Episode #111 - Being Able To Evolve

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 111 of Speaking from the Heart.

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It's about evolution.

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It's about the vast

opportunities that lie ahead.

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It's about us being able to understand

that when we evolve, we have not only the

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things that we have yet to look ahead to,

but also the things in which we might be

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able to help others to also look ahead.

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These are some of the things that we

can do to not only help us understand

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how we can grow, but also how we can

achieve success in today's episode, and

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yes, this is building upon what we've

talked about in episode 109, in which I

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mentioned the fact that our relationships

are the most important thing in order

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for our businesses to evolve, but now,

since we talked about our businesses in

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that past episode, let's talk about you:

the personal individual that you are and

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how we can fit this context of how we

can evolve into this ever changing world

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into our own framework in which we're

able to learn and grow in a way in which

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we might have never thought possible.

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I'm sure you've already dismissed the

fact that you're never going to evolve

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and you're about ready to tune out on

this episode after listening to just a

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minute, and don't worry, I'm watching you.

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I know how long you've been

listening to these episodes.

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Stop cutting me off at just one minute,

because let's face it, there's so much

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more than what meets the surface of just

one minute, and even if you do consider

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the fact that many people don't want to

talk about this topic at all and just

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avoid something like this altogether,

maybe you might want to ask them to

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tune in to this episode, because the

strategies that we might talk about might

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resonate with some of the people that

might be resisted to constant change.

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Every time that we set up New Year

goals, which by the way, have you

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been doing well on your goals; those

might be ways in which we can check

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in to make sure that we're making

that meaningful stride to be able to

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evolve into a cosmos of our own kind.

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Whether we want to be a cosmos

or not, we oftentimes are pushed

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into situations in which we have

to evolve; we have no choice.

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Especially in the society that

we live in today, I'm sure that

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many of us can relate to the fact

that we have to be able to grow.

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We have to be able to learn to adapt to

the variety of different changes that

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are occurring, whether that is from

an economical standpoint, which we're

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cutting back, but maybe to even new

skills for that matter: aI, artificial

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intelligence, being one of them.

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When you think about the fact that

with all these things happening all

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at once, what are some areas in which

we can create meaningful strides to

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be able to have that evolving change?

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I think that important question helps us

to understand the opportunities that will

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help us to circle around not only becoming

more proactive, but being insulated to

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many of the negative changes that usually

happen because it's all about mindset.

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There's varying amounts of thought

and even discussion from the coaching

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community about what that even entails,

so even if you want to talk about today

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the importance of learning and growing

from a variety of different perspectives

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when it comes to your own mindset, keep

in mind that every person's mindset

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ultimately starts from being a child,

which one of my guests, which will be

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coming up here in a future episode, talks

about the three seats that we sit in;

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the opportunities in which we might be

able to learn a little bit more about

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why we sit in each of those chairs, which

I won't go too much into today, but I'm

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just going to leave it with this: maybe

with some of the things that we talked

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about, even in a previous episode about

our childhood, have severe ramifications

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about the ways in which we're able

to navigate through these challenges.

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Being able to evolve doesn't

necessarily mean writing down what

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we are today and then what we want to

be tomorrow and comparing it, seeing

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if we're making that percentage gain.

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How boring.

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Ugh.

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I'm sure that many of you are even

letting out an audible, "ugh", because

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I know that that might be frustrating,

because who wants to do that kind of work?

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Let's do it this way.

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Think of an image in your head

of what you would look like if

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you have been able to evolve.

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Evolution can come in

many different strides.

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We even talked about in the previous

monologue episode about the importance of

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looking at your business from a variety

of different angles: your branding, your

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ability to look at the bigger picture,

bringing other people in that will help

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you to think along the lines of what

you're trying to achieve, but what if

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you were able to draw a mind map, or even

a mind picture for that matter, or even

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use AI for that matter, which the variety

of different things available from DALI,

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you could create that image in your head.

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What would it look like to be successful,

whether it's in the physical assets,

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whether it's in the mind picture that

you have of your thoughts, feelings,

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emotions; what is the feeling that is

connected with it, and I want you to

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just spend a second to think about that,

even if you have to pause the episode.

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Think about what that would look like

in your mind, of all the different

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things that you have available to you,

as a result of achieving success; that

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success that you create inside of you.

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All those things just manifesting

into this wonderful picture of who

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you are now, which not even as close

to what you might have been writing

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out or even picturing, especially as

you created this image of yourself.

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I know.

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That seems a little sad,

because you're not there.

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It might be a little depressing

to wake yourself up from reality

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and now know that you're not

there, but not all hope is lost.

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The whole purpose of even having

coaches for that matter is to

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understand that we are looking at a

mindset of today that is holding us

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back, to help us understand what we

can do to become a bigger, brighter

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version of ourselves down the road.

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It means understanding and creating

the opportunities, especially in even

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challenging times, to learn and prosper

from the different ideas that we can

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bring to the table, and how many times

have we brought these ideas to the

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table, which I know some of you have,

but you haven't acted on them yet?

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What's holding you back?

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What's really holding you from the

opportunity to see yourself evolve into

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something else, and that's something

that I really want to explore in

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this latter part of this episode,

which is about the concept of fear.

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I think that fear is what really holds

us back from not only achieving the

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values that we want to ultimately

have, but also the success that we can

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ultimately see right in front of us.

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Whether it's a good, whether it's a bad,

whether it's something in between, I

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think that regardless of what we see,

no matter what kind of changes are

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happening, regardless of what things

mean, if we're taking those strides

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in the right direction, means that

we have to understand the building

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blocks that we're standing on, because

if they're not built from the right

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material, that's why fear will creep in.

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Now, those building blocks that I'm

talking about, meaning that you actually

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have to construct things that allow

you to move from one place to another.

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I talked about in the last

monologue episode about the

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importance of relationships.

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Those are really the biggest foundations

that I will argue to the very end of

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time will help you get to the next

point in another, and I know this

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guy, who's talking to you right now,

that doesn't do a good job of that

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sometimes, and I'm working on that.

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Yet, at the same token, when we look at

the other side of the coin, relationships

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are only just one component of it.

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On the other side of that coin, you

have to look at all the things that help

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to contribute to that success, whether

those are people might be just one

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consideration of the overall solution.

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It might be the money

that you need to have.

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The capital that you need

to invest in something.

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Whether that's buying a house.

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Whether it's being able to get groceries.

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Whether it's even being able to buy

that trailer that you always wanted

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to have so you can take those road

trip adventures across the country.

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All of those have to have

some kind of plan behind it.

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Being able to create those meaningful

strides, though, means being able to

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walk yourself back and forth into the

existence of knowing that one day,

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maybe not tomorrow, maybe not thirty

days from now, but maybe six months

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to a year or even longer, that you're

going to be able to achieve things.

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It's almost as if you're

getting a college degree.

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It takes a long term plan of four plus

years, although for many cases it's

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usually five for the traditional degree,

to be able to achieve that piece of

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paper, in order to have those designations

necessary for you to achieve success.

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All those things, I know that for many

of us, can be very daunting, and even

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today's culture is moving away from the

paper degrees and allowing us to get

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actual skill; to be able to apply that

skill almost immediately to the variety

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of different challenges that exist,

not only in today's culture, but in the

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industries that we're trying to serve,

but the strategies to allow us to grow,

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regardless of whatever is shifting, means

that you have to overcome your fear.

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I can tell you of numerous examples

of clients that I've had, or continue

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to work with, along with the variety

of different people that I interact

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with, on a daily basis, about the

importance of not only looking at and

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staring fear in the eye, but when you

know that that fear is coming, what are

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some ways in which we can process it?

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We actually walk through in my coaching

about what that fear looks like.

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What is the worst case scenario

that could occur, and try to develop

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strategies so that those fears are not

necessarily standing in your way, but

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you could at least acknowledge them,

because they will always be present.

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We want the relationships to be

healthy, but we also don't want them

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to be unhealthy either, because when

we're feeling unhealthy, and I've even

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mentioned this on previous episodes, we

will start to feel sick in the physical

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sense, but also the mental sense.

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I can't tell you how many times

with people that I've known, even

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myself included, that have walked

down that slippery slope about not

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feeling good about ourselves, let

alone each other for that matter.

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Fear is a nasty four letter word that

I think paralyzes us to the core,

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and oftentimes creates the stigma of

not being able to do our very best.

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When we are trying to work on our very

best, it means that we have to overcome

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some of the challenges that exist.

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It means being able to understand and

capitulate in a variety of different

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ways how we can overcome that.

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It means talking out a variety of

different things that might not

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ever come to existence, but know

that we are able to overcome them

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in order to become more evolved.

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That is why we're working on

these things, and becoming so much

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better at them at the same time.

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Growing regardless of the challenges means

that we have to have a mindset that not

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only dispels fear, but the fear itself

can be used as energy to help ourselves

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grow in a variety of different ways.

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Think of it like public speaking.

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There are so many times that I've told

clients, and even have heard stories from

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other Toastmasters for that matter, of

using fear as a way in which they're able

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to express themselves in ways in which

they never thought they could ever express

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themselves in, whether that's singing,

whether that is doing a choreography of

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a dance, or maybe even doing something

that is so completely common, but yet

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they were so afraid to do it themselves.

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Acknowledging that there is something

that is sitting amongst us, is

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sometimes the fear that hides behind it.

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It's in disguise.

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It's so disguised that sometimes we

don't even see it when we're walking by,

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but yet when we're able to acknowledge

it and we're able to make meaningful

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strides towards it, we are now scaring

the crap out of what fear really is.

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Those are the things that if we're able

to build the blocks of the knowledge,

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the skills, the abilities, that's going

to allow us to climb to higher heights.

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It's going to allow us to do the things

that we normally don't do, and those are

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usually the hard skills that we learn, but

if you think about it, the soft skills,

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the things that we learn even as a child,

being able to communicate, being able to

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say please and thank you, being able to

have the right dialogue with other people,

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is oftentimes lost in translation from

one generation to the next, which have

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different ideas of how to utilize it.

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It's not necessarily

mean it's a bad thing.

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It can be a good thing in some context,

but oftentimes the negative consequences

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outweigh the positive, which is why it's

sad when we see a new generation losing

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some of the things that even previous

generations have even fought for, for

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even their consideration to be able to

become better than they already are.

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They've already done the hard work,

those previous generations, but yet

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the new generations just don't know

how to utilize those skills that

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they're learning to become better

in the grand scheme of things.

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Our competitive advantage depends on

the ability for us to not just build

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blocks that help us to transverse

the different obstacles that face

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us, whether there are rivers or

valleys or streams or even mountains.

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It means engaging in a proactive

conversation about the fears that

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we have, not only intrinsically, but

extrinsically as well; to be able

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to learn how to communicate them and

capitulate them in a way in which they

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are no longer standing in our way.

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If you can get to the core of that

strategy, you can grow regardless of

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anything that is ever moving forward

or moving us backward for that matter.

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You can stop things in their tracks if you

know how to evolve into a better person.

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It doesn't mean that you have to stop

everything and learn a new skill today,

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and it doesn't mean that you have to go

find five people and figure it out in a

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small group of, what am I doing wrong?

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What can I do better?

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Some of the damage that might have

been already done might not be able

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to be reversed, at least in the short

term, but again, as I even mentioned

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in episode 109, it's about what you

can do in the long term, so here we go.

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We're ending this episode almost in

the same way that we started it from

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the other episode, with the same

tact that fear is nothing to fear.

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We do not have to have all these

concerns on our plate that weigh

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us down almost like a dead weight.

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We have to just learn that sometimes

those thoughts are the manifestations

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of the things that we fear the most,

and sometimes they're disguised

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in ways in which we're not capable

of understanding today, but we'll

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be able to understand tomorrow.

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Progress comes when we learn that fear

is nothing that can stand in our way.

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We can learn how to adapt and evolve

if we're just willing to challenge

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ourselves in the ways in which we

don't look at things negatively,

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but we don't necessarily always

have to look at them positively too.

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All we have to do is just look at

them differently from a different

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perspective, and that's how we're

able to evolve, consistently, time

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and time again, because let's face it.

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If you look at all the things that we've

been able to ever do in this world, it's

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all because someone else had a different

perspective instead of looking at the

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cup half full, maybe they looked at it

half empty, and they were also able to

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solve some of life's challenges, let

alone, create human evolution that has

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been tested time and time again, and has

been the most successful of all success.

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I believe in you and your success to

evolve, and that is what counts the most.

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Thanks for listening

to episode number 111.

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of Speaking From the Heart,

and I look forward to hearing

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from your heart, very soon.

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