Episode #194 - Finding Joy In All The Places Of Our Lives: An Interview With Andrea Fung

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 194 of Speaking from the Heart.

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Today we have Andrea Fung with us,

and Andrea is a former lawyer turned

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transformational coach and energy

healer for corporate professionals

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and soulful entrepreneurs based

in Australia and Malaysia.

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With six years of experience in the legal

sector, she has intimate encounters with

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the wide spectrum of challenges faced by

high achieving professionals and is now

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dedicated towards helping these ambitious

business professionals achieve fulfillment

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and find their purpose in their lives.

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As a certified NLP practitioner and

Thetahealer, Andrea adopts a holistic

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approach in empowering her clients to

unearth the wellspring of happiness within

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themselves, and boy, oh boy, do we have

a little bit of a firecracker here on

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today's episode, and you're going to see

why, and I had so many great conversations

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after this interview today with Andrea

that I really got to understand what

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motivates her, what empowers her to help

these individuals move from the place

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that they are at: point A, all the way

to point Z, and beyond for that matter,

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especially when it comes to her coaching,

but the interesting dynamic that I don't

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think I've ever had on this show thus far

is how somebody, especially turning their

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career from a lawyer into being able to

help others, is really not that far of a

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stretch, but when you think about all the

things that a lawyer does, and all the

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things that a coach does, you start to see

that some of the natural progression, the

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tendency of her wanting to help others,

gaining those deeper skills is what really

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flushes out in her story today, but more

than anything, I could see that in her

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eyes there was a power, this loving and

healing that she wants to help others in

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achieving, really set the tone for not

only this conversation, but for all things

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that she is achieving even to this day.

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There's never really a right time to

jump into a new career, especially with

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both feet planted forward, but even

then, if you learn how to be joyful

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in those moments, I think that you'll

find that it can be fun, even when you

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walk past fear itself, to achieve what

you ultimately were meant to do, and

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I think by doing this not only will

allow you to gain that perspective, but

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allow you to pulsate through all kinds

of different types of things that are

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happening in your life, and seek success.

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But with that, let's go to the episode.

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All right, we're here with Andrea Fung.

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Andrea!

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Thanks for sharing your

heart with us today.

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Andrea: Thank you for having

me on your show, Josh.

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I am so excited to go raw,

to go vulnerable, to go deep.

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Share some wisdom.

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Have some fun.

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Let's do this!

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Joshua: I had this feeling that there

would be a little bit of back and

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forth today before we even started

recording, and for the listeners, I've

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already felt like I've had an interview

and we're doing round three now of

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the interview, so this will be a very

interesting conversation to say at least.

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Andrea, I've already let the

listeners know a little bit about

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your background, but I got to say

to you, and I've told you this when

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we're having our 40 minute discussion.

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You are a version of me that I could have

possibly taken many, many, many moons ago.

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I had an interest of being a lawyer

before I did my career, which I work

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for the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania

doing some procurement work, doing some

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other things for the last 14, 15 years.

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You took a track in your life that is

completely different than what I had

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taken as a choice, but I love that there's

some similarity, so I was wondering.

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Tell us a little bit about why you were

vested in becoming a lawyer in the first

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place, because I'm always interested

about why people want to do something like

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that, and then they turn into a coach.

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That, in itself, is very exciting to

hear, so I'll let you tell that story.

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Andrea: Would you believe that

the reason I chose law is because

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I just didn't want to do math?

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Joshua: Is it really that simple?

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I set up that long explanation

only to tell me is because

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you didn't want to do math?

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Andrea: Well.

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It was two points, so I grew up in this

like strict Asian, Chinese household where

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you're either a professional, or you're

nothing at all, so my options of being

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a professional were lawyer, engineer,

doctor, investment banker, and something

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else that I cannot remember, probably.

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I know I thought about doing

veterinary science, but I love

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animals so much and I couldn't bear

to see sick animals every single day.

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I think I would just be crying all

day, all night, so I thought, "Okay.

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Look.

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Out of all of those things, law would

be the one where I wouldn't have to

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specialize, or major in additional math.",

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and I am terrible at math.

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Talk about defying stereotypes, so

that's why I decided to do a lot.

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I thought I love talking.

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I have a really great personality,

great gift of the gap, and

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I thought, "You know what?

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I'm going to do law.",

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and so I wanted to help people though,

and coming from Malaysia at that time

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where I felt like women were very much

treated like second class citizens,

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I wanted to do something that would

help women achieve whatever it is

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that they wanted to achieve; to create

the life that they wanted, and I

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felt like I could do it in Australia.

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I worked in family law.

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I worked in domestic violence.

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I also worked in child protection.

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What I didn't realize was how heavy

that work was emotionally, and I found

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that I was taking work home with me.

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I don't mean like the actual physical

files, but emotionally, the tension

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was there, so I actually quit law once

before after the first three years.

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I was actually made redundant, and

I think, subconsciously, I must

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have manifested that, because the

day that I was told that I was made

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redundant, I booked my flights to

Brazil and I thought I'm going to go

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on this long sabbatical, and I did.

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One of the best days, and the beginning

of an amazing journey of soul searching.

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I was hoping to look

for career inspiration.

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I found everything, but not that,

so I came back and I thought, "Okay!

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Let's do law again!",

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but instead of doing family law,

I did wills and estates, and when

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the pandemic hit, I realized, "Wow!

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If I didn't have the parties.

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If I didn't have friends.

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If I didn't have all the debauchery, I

would actually be really miserable.",

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and so I thought, "What else can I do?"

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I had no idea.

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I just know that law wasn't it,

so I decided to pivot to something

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completely different, like

being a social media influencer.

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Can you imagine that?

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Joshua: Well.

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We are of the generation that if we can

find some sort of niche to have a social

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platform and be an influencer, that's the

way to go, and I think of people, even

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in the gaming industry, Markiplier, Mr.

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Beast, PewDiePie, all

those different people.

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I grew up with those.

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That was sort of my millennial upbringing

that I got to watch those people evolve

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into what they are today, and even then.

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Some people would say, "Oh!

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They're older now, and there's other

people, and Josh, you're dating

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yourself by saying those people.",

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but let's be real.

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You could be any social influencer

just by simply clicking a button,

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and that's how easy it is anymore.

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Andrea.

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I'm kind of curious because you

said earlier, going back to your

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lawyer career, that you took a

lot of these things home with you.

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Can you explain what you mean by that?

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Is it the burdens that families that

you worked with that you took home?

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Was it something more

that you were carrying?

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I'm kind of curious as to what you

were exactly taking home with you.

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Andrea: The thing that I was taking

home was the burden of wanting to do

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a good job, number one, and number

two, because what I see day in day

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out, are relationships breaking apart,

and children caught in the crossfire,

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and I wanted to do the very best that

I can even if not for the parents

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who are actively fighting each other

at the expense of their children.

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I wanted to do the best that I can to

provide the best option available for

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the children that are caught in the

crossfire, so those were the things that

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I was actually bringing home, and it's not

easy to deal with hearing of incidents,

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and accounts, of partners assaulting

each other in front of their children, of

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plates of food being thrown and smashed

right next to the head of an eight year

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old, so those are things that I would

hear and work with almost every single

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day, and as much as the intention was,

to the best of my ability, and to the

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best of my knowledge at the time, was

pure, I think I did not have the nervous

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system required, and the deeper why,

to actually work in that environment.

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Joshua: In other words, you're saying

that you didn't have the skills, or

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the equipment, to be able to do that?

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Is that true?

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Andrea: I can say that.

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Yes.

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I could say that I have the legal

knowledge, but in terms of the life

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skills required to do it, learning how to

regulate my nervous system for example,

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that was something that I did not have,

and when it comes to things like that, in

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anything it is that we're actually doing,

it's important to have our why beneath our

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why; to help push us through, to give us

that grit, to take us through and weather

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through the more difficult times as in

when they come through, because everyone

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in their career has had to weather through

difficult times, right, and I think I

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didn't have that why beneath my why.

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Joshua: I even admitted to you.

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My listeners know this, because

I share this consistently.

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Andrea: Yes.

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Joshua: The why that I keep on working

through is to try to figure out what are

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some of the barriers, what are some of

the things, that we are trying to process

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that allow us to go from point A to point

B, and that has been some of my struggle.

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Even as a coach, we all have struggles

with trying to even work through our

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own shit, as I like to call it, but

even for you, you say to me that you

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felt like you needed those skills.

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What was your moral

compass to really do that?

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You didn't have to do that.

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You had a lawyer degree.

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That was what you were bound to do.

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You were there to legally represent.

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Why dig deeper?

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Andrea: I guess deep within myself,

I always knew that I wanted to do

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something meaningful with my life, so

for as long as I could remember, I have

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always wanted to find a job, or find

a career, or be engaging in work, that

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felt like this is what I came here to do.

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This is what I was born to do, because we

spend more than half of our lives working.

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It did not make sense to me to be

working in a job, or in a career,

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or whatever activity it is,

that's taking up all that time.

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It didn't make sense to be investing

that much time in something that

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wasn't fulfilling or meaningful.

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Joshua: Well, then with

that said, why pick a coach?

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Andrea: I didn't actually pick coaching.

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Joshua: Okay.

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So, so wait.

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So there was something in between

before you became a coach?

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Andrea: Oh, there were so many things

in between before I became a coach.

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Joshua: Oh, there, now I found the butter.

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Okay, so you need to churn this for us

because sometimes people think, "Oh.

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Well, okay.

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Fine, so she wanted to help people.

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She automatically became a coach.",

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so you are still in the soul searching

quest to essentially get to where you're

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at, so I'm wondering if you can walk

us through what those look like for us.

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Andrea: Okay, so let's do a brief recap.

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First and foremost, I knew that I wanted

to help people, right, and secondly,

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I also wanted to be engaging in work

that I felt like this is what I was

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born to do, so at the time when I

was working as a lawyer, I picked law

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because number one, I didn't want to

do math, and number two, it was one

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way of helping people, but honestly.

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When you're like 19, what

do you know about life?

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Joshua: Oh, everything according to

some other teenagers I've talked to.

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Andrea: Okay.

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All right, so in the life that I grew

up, even though it was privileged

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in some ways, and absolutely

horrible in so many other ways,

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I didn't know enough about life.

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Okay?

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If you don't know enough about life, you

are never going to be able to dig deep

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enough because you have not accessed

those deeper parts of yourself, right?

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You can't find the why beneath the why,

so when I decided to quit law for the

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second and final time, I didn't know

what it is that I wanted to do, so this

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was end of 2020, and I made a list of

a hundred things that I would do for

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free forever, and the top three was to

be hanging around in exotic beaches in

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various bikinis, sponsored, obviously,

because influencer and to spread messages

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of positivity, and so I thought, "Let's

take the social media influencer route.",

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and at that time, I had decided, from

this point onwards, I am going to

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follow strictly what brings me joy.

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Not what I think is going to

be the best logical option.

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Not what I think what other people would

say, or what my parents would say is the

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best, most efficient route to success.

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I was going to do what brought me

joy, even if it didn't make sense.

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Even if it's just like a small decision

of whether I want to have a milkshake or

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have water tonight; just something like

that, so from that point onwards, I went

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from social media influencer, and then

a few people approached me saying, "Hey!

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I love what you're

doing with your account.

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Can you help me manage my account?",

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so then I pivoted to become

a social media manager.

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Did I know anything about how to become

a social media manager three months in?

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No, but within that three months,

I met someone who was a digital

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nomad coach and I thought, "Oh!

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I want to help women experience

transformative travel as well, but how

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can I help women build up a business in

he midst of a pandemic during: 2021

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I was still building up my own business?",

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so obviously, it's safe to

say that business tanked,

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horrifically, but I thought, "Okay.

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You know what?

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I decided I'm going to-

not surrender- Well.

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I can say surrender.

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I'm going to throw my hands up

in the air, and I'm going to

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surrender to things that I cannot

control", because I was exhausted.

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I was burnt out, and I went interstate

on a holiday to Sydney, and when I

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was in Sydney, I happened to open

up my LinkedIn account after months,

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and there was an offer from this

director of a coaching institute here

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in Brisbane, offering me a job to be-

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Joshua: Wow.

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Andrea: to coach his clients

that came out of nowhere.

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I literally exchanged two comments

with him on one post about quantum

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shifting, and suddenly, an opportunity

landed on my lap, and the thing is if

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I had opened up my inbox a month or

two prior, I would have turned that

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job down because I was exhausted.

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I was burnt out, and I just didn't

have capacity to think clearly, or

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to even see what an opportunity that

was, because I would have still been

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focused on building my own business,

but because I decided to surrender and

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just focus on what brought me joy, what

brought me happiness, what gave me rest,

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suddenly it happened right when I had

capacity to take on the opportunity,

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so next thing you know, I went from

zero clients to 10 for the coming year.

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Joshua: Wow.

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Wow.

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Andrea: Right.

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Joshua: I'm sitting back in astonishment

because all it took was essentially using

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social media, engaging in conversation,

to land you a job, so there you go.

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That's the power of social media

using it for a positive force, and

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being able to do something, because

some people are very skeptical.

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They think about it as

being a negative influence.

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Here it is.

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It's landing you a job.

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I love that.

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You got your first 10 clients.

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What happened next?

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Andrea: What happened next was this

particular director had a bit of a

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disagreement with me, and another one

of the coaches that we were working

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together with in terms of how he wanted to

restructure his coaching institute, right?

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In terms of the business plan, and stuff

like that, so in the end, we decided

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to part ways, and right around the time

that we parted ways, I was learning NLP.

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My brother, whom I wasn't very close

with at the time, invited me to go

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over to his place to help him nanny,

because he wasn't able to find a nanny

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for his two kids at the time, and so

it was an opportunity to bridge this

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almost estranged family relationship.

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We didn't have a bad relationship.

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There was no ill will.

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We just didn't have

much of a relationship.

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That's all.

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There was no animosity, and so

I saw this as an opportunity.

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I thought, "Okay.

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You know what?

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I'm just going to go.",

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and from that point onwards, I had

opportunities to heal my entire family

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relationship, and when I say heal

entire family relationship, what I mean

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to say is that prior to this point,

every day that I spend with my parents,

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or at home, there's going to be some

sort of breakout of World War III.

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That was how bad it was.

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That was honestly how bad it

was, and within that year;

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this was 2022 at this point.

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Within 2022 and 2023, all my family

relationships were healed just like

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that, and while I was in that state,

I was not actually able to work on my

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business, because I was with family,

and they took up a lot of my time.

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They took up a lot of my energy.

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I was feeling quite stuck as well, and

this is where the next level of expansion

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came in, when I was stuck, and I did not

have the capacity to work on my business.

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I felt terrible.

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I felt really, really terrible,

and I felt like I was a failure.

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I felt like, "Why can't I do both?",

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and then I thought, "You know what?

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I lost focus.

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I stopped focusing on

what brought me joy.",

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and at that time, I said to myself,

"What was going to bring me joy?

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Oh!

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I'm going to go look for my soul family.",

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so I hired a Thetahealer, a trans

channeler who also did theta healing,

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and from that point onwards, I

experienced theta healing with her

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and my entire vibration just lifted.

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I felt so light.

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I had beliefs of, "I am

not enough removed.",

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and I had beliefs of, "I am lovable and

I'm enough installed within my being.",

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and that is how theta healing found

me, and I signed up to all the courses

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for theta healing for the rest of

the year, and all of that, doing all

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those courses to be certified as a

theta healer, it was the equivalent

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of doing 10 years of therapy.

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Joshua: Wait.

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You did 10 years of therapy equivalent

through theta healing, and you

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did that in less than a year?

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Andrea: In less than a year.

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In three full courses.

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Joshua: Wow.

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Andrea: Yes.

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Joshua: Wow.

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That is incredible.

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Yeah.

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Andrea: Exactly, and the thing is that

with all of these things, I want to

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give you more of a deeper perspective

of how magical this whole journey is.

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Prior to becoming a coach, I did not

know that there were such coaches.

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I thought coaches was like soccer

coaches, volleyball coaches.

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I didn't know that such coaches

existed, and same with theta healing.

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I can't even research something like that,

because I don't know that they exist.

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It's like having two physicians talking to

me about the physics of how balls bounce.

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I don't know what that is.

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Joshua: Yes.

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Andrea: So how can I research something

that I know nothing about, and I know

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nothing of its existence, but what I did

was with every single step of following

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my joy, following my curiosity, every

time I hit an emotional snag, I allowed

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myself to heal, and every single time

that happened, I opened myself up to

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everything, to everything that is for

me, to everything that is possible for

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me, and I allowed myself to take the next

step, to take that leap of faith, into the

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unknown, and that is when magic happens.

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Joshua: I was going to say, so the

magic that happened is that you decided

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you wanted to be a transformational

coach, which is now today, why

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you're offering what you're offering:

ascension, mentoring, corporate

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meditations, transformational coaching.

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True?

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Andrea: Yes.

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Joshua: Out of the experiences that

you've had with other coaches, and

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what you even do now, what would

you say is the most rewarding aspect

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that you have created for yourself?

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Meaning, was it about the self love

that helped you propel that forward?

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Was it about the healing that you've

experienced with your family that

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really got you over that rock?

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What would you say was the number

one thing that was the switch

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that said, "I'm going all in."?

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Andrea: It was taking the leap of faith.

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That is the main thing.

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Lots of people, I think they are so

focused on healing, because they feel

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that they have to be perfect to a certain

way, to a certain degree, before they are

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ready to do this, or certain things in a

circumstances have to be right, but there

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is never really a right time, and when

it comes to big things, and especially

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when it's things that are unknown to you,

you are never going to feel proper ready.

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How you know that you are ready is

when there is an opportunity that

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drops in front of you, and you take

the leap of faith, and you take

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that opportunity, because if you

were not ready, the opportunity

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would not even drop to begin with.

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Joshua: Do you think the theta

healing coach was one of those

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things that just dropped as one

of those opportunities, and if you

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don't believe that, you can tell me.

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Maybe it was just a sheer coincidence,

but from the way you're describing

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it, it sounds like to me that this was

set up for you to not only walk away

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from all that past that you were just

talking about earlier, but allowed you

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to get onto the path of what you really

enjoy doing, which is helping others.

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Is that fair to say?

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Andrea: Oh!

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It is absolutely a

hundred percent accurate.

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All of the things that dropped,

all the opportunities that dropped.

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If I were to look at everything in

the past, I can see how every single

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breadcrumb, even though on its own in

isolation, seemingly makes zero sense,

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okay, but when you follow each breadcrumb

at some point, six months down the line,

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a year down the line, two years down

the line, you're going to see how all

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of the dots connect, and that Theta

healer, she's actually a trans channeler.

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I didn't even know what Theta healing is-

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Joshua: What is Theta healing, by the

way, before you even go any further?

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Just for my listeners, because I'm- you

said it a few times and I meant to ask you

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earlier, so just catch us up with that.

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What would that entail if

I went to a Theta healer?

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Andrea: Theta healing is

basically quantum therapy, so we

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look into your energy centers.

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We dig deep into your subconscious

beliefs, and then we remove the programs

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that no longer serve you, so for example,

if you felt that you are worthy, and fully

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believe that you are worthy and deserving

of success and that you could have it,

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you would take every leap of faith.

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You would take all the steps.

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There would be not barely any

fear, or even if there was, you

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wouldn't care anyway, because you

know that this success is mine.

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This success is for me,

and I'm deserving of it.

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I'm worthy of it, right, but then because

of the subconscious beliefs that have

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been imposed on us from the time we were

young, we believe that we need people.

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We are afraid of rejection.

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We're afraid of abandonment.

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We believe that we are not enough,

because we've been conditioned to require

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people's approval, so if we removed

all of those beliefs and installed in

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all this more healthy beliefs that will

enable you to advance towards success,

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to advance towards wholeness, wouldn't

that make the journey so much more

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easeful, and so much more joyful as well?

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Joshua: Andrea.

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What do you think has to happen for

your life to be even more joyful

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than what it is now, because let's

be real, and I was being real with

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you before we started the show.

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I've been real consistently for my

listeners as I approach these magic

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numbers of 200 that flash across my

eyes for my show, I've learned a lot

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even in these discussions about what

it means to work through my stuff,

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and to actually do some of the things

that I advocate for my listeners to

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also do the same, because there are

essentially breadcrumbs for them too.

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You said it so accurately that

there are little hints that if

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you're willing to just pay attention

to them, they are staring at you

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although they're very, very small.

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You got to squint sometimes to look at it.

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What is it that you have to yet due

to attain even more joy than you

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already are, or have you attained it?

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Andrea: I feel like I have attained it.

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Joshua: But you know what?

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That's okay too, because that means to

me that what you're doing, what your

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program is, is also transforming not only

just yourself, but also your clients.

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Andrea: Yes, absolutely, and look.

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I say that I have attained that

joy, but it's not to say that there

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is no more joy to be attained.

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There are so many layers to us to

dig deeper, and the deeper we go, the

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greater joy we get to access, so I

think the first step I feel to attaining

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this joy is to understand that being

this joyful, being this state of

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love, it's actually our natural state.

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We don't have to do anything to

attain more, to be more recognized,

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or whatever, to attain this joy.

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You can access it yourself by accessing

yourself, digging deep within your

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beliefs, shifting and peeling back

the layers to find the joy that

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is your natural state, and that

can look and sound like anything.

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For you, Josh, I feel like when you

are asking me these questions and when

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you're conducting this podcast, I feel

that this is one form of an expression of

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your joy, because I feel that happiness.

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Joshua: Well.

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You are right, because I like

seeing my guests squirm a

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little bit, but that's okay.

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That's a whole other discussion in itself,

but no, to be truthfully serious, because

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I know that I could joke around a bit

and I can have that kind of fun because

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I feel a lot more sense of comfort and

relaxation knowing that I can have that

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kind of, that reciprocation knowing that

you know that I'm just getting around.

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Part of this for me is that I really

do believe that everybody's entitled

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to this best version of themselves.

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That's something that is the ultimate

mission of what I try to do too.

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Sometimes people don't see it in the

subjective ways that you're describing.

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Some of them want concrete,

empirical, objective analysis

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to be able to say, "This is what

I'm able to do to achieve that.",

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but that's just one modality.

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It doesn't mean that my modality is

wrong, or your modality is wrong.

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It's just the way, a process of doing

it, so to measure joy, how would you

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say for somebody that wants to attain

that same joyfulness that you have right

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now, which is obviously the epiphany of

it, that ability to create that, and

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you can manifest that, especially with

all kinds of things that you're doing.

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How can someone that has no experience,

has no idea what we've been talking

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about, be able to start that

process with even using some of the

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techniques that you've talked about?

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Andrea: Well, we could

start at the very beginning.

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Why don't you create a list of a hundred

things that you would do for free forever,

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and look at the top 5, look at the top 10,

and allow yourself to do that, and this

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is something that we live in this modern,

chaotic, busy world and culture of hustle.

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At the beginning, it is going to be

quite hard, because this is something

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that you have to make time to do.

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Joshua: Wait a moment.

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I need to do time with this?

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Bullshit!

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I don't want to do any of that,

and I say that with all earnest

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because some people will say, "Well,

I don't have that kind of time.",

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but I even say to my clients,

it's about what you really want.

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If you really, really want this, you

would put the time aside to make this

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a priority, and I've had to say that

to myself is that if I really, really

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want this, I would put that time to

work into not only what I need to

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achieve, but also what it is that I

ultimately want to see as the goal.

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When you say time, I want you

to be really earnest with you.

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How long did it take you to find that joy?

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Be real with us.

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Andrea: If I started, let's say

early: 2021

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like full homecoming peak joy,

last year in, let's say, May.

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May, 2023.

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Joshua: The start of this podcast.

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How interesting.

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Go on.

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Andrea: Yeah, so let's say it took me

two and a half years; two and a half

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years of consistent walking in the

dark, in the unknown, following the

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breadcrumbs, allowing myself to hit every

single emotional snag, and go through

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every single through, not over, not

circumventing, not under, go through every

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single fear, go through working through

the vibrations of shame, and grief, and

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fear to get to this point, I would say two

and a half years, but that was my journey.

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Everyone's journey is different.

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Joshua: That is different, but part

of it is that was your timetable,

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and that's okay that it took you

that long, because look at you now.

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You're doing things that other

people would be envious of.

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They are happy about the

fact that they see this.

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Maybe some of them are not happy

because they're like, "Dang it!

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She's doing that.",

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but part of it is they're jealous,

and maybe it's a jealousy factor.

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Maybe it's something else, but to

me, you don't have to be jealous.

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That's a human, basic instinct that

sometimes we need to say, "That's

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not what we're trying to say.

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That's not what we're listening to today."

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We need to push that aside, and obviously,

you've had to work through a lot of

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things to get to that point, so let's

just break it down for what it is.

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Do you often feel, and I am looking at

your website as I even ask this, because

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a lot of the questions that you ask or

even questions that I even sometimes put

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my clients through to kind of understand

it; to get a kind of a profile of it.

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I mean, do you fear failure or making

mistakes with trying to achieve this

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joy that you're even working on now?

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I mean, obviously you're saying

to us that you've attained it,

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but you make mistakes, right?

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Andrea: Yeah.

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All of us make mistakes, but

in saying that, is it really a

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mistake and is it really failure,

or is it just a feedback loop?

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You try one way and it's like, "Oh, okay,

so maybe this is not giving you the joy,

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or the excitement, or the result that

you were hoping or expected, so okay.

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This is not the way.

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Try the next one; so what?"

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Joshua: I think that's a big

part of it is that you have

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to know that it's okay to try.

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It's okay to try again.

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: 00:30:06

Sometimes it takes multiple times

to try in order to find something

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: 00:30:10

that really adapts with you.

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: 00:30:12

With that said, Andrea, we're

almost at the end of our time.

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: 00:30:14

I can't believe how quickly it has

flown by, but I have to say this to you.

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I really, really earnestly

curious about this.

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: 00:30:23

You seem to me as somebody that really

is in touch with themselves, meaning you

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manifest something that comes from the

inside, and that's because of all this

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: 00:30:34

hard work, two and a half years worth

that you've gotten to at this point,

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: 00:30:38

and that's something to commend for.

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I congratulate you for that,

because not many people- Yeah.

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: 00:30:42

Not many people can easily say that,

and they are still working on themselves

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five years, 10 years, 15 years from now.

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: 00:30:49

What is your best piece of

advice to somebody that wants

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to start this journey today?

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They might not have the

resources to be able to work

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with somebody like you and me.

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: 00:30:58

They are just trying to just make

it day by day, trying to figure out

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: 00:31:01

what is their place on this earth.

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: 00:31:03

They're trying to transform themselves.

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: 00:31:06

What's one small thing that they could

do to start changing their mindset today,

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and I know that's a big ask, and there's

so many different choices to choose from,

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: 00:31:14

but in your experience, what do you think?

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Andrea: In my experience, because I work

so much with joy, and I've mentioned the

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word joy so much at this point I think

if anyone were to take a shot every

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: 00:31:25

time I say the word joy they'd be blind

drunk under the table by this point.

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: 00:31:29

Joshua: It'd be a drinking game, right?

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Andrea: Yes.

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Joshua: I'm not advocating for

drinking, by the way, my listeners.

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Please don't read into the between

the lines of that, but anyway.

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Andrea: I would say that my process

that has been the most life transforming

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for me is that I learned that joy is

the way our soul communicates with us,

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because it's our natural state, and so

every single time you follow your joy,

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it is going to synchronistically trigger

a set of events, because every single

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time you feel joyful, you feel inspired.

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You want to go do something, and if

you allow yourself to just go and do

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that thing, it will take you to the

next breadcrumb, and if you just allow

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yourself to follow that breadcrumb,

whilst at the same time, being completely

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detached from the outcome, and allowing

each experience to just be that

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: 00:32:20

experience, it is going to lead you to

be in a position where you're able to

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receive your higher purpose, because I

think that's what we all really want.

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We want to have direction.

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We want to have purpose, and following

your joy is the most supportive, most

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abundant path for you to achieve that, and

the thing is, what's really interesting is

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: 00:32:44

that there will be several layers to this.

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: 00:32:47

You're going to find your direction.

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: 00:32:48

You're going to find your purpose, right,

and that can look like a career, or that

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: 00:32:52

can look like a life path or whatever

it is, but when you get to that point,

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you're going to realize that you're just

here to have fun, and the purpose, this

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career, or this work, is just one aspect

of it, but you're just here to have

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fun, and the deeper you go, the more you

access your soul, the more you access

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your frequency, you'll realize that you're

just here to do this because you want to.

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You're just here to do this life

on earth because you want to.

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Joshua: Those are some wise words.

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I have more thoughts with that,

but before I say them to wrap us

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up, Andrea, why don't you give

our audience a few minutes here.

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I'll let you have those to describe your

coaching, people might be interested.

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I did not mention until just now, although

I'll list it later on about the fact

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that you are an international guest.

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You're living in the great old

country of Australia, which I've

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always enjoyed my Australian guests.

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: 00:33:45

You are no exception to that, but I'm

wondering if you can let people know

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how they can get in contact with you.

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: 00:33:50

If they are interested in

coaching, maybe there's some

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: 00:33:53

way that they can get in touch.

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: 00:33:54

Maybe you want to describe a little bit of

some of your coaching offerings although

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: 00:33:57

I hinted at this a little bit earlier.

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: 00:33:59

Maybe you also want to leave us

some social media that we can

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: 00:34:01

follow you on, but with all those

things, I'll give you the last few

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: 00:34:04

minutes to share all that with us.

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: 00:34:06

Andrea: Okay, so the best first

step to do would be to go to

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: 00:34:09

my website, www.andreafung.com.

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: 00:34:12

I trust that, Josh, you have all

of the links to my socials at

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: 00:34:15

this point, which will be listed.

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: 00:34:17

Have a look at that, and see what

it is that actually appeals to you.

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: 00:34:20

The best way to work with me is I have

packages of three sessions, six sessions,

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: 00:34:25

or it could be three months or six months,

but I would always start with a three

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: 00:34:28

session energy healing first, because

with those ones, we will be able to see

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: 00:34:31

whether we jive, how well we actually

work together, and it will be the part

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: 00:34:35

where we start getting an energetically

intimate with each other to put it in

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: 00:34:39

plain terms, and so with that one, with

the starting point, it's about identifying

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: 00:34:44

one particular problem, one particular

fear, and we'd completely address that.

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: 00:34:49

We eliminate that.

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: 00:34:50

We shift that, and then from that

point onwards, we'll see what

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: 00:34:53

is the next level of ascension.

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: 00:34:54

Another way to contact me, to access

my content would be through Instagram.

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: 00:34:58

That would be the best way to contact

me, and if you are a burnt out, stressed

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: 00:35:02

out, corporate professional or soulful

entrepreneur, and you're looking for more.

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: 00:35:08

You want to experience a life of joy.

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: 00:35:10

This is not about selling your wealth,

or fame, or abundance, or whatever.

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: 00:35:13

I'm talking about accessing your soul,

and embodying that soul frequency, and

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: 00:35:21

awakening to the joy that is within you

towards finding your higher purpose.

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: 00:35:26

If that is something that appeals to

you, if that's something that speaks

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: 00:35:30

to you, if you're receiving this

transmission, then get in contact.

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: 00:35:35

I would love to get to know you.

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: 00:35:37

Joshua: I think they

heard you loud and clear.

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: 00:35:39

I will put everything in

the episode notes for sure.

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: 00:35:42

I'm going to leave this with this note.

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: 00:35:44

I have to.

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: 00:35:45

I feel it's an obligation.

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: 00:35:46

You said something about not only joy,

but about finding that way to have

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: 00:35:53

fun, and you remind me of a guest named

Piret who talked about the concept of

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: 00:35:57

happiness when I had her on the show.

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: 00:35:59

That's really what we're ultimately

striving towards, but the one thing that

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: 00:36:02

you added an extra layer to that I wish

that I would have dug in with Piret was

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: 00:36:06

the fact that you are doing this in a

way that unlocks people's ability to

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: 00:36:14

see inside themselves not just the best

version, which I would describe it as, but

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: 00:36:19

the way that you describe on your website:

perpetual transformation and empowerment,

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: 00:36:25

and I think that's where we find our

joy when we have that perpetuality

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: 00:36:30

and that curiosity to seek it out.

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: 00:36:33

You have sought it out.

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: 00:36:35

Once a lawyer turn into many other hats

into what you're doing now, Andrea.

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: 00:36:40

I freaking love it so much.

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: 00:36:42

You, like I said, remind me

of who I wanted to be, but

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: 00:36:47

turned into something else.

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: 00:36:48

I got there.

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: 00:36:49

It took me way longer

than less than a year.

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: 00:36:52

It took me 14 years, but it got

me to where I'm at now, and for

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: 00:36:55

all those reasons, thanks for

being a version of myself, Andrea.

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: 00:36:59

Thanks for being on

Speaking From The Heart.

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: 00:37:01

I am so happy for you, and I only wish

you so much more success for your business

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: 00:37:06

and beyond, and from one international

coach to another international

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: 00:37:10

coach, thank you for all you're

doing to help others find their joy.

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: 00:37:15

Andrea: Thank you, Josh, for creating this

platform and for creating this space to

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: 00:37:21

allow your guests to be seen and heard,

and also to allow everyone else listening

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: 00:37:26

to your podcast who resonates with the

messages and the wisdom shared to feel

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: 00:37:30

seen and heard, because on this journey

of personal development, sometimes you

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: 00:37:34

feel like we are all so alone, but I

think we just need to realize that there

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: 00:37:38

are other people who are also going

through similar journeys, and it's nice

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: 00:37:42

to just have that bit of community to

know that there are other people out

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: 00:37:45

there who are feeling the same way,

who are going on a similar journey, and

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: 00:37:49

that we're all really just walking each

other home to ourselves, to joy, so

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: 00:37:53

thank you so much for having me here.

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: 00:37:55

Joshua: Absolutely, and I

definitely agree with you.

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: 00:37:58

It's a collaborative effort, so thanks

again for sharing your perspective.

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: 00:38:02

Andrea: Thank you.

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: 00:38:04

Joshua: Again, I want to thank Andrea

so much for being part of the show,

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: 00:38:06

sharing her energy, which was something

that I still feel so empowered, even

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: 00:38:12

after all this time, even after all

these perspectives that I have learned

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: 00:38:16

on the show, and have been able to gain

so many different types of perspectives

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: 00:38:20

alongside of you, my listeners, I think

this episode hits a little bit differently

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: 00:38:25

for me today, and I think it's all because

I am living, in this very moment, this

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: 00:38:30

transformation that Andrea has undergone,

because I still, even after all this time,

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: 00:38:36

work a full time job, and I am afraid.

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: 00:38:39

I'm afraid of taking that big step

forward, even after everything that

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: 00:38:42

I have ever achieved, I know that on

the precipice of that threshold that

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: 00:38:47

I can cross, I have this ability to

be a high performing, highly energetic

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: 00:38:53

leader myself, so Andrea, when you

listen to this, thank you so much for

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: 00:38:59

being part of this show and inspiring

me to keep on walking that path because

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: 00:39:03

I am going to cross that threshold.

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: 00:39:06

I'm super excited about it, and I

appreciate everything that you have

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: 00:39:09

shared with me, even afterwards, that

I am going to even share here today for

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: 00:39:14

our listeners, so let's break it down.

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: 00:39:17

I think that you can learn so

much about Andrea's story just

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: 00:39:20

because of all the different

types of careers that we all have.

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: 00:39:24

Sometimes we have these

quests that we go on.

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: 00:39:26

We're trying to figure out what is

the best way to overcome, to be able

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: 00:39:31

to learn the ways that we are able to

influence others, to find that hobby,

689

: 00:39:36

to find that knowledge that we are

drawing upon in order to help others.

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: 00:39:41

It could be in a trade.

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: 00:39:42

It could be in a skill.

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: 00:39:43

It could be just by helping others

with their legal problems: family law,

693

: 00:39:48

domestic law, other types of general

work, real estate for that matter.

694

: 00:39:54

Andrea has covered a lot of different

territories, but there was one territory

695

: 00:39:58

that I think really shines brightly

for her today, which is the territory

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: 00:40:03

of really getting to the heart of

why she's doing all this in the first

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: 00:40:07

place, and that is to help others.

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: 00:40:11

Doing a good job, doing something

really well, and giving people that

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: 00:40:15

option to know that they're working

with somebody that is of a high

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: 00:40:19

caliber, a world class influencer, is

certainly a great gold star to put on

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: 00:40:24

your resume, but is that simply enough?

702

: 00:40:27

Is that enough to really cross that

threshold, that precipice, that I'm

703

: 00:40:31

talking about even in my own life?

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: 00:40:33

I think for all of us, we're trying to

design in our lives what it is that we

705

: 00:40:38

want to measure our success, but success

is really by answering the question

706

: 00:40:43

of why, which beneath the surface, is

answering yet another question of why are

707

: 00:40:49

you doing what you're doing, so there's

really two layers, and even more layers,

708

: 00:40:54

of asking that question of why, but

those skills, the life skills that are

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: 00:41:00

needed, the things that we engage with,

the things that create opportunity, means

710

: 00:41:04

that we have to dig deeper than we might

have never thought we could ever dig.

711

: 00:41:09

Sometimes we want to deal with so

many different types of opportunities,

712

: 00:41:12

getting from point A to point B, but

it could be really point A to point

713

: 00:41:16

Z, which we've talked about on a

variety of different episodes here on

714

: 00:41:20

this podcast, which I encourage you.

715

: 00:41:22

Go listen to anybody else, and you'll

see that it took them so many different

716

: 00:41:27

types of steps, even for my own journey,

even at this point, to be able to finally

717

: 00:41:33

land on something that I really love

doing which is helping people find their

718

: 00:41:38

voice, and Andrea is doing just the same.

719

: 00:41:41

Helping other people find that voice,

and really, if you can think about

720

: 00:41:46

it, how many voices does it take for

somebody to be propelled upward into

721

: 00:41:51

this stratosphere so that we can help

family relationships, helping people work

722

: 00:41:56

through their differences, overcoming

obstacles that might otherwise never

723

: 00:42:01

be touched if it wasn't for the power

of listening, hearing what other

724

: 00:42:05

people have to say, and using our voice

to change this ever changing world.

725

: 00:42:11

I think that what surfaces above all

else is that we come from a place of not

726

: 00:42:16

only wanting to love someone, but also

wanting to heal, because that loving

727

: 00:42:21

and healing, no matter whether you're

a child, or you're growing up into the

728

: 00:42:26

adolescent phase, or even becoming an

adult, just like we've talked about with

729

: 00:42:31

the three chair model that we had with

Jenny Jansen many episodes ago, I think

730

: 00:42:36

you realize that some of the bad habits,

some of the things that we've learned

731

: 00:42:41

from a long time ago need to break.

732

: 00:42:44

They need to be shattered, just

like a mirror when you throw it

733

: 00:42:48

against a wall, and it breaks into

millions of pieces, it's not because

734

: 00:42:51

you're going to get bad luck.

735

: 00:42:53

It's because you're finally

destroying that old version of what

736

: 00:42:56

you've been looking at for so long.

737

: 00:43:00

There's never really a right moment to

actually do that, and even then, for

738

: 00:43:04

myself, building this business, building

my ability to help others, and keep on

739

: 00:43:09

grinding and working and thinking that

I can do so much more, means that I know

740

: 00:43:15

that I might not always be ready for the

task, but when I'm faced with it with no

741

: 00:43:20

other options, those breadcrumbs start

to appear, because they've been there

742

: 00:43:25

this whole entire time, and when you

show up with the way in which you have

743

: 00:43:32

all these wonderful skills, all this

knowledge, that you've been surfacing,

744

: 00:43:37

that you've been burying for so long,

that's when you were finally realizing

745

: 00:43:43

that you're designing your life in

the way in which you really wanted to

746

: 00:43:47

achieve and that achievement is joy.

747

: 00:43:54

Joy.

748

: 00:43:56

What a wonderful natural state to be in.

749

: 00:43:59

To be able to access that on a

continuous basis, knowing that

750

: 00:44:03

you have no more worry whatsoever.

751

: 00:44:06

If there is any sort of recollection of

a moment in time in which you felt that

752

: 00:44:12

way maybe it was when you were a child.

753

: 00:44:16

Maybe the hundreds of things that got

piled on as you got older, and you had

754

: 00:44:20

more responsibilities, and the things

that you had to take care of, got buried

755

: 00:44:25

underneath all the things that you were

doing at that time as a kid creating

756

: 00:44:31

that connection, getting things done in

a way in which really bonded with the

757

: 00:44:36

human connection, and created that joy.

758

: 00:44:41

I think that in our lives, we have to

find ways in which we find feedback, these

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: 00:44:45

opportunities for creating those feedback

loops, so that we can be here to have fun.

760

: 00:44:53

Fun is not a word that I would easily

associate with my life, and maybe for

761

: 00:44:58

many of you, you wouldn't associate

either, but think about it this way.

762

: 00:45:04

All this talk that we hear all this time

about living your best life, putting all

763

: 00:45:12

those fears, all those insecurities away,

and working on yourself, means that you

764

: 00:45:17

have to focus on not just the journey that

you've been walking on, but also helping

765

: 00:45:22

others to see that they have that freedom,

that expression to create opportunities

766

: 00:45:27

that they would have otherwise not had.

767

: 00:45:30

I know for many of us,

that's easier said than done.

768

: 00:45:33

That means we have to break the mold that

we've been always looking at, making sure

769

: 00:45:38

that we rip up the playbook, just like

we experienced here in the United States

770

: 00:45:41

with the Super Bowl, which of course, my

hometown heroes, the Philadelphia Eagles,

771

: 00:45:46

taking that championship, certainly

shared a lot of joy for all of us, but

772

: 00:45:53

what if we were able to take that energy,

that momentum that ability for us to

773

: 00:45:58

build relationships regardless of the

differences that we might experience,

774

: 00:46:03

and create joy where joy might not exist

for others, or even for our own lives.

775

: 00:46:10

Andrea and I had a lot of discussions

after the show and even got to the point

776

: 00:46:14

where she was always asking, "Are you

doing what you really are set out to do?"

777

: 00:46:20

Andrea, I don't know if I am.

778

: 00:46:23

Even after 194 episodes, I'm still

figuring out what that looks like, and

779

: 00:46:29

I'm still trying to figure out, even

in my own life, what it means to work

780

: 00:46:32

with others to unlock that passion;

to let them see that freedom exists.

781

: 00:46:38

Does that mean that it

makes me a fraud of a coach?

782

: 00:46:40

Absolutely not, because that means

that I have a gift for something else.

783

: 00:46:46

She has a gift for somebody

that is willing to hear what it

784

: 00:46:51

takes to unlock their freedom.

785

: 00:46:54

The joy of knowing that you don't have

to be stuck in these two out of ten ways.

786

: 00:47:00

You don't have to be

trapped in a dead end job.

787

: 00:47:02

You don't have to be stuck in

this white collar, blue collar

788

: 00:47:06

atmosphere, knowing that you can

do what you really need to do.

789

: 00:47:10

This world, for many people,

is a very scary place nowadays.

790

: 00:47:15

With a number of different changes,

especially in the United States that

791

: 00:47:19

have ripple effects across the world,

I can understand your sediment.

792

: 00:47:23

I can understand why you think that you

need to have some deeper skills so that

793

: 00:47:27

you can transverse these waves, and

maybe in this life that you're living in

794

: 00:47:32

fear, or maybe living in joy currently,

can't we all experience the same thing

795

: 00:47:37

if we're able to put the same energy into

celebrating our favorite football team?

796

: 00:47:43

Maybe even playing a game of sorts that

allows us to work on our best habits,

797

: 00:47:49

to build relationships with others

so that that healing and loving that

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: 00:47:53

we desperately seek can start today.

799

: 00:47:57

Those breadcrumbs, those things that

maybe are very invisible for us to

800

: 00:48:02

see at the present time, means that

we have to unlock a joyful life.

801

: 00:48:06

It means that we have to dig deeper than

we might have otherwise never dug before.

802

: 00:48:11

It means that we have to share in our

life what it means to have that connection

803

: 00:48:17

with someone that we deeply care about.

804

: 00:48:20

Andrea really showed me in this

interview today that as I get closer

805

: 00:48:24

to the episode number 200, and I get

closer to this freedom that I have in

806

: 00:48:28

my life, I know that doing a good job,

doing something to the best of my own

807

: 00:48:34

ability, means that I have to dig deep.

808

: 00:48:38

I have to walk a path that even though

I don't know what that why might be,

809

: 00:48:43

it might also mean that I have to take

a risk, to step outside my own comfort

810

: 00:48:48

zone, even when all the chips are not

aligned, and being able to understand

811

: 00:48:53

that taking risks can have massive reward.

812

: 00:48:57

It can pay over hundreds of

millions of dollars of dividends.

813

: 00:49:02

Not just in the financial sense, but

in the reality that we all live in.

814

: 00:49:07

I don't know about you, but I think

that we are living in a falsehood.

815

: 00:49:12

We often are viewing the world as if

it's all negative, that we don't see

816

: 00:49:17

sunshine and rainbows sometimes, and

that even with the cloudy skies that

817

: 00:49:21

might be overcast, it might be putting

us into a different type of mood.

818

: 00:49:26

Just know that joy always exists.

819

: 00:49:30

We just have to realize

that we're here to have fun.

820

: 00:49:33

We're here to see what it looks like

to live this life and realize that even

821

: 00:49:39

though we have massive responsibilities,

whether that's for our kids, or family,

822

: 00:49:43

or otherwise, being ready is never going

to be a reality, because the reality

823

: 00:49:50

that we're living today allows us to

have that freedom, and that freedom

824

: 00:49:55

is only a hand grasp away; a coaching

session away, if you will, or even just

825

: 00:50:01

acknowledging in your heart, in your

soul, that even if you wanted to do

826

: 00:50:06

a good job, you're already doing it.

827

: 00:50:10

Press forward.

828

: 00:50:11

Don't be burned out anymore.

829

: 00:50:13

Don't let careers, or fears, or any other

sort of inhibition hold you back from the

830

: 00:50:19

ultimate destiny that you have in front of

you, because it's filled with joy, love,

831

: 00:50:26

and happiness, and even if you think it's

all negative, and it's all full of anxiety

832

: 00:50:31

and depression, take it from me, somebody

that has lived through some of the worst

833

: 00:50:35

things that they could ever imagine

that the human race could live through.

834

: 00:50:40

If you can recover from anything that

has been really bad in your life,

835

: 00:50:45

imagine the possibilities of unlocking

your true potential through joyful

836

: 00:50:50

activity, and having fun where you

otherwise might have never experienced

837

: 00:50:57

if you didn't open your eyes to these

wonderful possibilities that surround us.

838

: 00:51:04

Thanks for listening to episode

number 194 of Speaking From the

839

: 00:51:08

Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

840

: 00:51:13

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841

: 00:51:14

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842

: 00:51:19

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843

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844

: 00:51:28

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845

: 00:51:32

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846

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