Episode 55
Episode #52 Part 2 - Warming Up (& Peeling Onions) For The Next Adventure: An Interview With Brianne DiDino
Being able to get to the center of our entire existence to unlock the hidden potential (i.e. the "voice") that we have in ourselves means understanding how we can peel the layers back in our own lives, and warm up to the expectation of change, not just by asking the important "why" question, but explore our purpose in one powerfully courageous way. The conclusion of Part 2 of our two-part interview with intuitive Life Coach Brianne DiDino not only exposes the true hidden potential (a one-word answer) that shares with us the undeniable adventures that we can lead if we give ourselves the chance, but even for our podcast host, exposes the true identity that we often have hidden in ourselves...even when we are not actively thinking about it all the time.
WARNING: This episode discusses suicide, depression, anxiety, and child abuse. Although these are very heavy subject matters that require great care and attention when discussing, these subjects are pivotal to the important understanding of our guest's way of navigating through any sort of unique challenge. Consult authorities, particularly when you know someone that is going through this, to seek out assistance and help with navigating through these very difficult conversations.
Guest Bio
Brianne DiDino is the Owner and Founder of Beyond Grounded. Her years as a Medical Laboratory Scientist enhanced her troubleshooting abilities. However, adversities throughout life propelled her forward learning more about compassion, connectedness and powerful purpose. Brianne embraces being highly intuitive and loves highlighting this gift within others. Her passion of being an Intuitive Life Coach, Author and Speaker came alive after the many years of hardships. During these times, she learned the importance of how your painful moments become your best friend and guiding light. She firmly believes that understanding their influence and value in your life gives the power to create the future you dream about. By using her coaching along with other proven methods, empowered individuals explore and transform experience-based beliefs to create a more authentic, fulfilling life.
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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs
Transcript
Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
Intro:determination, all converge into an amazing, heartfelt experience.
Intro:This is Speaking From The Heart.
Joshua:Welcome back to part two of episode 52 of Speaking From the Heart,
Joshua:and now if you missed the first part, I'm going to encourage you to stop playing
Joshua:this part and go back and listen to Part One before you ever do anything else
Joshua:with this episode, because it's going to make a big difference in how this whole
Joshua:conversation that we even had in part one shapes into part two, but to recap,
Joshua:Brianne DiDino was my guest and she's the owner and founder of Beyond Grounded.
Joshua:Her years as a medical laboratory scientist helped enhance her
Joshua:troubleshooting abilities.
Joshua:However, adversities throughout her life propelled her forward
Joshua:learning more about compassion, connectedness, and powerful purpose.
Joshua:Brianne embraces being highly intuitive and loves highlighting
Joshua:this gift within others.
Joshua:Her passion of being an intuitive life coach, author, and also
Joshua:speaker, came alive after the many years of those hardships.
Joshua:During these times, she's learned the importance of how your painful moments
Joshua:become your best friend and guiding light.
Joshua:She firmly believes that understanding their influence and value in your
Joshua:life gives the power to create the future you dream about.
Joshua:By using her coaching, along with other proven methods, she's helped
Joshua:to empower individuals explore and transform experience-based beliefs to
Joshua:create more authentic, fulfilling life.
Joshua:Now in part two, we get into exactly what those things are that create that
Joshua:connection and allow us to just show up when it's necessary, but more than
Joshua:anything, it's about understanding what the highest form of achievement
Joshua:can be within all those experiences.
Joshua:Not only the courage, the reflection, the trust, and the empowerment,
Joshua:which those are all concepts that we talk about with her practice in this
Joshua:episode, but really it's about the energy that we assign to those things.
Joshua:That is what makes it whether we stay in that moment or we move out of it,
Joshua:and I have to say that when I got done with this, it was something that I
Joshua:was so emotional about that you even hear towards the very end what this
Joshua:has been all about for me, and how it's even opened my eyes to what the
Joshua:future even holds for this life coach that's working with other people, but
Joshua:with that, let's turn to the exciting conclusion of part two with my interview.
Joshua:Let's go to the episode.
Joshua:I love the fact that you just talked about fire, and even about me, because
Joshua:literally, for those that are listening to this, I had that experience and I
Joshua:was been alluding to it all throughout this episode and now I'm going to share
Joshua:it, and Brianne had me walk through this exercise of somebody that has been really
Joshua:a force that has been alongside me all this time, and it was so revealing to me.
Joshua:I have to be honest, I had to rip the tears off my eyes and compose myself,
Joshua:which was very hard to do before I even started this again, because I
Joshua:really wanted to make sure that I knew who was really in my corner.
Joshua:Brianne, with you saying about fire and about that importance of having
Joshua:that connection, especially if you're talking about your friend and Joe as
Joshua:being big influencers, have you seen that in your clients when it comes to
Joshua:working with them to be able to kind of expose themselves, and I really hate
Joshua:to say that because of what the example you brought up earlier about was-
Brianne:Yeah.
Joshua:But have they been able to really open up to you about what you have been
Joshua:able to see in them and what they were then able to discover about themselves,
Joshua:and if so, can you give us at least one story about that, because I'm really
Joshua:curious now, especially after what I've been through with you just meeting you and
Joshua:having this, somebody I completely don't know, it was really eyeopening to me.
Brianne:Absolutely.
Brianne:I have so many stories because there's a common thread between a lot of my clients
Brianne:and me, and they're usually the ones who have been hurt really, really bad and
Brianne:they have the brick, concrete, titanium wall, and they're very analytical.
Brianne:They're very earth dominant in their analytics.
Brianne:From when I start with them to where life takes them, they always say to
Brianne:me, " I don't know what it was about you.
Brianne:It just happened that I felt like I could trust you", and they're like,
Brianne:"and I don't normally do that.", and I just smile because I also understand
Brianne:how that feels, right, so I know what they need and takes to help warm
Brianne:them up to open up to that space.
Brianne:They also tell me that they always feel like I never judged them no matter what
Brianne:they say to me or tell me, and again, it's because of my own life experiences
Brianne:that there is nothing to judge one, other than the fact that that's an important
Brianne:factor to who they are, so because I value what they've been through and
Brianne:I value what they're expressing to me and I can actually help them see like
Brianne:much, like you and I had that experience together, where I could take you into
Brianne:that space to see why that is so powerful to who you are and the purpose of you.
Brianne:For instance, one of my closest of close, she was so guarded, highly driven, highly
Brianne:successful in business, and we worked through a lot of intimate things about
Brianne:her relationship with her immediate family and her perspectives, and she could say
Brianne:just about anything, and I would sit there and she said that one thing she loved
Brianne:about me, and she never wants me to give up, is usually when I work with somebody,
Brianne:if you really watch my face, I have a tendency of listening and then I turn
Brianne:my face this side, and I go, "You know, how about we chew on this a minute?",
Brianne:and she goes, "I always have a tactic of bringing a food for thought that kind of
Brianne:like supports what was told to me, but also encourages a slight different spin
Brianne:on it, like being able to see something through someone else's eyes.", okay, and
Brianne:was able to help give her perspective about where the other persons possibly
Brianne:stood whenever that moment happened.
Brianne:It was painful and put herself in their shoes a minute, and that
Brianne:way she could take accountability for her actions within it.
Brianne:Then she could take accountability for the energy that she invested
Brianne:into that, and was her energy a fire of negative into it was her energy?
Brianne:A fire of understanding?
Brianne:It doesn't take away from accountability to the person, but it also puts back
Brianne:the accountability to you and the power to you of what you add to it.
Brianne:That's really where your karma and what you experience lives.
Brianne:It is not necessarily in the players in our life.
Brianne:They're there to serve a purpose, to kind of mirror to us what something
Brianne:that we need to look at deeper.
Brianne:From where she and I started, and we worked through this process and
Brianne:she's very close to me, she's a very good friend of mine even today.
Brianne:She always says I was her mentor.
Brianne:I was her open heart; spiritual guru mentor, and I just kind of like
Brianne:laugh, because I'm like, "Oh honey, you had the answers inside yourself.
Brianne:I was just here to morally support you and love you", but she now has the capacity
Brianne:to open her heart up and receive love, instead of doubting and questioning it
Brianne:all the time, whether she's genuine or not and her relationships with her immediate
Brianne:family is very different because she now understands the role she played within
Brianne:that, so that's a really impactful, it's like there's only so much I could
Brianne:describe because I believe in keeping things secure and safer for people.
Brianne:Another good friend of mine has the same thing; single her whole life, and it
Brianne:was a factor of the influences of men in her life, and here she is years down the
Brianne:road and she's realizing that she really wants to have a best friend and partner
Brianne:in life and that because her and I took time and I listened and I didn't push her.
Brianne:That's the another thing is I believe that everybody, their soul is on a
Brianne:certain path and on a learning curve, so I'm not expecting everybody play
Brianne:individuality and stuff is so different.
Brianne:I'm not expecting results out the gate.
Brianne:Some people catch on like wildfire and it's like instantaneous change.
Brianne:That's when the bonfires are going and we're singing and we're dancing,
Brianne:and then there's other ones that have a lot more earth involved and they're
Brianne:more slow, methodical in the way that they need to approach things,
Brianne:but they've all come to the same conclusion for their own authentic
Brianne:and fulfilling life, because they were willing to go there for their self.
Joshua:I feel like I resonate with the earth aspect, and I think you probably
Joshua:would agree with that because I have been very thoughtful, more meticulous in the
Joshua:data, which is ironic because that's what I do full-time for a living, is being
Joshua:able to work with that sort of thing, and it's funny that you say that because the
Joshua:young woman that you talked about, the one that's single and just had the fear
Joshua:of men, I actually think a lot about my own life being that I'm a single male
Joshua:and I think that women are afraid of me because of my erratic behavior, especially
Joshua:when it comes to just not really knowing myself, and that's been something that
Joshua:I have really struggled with, because I feel that I'm not good enough.
Joshua:I feel that I am not able to put myself out there when it
Joshua:comes to having that boldness.
Joshua:As you mentioned about Joe earlier, I kind of resonate with the fact that maybe I am
Joshua:not more assertive, which maybe women are looking for, but I also felt like a lot of
Joshua:that had to deal with some of the energies that are surrounding me too, so that's
Joshua:a big part of why I think a lot of this happens, but as I've gotten older and even
Joshua:as I have coached other people myself, not in the same style as you, because as
Joshua:I have mentioned on many numerous episodes that this isn't about who's better than
Joshua:the other or my practice is better than yours, no, we all do it differently, and
Joshua:that's what I embrace so much is that we all have something to learn from each
Joshua:other and I've been learning a lot doing this podcast, so it's been something of
Joshua:myself of spiritual and personal growth and development, but even for my clients,
Joshua:it's about personal growth and development when it comes to exploring some of those
Joshua:techniques and some of those things, which kind of leads me into this question that
Joshua:I typically ask of other people is that when you are working with somebody like
Joshua:this that either has it, they embrace it, like the wildfire analogy that you
Joshua:used, or might take them quite a while because as somebody has been a suicide
Joshua:struggler and survivor now for over three and a half, almost approaching four
Joshua:years, it is something that is still on my mind of: "Will I ever go back to that?"
Joshua:What do you say to somebody that might be coming to you and they are
Joshua:looking to expand themselves, but at the same time they have that fear
Joshua:of maybe retreating back, because you talked about the wall earlier.
Joshua:Is there something in terms of techniques that you give them to empower them
Joshua:to not ever have to go back to that, or, do you give them a little bit of
Joshua:a break saying, "Well, it's okay if this sort of X, Y, and Z happens."
Joshua:I mean, I feel like there has to be some flexibility, but how do you handle that?
Brianne:Hands down there is always a flexibility, because it's like
Brianne:everything that we experienced is like an onion, really.
Brianne:Just when you think you mastered a level, the universe gives you a catalyst and
Brianne:you peel that off and you're going, "Ah!"
Brianne:it's almost like you never touched it a day in your life and you're going, it's
Brianne:like you start all over again, but I do promise the more that you allow yourself
Brianne:to sit in that space and understand and see a deeper level; it would be tragic
Brianne:and overwhelming if you were that onion and you just jumped right to the center,
Brianne:without processing the layers, right?
Joshua:Yeah.
Brianne:You would just evaporate.
Brianne:You emotionally would go off in a crazyville if you did not go through
Brianne:the layers, and you just immediately just jumped into the center.
Brianne:That's pretty much the perspective I give, so you have to give yourself some grace
Brianne:and it's not easy to do because, even I, as calm as I come off, even I have
Brianne:moments of being human, having a soul, having a human's experience, right, so-
Joshua:I hope that you're human, otherwise I have to pinch
Joshua:myself, because you must be an angel coming into this podcast.
Brianne:Well, I do have a thing with feathers and wings.
Joshua:Yes.
Joshua:Yes.
Joshua:I can see that.
Joshua:Those are the things that I'm not seeing.
Brianne:But, it is reminding yourself that you are a soul having a human's
Brianne:experience, and it's important that you value that, because your body's such a
Brianne:blessing that it actually allowed you to utilize it the way that you are.
Brianne:Some of us; we're beast of burden learners and then that's why I'm
Brianne:going, "Oh, oh, I love you so much.
Brianne:I'm starting to value the food that I take in and want to be better with my body."
Brianne:I'm really stepping into that world now, because it's like, "Boy, I put
Brianne:my body through hell", and it allowed me to stay, believe it or not, but
Brianne:the important thing is you showed up.
Brianne:A lot of times there's more than half the battle is that, one,
Brianne:you're still here and you showed up.
Brianne:You asked a question.
Brianne:If you ever want to know an answer about yourself, all you have to do
Brianne:is ask yourself some questions and you'll find the answer, just like you
Brianne:and I started off with you having a question, and then I showed you that
Brianne:you actually can find your own answer.
Brianne:That's pretty much what happened in that moment.
Brianne:I might have guided you and I gave you pinpoints that he was letting me know
Brianne:and feel and speak outward, but when it came time for you to try and really
Brianne:sort through who that presence was, all I did was help you become more present
Brianne:in your space so that you could feel the difference between your energy and theirs.
Joshua:Sometimes I feel the question that has to be asked is often the wrong
Joshua:question to ask, and it's funny that you bring that up because I had a guest that
Joshua:talked about having that why question.
Brianne:Mm-hmm.
Joshua:Always asking why and being curious about the world.
Joshua:I love him.
Joshua:Mark Snow.
Joshua:Mark, if you're listening to this.
Joshua:Yes, I'm acknowledging yet again, thank you for being part of the podcast because
Joshua:I still am thinking about you even after all this time with what you said.
Joshua:He's from Australia and he has lived that sort of life in which he has talked
Joshua:about his travels to get to where he is with having that intentional curiosity.
Brianne:Right.
Joshua:So with that said, Brianne, I don't think it's always the question
Joshua:of why, so sorry, Mark, I'm going to disagree on this premise because
Joshua:of what Brianne said to me today.
Joshua:I mean, it can be a question of why, and don't get me wrong, maybe for some
Joshua:clients that you work with, and I know for some of my clients that I work with
Joshua:it isn't necessarily the question of why.
Joshua:It's about what is the question that we need to ask so that we can get that
Joshua:simple answer, and I think a lot of people struggle with that because they
Joshua:say, "Well, it's because of money", or "It's because I need to have a place to
Joshua:live", or it's because, "My boyfriend, girlfriend, is abusive to me", and I'm
Joshua:not downplaying any of those things, those are very legitimate concerns and those
Joshua:are things that need to be taken care of, but when you're talking about the
Joshua:spiritual sense and having it so that it interconnects with our human physicality-
Brianne:Yes.
Joshua:The body that we have on this earth.
Brianne:Yeah.
Joshua:What is it that we could start with as maybe some of those
Joshua:probing questions to ultimately get to the question that we ask?
Joshua:Is there a process that you kind of work through with that?
Brianne:Yes.
Brianne:I'm actually writing a book about it.
Joshua:Oh, perfect.
Joshua:Can you tell us about the book?
Joshua:Let's just lead into that.
Brianne:Yes.
Brianne:It basically is explaining how to find the purpose and power within your
Brianne:adversities, and the first step is the fact that you have to be courageous
Brianne:enough to actually want to show up, to be there and ask the questions.
Brianne:The first thing that when it comes to, depending on how you look at it whether
Brianne:it's relationships or your success, I'm a firm believer that we're intertwined.
Brianne:All of it; like our relationships, our success, our authenticity,
Brianne:everything is connected.
Brianne:If you actually start doing the work and getting yourself to step into your zone
Brianne:of genius, as Gay Hendrix talks about, great author by the way, and he talks
Brianne:about upper limit problems, but when you start stepping into that and you start
Brianne:stepping into your passion, and it's not tied to the outcome, you can ask a
Brianne:question, but don't allow yourself tied to an outcome that you want to hear, and
Brianne:you'll really start getting answers about yourself and it takes you back to your
Brianne:accountability and energy you put into it.
Brianne:There's thousands of people out there talking about how to utilize the law
Brianne:of attraction and manifesting, as well as other things, and basically it comes
Brianne:down to, "Well, I tried that and it doesn't work", it's like, well, you're
Brianne:attached to an outcome, not the process.
Brianne:You're attached to what you want, not who you actually are destined to become,
Brianne:which is even greater than the outcome that you actually have in your head right
Brianne:now, so there's no a hundred percent, there's no one simple question, it's
Brianne:just the ability and I agree to the whys, because the whys, when I think of
Brianne:the whys, is, why do you do what you do?
Brianne:You are who you are because of what you've experienced.
Brianne:That is your whys.
Brianne:What value do they have for you?
Brianne:Why do you continue to use that, and these questions actually can take you
Brianne:deeper into more questions, like, when was the first time you can remember that
Brianne:you opened your heart up and you felt rejected and it was just another example
Brianne:of being let down and hurt by somebody and then you could really put the story
Brianne:together and how you felt and then we see how maybe where they were coming from.
Brianne:This is where it gets challenging because everybody wants to sit there and go,
Brianne:"Well, if they wouldn't have been so mean", or, " If they would've opened
Brianne:up more", and the theory is when you're truly in a relationship, and this is
Brianne:was something even I had to experience, was the highest form of love is letting
Brianne:someone go to what they're choosing.
Brianne:Just because I see the potential and I know that it's in there, it doesn't
Brianne:mean that it's necessarily their time.
Brianne:I could be a seed planter.
Brianne:I could be the fire that burns down their bullshit and they hate me
Brianne:because I was the burner, right?
Brianne:Forever.
Brianne:One of those people that was just the bitch, burning their bullshit down,
Brianne:or I could be the fertilizer, the tender one, or I could be the seed
Brianne:planner, or I could be the water.
Brianne:We all play different roles and that's one thing that helped me heal when it comes
Brianne:to when I was intimately compromised.
Brianne:I was intimately compromised two different times by the age of five, by
Brianne:two different friends of my dad's and one of the things that stuck out to me,
Brianne:because I was debating hard with the universal team about, Okay, you want me
Brianne:to forgive?", and it's not a forgiving, it's an acknowledgement that when you
Brianne:look at the difference between your life and theirs, they clearly did not
Brianne:have someone who was planting seeds.
Brianne:My mother wasn't with me.
Brianne:They didn't have an example.
Brianne:It was very hard for them to understand that the society says it was wrong,
Brianne:but if they had, like most people that do bad, and I'm a testament to this,
Brianne:like I said, I was Atillia The Hun.
Brianne:I'm pretty sure I was Vlad The Impaler in my past life.
Brianne:I was very, very vicious at keeping people away and if you really want their
Brianne:friendship upon it, it was painful, but even though I knew that that wasn't
Brianne:right and that wasn't nice, there wasn't anything about me that really could
Brianne:contradict why I would stop doing that.
Brianne:For instance, me being intimately compromised on certain levels, I
Brianne:could go my whole life going, "All of humanity is like that", and all of
Brianne:my relationships are failing, right?
Brianne:All of them were failing, so of course, all of humanity's bad.
Joshua:I've known people that have made that choice too, right?
Brianne:Yes.
Joshua:Yep.
Brianne:It's easy to do when you're self-serving, right?
Brianne:It's so easy to do, and there's no way to contradict that, but one of the things
Brianne:I'm blessed with was the challenging and checking of my reality that people who
Brianne:hurt have been hurt and sometimes when I hurt somebody, usually it could be less
Brianne:or more than what I was hurt, depending on what we all free will choose, okay,
Brianne:but if all I understand is that standard as a reality, there's not much that can
Brianne:change the reality so then I come to the conclusion and understanding because I
Brianne:sat in the abyss, I sat in the shadow to do some work, and I compared my life to
Brianne:the potential of what if I don't know.
Brianne:I don't know other than an energy read, I don't know for fact their life story,
Brianne:but in comparison and comparing what they were energetically when that happened
Brianne:when I was little, and what I had in my mother; my mother was the seed planter,
Brianne:nurturer, waterer, fertilizer, for me to question what was real and what wasn't.
Brianne:I would've gone my whole life.
Brianne:I could have been touching people inappropriately and people going, "That's
Brianne:wrong", but if I didn't have anyone in my life to speak other realities for me
Brianne:to take option on, even though in society I know it's wrong, but there's a weird
Brianne:disconnect and understanding, especially if things happen when you're little.
Brianne:I believe it was Dr.
Brianne:Lippencott that I was listening to.
Brianne:I believe it was him and he's a neuroscientist, and he said that
Brianne:our reality and subconscious is set by the age of seven.
Brianne:What the hell do we know at seven?
Joshua:Nothing.
Brianne:Right?
Brianne:If you're going through your life and your self preservation is living on your
Brianne:subconscious, that's why it's important, as an intuitive life coach for me to help
Brianne:bring things and make things conscious so that you can start feeling the
Brianne:empowerment of doing different with it.
Brianne:That was the thing that my mother was helping me do, and it took me a long
Brianne:time for me to really embrace that.
Joshua:I'm sitting here and I'm thinking about all kinds of things.
Joshua:Brianne, let me share with you and the audience a couple of those
Joshua:things that go through my mind.
Joshua:Seventh grade, thinking of my first girlfriend, not gonna mention her name
Joshua:just in case that at some point she finds this podcast and comes after me.
Joshua:Definitely where a lot of that trauma started with women, I can certainly
Joshua:say that I feel convicted about it.
Joshua:I feel that there will be people that will come at me and say, "Yeah, I know
Joshua:exactly what you're talking about, Josh."
Joshua:Well, thank you.
Joshua:I'm looking forward to those emails.
Joshua:Podcast@yourspeakingvoice.biz.
Joshua:You can take a email and send it to me and please leave me your feedback with
Joshua:that, because I'll be curious of what your thought was when I was going through that.
Joshua:Number two.
Joshua:You're so right about the fact that our moms can be good nurturers
Joshua:because that's really what their responsibility is in the biological sense.
Joshua:I'm talking about society, I'm not talking about the cultural thing.
Joshua:Let's leave that off the table for a moment because we could have a large
Joshua:discussion about the role of males and what they are really supposed to do.
Joshua:Moms, like my mom; hi Mom, is helping me to realize what I can potentially
Joshua:be, and that's why I sense a lot of feminine energy from my masculinity.
Joshua:Let's just be real because I wear my heart on my sleeve.
Joshua:It has been something that has been destined in me to just continue to bring
Joshua:that out of me, but then you started to say something about seven years of age.
Joshua:Seven years of age was really tough for me, especially as a kid, and for some
Joshua:of my listeners, they would have to hear this in some of the episodes that I have
Joshua:talked about this in the past when I've done monologues, and I might even talk
Joshua:about some more of this even after this episode, but you know, Brianne, I think
Joshua:the biggest thing that I've learned, even just from this conversation so far,
Joshua:which we're almost at the end of our time, and I still want to ask you one
Joshua:more thing, is I feel that we are always trying to find what that alignment is.
Joshua:It's almost as if you're telling the stars, "Okay.
Joshua:What zodiac sign is going to line up tonight?", and you're looking
Joshua:up and you're trying to figure out where that alignment is, and you're
Joshua:trying to balance it, and there's moods and there's personality-
Brianne:That's astrology for you.
Joshua:Yeah.
Joshua:That's good astrology for you, yes.
Brianne:Mm-hmm.
Joshua:In a way, you're doing that in the life coaching sense, but you're taking
Joshua:it to a level in which now you're attuned to where that person's energies are.
Joshua:Here's my final question for you, because this has just been one of
Joshua:the most incredible conversations that I've had and continue to say
Joshua:that I've had these incredible conversations, but I really mean this,
Joshua:because it's been eyeopening for me.
Joshua:With all these things that are happening not only with your clients, but yourself,
Joshua:Joe, your husband, even the friends that have come and surrounded you, do you ever
Joshua:feel that maybe at some point, you're never going to have that answer to say
Joshua:to someone, "Yeah, this is what it is that you need to do", because sometimes I
Joshua:feel that we struggle with those answers.
Joshua:We try to figure out what we need to do to really answer that question for ourselves
Joshua:and even for others, but sometimes we might not have that answer because that
Joshua:seven year old kid, he's still in me.
Joshua:I'm still trying to figure out what that answer is, and yes, I could work with
Joshua:you and flush that out, but I feel like there's a lot more to what I have to do
Joshua:as the work, right., So for someone that is really serious about taking this on-
Brianne:Mm-hmm.
Joshua:What is the one thing that you would recommend somebody doing to get
Joshua:ready for that experience, because I feel like, coming into it cold turkey, like
Joshua:you said with the onion, going right to the center, you are going to disintegrate,
Joshua:you are going to turn into liquid.
Joshua:It's not healthy, so what would you say is something that we need to be prepared
Joshua:for, for that sort of conversation?
Joshua:Can you lead in that to close this out with that question?
Brianne:Absolutely.
Brianne:The one of the most important things I would ever, ever prepare for somebody
Brianne:for is don't focus on what you think the outcome should be, because you
Brianne:may not have the answer right now, but the answer is going to show up and
Brianne:all you have to do is start talking to your universal team and saying,
Brianne:"Please show it to me like a neon light.
Brianne:Make it blare in my ears like a foghorn.
Brianne:Please don't let me miss that train for the probably hundredth lifetime.", but
Brianne:really the big thing is, from my own experience, even whenever I started
Brianne:doing Beyond Grounded, and I started playing with that around 2019, 2020,
Brianne:and I could say a lot of things.
Brianne:I could say, "Well, I had swelling on the brain from my tumor that I
Brianne:didn't know of, and all this wasn't connecting and I was frustrated.
Brianne:I was really hypercritical of myself and I just felt like, 'Why is this on my
Brianne:heart when it didn't feel like it was ever gonna pan out?'", and I ended up having my
Brianne:brain tumor and having such a scallop of healing and that, hands down, I would live
Brianne:through everything I've ever experienced a hundred fold, all over again.
Brianne:The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, it was the most amazing trip and
Brianne:I'm only 43, so Lord only knows how much more my soul wants, and I'm excited to
Brianne:find out because of the fact that I am, I've detached myself from the outcome.
Brianne:I end up having brain surgery April 6th, 2021.
Brianne:I have been on a TLC kind of healing sabbatical, which I never
Brianne:allowed myself to ever have.
Brianne:I was always mind over matter, push through everything, and I had
Brianne:to work through my own guilt of not working full time obsessively.
Brianne:I had to get over my own guilt of my husband being the breadwinner and me not
Brianne:bringing money in and staying home to be experiencing with my son because I went
Brianne:through fertility treatment to have my miracle baby and who also drastically
Brianne:shifted my perspective, but if you just allow yourself to really focus on your
Brianne:journey, you will get a lot of answers from looking through your past to where
Brianne:you are, and it gives you hope of what you can carve out and you become more
Brianne:authentic to you, and you find the fact that courage, reflection, evaluation,
Brianne:trust, empowerment, are five key things that you naturally possess that you
Brianne:don't realize off their Richter scale.
Joshua:Wow.
Joshua:I'm going to save my thoughts.
Joshua:Brianne, let's go right into how we get in touch with you?
Joshua:What is your business, but lay it out for us where we can contact you.
Joshua:What are some things that we should know when contacting you
Joshua:with what services you provide?
Joshua:Let me give you the last few minutes, but save some for me because there's
Joshua:something I need to share with you and the audience before we close out, but I'll
Joshua:let you have the last few minutes here.
Joshua:Go ahead.
Brianne:Sure.
Brianne:You can find me on beyondgrounded.com.
Brianne:My website is in a transitional state because I'm stepping back into
Brianne:my business entrepreneurship after I've had my sabbatical of healing.
Brianne:Who I was then and who I am now, I'm drastically shifting and transitioning,
Brianne:but you can find my Calendly app there to book a coaching discovery
Brianne:session with me to see if I'm somebody you would want to work with.
Brianne:I can do one-on-one sessions with you as well as I do four month create
Brianne:package with healing with people, but my wheelhouse is basically, as you can
Brianne:see, is taking your adversities and really finding your authentic, fulfilling
Brianne:life of who you are and really fall in love with everything you've been
Brianne:through because it served you a great purpose as well as teaching you how
Brianne:to get in touch with your intuition, so that's pretty much my wheelhouse,
Brianne:but you can find me on Facebook with Beyond Grounded with Brianne DiDino.
Brianne:I'm more active on my Facebook than my Instagram, but those are also two
Brianne:avenues you can get ahold of me on.
Joshua:I'll put all that in the episode notes so that if you're
Joshua:interested in checking that out, you can certainly do that.
Joshua:Here's what I want to say to close this out, because I feel like I want to move
Joshua:myself back to tears where I was before I even hit the record button on this to
Joshua:begin with, which I feel that we often want to ask ourself the questions of:
Joshua:What's the next step I need to do to make this process work, or if you're a business
Joshua:person, you might be listening to this and ask yourself: Well, where's that next
Joshua:dollar that I need to find, or if you're somebody that is just changing careers,
Joshua:you might be asking yourself, "I need to find something in less than six months,
Joshua:otherwise I'm going to lose everything.
Joshua:What can I do to get jump started right away?"
Joshua:I've seen these posts of these cries for help on all kinds of different forums,
Joshua:and I have worked with people that have come from all variety of backgrounds,
Joshua:no matter what that is, whether they're trying to win a competition, which I do
Joshua:public speaking, I have worked with people that have been wanting to find their
Joshua:true self, which we do life coaching.
Joshua:We figure out setting goals so that we can hold each other accountable because
Joshua:I'm part of that process with them.
Joshua:I always tell my clients that they're never alone in this.
Joshua:You're not doing this for yourself.
Joshua:It's about having this authentic, continuing to have this conversation
Joshua:sort of thing, and when I opened this business, when I started earlier this
Joshua:year, which I'm not even a year in yet, as I continue to work on myself and even
Joshua:other people, I keep asking myself, "What are the relationships I want to form?
Joshua:What is the determination that I want to continue driving towards?
Joshua:What is the ultimate confidence factor that I want to have so that I can
Joshua:feel confident in helping other people to do what I do, with the ultimate
Joshua:mission of just understanding what is the ways in which we can engage your
Joshua:voice, that voice being whatever that is, and this ever-changing world?"
Joshua:Brianne, you shook my world tonight.
Brianne:Aw.
Joshua:And I really mean that, and I know that for many people
Joshua:listening to this, you might not get that, but I'm going to say this.
Joshua:It's really hard to meet people that are willing to meet you where you're
Joshua:at, no matter where they are at in their life, whether they have been
Joshua:abused, whether they have been having suicidal thoughts, whether they've
Joshua:been fighting autoimmune, whether they have been on a recovery, whether they
Joshua:have had infertility issues, which congratulations on having your child-
Brianne:Thank you.
Joshua:With going through all of that.
Joshua:With all that said, we could always make excuses every step of those ways and say,
Joshua:"Damn it, no, we're not going to do it.
Joshua:I'm done", and I decided I wanted to do that four years ago, and I
Joshua:didn't want to be part of this.
Joshua:I didn't want to be part of this experiment, so for you to say what
Joshua:you're saying tonight, it's not only emboldening for many people that need
Joshua:to hear it, which I continue to say is what this whole thing has been about,
Joshua:this grand experiment I've been doing with just trying to get people to
Joshua:realize that they have what it takes.
Brianne:Yeah.
Joshua:You're living it, and you're doing it by example, and you're not only
Joshua:shedding those walls that I have had and I continue to work on, but the sheer fact
Joshua:that you, madam, continue to help people despite what all those differences are,
Joshua:that makes you speak from the heart, so for that reason alone, thank you.
Joshua:Continue to do what you're doing because we need authentic people in this world.
Joshua:We need people that are willing to continue to do
Joshua:that, where that is being lost.
Joshua:It is simply the truth.
Joshua:It is being lost, and it needs to be something that if we can continue to drive
Joshua:into that direction, if we can continue to say to ourselves that I'm a living piece
Joshua:of work that can continue to be worked on, this is going to work, so for that reason
Joshua:alone, thank you and don't ever give up.
Joshua:Stay grounded because you are really doing that, so thank you again.
Joshua:This has been an awesome conversation with you.
Brianne:Well, thank you darling, but what I want to kind of add there,
Brianne:when you're saying the word lost, that people are lost, they're actually
Brianne:on the most wild, amazing journey.
Brianne:They just don't know it yet till they meet someone like me.
Joshua:That is the journey that all of us need to continue being on and it doesn't
Joshua:matter if you do feel that way, because I was relating to the audience when I
Joshua:said that, but you are absolutely right.
Joshua:It is about the wild adventure that we're on because we continue to make
Joshua:strides and we, as Robert Frost would say, are going to go sometimes down
Joshua:that trodden path, but sometimes it's nice to go on the untrodden path-
Brianne:Yes.
Joshua:And cut those plants down ourselves so that we can
Joshua:see what's on the other side, because it's a whole other view.
Brianne:Absolutely, and you appreciate it because you did that.
Joshua:Absolutely, and I appreciate you for allowing me to do that with you.
Joshua:Thank you again, Brianne, for being on Speaking From the Heart.
Joshua:This was an amazing conversation.
Brianne:Thank you for having me.
Brianne:I appreciate you and I fluffy heart you.
Brianne:You and I have just started.
Joshua:Thank you again.
Joshua:I want to thank Brianne again for being part of the show and just not only the
Joshua:insightful conversation that we had between two parts, but the fact that she
Joshua:opened up my eyes to the fact that, once and for all, there's no way that we have
Joshua:to be held back by our own inhibitions if we're just willing to provide ourselves
Joshua:a different perspective, and give power to what needs to have power in the first
Joshua:place, so I will be forever grateful, not just for the conversation that we had,
Joshua:but what she made me realize as really the true person that's been guiding
Joshua:me all along, and I want to share a story with you before I even get into
Joshua:what she talked about in this part.
Joshua:You see, before we even recorded part one, we had a long conversation that I
Joshua:never thought would take it to the places in which we went to, which is about who
Joshua:is it that is really, truly guiding me?
Joshua:Who's actually pushing me to become the best version of myself, and I really
Joshua:had to think long and hard about it, and then I realized through some of
Joshua:the questions that she asked, that the very person that I was looking to
Joshua:have that was really still around and still sensing their spiritual energy
Joshua:around, was my step-grandfather.
Joshua:I never really talked about him and many other of these episodes that we have
Joshua:done since this podcast has begun, and I want to talk about him for a little bit.
Joshua:His name was Bill Adams, and he was a Lutheran pastor that lived in
Joshua:the Selinsgrove, Pennsylvania area, which to put this in perspective,
Joshua:is around the central part of Pennsylvania in the United States.
Joshua:You see, he was my step-grandfather because my original grandfather really
Joshua:disowned not only my dad, but also other parts of the family, and my grandmother on
Joshua:my dad's side realized that this would not be a good environment to raise anybody in.
Joshua:Bill was one of those people that really helped to shape who other people could
Joshua:be not only through his words, but through his actions as well, and that's
Joshua:what really made a big difference for his life and for the lives of others.
Joshua:He served that for many, many, many years until he became a Pastor Emeritus,
Joshua:which at a Lutheran church that still exists today, is something of quite
Joshua:character, and unfortunately, he passed away when I was a sophomore in college,
Joshua:which would put that in the year 2007.
Joshua:Those were some of the toughest moments of my life, knowing that he was gone,
Joshua:and realizing even as I visited his gravestone over the years, how much he
Joshua:truly made an impact, both not only in the physical sense, but in the spiritual
Joshua:sense, and I think that's what this is all about is that Bill showed up.
Joshua:He always showed up when you at least expected him to show up, and for a
Joshua:number of years, I lost sight of that, but during this conversation, then sued
Joshua:afterwards when I was just completely broken of the fact that that was something
Joshua:that I was missing in a large part of my life, Brianne really talked about the
Joshua:fact that power is where we provide it.
Joshua:It also allows us to have love when we allow it to happen as well, and I think
Joshua:that that love that Bill showed to me, my own grandfather, even though he didn't
Joshua:have to because he was my step-grandfather to begin with, really exemplifies the
Joshua:fact of where he has come from and what he has been able to do to really shape
Joshua:and form the person that I am today, because that's really what this is about.
Joshua:It's about having that flexibility.
Joshua:It's about being willing to create that engagement with other people sometimes
Joshua:when it's not easy to create that engagement to begin with, and I think
Joshua:that for many of us trying to find that purpose, especially having that courage
Joshua:to do so, as we talked about extensively with this, is to really give yourself the
Joshua:credit when credit is due to just show up.
Joshua:For the longest time of my life, I never really had that opportunity to show
Joshua:up, and even Brianne talked about some of those experiences in this part that
Joshua:really discussed the fact that it's just about showing up to the conversation.
Joshua:It's just showing up to the event that really makes the profound difference
Joshua:in many people's lives, and we don't have to be tied to that outcome
Joshua:that comes up as a result of that.
Joshua:We can go the distance.
Joshua:We can make something happen for ourselves that we never thought possible if we're
Joshua:just willing to just show up to it.
Joshua:We can't be tied to that outcome, because really when we are tied to it,
Joshua:whether it's negative or positive, it can outweigh its stay in our lives.
Joshua:It could become something of an asphyxiation, if you will.
Joshua:It's really about achieving the highest form of all the choices that
we make in our lives:love, and we have to love not just the people that
we make in our lives:are around us, but also the people that are not around us as well.
we make in our lives:Those are the people that make a comment on Facebook that is really negative.
we make in our lives:It's the people that want to start a conversation in Twitter, and really rouse
we make in our lives:the base of whatever their political ideology is or whatever outcome that was
we make in our lives:supposed to happen in the first place, but when we remove all the toxicity and
we make in our lives:all the things that need to happen, it all comes down to just one basic principle:
we make in our lives:love, and I think that we have to focus on the question of what we need to feel
we make in our lives:when we have that ability to just love.
we make in our lives:When we detach ourselves from the outcome of whatever that is, we are
we make in our lives:becoming something that Maslow himself would've never thought possible when
we make in our lives:he talked about the hierarchy of needs.
we make in our lives:It goes beyond the self-actualization.
we make in our lives:It means realizing that you can be excited for whatever happens in your
we make in our lives:life if you're just willing to unlock the keys that are dormant inside your soul
we make in our lives:and your heart to make something that you never thought possible in yourself.
we make in our lives:This is what it is all about, ladies and gentlemen, and this is what we can
we make in our lives:create ultimately, if we just believe.
we make in our lives:If we could just push ourselves, if we're just willing to put down that shield that
we make in our lives:we've been carrying around that has been used for attacks, and instead realize
we make in our lives:that shield means something so much more.
we make in our lives:For those that don't know, I really admire Captain America, one of the
we make in our lives:original Marvel characters that essentially kicked off what Marvel's
we make in our lives:success has been in comic books, turning into movie adaptations.
we make in our lives:In my very office, you will see when you walk in the variety of different
we make in our lives:Marvel characters that I admire more, particularly Captain America, but the
we make in our lives:biggest thing that I have above my couch is Captain America's Shield.
we make in our lives:No, not the real one, a replica, but that's the whole point,
we make in our lives:is that that shield is on the client's side, not my side.
we make in our lives:What do you mean by that, Josh?
I mean this:that's my shield, but my shield is being used now by my clients.
I mean this:They need to have that ability to protect themselves when it's needed the most,
I mean this:but it goes beyond just protection.
I mean this:That's not what that symbol is all about.
I mean this:Even if you listen to even some of the movies in which feature that
I mean this:character, you talk about the fact that there's more than just the
I mean this:passion to protect and to serve.
I mean this:It's about being able to transcend all the inhibitions that are
I mean this:inside of you and genuinely care.
I mean this:That's why that shield is placed upon the seat in which my clients sit, and it
I mean this:continues to be an inspiration for even myself, for that matter when it comes to
I mean this:looking deep down and realizing that Steve Rogers, the main person that represents
I mean this:Captain America, is deepened down inside of me wanting to just break free, but
I mean this:to break free, we had to break free of the choices that we make in our lives.
I mean this:That means attaining love above all else.
I mean this:We talk about courage, reflection, trust, and empowerment, but what we're
I mean this:really talking about here is something that transcends about anything that
I mean this:we would ever have as a struggle.
I mean this:Whether you're a life coach, whether you're a professional development
I mean this:coach, whether you're somebody that's training someone to do better in their
I mean this:interviews or their resume writing.
I mean this:It is about finding that purpose deep down inside of yourself and
I mean this:realizing that you have what it takes.
I mean this:You have the voice to make this happen, and that it doesn't matter
I mean this:where your voice is, you have what it takes, and that's the key.
I mean this:That is something that even thinking about it now, is something that can
I mean this:bring so much power to our lives no matter where you're at, no matter
I mean this:what kind of accountability there is.
I mean this:It's about looking deep down and saying that you are worthy.
I mean this:You have the flexibility.
I mean this:You can be encouraged, but it's all about showing up, because even with all the
I mean this:things that we even erect as barriers, which we talked about in part one, it's
I mean this:about realizing that you can make a substantial difference in someone's life.
I mean this:Brianne was one of those guests that has made a substantial influence in
I mean this:my life, just like other people in my life have made that substantial
I mean this:influence, even through this very podcast, but for you, you have to make
I mean this:that substantial influence yourself.
I mean this:No one's going to walk you through it.
I mean this:You have to do the hard work.
I mean this:Are you ready to do the hard work?
I mean this:Are you ready to make something of yourself, just like Captain America did?
I mean this:Are you ready to be the Joe in someone's life?
I mean this:Are you willing to let go of all the choices that you've ever made, whether
I mean this:they're positive or negative, and realize that this is all about love, because
I mean this:if you know that, you are doing so much better than even me, your podcast host,
I mean this:and you are showing up to work together in ways that you never thought you could
I mean this:ever do, and that is a gift in its itself.
I mean this:Thanks for listening to part two of episode 52 of Speaking From the Heart,
I mean this:and I look forward to hearing from your heart, and your love, very soon.
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