspective so that you can see

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what is out there, there are people like myself, ready to surround you no

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matter where you're at, at any time, and all you need to do is embrace what is

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inside you, your voice, and in the world.

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Thanks for listening to episode number nine of Speaking From

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the Heart, and I look forward to hearing from your heart very soon.

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