Episode 171
Episode #166 - Harvesting The Power To Change & Help Mentor Others: An Interview With Darlene Sochin
The energy that we all exude is based on a number of different factors. One of the most important contributions is what we endure through life in order to bring presence, direction, and clarity as to what we are able to do to achieve our aspirations. What if those direction changes includes going through a life changing diagnosis that fundamentally changes the direction you are heading towards in life, making you pivot in a direction that is even more fulfilling? Today's guest, Darlene Sochin, owner of Indigo Healings & Mentoring, shares her story of triumph through an incredible medical diagnosis, and how she continued her Reiki journey to help others be mentored through purpose & direction with the energies they bring. Through Darlene's story, learn how to create a lasting change that starts with not only your thought process, but how you can influence tomorrow's generation with the choices, decisions, and attitude that can manifest a new reality for your life.
Guest Bio
Darlene is a teacher, speaker, intuitive guide, and an expert parent and child empath facilitator. Nineteen years ago, she and her husband picked up and moved from Boston to Portland, Oregon. On the day they arrived, she received a phone call that confirmed she had cancer. Once the shock dissipated, she was guided by her first angelic encounter to Reiki energy healing. During her first Reiki session, she realized that her life purpose was to help others heal. Today, she is a Reiki Master and Intuitive Mentor for healers and empaths seeking deeper connection to their soul and educate others with low self-esteem who doubt their beautiful gifts. She loves to facilitate those who desire to find their truth, their path, their happiness by co-creating an individualized program for their journey.
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Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode
number 166 of Speaking from the Heart.
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:Today, we have Darlene Sochin.
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:Darlene is a teacher, speaker,
intuitive guide, and an expert
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:parent and child empath facilitator.
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:Nineteen years ago, she and
her husband picked up and moved
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:from Boston to Portland, Oregon.
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:On the day they arrived, she
received a phone call that
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:confirmed that she had cancer.
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:Once the shock dissipated, she
was guided by her first angelic
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:encounter to Reiki energy healing.
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:During her first Reiki session,
she realized that her life
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:purpose was to help others heal.
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:Today, she is a Reiki master and
intuitive mentor for healers and empaths
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:seeking deeper connection to their
soul, and educate others with low self
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:esteem who doubt their beautiful gifts.
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:She loves to facilitate those who
desire to find their truth, their
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:path, their happiness by co-creating an
individualized program for their journey.
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:This is one of those episodes that
when you take a big step back, and you
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:think about everything that we've ever
talked about on this show, it all starts
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:to connect as to why these pieces of
the puzzle, especially when it comes
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:to our own lives, are so important.
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:Being able to heal, being able to
transform your life, being able to
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:build relationships, confidence, and
determination; if you didn't believe
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:that any other sort of individual on
our show hasn't covered that aspect,
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:or any of those aspects as a whole,
Darlene's story is the one that you
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:want to listen to today, because I think
her calling, especially when she starts
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:to explain the cancer diagnosis, how
it's impacted others, even for herself,
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:the connections that are happening in
her life that feed into those energy
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:patterns that surround us, start to
help us to intuitively understand,
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:which is something that we talk about,
as to how safety, security, love, and
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:appreciation all come together in this
journey of hope, courage, and fulfillment.
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:Expressing yourself doesn't always mean
that you have to fall into a certain
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:type of job or position, especially as
we talked about in last week's interview
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:episode with Rebecca Williamson, but
I think that in this story, you're
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:starting to learn a little bit more as
to how we can create better variety,
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:better expression, and better attitudes
with the things that we develop within
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:ourselves, to help others develop
within themselves the same thing.
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:But with that, let's go to the episode.
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:All right.
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:We're here with Darlene Sochin.
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:Darlene, thanks for sharing
your heart with us today.
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:Darlene: Oh!
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:It's a pleasure, and I'm
looking forward to it.
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:Joshua: I'm looking forward to it as
well, and I want to say thank you for
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:being part of this conversation, because
I've had Reiki experts on the show; those
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:that have practiced it, those that have
even ran their own businesses, and I'm
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:super excited to be talking with someone
else about their perspective, because
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:what I find about your perspective
is quite different from others is the
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:backstory, and I'm not going to spoil it.
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:I want to have you share it, so I
really want to start off with this
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:question is what got you involved
with Reiki in the first place?
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:Darlene: Well, it is an interesting
story if you're ready to hear it.
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:My husband and I moved from Boston to
Portland, Oregon in:
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:got here to Portland, I got a phone call
from my doctor and was told I had cancer,
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:and, you know, when you hear something,
and you're in shock, I was in shock for a
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:couple of days, and I had what they call
a spiritual awakening, and for people
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:who don't know what that is, in my room,
I was hiding under a desk, because I had
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:just been paralyzed with fear for a couple
days, and yes, the room filled with this
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:beautiful color purple, and no lie, there
were angels standing in front of me, and
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:they told me their names telepathically:
Gabriel, Michael and Raphael, and
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:they said, "You're going to be fine.
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:Just listen to your intuition;
that voice you hear in your head,
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:that feeling you get in your gut.
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:Follow it.
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:That's us helping you and supporting
you, and you'll know what to do.",
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:so the next day, I woke up, and
I listened to them immediately.
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:I had just this desire to get up and go
to the bookstore, and that's when Borders
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:was still around how many years ago?
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:That was 19 years ago.
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:This was 19 years ago.
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:Joshua: And I remember Borders very well,
so I understand this perspective, so-
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:Darlene: Joshua!
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:Yesterday was the day it happened.
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:Joshua: Wow.
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:Darlene: 19 years ago.
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:Joshua: For my listeners, we're
recording this in August, and obviously
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:coming out later, but I find that
perspective interesting that even the
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:energy surrounding this, and doing this
today to share this is fascinating to
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:me, but I didn't mean to interrupt.
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:Darlene: Beautiful.
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:Perfect, so I went to the
store, and I just let myself be
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:guided, which is interesting.
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:Yeah.
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:I'm not normally like that.
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:I let myself be guided and I
walked around the corner, and
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:it was the self help section.
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:I'm like, "Okay.
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:I've got plenty of time.
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:I can peruse with some self help.",
and I looked at the shelves and
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:on them were these books with
the title Reiki Hands On Healing.
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:There was about 10 of them or so.
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:I sat there all day, right there
in the aisle, and read all of them.
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:Had never heard of it
before, and I just knew.
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:I just knew that this was what I was
supposed to be doing, so this was even
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:before Google, so I got home, and it was
Ask Jeeves, if people remember way back
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:when I was looking for Reiki practitioners
where I was living, and there were three
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:people that had a website at that point.
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:Now, here in Portland, there's at least
250,000 people who have a Reiki website,
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:so at the time there were three people.
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:I immediately scratched off two of
them, and the one that I just loved,
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:I went and met her that weekend,
and started my Reiki sessions.
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:I started receiving them, and
I knew during my first session,
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:this is what I was supposed to
do with the rest of my life.
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:Joshua: Tell me a little bit about the
cancer diagnosis when you received it.
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:You said to us here that it seemed to be
a little bit of a shock when that kind of
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:occurred, and that's kind of what led you
into going to Reiki, but I'm wondering.
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:What was the initial reaction,
and what did that mean for you to
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:turn down this path as a result?
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:Darlene: It was really interesting,
so because it was 19 years ago, it
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:really doesn't feel- like I can't feel
the trauma that I felt at the time.
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:I can only recall it.
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:The anxiety I had, it was more about
making the arrangements to have the
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:surgery; like get this thing out of me,
and the stress, and the anxiety, and
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:the shock, it was more about something
is happening that is out of my control.
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:I had to call my previous employer
and jump on COBRA insurance, because
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:I was in a new place, and that was
my only option to get it covered
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:by insurance, so I called them.
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:They agreed.
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:I'd been there for many years,
and actually had to fly back to
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:Boston for both my surgeries,
and it was the wait time.
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:It was over a month while I waited
for all the doctors to get their shit
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:together and just waiting in that fear,
that was what was more the anxiety and
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:the nervousness than anything, so they
were pretty supportive, and understood
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:that we got this really quickly,
and that part wasn't what was scary.
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:It was the being out of control.
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:Joshua: So, in a way, Reiki helped
you, especially going through that
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:wait period, having that surgery done.
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:It was a way of calming yourself.
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:Darlene: And that's exactly what
the purpose behind receiving Reiki
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:sessions calms the body, and more
than anything I've ever done before,
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:because there's things like Qigong.
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:There's Tai Chi.
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:There's exercise.
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:There's walking.
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:Reiki is you lying
there, receiving healing.
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:You're receiving, rather than having to
do things, because even in meditation,
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:you're trying to quiet your mind.
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:It's you trying not to do something,
so the idea of Reiki healing in any
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:other healing modality, it's that
you get to lie there and receive,
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:and that is the stepping stone to
healing is you allow yourself to
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:receive, and that's the beauty of it.
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:Joshua: Was it hard to receive,
especially with listening to the
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:news that you're receiving, and
the patience that you had to have?
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:I mean, from somebody that has not been
through cancer, and I've had some people
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:in my life, obviously, go through that
process, and I know that treatments can
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:be enduring, especially if you have a
higher stage form, but I'm wondering.
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:Does it help you with a variety of
different aspects, for you personally,
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:when you were going through it?
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:You've been doing this a long
time, and I'm kind of- Yeah.
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:That 19 years is a very long time.
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:I have to commend you.
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:You even said it yourself.
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:You're one of the pioneers that has
started out with this, and a lot of people
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:jumped on as it gained in more popularity.
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:Even if you've seen other clients
that you've had that have gone
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:through this process as you had
with cancer, do you think that
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:your experiences have helped them?
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:Do you think that they've gotten
a lot more out of that experience
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:doing Reiki sessions with you
because of what you've been through?
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:What's your perspective on that?
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:Darlene: It definitely connects
to the people who choose me
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:as their Reiki practitioner.
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:They see something in what I
offer, and most people come
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:because they want to feel safe.
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:They want to feel like there's
someone that can hold them, and take
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:care of them, and that understands
them, so they would even tell me.
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:Most of my clients say they chose
me for those specific reasons.
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:"Your story was unbelievable."
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:"Your story touched my heart.",
is what most of my clients say.
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:Joshua: Leading up to that, you
said that you went to Borders.
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:You picked down this
self help book of Reiki.
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:You started learning about it.
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:What led you from turning into a
practicing amateur, which I'm just
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:going to call it that, to now doing
professionally, being able to go through
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:different certifications and even teaching
other people to facilitate a business?
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:How did that transition happen?
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:I'm sure myself and my listeners
would like to hear that.
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:Darlene: Well, I am a teacher.
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:That's what I did for a living my whole
life, so it just only felt natural that
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:from becoming a practitioner, which
I would do during my first session.
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:I set up saying, "I'm going to learn
how to do this for other people.", so
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:you learn to become a practitioner, and
then the next step, the third or fourth
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:step, is becoming the teacher; the
Reiki master, and there was no question.
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:That's what I would do, because I am
the teacher, and my philosophy is, and
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:I talked about this before I became a
teacher, I was the practitioner talking
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:with other healers, and they would
say, "People come to us to get healed.
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:People look to us to do the work.",
and I said, "Yeah, but you know what?
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:I want to teach them to
do their own healing.
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:I want to empower-" I didn't use the word
empower back in:
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:"I want to teach them
that they can do this too.
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:I don't want people to have to depend
on other people to heal.", so that was
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:my passion, and it is my mission to
this day that I teach people how to do
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:their own healing, and not to always
have to depend on other people for that.
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:Joshua: That's a perfect segue to kind of
dive into your business that you started,
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:so for my listeners, the business that
Darlene has is called Indigo Healings
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:and Mentoring, so Darlene, tell us a
little bit about not just what you offer
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:in the general sense, which obviously is
Reiki sessions, but tell us a little bit
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:about that aspect you just were speaking
about, which is helping others to be
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:empowered to take charge of that energy.
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:Darlene: Yeah.
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:I go deeper using the precepts of Reiki.
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:I teach something that's
called Japanese Reiki.
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:There's so many; there's a lot of
different lineages, and the one I teach
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:is a spiritual daily practice, and
the foundation of one's life- if you
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:have a daily practice, like you and
I had talked about before the show, a
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:daily routine of exercising and hiking,
and if you have something established
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:that you know you do every single day,
there's something healing just in that.
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:You're grounded in your life when you
have this practice, so Japanese Reiki
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:is about teaching this foundation from
which to live your life, and it changes
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:lives, and in my mentoring that I do, it
isn't always about Reiki, even though I
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:always bring Reiki into a conversation.
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:Sometimes people just
come for the mentoring.
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:They're an energy healer, or they're an
empath, which means they feel deeply.
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:They feel other people's feelings, and
I work with people who want to learn
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:about their gifts, and that's where
the mentoring part comes in, so I offer
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:sessions, and I also offer mentoring, and
sometimes it's in the same session, the
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:healing along with the mentoring, because
when something is healed, it surfaces and
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:then we talk through it, and we teach.
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:We co-create a plan, so I don't ever
just end a session with somebody.
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:At the end, we create a plan.
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:What are you going to do after this
session, and this is what intuitively
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:comes through for me as a channel,
and they are given the next step.
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:After this session, these are the
things that you can do if you want
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:to improve your life, what was
the reason you called me for the
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:session, and this is the next step.
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:Joshua: I love that, because you fit into
this model that even I do as a coach.
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:Now, I'm not a Reiki master.
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:I have never done any of the
level certifications, but I
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:feel that I do something similar
with just the traditional
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:practices of, "Let's set a goal."
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:"Let's make sure that you
hold yourself accountable."
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:"Let's create a plan around that.", so
you got me excited hearing that, because
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:I find that part of this story that we
all create isn't just about working with
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:someone else and being able to say, "Hey!
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:You're here.
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:Let me tell you about my day."
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:No, it's not just about that.
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:I want to strategize.
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:I want to be able to give you something
more, so I love that you incorporate
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:what the energy is around it, and
then build upon it, and Darlene, I've
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:had so many people in the show that
talk about that energy, being able to
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:use that for investigative purposes.
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:I've had people with healing properties
as you mentioned, but I love the
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:tack that you're taking, which again,
I'm losing it over here, folks.
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:It's just amazing to hear that, because
it's so empowering, so let's focus
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:on that for a second, so if I were
to come in, and I did have a Reiki
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:session with you, and I wanted to also
have that kind of accountability plan.
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:Let's just say that I'm going
through a rough patch in my life.
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:What would you recommend, even if it's
high level, you giving me this advice?
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:What would you give to your clients as
some of the takeaways that they feel
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:like they're empowering themselves?
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:Darlene: So, interesting is
my work is now mostly remote.
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:To some people, they say, "How
can you do an energy healing
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:remotely, and not in person?"
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:First, that's what I'll do.
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:I'll first explain that, and then
your other part of your question, so
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:Reiki is similar to the feeling of a
prayer, and I know many people can.
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:contest to that, or resonate with.
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:When you pray for someone, or when
you're being prayed for, if you tap
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:into that, you can actually feel the
presence of this love, and the first
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:time I experienced that it was when I
went to Boston to have my surgeries,
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:and my Reiki community that I had
started to create, were praying for me.
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:I felt them from Portland in Boston.
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:I was laying in the bed and I just
felt this warm sensation filled my
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:heart, and I was just filled with
love, so I do the healing sessions
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:remotely from that similar concept.
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:The first part is the mentoring.
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:We talk about, "Why did you call?
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:Why are you here?
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:What are you struggling with?", and the
questions that come through, as well as
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:the answers, it's all individualized.
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:It's all intuitive and I channel
this information from your energy.
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:Most of the time, what does come through
for people- it will look extremely
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:different for each client, however,
one of the strategies that always
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:shows up is, "Do you have a daily
spiritual practice?", because that is
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:the heart of a grounded centered life.
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:It's in that time- first of all,
you're committing to yourself.
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:You're prioritizing yourself, and
you're also connecting to yourself
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:on a deeper level than say, if your
self care is getting your nails done,
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:or going for a jog, or something.
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:When you have a daily spiritual
practice, you can sit with
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:yourself for a few minutes a day.
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:You just tune into your body.
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:I do body scans all day.
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:Where is there tension?
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:Release.
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:It's as simple as that, so when I say
spiritual, it doesn't have to be Buddha,
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:Spiritual just simply means you're
connecting with your soul, so I
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:don't want to have anybody turn
away because of the word spiritual.
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:It just means that you would like
to develop a deeper connection to
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:yourself, to your body, to your
mind, so that you can ask it, "What
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:do you feel like doing today?"
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:"What do you feel like eating today?"
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:"What do you feel connected to
today?", because when you're making
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:those bigger choices in life, you have
this daily connection to yourself.
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:Your decisions will be more clear.
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:You'll be more centered and
trusting of your choices,
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:because of this daily connection.
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:Joshua: I think it's a perfect segue,
because we were talking about, before
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:we started, of the empath focus that
you now have; the mission of that, and I
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:love the fact that you're incorporating
both adults and children, so when
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:people normally think of this process,
essentially some of what you just laid
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:out, children don't necessarily come to
mind right away, and another Reiki person
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:that I have in the show actually had
shared with me that there is a space for
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:that, but I'm curious of your perspective
on how children come into the fold of
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:this, so I'm wondering if you could
tie all those pieces together for us.
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:Darlene: Oh.
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:They have to, because they
are the future generation.
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:We have to give them all the tools
that they can use, and empowering them,
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:instead of them being afraid of the world.
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:I mean, it's a very unpredictable world
right now, and when I was a teacher, I
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:just saw how the system doesn't fit most
kids anymore, and I heard this on an
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:interview that you did with your guest.
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:The education system does not fit even us
anymore, and I was in school back in the
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:seventies, and it's even more outdated
now, and these children are being forced
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:to fit into a system that their bodies,
and their energy, and their excitement
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:about life, it doesn't fit into these
boxes, so the traditional way of helping,
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:and supporting them, is making them
adapt to our world when, really, what
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:we need to be doing is asking, "What do
they need?", and at least meeting them
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:halfway, and giving them more information,
like being more free about talking about
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:emotions, clearing your energy, the
things we run into when we're out in
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:the world, we don't even realize what
we're picking up, and thinking about,
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:and seeing, so we see what's going on
in our outer world, whether it's a car
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:That stays in our bodies that we hold
on to that, and if you can imagine a
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:four year old seeing a car accident,
or homeless people on the street, they
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:need something that will help them,
that will support them, emotionally, and
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:energetically, and help to empower them
to be in this crazy world that we live in,
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:and I work with the parents because they
come with their traumas, so the reason
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:I work with the parents is to help heal
them so they can see what their children
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:are seeing, so I give them this vision
of, "This is what your child is seeing.
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:What would you like them to see instead?
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:What tools would you like them
to have that you didn't have?"
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:That's my main goal.
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:As a child, I had zero skills, and saw
spirits, and ghosts, and I am now the
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:adult helping the parents to see through
my eyes, "This is what your children are
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:seeing.", and then I show the parents
what the children are seeing, so it's
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:like this mirror I give them, so my
main goal is to empower the parents
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:so that they can empower the children.
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:Again, like I would do with my clients,
I'm going to empower you so you can use
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:the tools for yourself, and that's my
goal is that parents have more answers
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:than they would get, whether it's
in the school system, or traditional
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:therapies, to help kids with a lot of
the issues we see, whether it's ADHD,
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:sensory integration issues, the spectrum.
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:There's a lot of words for what
children are experiencing right
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:now, and this is just some more
tools we can give them to thrive,
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:rather than just swallowing a pill.
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:This goes beyond that, so I always
tell people what I would love to
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:see is combining all the worlds,
combining all your options.
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:Give yourself options, and see how they
all can work together, whether it's
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:meant to integrate, and give the child
everything you possibly can to help them.
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:That's my view.
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:Joshua: Yeah, and I want to flip
that on its head for a moment,
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:because you said something that is
pretty profound, and I don't think
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:that even our culture thinks about.
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:Even with the dynamic of a parent
and a child, which we have let
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:school systems decide what is best,
and sometimes, the parents have
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:been left out of that equation.
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:To you, what makes you different
to be able to have that capacity
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:to say to children, to help
them, with their parents?
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:"Think of it this way."
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:" What other ways can you use your
energies for the betterment?",
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:because you're right.
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:There is a lot of negative energy that
I feel like is protruded into a variety
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:of different parts of our lives, and
regardless of what your stance is on a
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:variety of views, which is not really the
goal of this conversation at all, Darlene.
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:I don't want to trap you in anything.
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:What makes this an awesome opportunity
for someone to engage with you;
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:to see that other perspective?
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:You've been doing this, like
I said, for a very long time.
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:I'm sure you have a lot to share from
that, but what would you offer to a parent
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:and child more specifically, than say,
somebody else that's practicing this?
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:Darlene: That's a great question,
so the school system, obviously,
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:has the way they have to run things.
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:Children have to behave a certain way.
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:There has to be certain expectations
placed on them, and even talk therapy,
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:there's only so much that can be said and
done; you know, rules and regulations.
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:When a parent trusts me with being able
to read the energy of the child, and
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:being able to intuitively understand;
again, I channel what people are asking
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:for; what their soul is asking for,
and when a parent trusts me, it's the
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:biggest honor in the world, because
I do have my professional background.
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:I do have the master's degree and all
of that in my years of training as a
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:teacher, but I also have that intuitive,
energetic piece, where I can actually
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:tune in to the energy of the child, and
give that child- this is what a lot of
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:where in other places, I can give that
child that space of safety and say, "Here
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:in this room, here in this space, you
can feel free to talk about whatever you
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:want to talk about, and we will hold you.
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:We will love you and protect
you.", and it's this level of
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:safety and love and appreciation.
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:The children just open up in a way that
you don't see in other spaces and giving
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:them the opportunity to actually talk,
and then provide the information to the
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:parent, and it's an energetic connection
that can't be described in words.
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:It really is.
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:Joshua: Yeah.
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:Your answer to that strikes me in a
lot of different ways, because I think
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:about all the parents that struggle with
even identifying with their children,
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:because of the work that they do.
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:They might not see them very well
in terms of the obligations that
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:they have on a day to day basis.
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:There's many different schedules.
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:There's many different opportunities to
bond over weekends, but weekends aren't
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:good enough, so there's the time aspect.
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:There's the interpersonal connection.
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:There's just so many different variables,
and now that you say that, I love that
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:answer, because it isn't just about
the intuitiveness, in my perspective,
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:like you described, it's really about
building a relationship, and that
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:relationship, especially between a
parent and child, sometimes is damaged
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:by not only the things that might have
gone wrong, and it's not even anything
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:that the parent or the child did, but
it's just about being at peace; being
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:able to lie still, and using some of the
words that you described earlier with
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:your experiences, I could see how you
build those bridges, and I love that.
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:I don't think we do enough, because,
especially United States, I feel
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:that it's just so busy and we
sometimes need to learn how to pause.
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:I know I sometimes, even as
a coach, I need to learn how
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:to pause, so I love that.
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:Darlene: Yeah, like the
families are so busy.
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:They're going, and they're running, and
there's no time, especially if there's
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:more than one child, and my program that
I have set up for families is let's look
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:at your family's schedule, and create a
scenario where everybody involved can find
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:that space, so I help people look at their
family, and their calendar, and their
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:schedule, and take into consideration
that the child that's at hand, the
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:child that we're talking about, how can
we nurture that child in the space of
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:your family and your schedule, and I
sometimes work with parents, and sometimes
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:it's a couple of months before we even
get to the child, because there's all
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:these layers that they first have to go
through before they can even agree to
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:changing the lifestyle of the family.
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:It's multi layered.
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:Joshua: Darlene, we're almost at the
end of our time, but I have this one
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:final question before I give you the
opportunity to talk about your business,
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:and if people want to work with you,
which hearing this conversation,
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:I can't see why people wouldn't.
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:You bring so much variety
to this whole discussion.
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:As I've said, you've been
doing this for 19 years.
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:You have been through what I would
consider for many people a very
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:negative medical experience, which
it's only gotten worse for some people,
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:especially with a cancer diagnosis.
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:You have been to the other
side of that, and so much more.
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:I see you and your positivity, your
radiance comes through the camera lens,
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:although this is an audio only recording.
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:I tell you folks, I've been watching
Darlene the last half hour, and it's
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:just a radiation of happiness, and
positive focus, which I think that is
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:really important for somebody that if I
want to work with is really gifted in.
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:What has this meant for you in
terms of changing your life, and
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:what does it mean for you to keep
doing it even after all this time?
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:What's in it for you at this point?
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:Is there anything in it for you?
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:Is it about everybody else?
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:What is your mission now as
you continue to build out
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:your business and help others?
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:Darlene: Well, definitely, my mission
that keeps me up at night is helping
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:humanity become the best that it can, or
even go back to the way it used to be.
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:What the whole journey shared
with me was to become my own
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:advocate more than anything.
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:I was an empath.
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:I was so painfully shy to leave the house.
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:I hated school.
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:Just everything terrified me as a little
girl, and I was 37 when I had this
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:experience, and it wasn't until all of
this happened, I started to actually
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:find my voice, which is what you teach.
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:I found my voice at 37, because there
were choices and decisions being
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:made without me, or thinking, "Oh.
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:This is the best thing for you.", and
because I had started doing the Reiki,
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:and feeling into my soul, and connecting
with my body, my body started to say, "No!
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:No.
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:No.
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:No.", so the Reiki, and the cancer
diagnosis, it all came together, and
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:I started to feel what my no's were.
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:I started to feel what my yeses were.
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:I started to understand and connect
to what my soul was here to do, and
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:I'm a role model to be an advocate for
yourself, and now I empower parents, and
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:children, to be advocates for themselves.
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:Joshua: 37 must be the magic number
for our interview tonight, because
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:Darlene, what you don't know is that I'm
actually 37 years of age myself, so I
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:must be on the brink of a breakthrough,
because everything that you just
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:described is even for myself, I'm not
perfect, and I even working through to
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:so I love that that number has come up
tonight, and maybe that's a sign for
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:you to that you're doing all the right
things, but with that said, Darlene, I
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:want to give you the last few moments.
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:I would love for you to let my
listeners know about Indigo Healings
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:and Mentoring, how they can get in
contact with you if they want to contact
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:and book with you a potential session.
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:Maybe they want to work on some
goals as part of a Reiki session
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:like you were talking about earlier.
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:I would probably be even interested
myself just hearing all of this,
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:but with all that said, let us know
how they get in touch with you.
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:Maybe they can find you on social media.
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:I'm going to give you the last
few minutes to pitch yourself.
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:Go ahead.
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:Darlene: Okay.
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:Well, besides working with the children
and parents, I do help people who are
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:empaths who are sensitive to energy who
get a sense that they do have gifts that
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:they want to look into and explore their
intuitive gifts, so the healing and
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:mentoring sessions I offer, we dive into
that, and they're all very individualized,
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:so indigohealingsandmentoringpdx.com is my
website, and my Facebook personal profile.
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:I'm out there.
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:I'm honest.
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:I'm vulnerable.
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:I share.
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:I teach on my page, and I also have a
Facebook group I started for parents
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:called Parenting Empathic Children with
Darlene, so if you do have a child that
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:you're working with, I share regularly,
and I have programs for parents, and I
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:have programs for people just wanting
to get in touch with their souls.
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:That's the best way to reach me.
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:Joshua: I love that.
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:I love all those things that you are
doing, and I'm going to put all that in
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:the episode notes just in case anybody
is interested in reaching out even for
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:the website, even getting in touch with
you on your social media, but Darlene,
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:I just want to say to wrap this up.
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:I have found that in my life,
especially with all the ebbs and
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:flows, that sometimes we need to have
positive energies surrounding us.
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:I love the fact that even 19 years
ago, when nobody even knew about what
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:Reiki is, and even about what it meant
to go through that exercise that you
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:stuck with it, despite the number of
people that have also participated.
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:That means that you're part of a
community that you're helping to
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:inspire that generation to not only
help others, but to see the gifts
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:that they have inside themselves,
the energies, if you will, that they
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:might not even have unlocked yet.
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:I find that synergy so important
in our society today, and I
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:love the work that you're doing.
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:I love hearing this conversation today.
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:I'm super pumped just because of
everything that you've shared, and for
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:all those reasons, Darlene, thanks for
being on Speaking From The Heart today.
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:It was a privilege to talk to you.
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:Darlene: Thank you.
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:It was a huge pleasure.
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:Joshua: I want to thank Darlene again for
sharing her story, being able to have her
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:voice project into our lives, and letting
that energy not only manifest in the room
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:that you might be listening this to, or
even in your car, but allowing you and
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:me to get this expert guidance, quote
unquote, because as people go through
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:life, especially through difficult times
just like what Darlene had shared today,
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:you can see how that transformation
didn't let that hold her back.
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:She was able to use that to push herself
forward, but it was really about how
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:you get started, how you manifest
that energy to push yourself into
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:that direction just from the get go.
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:I think that with hearing about medical
issues, or hearing about something
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:that is really tough in someone's
life, surgery or any other sort of
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:life circumstance can be very tough.
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:Whether we think that we can receive the
healing, especially when we go through
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:something of this nature, and whether
we're able to get to the other side
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:to feel like we're safe, being able to
take care of ourselves, whether that's
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:through somebody else or even our own
devices, it sometimes is very tough.
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:We have to feel that transition that
is happening from being the way that
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:we were going through a nine to five
job, and going into a more free flowing
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:pattern, especially if we're on our own,
and the only person motivating ourselves
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:is us, we have to have that safeguard.
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:We have to have that motivation for
us to keep moving that needle forward,
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:and I think that that's what holds
some people back, amongst other
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:considerations, to being able to
push ourselves into that direction.
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:I think that transition that Darlene
went through, especially from being a
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:full time teacher, to be able to create
that satisfaction of doing what she
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:is, helping others find the healing
power of Reiki, which we've talked
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:about with a number of our guests on
the show, helps us to understand that
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:that practice, building that routine,
that spiritual daily practice that
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:we really can be doing, means that
we also have to invest in trust.
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:That trust of knowing that we're
going to get to where we want to get
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:to, even if we have that plan that
we need to work on with somebody
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:else, to keep moving that forward.
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:I think that we even learned today
about the fact that why are we here?
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:What is our calling?
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:Finding that intuition, that energy
perspective that allows us to breathe
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:into all these various areas: mind,
body, and soul, allows us to see then,
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:too, how we can be able to evolve, how
we're able to create connection, how we
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:feed all those energy systems to keep
on growing, and growing, and growing.
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:I know that for many of us,
we need to find that purpose.
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:We need to put that into practice,
and that oftentimes means we
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:have to take a big step back.
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:The daily connections, the things
that we feed into the energy that
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:we have surrounding us, growing
that all together means, in tandem,
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:we need to learn new skills.
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:We have to learn new abilities
and new practices that we have
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:to also put into time management.
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:Putting 30 minutes, an hour, two hours
a day, especially if we're really
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:intense about it, to be able to grow
into what we're ultimately able to
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:share, but it also means letting go of
the things that are negative in nature.
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:Cancer is not a pretty thing.
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:I'm known of many friends, I'm known
of many families, that have gone
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:through this terrible, terrible type of
thing, especially when it comes to the
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:cancer diagnosis, the treatment, the
chemotherapy, the different shifts of
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:energy, and realizing that we have to
build a better focus, a better attention
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:to what we have going on inside ourselves,
but also surrounding ourselves too.
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:That's where energy and
soul comes into play.
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:To be honest, I'm not quite surprised
by Darlene's choice, and it's only
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:because of listening to so many other
stories of how this shift happens in
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:people's lives, so that we can have that
safety, that security, having love and
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:appreciation from others, doing the good
work, but also being rewarded in return,
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:means that we have to find that space.
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:We have to get ourselves into that
bigger picture that we're trying to draw.
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:That means that journey of learning
how to speak, how to create engagement
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:with each other, all comes together
when we're able to say yes, and when
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:we're able to say no, to the various
things that are happening all around us.
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:How we become better, and how we explore
that variety of expression, means that
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:we have to keep on empathically learning
how we can make better decisions,
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:how we can make better choices.
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:I think Darlene today really shared in her
story how that happened, how that all laid
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:out, and it's easy to listen to so many of
these stories, but yet, at the same time,
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:ask yourself, "How would I ever be able to
manifest something like this of my own?"
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:I think that we need to take a great
big pause here to explain that each
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:of these stories, even Darlene's
today, is a way in which we're able to
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:transition our lives into a different
dimension, and it allows us to see
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:that there are multiple avenues to get
there, and Darlene's is no different.
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:She had great amounts of different things
happening in her life, realizing that if
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:she didn't make this choice, she would
have passed away from cancer, but she
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:refused, because she believed in what the
healing power of not only relationships,
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:confidence, determination, could do,
but also what the healing properties
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:of Reiki, the things that really help
us to build into that understanding of
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:how to create healing in our lives is
what made her get to that next step.
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:If you think that just sitting
back and listening to these stories
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:is going to help you change your
perspective, I hate to break the news
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:to you, but it's not exactly the case.
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:Sure.
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:Maybe Reiki, especially in what
Darlene has shared today, will give
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:you that first step, and maybe that
is something that will be of interest,
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:but how long will you stay with it?
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:30 days?
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:60 days?
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:90 days?
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:90 days?
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:I often ask myself that question because,
when I first started this podcast, this
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:was supposed to be for only 90 days.
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:That was it.
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:I wanted to see what it would look
like to just have this exposure,
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:but then I realized that after those
90 days, I fell in love with it.
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:It allowed me to intuitively understand
that if I wanted to grow my business,
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:if I wanted to grow myself, if I wanted
to help others create this relationship,
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:confidence, determination through
the voice that they have in this ever
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:evolving world, we needed to keep
on doing this show, and that's why,
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:even after 166 episodes, we are here.
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:We are present, and we're not going
away anytime soon, and that's the whole
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:deal is that we have to find that space,
especially what Darlene had to find is
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:that space, to move into that direction,
create that powerful presence in her
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:life so that she was able to grow and
speak with that engagement, so that she
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:could help others also find that voice.
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:It's not easy, and it means
that you have to dig deeper than
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:usually other people have to dig.
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:Some people often fall into it.
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:It just happens for them.
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:We've had many guests on the show that
have shared that kind of perspective, but
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:when medicine and energy come together,
it's been surprising to me to see how
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:much of the healing properties that we're
able to see through all these experiences.
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:Friends.
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:I know that it can be very easy for us
to listen to something like this today
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:and be very skeptical, but if you have
any inkling of the fact that Darlene
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:has lived a life that she's been able
to help others through her empathic
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:ability to be able to realize that cancer
wasn't going to stop her, but yet her
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:story was going to be able to empower
others, this is the living proof today.
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:Don't just sit there.
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:Give yourself that opportunity that even
when that shock of bad news comes over
653
:you, whether that is something medically
related, whether that is losing your
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:job, whether it is somebody that has
walked away because they didn't agree
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:with a certain stance that you had.
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:It's all about understanding each other.
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:It's about understanding ourselves.
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:Giving us that grace to be able to become
not only the best version of ourselves,
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:but also learning how we can give
ourselves habits that are life changing,
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:ever evolving, and habit forming, that
remove the negative energy, and feed into
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:our energy systems that empower us to
be able to live the happiest of lives,
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:just like our guest has done today.
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:Journeys are not easy.
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:Journeys might be difficult, but if you
keep asking yourself why you're here?
665
:What is your calling?
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:One day, the answer to that question
will come, and it will be surprising
667
:to you to see what you might be able
to uncover, what you will be able to
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:unearth, as a result of that awesome
experience that you're living, which
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:is the grand adventure of life.
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:The energy of expert guidance not only
comes from different practices such as
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:Reiki, but understanding that when you
have an open mind and open heart, and
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:you're willing to accept new ideas and
new challenges, nothing is impossible.
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:No matter what you might have to defeat,
no matter what you might have to overcome
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:in life, whether it is something like
cancer, just know that there are people
675
:out there that are rooting for you to
win the race, to win the battle, and
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:be able to go on to create that plan
that not only helps others, but don't
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:forget to help yourself be that best
version that you never thought possible.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 166 of Speaking From the
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:Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart very soon.
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