Episode 162
Episode #157 - It Is Starting To Wind Down Again...
The end of the year is almost here…almost 40 weeks in! Goals that were set 366 days ago may not be the same shape, form, or even mindset, of what they were once formulated. If they are not the same as they used to be, are they still worth fulfilling? This episode covers this important question, but more importantly, examines how to “wind up” to the unlimited possibilities of seeing those goals through to the very end, even if they are not achieving what we once thought.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode number
157 of Speaking from the Heart, and that
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:time is almost here: the end of the year.
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:I know it's a scary thought.
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:It's something that I
have even dreaded myself.
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:I know that fear of the unknown might
be even paralyzing for some of you,
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:while on the other hand, many of you are
jumping up and down out of your seat,
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:super excited about the fact that it's
almost over, and I know that with so
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:many weeks yet to go, I think that one of
the biggest things that we have to worry
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:about is how we're going to get through
the holidays, how are we going to get
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:through all these different activities,
especially if we have kids, balancing
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:all the deadlines that we have for
the end of the year with our work, our
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:personal lives, our professional lives.
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:The things that we have set 366 days ago
might not be in the same shape, form, or
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:even mindset in which we first formulated
it in, and today, I want to talk about
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:why, oh why, we should continuously self
evaluate, look at the bigger picture, but
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:more importantly, answer the question,
"Are these things that are still left
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:on my plate, worth fulfilling?", and
I know that as we wind things up, it's
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:so easy for us to think about why we
can just move those things into the new
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:year, but before you even give up, let's
talk about why that is even the case.
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:Why do you want to move
it into the new year?
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:So that you have something to actually do?
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:So that you can actually say to your
friends and family, "Oh, well, I put
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:that off last year, and I have something
now for this year,:
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:that we have so many opportunities to
be able to say to ourselves too that
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:we have so much more knowledge, we have
so many more skills, we have more self
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:awareness of our surroundings, what we're
capable of doing, the list goes on and on
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:and on, but why would you put something
off that you originally committed to
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:all the way back in the year 2023,
nd never finished in the year:
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:It makes zero sense!
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:It doesn't make any understanding
for me, as a coach, why would
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:you want to put that away.
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:Why would you want to push that aside?
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:Why would you want people to say
that you don't do anything at all?
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:The truth of the matter is you might
be putting it off for more reasons
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:than maybe what's on the surface,
and what other people might actually
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:understand in the first place.
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:Why you think you have to wind down
this year by putting everything away,
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:and letting the holidays take over,
makes zero sense, and it has never
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:made any sense to me, especially as I
continuously work on myself, even with
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:the years of experience that I have
in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania,
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:I have seen so many people take time
off, not taking advantage of what they
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:can work on for the rest of the year.
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:Before you go and raid my inbox at
podcast@yourspeakingvoice.biz, and say
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:to me, "Well, it doesn't make any sense
why you would bring that up, Josh.
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:I have a life.
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:You don't."
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:Hear me out.
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:Of course it's really valuable to take
time, especially with things that you need
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:to do that are really important to you.
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:But what if those things that you have to
do actually have impacts on other people,
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:and you continuously push them away?
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:Even if you had thought that you
were going to achieve those things,
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:what makes you think that you can
continuously push that needle backwards?
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:That all important needle, in which
I've even examined with so many of
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:my guests this year so far, have even
looked at the variety of different
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:ways in which we can do that.
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:Whether it is a shift in mindset.
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:Whether it is about a thought
process that we can challenge.
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:Whether it is something else that we
have deep inside of ourselves that we
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:can yet unlock, and unleash that hidden
potential that we have so deep inside of
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:ourselves, is it still worth fulfilling
if we keep on saying to ourselves that
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:it's not worth the time and effort
this year, better luck next year?
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:It is so easy for us to throw in the towel
knowing that these holiday seasons are
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:always busy, and I mean, for many people,
it is a laborious task of just making
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:sure that the family is fed, making sure
that all the cookies are baked, which
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:I know for many of us, cookie making is
really important, but if you're making
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:the goods in the kitchen, why can't you
make the goods that help you fulfill your
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:mindset, your journey that you've been on?
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:In the year 2024, I have been faced
with many significant challenges myself,
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:trying to change that status quo, being
able to learn how I can even change my
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:mindset by pushing away the things that
I can't do, and working on the things
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:that I can do, and that I have that
control and power of doing, has really
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:enabled me to unlock my potential.
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:The things that I know that I'm capable
of becoming have finally turned a
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:corner, and I've been so proud of not
only the things that I've been able to
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:personally accomplish, but seeing what
my clients have accomplished as well.
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:Many of you know, as I've even
continuously said on this episode
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:about the relationship that I have with
Next Generation Personal Training in
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:Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania, their team
is absolutely doing a great job shifting
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:the culture, changing the status quo of
the personal training business, entering
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:into cycling, doing contest posing.
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:They are absolutely rocking it, but
it didn't start with them just having
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:this idea of saying, "You know what?
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:I'm just going to jump into it, both
feet forward, and see what happens."
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:No!
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:They had to put a plan together.
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:They had to face some truths and realities
of things that they had going on right
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:now in order to create a culture that
allows them to thrive that they're doing
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:today, and I have to publicly acknowledge
that, because not only do they, and
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:their trainers, do that, but even some
of my own clients, many of them facing a
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:significant number of challenges, which
include but are not limited to time
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:management, divorce, starting their own
businesses, even dealing with productivity
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:issues so that they can become more
efficient, even those that are looking
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:for a new job, trying to be better public
speakers, and manage their social media.
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:These goals, and so many more that my
clients are continuously accomplishing,
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:are things that they have been moving
that mindset forward, shifting that
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:perspective, helping them fulfill
what they ultimately have been
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:setting out to do since day one.
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:Does it mean that those things change?
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:Absolutely.
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:Part of my four step process that I
even work with in my business is about
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:continuous improvement, refining on
what we have actually accomplished,
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:breaking down what we have yet to do,
but also addressing the challenges
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:so that they were able to become
the best versions of themselves.
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:That's it.
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:It's as simple as that, but for many
people, that means acknowledging that
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:change has to occur, and sometimes, that
change might not ever happen, because it
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:means that they have to acknowledge that
something is wrong in the first place.
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:When we talk about winding down,
I'm not just talking about the
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:leaves falling off the trees.
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:I'm not talking about the weather
turning from very nice to very cold.
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:I'm not talking about the Indian
summers that we have here in
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:Pennsylvania in between all those.
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:I'm talking about all the things
that are happening within your brain.
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:They're happening in your
mind, your body, your soul.
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:They're changing the things that
are becoming the priority that were
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:once the priority earlier this year.
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:It might not look the same way
as it first did, and that's okay.
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:Part of this process is learning how
to adapt and how to overcome, with
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:all these aspects in mind, so that
you're able to stay continuously
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:moving in the right direction.
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:That means that you have
to keep pushing forward.
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:It means that you have to listen
to your mind, your body, your soul.
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:Give yourself that grace some days of
knowing that maybe you're not going to
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:get what you needed to get done, but
it's okay to tackle other things that
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:are necessarily becoming the priority,
that are challenging you, and challenging
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:others, to become better versions of
themselves, regardless of the personal,
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:professional context that they belong in.
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:We've had many episodes in which we've
even talked about what that looks
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:like, and I know that those episodes
or opportunities for you to go back
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:and listen to how you can overcome
those aspects, because I know many
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:of you haven't had a chance to listen
to those yet, but that's the problem.
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:If you're not staying consistent on
creating that opportunity, if you're
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:not willing to address the fact that
why is my body saying that I need
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:to wind down, instead of winding up,
then you're never going to be able to
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:unlock that hidden potential, because
you're always having distractions
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:get the best of you, and holidays,
sometimes, are the best excuses to say
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:that we can't work on ourselves today,
that we'll put it off for next year.
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:It doesn't have to be
these big, massive steps.
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:You don't have to be leaping up
three flights of stairs at a time.
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:It absolutely means, though, that
you have to find a way, the balance,
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:whether it's carving out on your
schedule that time that you work on
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:yourself, or you work on the things
that you ultimately need to achieve.
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:It means, though, that you have to
focus on what the big picture is.
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:You don't just wind down, thinking
that everything's going to work out,
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:especially when you pick it back up.
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:It's not going to look the same
way as it does even right now.
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:Once you get into January 2025, I promise
you, things will not look the same.
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:They might even look tougher than they
once were, all because you stepped
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:aside and you let it be something that
you waited for until this very moment.
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:Now for the last eleven minutes, I've been
harping and throwing down all my cards,
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:saying that you should be not winding
down, you should be winding up, and it's
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:really easy for us to say that, "Yeah.
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:I get it.
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:I know that I need to be listening to it,
but how can I hold myself accountable?"
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:Even if you did some of the smallest
things that were on that list that
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:you always wanted to do in order to
achieve that goal that you ultimately
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:set forth, that's what counts the most.
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:If you're able to do that, if you're
able to even showcase your ability to
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:become something better than you were
yesterday, the day before, even what
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:you were doing in the future, for that
matter because you're taking these small
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:steps, that level of consistency, that
authenticity, that accountability that
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:you've always wanted to work on, is
finally happening, and sometimes when you
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:have that memory, that muscle memory if
you will, of what you have been able to
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:accomplish, what you've been able to be
successful in, that can make such a big
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:difference in the grand scheme of things.
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:As I record this, I recently had attended
a mega mixer in the South Central PA
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:area consisting of multiple chamber of
commerces, and during that networking
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:event, I've met many people inside
and outside of my local chamber that
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:allowed me to branch out and have new
relationships with people, and to even
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:get my business out there to places
that I normally don't get to, but there
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:was one woman that I have to shout out.
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:Her name was Margie.
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:She was sitting at a table, and on
her name tag, not only did it have her
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:first name, but it had two other words
that gave me flashbacks of why it was
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:so important in a period of my life
to not wind down, but to wind up, and
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:those two words were Dale Carnegie.
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:Many moons ago, I learned about
Dale Carnegie because I was going
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:through, during my teenage years,
a series of different issues.
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:Now, it would be surprising for you
to know, my listeners that have not
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:known me for very long, that I was very
much in trouble with the law almost
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:every other time, and I know that that
sounds crazy, but I was very hurt.
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:I was very much in pain from people that
were not accepting me for who I was, which
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:ultimately led into one of the catalysts
that I experienced four and a half
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:years ago, which is my suicide attempt.
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:Margie gave me some opportunity to
share a little bit about my experiences
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:going through what used to be called
the Dale Carnegie: Next Generation
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:Program, which essentially has been
rebranded to focus on young leaders,
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:young communicators, people that want
to work on their confidence using time
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:tested materials that Dale Carnegie
started over a hundred years ago with his
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:book, How to Win Friends and Influence
People, and all the secret successes
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:of sales strategies that helped other
people become better in their profession.
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:I shared with her what that experience
meant for me, especially in a period in
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:life in which I was winding down, and
I could see her eyes light up because
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:she was very concerned, especially being
a trainer recently starting with the
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:company, that she was uncertain about
whether she would be able to make strides,
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:especially in this ever competitive
market, that coaches and trainers live
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:in, but the truth of the matter is, is
that I saw in her eyes the authenticity
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:of why she's doing it, and it reminded
me of why I'm even doing what I'm doing
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:now in this business, Your Speaking
Voice; why I do this podcast, Speaking
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:from the Heart; why it's so important
for me to keep on helping others, whether
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:it's in an audience format, or talking
with others in general, about why it's
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:so important to keep working on your
voice in this ever changing world.
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:Friends.
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:You have to learn that even when you
wind down, you're actually winding
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:yourself back up with ways in which you
can help others to see that they have
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:all the gifts, all the avenues available
to them, to become more successful
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:than they ever thought possible.
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:Being able to hold yourself accountable,
being able to help yourself see what
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:you can ultimately become, means
that you have to give yourself that
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:push, and that Dale Carnegie: Next
Generation course that I took over
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:22 years ago changed my life forever.
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:It helped me become not just the
best version that I can be today,
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:but why it's so important for me
to keep moving myself forward.
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:My classmates, in which I originally took
the course, many of them I still stay
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:in touch with today, and how even four
years after that original class, as I was
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:helping out the instructor as a graduate
assistant, why I was able to create so
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:many opportunities to see that I have
the ability to help so many become not
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:just the best versions of themselves,
but learning how to do that at a young
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:age, so I say to you, don't give up.
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:I'm not saying that you need to be
young to do all these things, and
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:you should just wind down anyway,
but they are still worth fulfilling.
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:Don't give up yet.
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:We have plenty of weeks yet to go.
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:It's all about being able to know when
those times are that you have to put
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:it aside and work on other aspects,
including making those holiday cookies,
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:carving the turkey, or even slicing the
ham, but you have to also know, more
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:importantly, that when you wind yourself
up to the unlimited possibilities of
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:seeing your goals go through at the very
end of the day, even when you think that
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:you're not achieving anything, remember.
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:It's about those small little steps, and
sometimes those small little reminders in
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:life, especially Margie at Dale Carnegie,
that remind you of the opportunities that
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:you have, not only to become the best
versions of yourself, not only to help
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:others achieve what they ultimately set
out to do, but when you start to wind
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:yourself up, you won't be slowing down.
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:You're going to go breakneck speed
through the rest of this year, and
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:hitting of stronger stride in 2025.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 157 of Speaking From The
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:Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart, very soon.
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