Episode 134
Episode #129 - Fading Energy & Overcoming The Odds
It is no secret that as humans, we struggle with keep consistent energy to perform daily tasks and responsibilities that we have to perform. It is only a matter of time when the energy escapes us and we are not able to perform at “optimal conditions.” In this episode, we dispel the belief of being “robots” and having to always perform at maximum drive, the discussion of “work/life balance” becomes on the forefront of our lives. We are all entitled to a period of rest, and being able to achieve it does not mean sacrificing more energy to find solace in achieving many areas of our lives.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode number
129 of Speaking From The Heart, and
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:man, I almost didn't have enough
energy to do this episode today.
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:It was really exhausting for me to be able
to do this because my energy level has
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:been so low lately, and I'm wondering if
you relate to that, because when we have
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:fading energy, we have to somehow overcome
the odds to be able to achieve not just
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:that greatness that we want in our lives,
but just to make it through the day.
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:Ugh.
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:I know that it can be very depressing,
maybe even demoralizing for that
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:matter, to try to overcome all these
different things that are happening
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:in your life, especially with all
the demands, you might have children
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:always asking you for something.
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:You might even have your wife or husband
always asking you for something; maybe
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:even your boss, the most difficult
of all people, always asking for
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:something, even at nine o'clock at
night when you should be off the clock.
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:First off, why are you even checking
your email or your phone, and also,
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:why are you allowing that to overcome
you, make you feel so overwhelmed, but
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:at the same time, not being able to
achieve what you should be achieving?
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:You're not a robot, you're a human being,
so today, I want to bring you back to
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:reality to make you understand that you
are a human, but also try to take on
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:that level of responsibility in a whole
new, different way, because I know that
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:you should have that all important rest.
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:Now I have to be a little bit of
a hypocrite because I struggle
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:with this quite a lot myself.
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:I have so much to do, so little time
to do it in, but at the same token,
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:it's because I'm not balancing my time.
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:I'm not handling what I should be
handling very well, and as a result
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:of that, that work life balance that I
try to have can be very overwhelming.
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:It's almost as if I'm more of a robot
doing more work than I'm actually living
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:my life to the fullest, and it's my fault.
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:It's my fault because I know that I
need to be able to understand how to
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:actually manage my time better, but
it's also the fact that I have these
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:spells of just feeling so unproductive.
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:It allows me to just zone out and not
make me feel like I'm worthy of doing
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:all this work that I need to accomplish.
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:In other words, I'm really a couch potato
and I don't want to do anything at all.
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:As a result of all that, it makes me
not only very weak when it comes to
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:addressing all these different things
that I have to do on my task list,
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:but it also makes me feel like the
energy in my body is escaping me.
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:Now I will say, and even people that I
work with in the fitness industry would
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:tell you, the biggest component of it is
about the food that you put in your body.
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:If you are putting junk food in your
body, even drinks for that matter,
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:like soda, candy bars, things with
high sugar, high carbs, and you're not
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:burning it off and you're not exercising
regularly, even 30 minutes every other
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:day, you're not doing yourself any favors.
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:As a matter of fact, you're creating
some of the worst versions of yourself
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:by just putting off that inevitable
feeling of crappiness inside of you,
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:and I've been there, done that, and
I'm still a work in progress even as I
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:continue to work on myself and others,
but I have to acknowledge that not
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:everyone that you talk to has this
grandiose image of perfection, and
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:that's okay if you're not perfect.
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:It doesn't mean that you have to have this
demand of perfection, and I even have had
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:clients that I've talked about this very
subject, that it's okay to not always
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:be performing at the top of your game.
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:When we are always trying to strive
for perfection, and we're always
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:trying to strive for always doing all
these things that we have to do, it
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:actually can become quite overwhelming.
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:Why wonder we have fading energy!
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:Why wonder that we have to
try to keep pushing through!
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:Many industrial nations have even
instituted policies that ensure
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:that workers are not contacted
after their assigned work hours.
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:We even have truck drivers in the
United States that are only allowed to
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:work a certain number of hours before
they must take a mandatory break.
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:All these things are because we can
overwork ourselves to exhaustion, and
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:by being exhausted, you set yourself
up for not only eating bad things
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:and consuming bad things in terms of
material, but you also are having some
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:massive health consequences that many
of my clients have even experienced.
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:Some of them have been even working with
me, and then they do have a health scare
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:because they have been overworking,
and they have been super stressed out
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:about all the things that have been
going on, but it isn't because of me.
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:It isn't because of what
we're working on together.
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:It's because of all these other
external influences, and they
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:even have told me that working
with me has been a big blessing.
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:Don't believe me?
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:Go check out some of the reviews of
my business, Your Speaking Voice, LLC,
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:and you'll see exactly what I'm talking
about, but this isn't about an episode
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:of me preaching about my business.
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:I want to preach you.
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:I want to be able to preach to the
high heavens about why you should start
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:working on yourself, and all that energy
that you have bundling up inside can
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:be used in a much more productive way.
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:Here's a suggestion that I have
even worked with one of my clients
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:about that might be helpful for you.
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:I think that especially here in the
United States, we always feel like we
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:have to work at this high echelon level
of always performing at our maximum
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:best; being an A student, if you will,
to put it in a grade school terminology.
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:Every time we think that we have
to reach the level in which we are
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:getting a 100 percent on our paper,
it means that we are overdoing it.
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:Yes, you heard me.
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:We're overdoing it because we're looking
at just always achieving that greatness
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:when greatness doesn't come from getting
A's; it might be actually taking a break.
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:It might mean relaxing; escaping from
the various attitudes, perceptions,
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:and beliefs that oftentimes happen
in our lives, and having that
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:much deserved rest, to be able
to enjoy what life has to offer.
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:All those things allow us to feel
a lot more comfortable, not only
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:about our existence, not only about
the things that might push us back,
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:but it allows us to have the maximum
drive when we're ready to take it on
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:again, to be able to do a lot better.
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:I think that we also have to look at
the perspective of, it's okay to be a
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:B student, maybe even a C student for
that matter, and remember that C can
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:be for average; at least that's how it
was for me when I went through school.
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:Having a C grade meant that you
were average, and I think that we
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:always have to strive for just being
average as our baseline, and seeing
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:what it means to be overcoming that.
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:It's almost like looking at an employee
performance review for that matter.
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:Whether you're doing things
satisfactory or not means that
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:you're doing just the minimum.
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:The things that are okay to do as the
minimum means that you're at least
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:meeting the expectations of the position.
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:Time and time again, I always think that
people have this assumption that if I
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:was to get a commendable or outstanding
on my employee performance review, that
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:means I have to go above and beyond,
and I will admit that I try to do that,
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:because my perfectionist tendencies tell
me that I have to be at the very top.
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:I must reach that outstanding, and
anything less is unacceptable by
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:my own standard, but that's the
question that we all have to ask.
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:Is that really a realistic standard?
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:To always be getting an A, when we
might not be having a great A day?
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:I know that for many of us, that seems
very radical, and that radical nature
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:of exploring what it looks like to be
a B or C student can be very scary.
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:It can mean also demoralizing ourselves
to think that we have to be a little bit
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:less when it comes to all the things that
we have going on, but if you think about
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:it, all the things that we might do, we
will never be able to do as an A student
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:because we don't have the right equipment,
the right tools, if you will, to be
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:able to accomplish those tasks in mind.
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:Take it from me.
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:Somebody that I thought was going to be
a lawyer, I thought I would be able to
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:learn all these legal mumbo jumbo concepts
when I realized that it takes a great mind
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:of critical thinking and an aptitude to
expand yourself beyond the possibilities
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:of reality that made me realize that
sometimes being a lawyer, although you
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:might have many jokes that you think
about when you're listening to this
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:about lawyers, are actually pretty shrewd
people that understand how the basis of
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:certain systems work to their favor, and
their client's favor for that matter.
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:We're not robots that have to be on
maximum overdrive every single time
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:because even robots require maintenance.
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:They require downtime so that they can
be lubricated, preventative maintenance
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:can be done, and oh yeah, making sure
that everything that they're supposed to
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:be doing is actually being done at the
level that it should be occurring at.
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:We can't always be at
our maximum overdrive.
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:There has to be a distinction between
what is really acceptable and what is not.
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:Think of it this way.
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:If you really think that you're
going to be great at having a
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:relationship with someone, it doesn't
turn on like a flip of the switch.
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:It rarely happens.
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:That's where magic of the movies and film,
which we've even had some guests on this
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:show that have been actors and actresses
in the backstage talking about this
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:concept, but even with all those things
said, we can't always assume that things
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:will happen with a flip of a switch, or
the snap of a fingers for that matter.
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:We have to manage the expectation of being
able to do things from a base level in
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:which we are evaluated on, and make sure
that we're making incremental progress
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:towards that direction which can take
time, and for some people, can take more
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:time over others to be able to achieve.
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:If you are one of those people that
thinks that you always have to be at an
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:A level, especially if they have never
done something before that you're being
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:asked to do, that's unrealistic, and you
need to pause that thinking to ensure
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:that you don't ever walk down that path.
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:We're all entitled to a period of rest,
and being able to achieve that rest
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:means that we might be sacrificing
some of the gain that we might be able
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:to have, but to also realize that the
solace of being able to enjoy what life
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:has to offer can recharge our batteries,
allow us to perform that preventative
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:maintenance, and oh yeah, we're allow us
to become that A student in the long run.
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:We don't have to always
perform at a high level.
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:It's okay to be a B or C student, and
we need more of those B and C students,
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:especially when it comes to not only
maintaining what we have to achieve,
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:but also being able to work in a society
that manages those expectations as well,
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:so if you are a boss, and you are very
hard on someone, I want you to rethink
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:what you might have been stating, and
whether that was really the truth of
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:what you felt about that employee.
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:Is it really something that they should
have done, or maybe they were just
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:learning for the first time, and they were
able to achieve what that success looks
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:like by just working on themselves, being
able to grow and prosper from the variety
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:of different opportunities that exist.
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:It's not easy to be able to achieve
greatness, but by achieving greatness
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:with work and life, you're going
to be able to achieve so much more
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:than just what is on the surface.
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:In other words, some of the most
inherent skills, the secrets in which
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:many of the most successful leaders
of our time were able to do, were
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:done by the fact that they were able
to have a work and life balance.
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:Having this on the forefront of our
minds that we should have that success
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:factor in mind, means that we also
have to look at what it means to be
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:a B or C student, and be able to make
progress towards becoming an A student,
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:but it's okay to fall back on the B
and C standards from time to time.
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:We're all entitled to not just having
that rest in our lives, but we also have
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:to understand that to perform at the
most optimal level means that we have to
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:have a number of factors in play: having
the right amount of money; having the
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:right people surrounding us to make us
feel better about the choices that we're
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:making, let alone, having those successes
in our belt, so that we can point to them,
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:saying that other people believed in us.
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:This is not an easy task to do, but when
you are feeling so worn down that you
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:can't do anything, it's time to reevaluate
what your choices are, because when you
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:do that, you're going to overcome the
probability of being able to succeed.
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:You're going to be able to challenge
yourself in ways in which you've never
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:been able to challenge yourself before,
and you'll be able to understand and
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:gain clarity as to what needs to be
done in the first place, because you'll
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:be able to have that chance to re
evaluate what is on your task list.
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:What makes you able to achieve that A
status, but you're also going to be able
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:to have yourself some space to breathe.
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:We're so uptight, and that's why medical
costs and even the mental health epidemic
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:has continued to rage on, but we need
to separate ourselves from the fact
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:that it isn't just about social media
that's contributing to it, let alone
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:bad behaviors, matter of fact, piss
poor behaviors that often contribute
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:to the overall non-success of people.
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:Sure, you need to have the right people,
also have the right capital, but to also
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:have the right situation play out so
that you can have all those successes
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:come alive, but you also need to put
yourself into that equation as well.
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:You're not a robot.
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:You're not ChatGPT or Copilot,
in which I can go on and compute
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:all these different variables so
that I'm able to be successful.
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:No, no, no.
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:That's not how it works.
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:We're all human, and by having
that energy to be able to
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:focus and concentrate like Mr.
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:Miyagi was able to do in the
Karate Kid, you're going to be
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:able to crush all the different
goals that you have in your life.
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:You're going to be as successful as many
of the guests that I've had on my show,
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:but more importantly, you're going to have
that self actualization, that realization
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:of the ability for you to escape from that
overall feeling that you do not always
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:have to perform at a 10 out of 10 level.
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:No matter which way you look at
it, no matter how many times it
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:might take, you will get there.
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:It's all a matter of pacing,
progress, and persistence.
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:Those three P's can help you with
overcoming that fading energy and
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:defying the odds, especially when
you have the ebbs and flows of life
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:changing you and moving you in a
variety of different directions.
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:It's okay if you get a C next
time you get your paper, and
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:it's okay if you have that B.
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:That means you made progress.
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:As long as you're moving towards
that direction that you want to end
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:at, that's what matters the most.
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:Set yourself goals.
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:Set yourself accountability.
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:Push yourself into realizing that it's
okay to take a break, but don't overdo it,
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:but at the same time, do it for yourself,
because when you do it for yourself
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:and you have yourself in mind, you will
have all the energy that you will ever
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:need to accomplish not just what you're
setting out to do, but also achieve that
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:ultimate greatness that other leaders
before you have been able to achieve.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 129 of Speaking From The
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:Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart, very soon.
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