Episode 178
Episode #173 - I Notice You...
Being seen in this very busy world of social media, constant tasks and meetings, along with prioritizing “me” time means that we have to squeeze time in for all the important hobbies, activities, and adventures that we wish to expand upon. Time management can only carry us so far…and yet, yearning for the potential to be seen is vastly challenging in today’s world. What we do to change that is truly important, and what we do behind the scenes is just as important as what we do in front of others to be seen. Today’s episode does not just repeat a bunch of “coaching jargon”, or “recognition of what you are” as is often heard. We explore what it means to be consistent, while also “checking in” with the people who may not have seen you yet to realize & discover not only who you are, but in the process, who you are as well.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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:determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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:This is Speaking From The Heart.
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:Joshua: Welcome back to episode
number 173 of Speaking from
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:the Heart, and yes, I see you.
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:I have seen you for the longest
time, and you might be working behind
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:the scenes, but for every single
thing that you've been doing, I have
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:seen every single piece of worth
that you have brought to the table.
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:As much as you think that you're not being
seen, there are people that are being
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:shown who you are, what you're capable
of doing, and that hard work is paying
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:off one step at a time, and for all those
that work behind the scenes and keep on
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:doing what you're doing, this episode
is for you, because I'm going to tell
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:you today, in this episode, that it's
all going to pay off in dividends, upon
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:dividends, upon dividends, and not only
are you going to be paid financially,
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:but you're going to be paid with the
biggest currency that we should all have:
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:in all the relationships, confidence,
and determination that we're able to
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:receive, it's about what you have been
able to achieve, and that you're a shining
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:influence for those that come, of all
the hard work that you're putting in now.
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:Today's episode isn't about
another set of coaching jargon,
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:or recognition of who you are, or
becoming the best version of yourself.
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:No, no, no.
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:We're going to put that away for today.
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:Instead, I want to work on all the
things that you can do to stand out,
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:even if you're behind the scenes.
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:Now you might be asking yourself,
"That seems to be a little bit
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:of a double entendre, Josh.
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:How could you work on yourself,
be out there, and people recognize
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:you, but yet at the same time,
you're working behind the scenes.
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:You're constantly grinding and no
one's going to see who you are?"
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:Believe it or not, for the last
two years of this business, I've
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:been working behind the scenes.
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:Myself, at my business, Your Speaking
Voice, LLC, has simply been about that.
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:Slaving away in the office, creating
content, working with people that
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:helped me build my business, getting new
contracts, new clients, and developing
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:new content that will continuously
expand not just what I offer, but
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:also expand what you, my potential
clients, could receive, but we're
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:not here to sell you something today.
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:Of course.
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:This isn't about coaching.
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:This isn't about recognition.
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:We have to learn how we can check in with
people, even with the things that we have
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:going on in our lives, even with all the
things that we're doing, so that we build
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:those long lasting relationships that
we're able to build on those hobbies,
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:activities, and adventures that we want
to go on, but more importantly, when
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:we're grinding in the back, when we
are in the back office, trying to make
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:something happen so that we can bring
it alive to our world, we also have to
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:learn that that back office work means
that we also have to connect with each
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:other, our audience for that matter.
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:I think that we have to learn, especially
as we grow in our businesses, even in our
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:own selves, that we would never forget
who got us here in the first place.
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:I can think of numerous people.
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:I think about Gary, my very first
coach that helped me with just getting
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:some of the things that I have off
the ground, criticizing some of the
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:things that I could do better, and
even helping me with my own struggles.
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:I have thought about even
my old soccer coaches: mr.
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:Meals, Mr.
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:Moll.
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:Yes, they were literally their last
names, but those people, even going
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:through middle school, high school, really
challenged my status quo of what it meant
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:to be an athlete, which, let's face it.
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:I wasn't too good at it.
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:I always played on the JV team.
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:I didn't put in that hard work, like
I'm putting in the hard work now, to
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:try to build out myself, but when we
think about all the coaches that we've
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:had in our lives, whether they're
sports, whether it's physical fitness
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:related, whether it's for some sort
of organizational activity, regardless
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:of what it might be, just know that
those people that are working behind
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:the scenes, working really hard to get
you to where you are at, I see you.
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:We don't want to forget about you.
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:We also don't want to forget about those
that might be quietly working, waiting
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:to emerge from the shadows, to see what
they are capable of bringing to the table.
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:This episode isn't about
time management either.
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:We've talked about this in so many
different contexts on previous shows,
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:and I encourage you to go look back on
my expansive catalog of podcast episodes
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:that talk about time management, that
talk about figuring out how is it
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:that you can stand out in front of a
crowd, even through public speaking.
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:The episodes that will come after this
will even speak more to those aspects and
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:trying to challenge ourselves in this ever
changing world, but I really am focusing
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:on solely what it means to be seen, and
the busyness that we call our lives.
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:Of course, we can't look at it from
just our own individual perspective.
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:We have to look at all the
different perspectives that we have.
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:The most recent example of this is even
looking at the Jake Paul, Mike Tyson
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:fight, which regardless of what you think
happened during that fight, whether it's
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:an embarrassment or not to you, know this.
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:It was a creative marketing ploy
that got Mike Tyson back in the place
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:that he deserves to be in, which is
in the ring after all these years.
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:As some people have put it, it's
a creative marketing genius.
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:It was such a ploy to get people to
notice him again, and what creative
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:ways would you ever be able to do that
by getting somebody that is younger,
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:and also getting someone that's older,
more experience in the ring, going
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:eight rounds- well, at least that
was what was projected to be eight
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:rounds, and seeing them go head to toe.
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:Remind you of a movie called Rocky
Balboa, I'm sure, but even then, fictional
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:or not, it was a marketing success,
and that's really what this is about.
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:Trying to find that one little idea,
that one little niche that will get us
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:into that marketing activity that we
always wanted to do; how we were able
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:to build ourselves above all the other
noise that is around us so that we can be
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:noticed, because we can easily blend in.
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:I know that even for my job, even where
I've worked, I sometimes blend in amongst
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:all the other people, and all the other
things, that are being prioritized.
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:We feel like we're just being squeezed
in because they have all these other
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:things that they have to do, and we're
just a small little glimpse in their eye.
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:I'm sure that all of us, one way
or another, if we have been in
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:an office setting or even on the
factory floor, have been forgotten.
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:The things that create our individuality;
maybe the car that we drive, maybe
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:the family that we have raised, maybe
even the sports, activities, hobbies,
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:things of that nature, might even help
us with getting that connection, but
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:yet, sometimes, we're still forgotten,
and I think that's why we have seen,
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:even in the younger generation,
Generation Z, and the emerging
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:generation that will soon be named
after that, have been really forgotten.
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:They feel like they are being missed
out, and this noise that we call the
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:internet and social media, which I've
even spoken to with many of my guests
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:on this show, have even challenged the
status quo of what that looks like.
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:I think that when we are looking at
what it is that we have to discover,
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:what we have to really create, we
have to also look at, is it just
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:reaching to that general population?
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:Are we just trying to find
something that sticks and works
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:and trying to exploit that?
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:I think about the most successful
commercial of all time, which
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:ran many different types of
commercials, which is MasterCard.
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:If you think about all the
different cards that you could
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:think of, MasterCard stands out.
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:Why?
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:Because as a 90s kid growing
up, I remember the commercials.
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:Buying a plane: $400,000.
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:Getting your grocery bill: $125.
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:That was back then when it
was really cheaper, mind you.
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:Being able to spend family on the
airplane eating your groceries
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:that you bought: Priceless.
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:That theme, that consistency of MasterCard
was able to even be able to market
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:themselves being an all premier brand of
all credit cards, and that still, after
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:over 30 years, still sticks in my head,
so how do we get people to remember us,
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:so that we can be remembered, and being
stuck in our head, just like Mike Tyson?
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:Jake Paul?
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:All these other sports athletes?
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:What do they build that really helps
them to get to that next level?
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:Well, In order to answer this question,
we have to turn back to one of our
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:original episodes that really kicked
off this podcast, the only one that
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:really explained about the values of my
business and what is really important:
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:building relationships, which was episode
number three, when we did this, which
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:was aired on June of 2023, and I can't
believe that we're now in the month
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:of December talking about this again.
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:In that episode, I talked about
what it meant, at it's fundamental
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:importance, of building relationships.
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:Relationships isn't just about giving
and taking, which I talked about, but
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:it was about building this foundation.
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:Giving ourselves that ability to expand
outside of our comfort zone and interact
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:with each other, because, after all, we
are social by nature, and I talked about
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:why it was so important for my business
to build upon relationships; why it was
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:so important for us, even for people
that work amongst each other, to build a
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:strategy that allows us to connect with
each other, because without relationships,
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:none of the work that I do, even in my
own coaching, would even be effective,
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:even for myself, which, as a result of so
that has happened since June:
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:it has created opportunities because of
these relationships that I've built that
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:I would have never, ever been able to
get to where I am today, but I think we
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:have to remember that even when we're
working in the back office, when we're
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:toiling, toiling, toiling, trying to
figure out what is it that that next
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:idea will be that will project us to
that next level, we have to remember that
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:it's about not just the details, not just
the things that we put together, but who
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:are the people that will notice us, that
will remember us, for what we've been
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:able to give them, and that in itself,
ladies and gentlemen, is something
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:we have forgotten in today's society.
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:Sure, we always want to get a huge
following, whether it's on Instagram,
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:Facebook, LinkedIn, you name it.
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:Some of the most top platforms,
even TikTok for that matter, rely
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:upon the ability for us to create
this vision of what it means to have
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:hundreds of millions of followers.
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:Sure.
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:That might be almost mathematically
possible, because of how many people
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:are on the earth that have social
media accounts, but you think about
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:all the different countries that
have restrictions on social media.
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:Being able to have the freedom
to look up information.
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:I won't mention those countries,
because obviously I'm not airing
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:in those countries, but, one of the
things that we have to think about,
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:especially when we talk about this
subject is if we're going to be noticed,
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:if we're willing to be looked at in
a positive light, if we want to be
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:followed, we have to look at ourselves.
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:What are we doing intentionally
to create those relationships?
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:Are we willing to step outside of
our comfort zone to meet new people,
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:to see what they have as ideas,
perspectives, thoughts, opinions?
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:Are we willing to challenge the status
quo of our own lives in order to
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:attain that freedom, which we just
literally had Valerie Rubin on the
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:show sharing this, but yet at the
same time, we have to learn about what
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:is important in front of ourselves.
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:What is it that we really want to work
on so that we have those relationships
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:that we can use, so that they know
that we're just not using them?
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:Please provide the opportunities for us
so that we can create these activities,
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:these engagements, these forethoughts.
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:I think that if you can't figure out
what it is that you are obviously needing
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:to do, then maybe you might need to
re-examine, maybe you need to refocus,
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:what it is that creates these engagements,
these activities, if you will.
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:I think that activities in
themselves isn't about just being
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:noticed by being on a TikTok video.
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:Maybe posting something on your Snapchat.
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:Maybe even doing a Facebook Reel.
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:What is really important about it, what
is really an opportunity for us to explore
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:and engage, is that we have to look at
what is in front of us, what is available
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:to us, especially as these relationships
grow, but never forgetting what is behind
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:us, what we're able to see, what we're
able to do, what we're able to show.
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:I think that part of this is really
about an opportunity to figure out
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:how we explore our lives, how we're
able to demonstrate the creativity,
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:and how we're able to prioritize
what it is that we have to do for our
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:business, for ourselves, but also, what
it means to engage with each other.
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:Maybe it's a month to
month call that we have.
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:Maybe we touch base every once in a while.
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:Maybe it's about prioritizing
all these different things
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:that we're able to utilize.
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:Maybe the things that we're trying to
do, what we're trying to change, is that
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:we are really looking at what it means,
what it is, that we have to explore in
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:those relationships, which means we have
to spend time even behind the scenes,
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:to look at what it is that we're trying
to do, what we're trying to create,
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:but yet, I know that for us, especially
me, that if we're able to build those
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:relationships, and we stay consistent with
them, that is when change will happen.
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:That is when we have that following.
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:That is when we start to be noticed.
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:I think that we overhype social media,
and many other platforms, because
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:we think that all the different
gurus, and sometimes we call them
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:gurus although they might not be,
often overlook one important thing.
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:It's the connection that
we have with each other.
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:It's about having that personal,
one-on-one conversation that
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:leads to that word of mouth.
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:That's why even in the days of college,
even when I'm sitting on those hard metal
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:back chairs, my professors would always
say that the most effective marketing
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:tool that you could ever have at your
disposal isn't just about the products
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:that you use, or giving testimonials.
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:It's about the word of mouth,
because people talk to each other.
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:We are social creatures.
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:With all that said, just know that being
heard, and being consistent, is something
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:that I really, truly enjoy with everything
that I do, and I couldn't say that at one
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:point in my life, so it takes practice.
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:It might mean getting in front of
a mirror, especially when you're
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:trying to speak publicly, to feel
a little bit more comfortable.
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:I get it.
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:It's challenging yourself and your
status quo, and realizing and discovering
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:that in this process, you're trying to
figure out what it means to have the
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:right messaging, to connect with your
audience, but even as we go through
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:these things, even as we're trying to be
heard, I want you to know that that work
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:that you're doing, I see you, and if you
need that extra lift, I'm here for you,
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:but this episode isn't about coaching.
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:Of course it isn't!
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:I said that already, but I will say
this to you, if this episode isn't about
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:giving you coaching advice, giving you
tips, giving you tricks, and it's just
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:simply acknowledging that I see you, then
just remember that all it takes is just
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:one person to talk to another group of
people, to talk then to another bigger
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:group of people, which then becomes a
compounding effect, not just for your
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:life, but for your business as well.
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:If we can be seen, even without the
power of social media, without all
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:the constant tasks and meetings that
we have to prioritize, if we're able
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:to squeeze in our time management
duties, the ability to connect with
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:others in our relationships, trust me.
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:Not only will you be seen,
but you will be heard.
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:It isn't just a bunch of jargon, or a
bunch of things that we're trying to
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:dance to in our TikTok videos, but yet,
we're able to see for ourselves the
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:vast opportunities that exist if you're
willing to put yourself out there, and
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:be noticed, in a way that you thought
you would never be noticed, all because
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:you were able not just to become the
best version of yourself, but to see
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:yourself in a completely different
way that you never thought possible,
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:because you deserve to be noticed.
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:Thanks for listening to episode
number 173 of Speaking From The
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:Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart very soon.
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