Episode 111
Episode #107 - Are You Really My Competition, Doing The Same Thing?
This podcast has enjoyed the company of many various individuals, business owners, everyone in between. However, have you ever felt slighted, or disheartened, by the sheer amount of success and not sure how to best navigate in the same footsteps as my guests? This episode focuses on not following other’s success, but paving the way towards YOUR OWN STEPS to success! Paying attention to the competition in terms of awareness is critically important, but distinguishing yourself from others is key to long term success. Being impressive with your offerings may be one thing, but carrying a level of service and commitment is key to the improvement of all, which allows us to all win!
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode number
107 of Speaking from the Heart, and I
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:am not going to compare you to anybody
else today because I really want to
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:talk about you, and why you should stop
comparing yourself to everybody else.
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:That's right.
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:It's about understanding why it's so
important to focus on you, even when
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:you have all these other influences
and distractions surrounding you.
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:In order for you to become the best
version of yourself, you have to start
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:putting away what everybody else is doing,
and if there's anything that I've learned
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:about doing this, especially as I was
preparing for this episode, it's that
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:I need to be more self aware of this so
that I can see not just my true potential,
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:but to worry not about what everybody
else is doing around me, so today, I
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:really want to focus on some strategies
and some ways that maybe that will
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:help you to not go down this dangerous,
slippery slope that we often deal
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:with when it does involve competition.
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:Now it's funny that I talk about this
because as you have been following along
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:with me for over 100 episodes, you know
that I am no stranger when it comes to
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:understanding and even connecting with
a variety of different people when it
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:involves not only their coaching business,
but even other businesses as well.
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:Some of the people that I've even
interviewed have either stepped aside and
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:have done other things to pursue their
happiness, or they have decided to go
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:a whole other direction and stay in the
business of what they're doing, but do
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:it in a vastly different way, whether
they're authors, whether they are dealing
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:with their own businesses, whether they
are even coaches in my own industry,
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:I know for a fact that it's about
understanding the differences that we all
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:have, but at the same time, respecting
that it's their journey, not ours.
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:I would often be distracted,
for the longest time, about
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:not only what those people are
doing, but how they're doing it.
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:I always thought that I had to be
something better than them, but then I
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:realized that it's not about being better,
it's about augmenting what they provide
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:and what I can provide differently.
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:In other words, my story and the
offerings that I even provide,
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:are vastly different from what I
might even see from somebody else.
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:I could learn a lot from even engaging
with their services, and I would even not
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:be ashamed to tell you the numerous amount
of people that I wish, if I had millions
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:of dollars, I would invest in each and
every one of those businesses that I
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:would choose, but it's about not just
understanding what we have as differences.
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:It's not just about understanding
what we can create as value.
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:It's about learning and exploring that
we have our own steps to walk when it
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:comes to that success, and the sheer
amount of success that we have in
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:order to navigate through that means
understanding what our differences are.
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:Now, in other episodes I've explored
with you the possibility of even writing
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:these down; knowing what you are as your
strengths and weaknesses, and even dealing
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:with the opportunities and threats.
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:In other words, doing a SWOT analysis
for your own benefit, but it's not just
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:about understanding the competition.
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:It's not just understanding what makes
you different from everybody else.
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:It's about distinguishing
yourself from others.
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:It's distinguishing not just the things
that they do, but really, what you
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:are and what you bring to the table.
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:I've had many clients in which I explored
this personally and professionally
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:on an individual level, but also on a
business level as well, and it's always
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:interesting to see the vast differences
of some people willing to walk through
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:it, while other people are not yet ready
to walk through it, and I've had plenty
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:of no's, but I've also had plenty of
yes's, but it doesn't always mean that
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:the yes's and no's translate because of
the things that we are willing to do,
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:but it's often the money that talks the
most, so if you're sitting here today
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:and you're thinking that money is no
object, and I'm willing to throw my
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:dollars into anything that will make me
better, that's not the right way to do it.
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:Have that connection with someone
that you really truly value, along
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:with understanding that maybe they can
provide something of unique value, from
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:their perspective, that will help your
perspective be even brighter, so don't
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:throw your money away; that's one thing.
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:The other thing and what I see more
often is the money that is never
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:spent, because they're afraid of
what that change would look like.
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:They're afraid of what the unlimited
potential and benefits are if
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:we're able to walk through and work
on ourselves with somebody else.
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:That can often be the most scariest
thing in the whole entire world, but
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:yet, having that level of commitment,
that service to ourselves, in which
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:we put an investment of ourselves, is
something that I even talked about in
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:a past episode in which I entitled, "Is
Coaching Just a Luxury?", and I feel that
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:even time and time again, when people
don't listen to that, I think about the
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:fact that maybe there is something that
I missed in that episode as the formula
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:to that true success, because if you
really are thinking about it, coaching
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:might not just be about the luxury aspect,
but also about what is in it for me.
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:What is in it for me?
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:And it's not just about the selfish
aspects of what we are dealing with,
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:it's about the universal application of
what we're ultimately able to accomplish.
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:That should be one of our benefits of
exploring what coaching is all about.
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:When I think about this, and I think about
the fact that many people haven't had
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:the chance to walk through these sort of
episodes of their lives in which they want
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:to work on themselves, something strikes
me as interesting about this formula.
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:The amount of people
that never respond back.
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:The number of people that just give up,
and they're not willing to walk forward.
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:Have we lost our energy and our drive
because of all the other pressures that
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:are pressing down around us, and easily
enough, I can understand the human
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:condition, allowing all those other
fears, those anxieties, even depression
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:for that matter, get the very best of us.
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:I talked about in a previous episode about
the importance of not only identifying
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:what that means for you and how that works
in your overall life, but how you can
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:balance that with the achievements that
you can achieve, but yet at the same time,
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:grinding when you need to be grinded.
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:You have to keep the process moving
forward, and even if you don't do it
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:with somebody else, how do you do it
with someone, or even yourself, for that
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:matter, that will hold you to the fire.
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:One of my past guests and I have continued
to talk about this, even outside of our
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:episode, which I won't mention who that
person is out of the respect of our
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:privacy of the conversation, but what I
really find interesting about what our
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:strategies, and let alone our journeys
are, have been about understanding the
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:differences about how we each go about it.
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:While one person might find that
one thing is really a struggle, the
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:other person is saying, "Nuh uh uh.
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:That's not a struggle.
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:That's to your benefit.", so it's
all about seeing it from another
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:perspective in order for us to
say that we're much better off,
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:because they envy what we're doing.
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:They are creating that value that
often times we forget that we offer,
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:while at the same token, I'm able to
do vice versa: point out something in
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:their life in which they think it's
a struggle, but yet it's really not,
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:and they're rocking it, and that they
are going to be okay down the road.
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:Those things is really
why we value competition.
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:It's what makes us
competitively push forward.
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:It's almost as if the human race
really depends on each other, always
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:striving for that best idea, that
best feature, but yet, when you think
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:about it, in the United States alone,
we always have competed across other
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:countries in order to become excellent,
in whether it's scientific ventures,
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:political gains, or even in wartime.
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:No matter which way you want to
look at it from a political, social,
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:economical, cultural, whatever way you
want to theorize, when we are looking
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:at our competition, we should be not
looking at really what they're doing
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:as the same thing, but how they're
doing it differently, and that is why
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:I feel it's so important, especially
in the coaching world, to always
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:distinguish that we are looking at ways
in which we can do things differently.
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:It's not about doing the same thing
over and over again, thinking you're
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:going to get different results.
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:That's the definition of insanity, and
trust me on this, your podcast host
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:definitely has had a lot of insanity, but
we also need to understand that trying
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:an idea today, and trying it five years
from now, especially if we know that the
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:conditions are different, is a vastly
different conversation than just trying
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:to do the same thing over and over and
over again, thinking that we're going to
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:have a different result in the present
time, but we have to be able to understand
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:that if we're going to walk into those
footsteps of what other people are doing,
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:be prepared for the consequences: having
lawsuits, even being infringed upon with
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:your own rights of autonomy, being able to
understand that even those successes that
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:other people have, don't easily translate
into the successes that you will have.
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:I always thought that maybe I can
do public speaking differently.
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:That was mainly the premise of why I
wanted to start my own business, because
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:I felt that there was something missing.:
Connection, and whether you want to steal
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:that idea or not, that's totally up to
you, but I always value the relationship
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:that I have with every client, and I
even value the fact that I want them
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:to succeed; I'm in it with them, but
even just beyond that, I always want
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:to make sure that they're doing okay.
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:I want to feel like I am empowered to help
others achieve their best interests, and
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:for you, if you're not sharing that same
sentiment in which you're able to create
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:that value, in which you're able to do
the hard work, in which you're able to pay
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:attention to those that are around you.
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:If you think that you're always going to
have to compare yourself to somebody else
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:or something that they're doing, you're
doing it all wrong, and it's funny because
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:those words repeat in my brain after
almost 20 years of friends and family
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:saying the same thing to me that I'm
on my own time clock and that it's okay
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:that I'm not equaling to everybody else.
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:I'm autistic.
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:I don't have a relationship
with someone that I can love.
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:I don't have the biggest glamorous house,
let alone even the biggest apartment.
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:I don't have all these things that are
really important, but yet, it's all
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:about what we judge as that importance.
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:It's the value that we decide
that we want to give to them.
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:When I think about all my competition,
all the coaches that I've had on the
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:show, and what I will have on the show,
it's not about what they're doing.
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:It's about what I can learn from
them to grow as a human being, but
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:yet not compare myself to them.
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:That is what makes this such a special
relationship with each and every person
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:that I've even had on this show, and
that I continue to grow all across
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:the country, let alone the world.
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:It's really funny when I think
about Speaking From The Heart and
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:how many people I have reached.
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:In a way, the competition of a
podcast has even exponentially
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:grown to mass proportions.
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:Who wants to really spend their time on
personal and professional development and
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:get some wise tips from people that I've
had on the show, let alone even some of
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:my own experiences, but yet, when I see
the consistency of people always wanting
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:to follow, to see what's coming up, I
always think about the fact that those
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:people are investing in themselves, and
it's just only one person's perspective
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:out of the many multitudes of people
that they get to listen to, but
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:distinguishing yourself from somebody
else is really the long term success that
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:we can all reach, and that oftentimes
means listening to your competition.
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:Now, if you've followed along so far of
all the things that I've said, you might
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:notice a little bit of a contradiction.
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:If I'm telling you to not follow
them, but yet to listen to them,
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:which one should I be doing?
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:Should I really be following them,
or should I not be listening?
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:Truth be told, you should be doing both.
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:Have a little bit of one ear to
the ground, while the other ear is
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:listening to all the other things
that you're saying about yourself.
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:There has to be balance, and with balance,
everything that you ever thought that was
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:out of sight, out of mind, can potentially
become better, so when the next time
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:that you want to approach somebody that
you really think is your competition,
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:think of them as your friend, and
when you think of them as your friend,
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:think of them as your competition.
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:We're all striving to be better,
one way or another, that's
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:why we even do businesses.
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:That's why we even help out
volunteering with other people.
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:We even help with organizations that
are achieving a greater aim, because if
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:anything has really taught us about human
history, and the thousands of years that
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:have existed in our evolution, it's that
we're always there for somebody else.
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:Whether we were on the right side,
or even the wrong side, and the
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:difference of understanding if you
want to be on the right side or
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:the wrong side, means understanding
who your competition really is.
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:You're not competing against the clock.
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:You're not competing
against finite resources.
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:You're not just competing against all
the things that might be happening,
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:from an outsider or insider perspective.
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:What you're really competing with
is how much you're really wanting to
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:carry yourself to a level of service
and commitment to help yourself be the
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:improvement that everybody wants us to
see, because when you're able to stand
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:on the steps of where Rocky Balboa
was able to cheer after completing
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:his workout in many of the Rocky movie
franchises, in many of the Rocky movies
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:in which I have talked about, one
thing has become critically important.
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:It's about celebrating those
successes, and I want to see you be
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:able to celebrate those successes
where other people might've failed.
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:They might've been able to learn something
a little bit different because of their
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:unique experiences, so the next time
that you feel disheartened and you feel
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:that the sheer amount of success that
you can achieve is out of reach, and
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:when you often think that maybe you
can't do some of the things that other
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:people are doing, including some of
the people that have been on my show.
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:Think about the fact that you are
just saying things that are you
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:competing against yourself, and do
you really need one more person to
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:compete against, even if it's you?
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:I would think not.
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:What's really more important than anything
else is to you understanding what is
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:so important to create that value.
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:To create that opportunity of a lifetime,
and oh yeah, maybe even listen to some
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:of what your competition is saying, so
that you can get a competitive advantage,
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:because we're all in this together.
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:Whether you are thinking that you're
my enemy or not, is irrelevant.
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:What really matters more than anything
else, is for you to create that best
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:opportunity that has yet to succeed,
and whether you have failed before or
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:not doesn't mean that you can't get
back on the train again, because the
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:train is soon departing, and I'd rather
have you as one of the passengers,
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:even if we're running against each
other in a competitive train race, one
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:competitor train company against another.
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:At least we're all striving
for success, and that is what
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:we are all able to achieve.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 107 of Speaking from the
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:Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart, very soon.
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