Episode #84 - Happiness Is The Root Of Success: An Interview With Piret

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode number

84 of Speaking from the Heart, and

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today we have a happiness expert

with us that will be talking about a

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variety of different subjects as it

relates to the concept of being happy.

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Her name is Piret, and as I mentioned,

she is an expert in happiness,

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but also self proclaims herself as

the happiest person in the world.

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Her goal is to influence everyone to

enjoy and celebrate life to create

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more joyful energy in our world.

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In her teachings, she uses mixed

modalities and some of them

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include mindfulness, movement,

subliminal conversation, and

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neuro-linguistic programming.

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She is originally from Estonia and

has been living in the United States,

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in Florida specifically, since 2004.

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She is the author of the book Joyful Life

Jumpstart and also hosts her own YouTube

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channel and podcast called Happiness with

Pirette, which I was fortunate enough

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to also be on her show to talk about

the topic of anxiety, which I will put

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a link in the episode notes if you want

to go and check her out, particularly

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about my episode, along with her other

episodes as well, but what I really

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got out of this conversation more than

anything else is not to make this big

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overproduction of what we need to do to

just figure out what we need to have in

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our lives to be able to understand and

create those best opportunities that

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we continuously talk about on the show.

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This episode really simply talks about

the concept of happiness and how we can

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get ourselves to be there And I think

beyond anything else that we will ever do

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or ever say in our lives If we can just

focus on the happiness aspect of it, we

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can achieve greatness in so many different

ways, which I think you will find our

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conversation not only above and beyond

those lines, but how she got to that

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point of being that happiest person in the

world, because if I was anything like her,

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I would love to be happy all the time, and

I know that I can strive to be that based

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on our conversation that we had today.

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But with that, let's go to the episode.

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Alright, we're here with Piret.

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Piret!

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Thanks for sharing your

heart with us today.

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Piret: Hi Josh.

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Thank you.

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Thank you for having me in your show.

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Joshua: Yeah, absolutely.

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This is really a return favor

because I was recently on your show

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a number of months ago and I really

was excited that I was part of it.

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We connected and we're like, "Hey,

why don't you have me on the show?"

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I'm like, "Perfect.

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Let's do that.", so thanks so much for

taking some time to talk with us today.

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I really want to start with this question

because I already introduced you to the

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audience and many people are probably

scratching their heads when I introduced

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you, saying, "What's a happiness expert?

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I've never heard of such a concept

before.", so, in your own experience,

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in your own words, can you let our

audience know what a happiness expert is?

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Piret: Well, the way I see it as well, and

when I started using that, so I've been a

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happy person since I remember myself, so

it's kind of lucky or, I don't think, I

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don't say it's lucky, but I'm being happy

inside since I remember, but, there were

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points in my life when I saw other people

not having the same feeling, and not being

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able to be the way I was, so, at one point

I started thinking, "Well, how can I teach

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them or help them to feel the same way?",

and why I decided that after learning

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everything, how other people were teaching

happiness and everything, I learned that

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a lot of people who teach happiness, they

actually by themselves, they're not happy.

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They just teach facts, like science

behind the happiness, what to do,

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but then they start talking how, they

themselves, they don't feel it, and that's

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why I was like the way I think I'm an

expert because first of all, I am happy.

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I'm expert because I'm happy.

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Why I can teach others, because I

know how it feels, and I know how to

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teach others what I feel, so I wanted

to share what I have with others.

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I learned how to do it.

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I didn't just start like this.

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I learned also how to teach.

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Joshua: I love that because a lot of

people sometimes go through life feeling

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absolutely miserable, and I can tell

numerous examples to you and even the

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audience, my listeners, about how some

of those people have been a negative

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influence on me because I let their

negativity, their unhappiness, rub

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off on me, but I actually found this

really interesting and I want to let the

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audience know this too again that you

lived in Estonia for a period of time up

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until about 2004; you lived in Florida.

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Why did you move to the United States?

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I'm just curious what

that background story is.

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Piret: Well, I was born in Estonia.

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Actually, I was born when it was

still under Russia, so I was about

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10 years old when we were separated

from Russia again, and when I moved

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here, I kind of had the feeling that

I want to move here since I was 16.

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I don't know why, and then when I

finally moved, I was about 23, and

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it's actually a funny story as well.

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I did a training for

hospitality, and I had a choice.

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We had a really cold winter, but I

had a choice as their hospitality

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trainee to go to my internship,

either in England or in Florida,

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so that was the easy choice there.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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Piret: Do I go to England

after the cold winter?

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Do I go to England to have more cold

or do I go to Florida, so that's

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how I ended up in the United States.

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Joshua: I imagine then you must

have fell in love with being in

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the sunny weather of Florida, which

I've been to Florida a few times.

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I've been to Disney World.

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I have enjoyed it, but it's something

that I love the four seasons, so living

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where I'm at in Pennsylvania is something

that I absolutely don't want to give

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up whatsoever, but is it something

that you enjoy just being down there

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in Florida and enjoying the weather?

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Does that make you happy?

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Piret: Joshua, that's a little bit

different as well, because I do like

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Florida, but I like four seasons as well.

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I actually do prefer four seasons,

but summertime in Florida is really

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hard, because summer is where

everybody else in other places in our

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country, they can go out and play.

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Here it's so hot, you have to sit

inside, so you know like on cold, summer

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cold, like I have people, friends in

Canada, and then in the wintertime

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they pretty much can't go out as much.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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Piret: In the summertime in Florida, we

just go from inside the building to the

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car and then inside the building again

because it's just too hot to be outside.

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Joshua: See, I think it was the opposite

from some people that I've heard,

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but I won't go into that right now.

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Piret: But wintertime, I do like

it in the wintertime when I see on

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the TV that everybody else is in

the snow and I have sunny weather

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outside, that's when I do like it.

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Joshua: I think that we all

have our seasons that we enjoy.

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I enjoy fall so much just because of

the leaves turning and having the cooler

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weather, things of that nature, so I

think there's some people that absolutely

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appreciate it and I guess that's just how

they check into their happiness, which,

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Piret, just getting back to what we were

just talking about, with you being a

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happiness expert, I noticed that you do

a lot of different types of techniques,

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but the one thing that stood out to

me the most when you work with people

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is doing neuro-linguistic programming.

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Can you talk a little bit about your

approach to that, because it's something

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that I'm sure our audience has no

idea or maybe have never heard of it.

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I know I personally have never

heard of it, so I'd love to hear a

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little bit about how you do that.

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Piret: Mm hmm.

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Well, neurolinguistic programming is

pretty much working with the thoughts

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in your head and thoughts that you're

saying to yourself, especially your

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self talk, so we pay attention on what

are we talking inside, listening what

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your thoughts, you tell me what you're

thinking, and we're going to figure

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out what thoughts are positive, what

are negative, what are beneficial for

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you, and what is not beneficial to

you, and then the ones that not good

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for you, we keep them; we anchor them.

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Different neurolinguistics

practitioners, they use different words.

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The word that I use when I want to keep

some thought, I say anchor, and the ones,

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the thoughts that I don't want to keep,

I cancel them, so this way you learn,

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when I talk with you, I learn to keep

your positive thoughts, and I cancel your

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negative thoughts, and after a while,

the client will learn to do the same

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with their own thoughts, so when they

have positive thoughts, they will say

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anchor, and it stays in their mind, and

if some kind of negative thought comes

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to their mind, they will say cancel.

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Joshua: Is there a certain

approach in terms of a certain

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clientele that you use this with?

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In other words, does it work more

effectively with people, like maybe the

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Joe Schmo that comes off the street,

maybe has nothing really serious

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going on in their life, and maybe that

anchoring really helps them to maybe

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feel more focused and more positive,

as opposed to somebody that has been

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through some trauma in their life.

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Do you see a difference with some

people that you've worked with?

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If so, can you talk about

those differences, like how

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impactful they have been?

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Piret: The way I see the people with

trauma and everything, for them it's

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harder and takes longer practice,

because they still have this record

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in their head, and it plays and

it plays and it's hard to stop.

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If somebody who's most things in their

life has been easy, it's easier for them.

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They don't have too many repeating

thoughts, but somebody with trauma,

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they have not just repeating thoughts,

they have repeating images, so good

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thing to include with neuro linguistic

programming is guided meditation where

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they actually visualize the things,

instead of just having this talk and

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thoughts and speaking, they're actually

able to visualize the experience that

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they had and then they work through that.

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Joshua: It's almost like

talking it out loud.

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Is that fair to say, or

is it much more than that?

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Piret: Neurolinguistic programming,

it's more than that because you

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actually change their thoughts.

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With long term practice, you're

actually able to change your thoughts

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so those negative thoughts don't

arise almost never, or very rarely.

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Joshua: That's really interesting in

itself because for me, and Piret, I

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shared this with you on your show and I'll

share it with my listeners just about the

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struggles that I've had with that self

talk because I have these scripts already

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in my head growing up that I need to say

this in order for myself to get to point

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A to point B, but that same script might

not always work in every single situation,

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and it has to change, especially with some

of the circumstances that surround it.

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I mean, obviously it got me into a place

where I realized that if I don't make

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a change pretty soon, I'm going to have

to make some course corrections down

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the road, which obviously I had to in

order to adapt, which speaking of which,

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I noticed on your website, you have a

lot of certifications that talk about

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really your ability to work with others

as a life coach, mental health coach.

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With all those certifications that

you have, does that help you to

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understand getting into other people's

ability to be able to do things like

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neuro-linguistic training and even some

of the other techniques that you use?

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In other words, does this help you

get more engaged with your clients?

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Do you feel that they appreciate

that you've been through all

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these different types of things?

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I mean, I feel that, and feel free to

challenge me on this because I feel that

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nowadays, and I've had this conversation

with other coaches on my show about,

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"Yeah, we could just make a website

tomorrow, call ourselves a coach and we're

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in business", but for many people, they

don't realize that there's a discipline

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and also having to go through different

trials and tribulations, whether in

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life, whether through education, whether

through other means to get to where

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we are so we can provide that advice.

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Do you think that helps

you become more credible?

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Piret: I don't think that helps

me to become more credible,

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but it helps me to know more.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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Piret: So I like those certifications,

and I actually have more, but I have just

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some listed there that I want people to be

aware of, to know what my qualifications

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are, but I learn from everything.

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I learn from books, I learn from

shows, I learn from meeting people.

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I learn all the time.

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Learning is one of my main

things that I love doing.

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Joshua: Absolutely.

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Piret: So, because like you were

saying right now, I just saw really

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funny posting as well, where we're

saying that, everybody can go

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now to your YouTube university.

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There's YouTube university.

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You can just graduate from

there knowing everything.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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I've seen those self proclaimed

individuals and that's why I'm not out

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in the YouTube universe, at least not

yet, and I will laugh at myself later on

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when I'm at episode 184 and say, "Yes,

I finally ventured into that because I

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feel like I have overcome that.", so-

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Piret: Mm-Hmm.

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Joshua: I totally understand that

comment very well, so Piret, I want you

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to tell us a little bit about that big

successful client that you've had or

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somebody that you've worked with, and

I know you work with couples too, so

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that's fair game with this question.

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What would you say has been your

successful individual or individuals

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that you've worked with that have were

on the completely opposite spectrum

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of where they started, and they

got all the way to the other side.

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Of course, I'll ask you to withhold their

names, just for confidentiality, but, I

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was wondering if you could share a little

bit of that success with our audience.

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Piret: Yeah, that's the thing, what I

always keep them really confidential,

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like you said, you're going to be

named it because there's been some

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out there and usually with happiness,

people don't want to show other people

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publicly that they actually unhappy.

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They don't want to know other people know

that they are unhappy, and that's okay.

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For me, that's okay for the client because

they want to present them in one way,

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but they now actually want to feel the

same way inside as well, but like you

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were saying, to have examples, I had

some examples, especially with people

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just finding out that their marriage is

ending, and right in that moment to get

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them really fast to the comfort zone and

figure it out, everything, and I've had

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some people who were previous addicts.

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That's really hard to go with the addict

to keep them going in the road, so in

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the beginning of when I first started

coaching, I remember it was challenging

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in the beginning to learn to work with

them, but after I figured out how to

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work with them, it helped as well, so I

was able to keep them on the right road,

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so I would say that I'm most proud of.

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Joshua: That's awesome in itself,

because marriage and divorce all the

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way to being an addict, recovery,

although somewhat different trends,

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they have some similarities in terms of

how you get to that road of recovery,

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and you brought up something that I'm

actually really curious about now.

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You mentioned that there's been challenges

that you've had to overcome with even

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dealing with some of those clients

and maybe even refining your practice.

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What would you say, especially as you

started out with your practice, what would

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you say is your biggest challenge that

you had, and how did you overcome that?

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Piret: I'm going to be

honest, Josh, with you.

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Biggest challenge for me was to ask money.

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Joshua: Oh yes, I know

that game very well.

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Piret: I know.

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Joshua: Knowing your worth.

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Piret: That's why I was like,

"Should I say the honest answer?"

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Honest answer was to charge money because

I felt like since I've been kind of doing

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it even when I was younger, my friends

and everybody, they came to me for advice,

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so they were actually, my friends, when

I was in high school, they were saying,

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"You should go study psychology", and

everything like that, but I went on

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traveling and doing other things instead,

but they came to me asking for help, so-

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Joshua: Early on in even my business, I

had to learn that it is about charging

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your worth, so even your best friend

that maybe has been with you from

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the get go with whatever you've been

doing is about being able to still

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charge what you're worth, and I had

to learn that lesson the hard way too.

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I think all of us do and it's just a

matter of realizing that we bringing

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value and isn't always about the money.

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I've talked about this.

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I had a coach on here, a sales coach

by the name of Kyle Slaymaker early

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on the program that really has talked

about not only knowing that worth, but

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knowing the fact that it isn't to say

that they are demeaning you or creating

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that opportunity for them to be able to

get the fruits of what you've been doing.

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It's really about learning

something that you have perfected.

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Or something that you have really achieved

that can be shared, and I think there's

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no shame in that, Piret, for sure, because

I learned that the hard way in itself.

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Piret: But actually, when you get over

asking money, ,then it starts feeling

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good when you're actually comfortable

asking the money and people paying you

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that that part already feels good, so when

you overcome that feeling of, "Oh, I'm

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going to ask money", and you finally start

asking the money, that is a good feeling.

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Joshua: It is.

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It's almost as if you're achieving that

value for yourself too, and I know for

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me, it's not just about having people

as clients, or being able to put on a

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workshop and have a number of attendees

or things of that nature, it's really

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about the satisfaction of knowing that my

worth is being radiated across the world

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through those individuals that are going

forth after going through that program,

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or going through that session that we

have together, so it's always important.

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Piret, I want to talk a little bit

about your YouTube channel, which for

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my listeners, I'll put it in the episode

notes so that they can access it, but I

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have obviously been featured on your show.

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I can absolutely leave a link for those

that are interested in checking out when

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I was with you, in which we talked about

really not just getting over anxiety, or

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the biggest topic of them all, because

I have definitely been through the

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gambit of that with my story, but I love

your approach in that you have several

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different topics that you talk about

which relate to happiness, whether it's

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about masculinity, whether it's about

communication, my favorite, which I have

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to go check out because I just noticed it

is about autism, which I have found out

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earlier last year that I was autistic.

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Why all these different types of topics,

because I feel like you could just

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focus on one niche and say, "Yeah,

I'm going to talk about this type of

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happiness and be an expert about it."

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Why so many different topics?

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Are you trying to be able to cover

all those different gambits and try

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to reach as many people as possible?

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I'm just curious about

your thoughts on that.

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Piret: Oh, no.

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It's not about reaching as many people

as possible, for me it's because,

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first, I was planning to do just about

happiness, but I realized there are

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so many people who don't even think

about happiness yet, so I had to find

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some kind of platform for helping them.

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The reason why I did the anxiety

episodes was I was trying to help the

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people with anxiety get to the point

where they can handle their anxiety

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and then move towards happiness, but

they can't just move straight from

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anxiety right to happiness, so I had

to get the issue with happiness first.

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No, issue with anxiety first, and

then go towards happiness, but I

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had another one that I just did, a

new one, what I did after happiness,

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was, if you see the playlist, the

playlist has men's guide to happiness-

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Joshua: Mm-hmm.

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Piret: So that was really

interesting to do because I have

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20 episodes, just with men, about

happiness and men's point of view.

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Joshua: I like that because for so

many different people, it has all

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kinds of different faces, perspectives,

different types of dimensions to it.

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I can completely understand.

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You do something that I don't do, which

is to actually livestream, and I think

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for my fellow listeners that don't know

what that is like to be live streaming

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this, and then being able to have it

published right away, is there a little

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bit of a heightened anxiety in itself,

kind of since we're talking about

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that, to do this sort of episodes live?

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Piret: In the beginning, it could

have been, but what happened,

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what I did, Joshua, what I

did, it's a good story as well.

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The way before I knew that I wanted to

live and podcast on YouTube and video.

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I took a course of online, on video

improv classes, so the goal there is

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you go online, and you have to look as

silly as possible and do all kinds of

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silly things with your face, with your

impressions, talking gibberish, and I did

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all that and I just got comfortable in

front of the camera after doing all the

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silly things, so everybody's wondering

how to learn to be on a camera: go take

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some online improv classes that you have

to be on a camera and doing silly things.

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Joshua: It's just about experimenting

and just getting right into it so

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that you feel a lot more comfortable,

and that's even what I say to my

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public speaking clients is just do it.

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And see where it goes and get the

feedback and start doing it again.

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See what happens, do it again.

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It makes you feel a little

bit better, so I completely

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understand that, and I love that.

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I actually really appreciate you being

so bold enough to do that because

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some people are very afraid of that.

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Glossophobia, the fear of public

speaking, even on a video format, even

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being live stream, can be very scary.

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Piret: Yeah, I think maybe the first

classes when I did that improv, maybe

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I had more anxiety then as well, but

like you're saying, like the more

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you do it, it just goes away, so by

the time I actually started my own

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show, I was already comfortable.

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Joshua: And that's good;

I'm glad to hear that.

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Piret, before we close up, I want

to actually reference the fact that

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you've written a book, and it's

called Joyful Life Jumpstart, and

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I'll also put this in the episode

notes in case anybody's interested.

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It is available on Amazon, on your

Kindle, or even a paperback, but

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why write a book about happiness?

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I will tell you that I've had some

people, I've had a friend of mine, Dr.

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Hector Ortiz, he was recently on the show.

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He shared his books about the fact

that in order to gain the ability to

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professionally grow and even have a

fulfilling life, there is even a component

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of happiness with it, so why write a book

is always my question for my authors.

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Piret: Well, this book, I have another

book that I'm writing now that's more

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about happiness, but that book, Joyful

Life J umpstart was because I wanted

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to give people tools how to get into a

positive mindset, and the way it came

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to me is asking why people have feeling

of start to writing a book it was just

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already writing it in my mind, so it

was writing in my mind by itself and I

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just had to start writing in a paper.

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I had a feeling like just start putting in

a paper, and in a book it actually teaches

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you how to deal with the past, and figure

out what you want for future and figure

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out where you are now and what steps you

have to take to make the future joyful.

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Joshua: I've definitely could have used

that book about three and a half, four

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years ago when I was going through what

I was going through Piret, so I must have

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missed the boat when I saw that book.

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Although I know I see that it was only

published just a few years ago, but

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even then, as I was going through the

midst of it, I would have loved to

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have that kind of book in my hands.

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Piret: Joshua, I wrote it

when there was COVID lockdown.

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Joshua: Okay.

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Piret: That's when I wrote it.

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Joshua: It's so funny to talk to people

that I've had on the show that have

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gone through the COVID shutdown and

they've had this spark of inspiration

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or they have really started something

that they always wanted to do, but they

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never could have the opportunity to do

so, so I always find it fascinating.

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I love the fact that you did

that during the COVID lockdown.

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Piret, we're almost at the end of our

time, but before I let you just share a

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little bit about how people can reach out

to you, I have one last question, and it

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does relate to this overall theme that

we've had to this show about happiness.

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I've talked to a number

of people in my business.

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I've been open for a little

over a year now, and I've have

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encountered many different people

that were either not as fulfilled,

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or not as happy, as they could be.

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They are struggling with finding that

identity of happiness because there's

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been some barriers that have been put

along the way, and that has created a

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lot of things for them to essentially

feel a little trepidation about being

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able to go through and think they

can have a happy, fulfilled life.

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If somebody listening to this would

stumble across this, and they are

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really interested in getting started

on how they can be happy, what would

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you recommend as really that first

step in achieving true happiness?

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What would you say is the

first action item, if you will?

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Obviously, they could go and

call you, but what if they didn't

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have that available to you?

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What would you say to them?

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Piret: Yeah, because my program is

really good, but before we get there,

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I would say if there's somebody who

really, really doesn't know yet,

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they have to take a little paper or

a little notebook and start writing

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out little things that they feel.

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"Oh, I felt happy", and say

like, "Oh, I had this good coffee

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and that made me feel happy."

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Start paying attention on those little

things that make them feel happy, even

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if it's just for a few seconds, few

minutes, but paying attention on things

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that make you feel good and happy, because

if you know what those things are that

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make you feel happy, either they're

activities or just items or things, then

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you can have more of them in your life,

because you're already mentally, you're

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already paying attention that, "Oh.

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Doing this walk in the morning",

or even just watching your favorite

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show, while it feels good, but

you mark down that it feels good.

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Joshua: I love that message because

some people think it's about, "Oh.

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I need to start a new routine", which

I did a whole series of episodes even

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earlier in this new 2024 year about

having to be able to set those goals,

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be able to set those expectations, but

it doesn't mean completely dropping

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everything that you used to do and do

it with two feet and jumping right into

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it, because that will set you up for

disaster, so it's really about being

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intentional and starting with the small

things, and I love that just writing it

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down can be the gateway to creating some

of that, so thanks for sharing that.

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Piret: And even just noticing if you

don't, if you're a person who doesn't

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like to write things down, at least

notice that I am feeling good right now.

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Joshua: Absolutely.

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Piret, thanks so much for doing

this and talking about this subject

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and even some of your experiences.

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If people are interested in reaching

out to you, how can they contact you?

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Do you have a website that

they can reach out to?

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I would love for you to take these last

few minutes and pitch yourself to my

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listeners, because I'm sure that all of

us could use a little bit more happiness,

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and maybe you can be that person for them,

so I'm going to give you the last few

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moments here to go ahead and share that.

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Piret: Mm-hmm, so the best way to

reach me is through my website, which

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is b y, and my name, p i r e t.Com,

and from there, the most popular

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package and the most impactful package

is Access Your Happiness, which

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is a two hour assessment session.

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and with that one, you're already pretty

much setting yourself up for having a...

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happier life or having

happy life for a long time.

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First of all, what we do there is we find

out what is your happiness gatekeeper, so

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what's holding you back from feeling happy

or acknowledging that you're happy and

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then we're going to find out what are the

things that make you happy, and then set

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goals and make a plan how to have more of

those happy things in your life, and how

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to do it, so that's my main package right

now, that's a one on one personal thing.

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That's what I'm promoting right now.

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Joshua: Wow, and I think that

you, my listeners, can definitely

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take advantage of that.

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You take advantage of the fact

that she's written the book.

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You take advantage of the fact that I

was on her show, so I'm going to put

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all those things in the episode notes

again, if you want to check those things

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out, but Piret, I have to tell you

a little girl from Estonia coming to

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the big leagues of the United States.

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I think you're making a big impact with

this important subject because happiness

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is something that we should all be able

to achieve, and I'm so thankful that

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you have this assessment, so thankful

that you're leading that life and

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you're leading that charge, especially

with all the things that you're doing.

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I appreciate you being on this show.

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Thanks for being on

speaking from the heart.

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It really has been a privilege to feel

a little bit happier and a little bit

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more joyful after talking with you today.

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I really mean that.

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Piret: Thank you, Joshua.

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Is there a time for me

to say a few more things?

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Joshua: Go ahead.

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This is your time.

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Piret: Well, one of the things that I

wanted to share as well was because I

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noticed that right now in our society,

being happy is not so acceptable.

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People are looking for more sadness and

everything, so that's why I'm sharing

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this and that's why I'm doing this

because I want to make more people to

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feel that they're allowed to be happy.

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A lot of people holding their back, they

might feel happy, but they feel that

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maybe I should not be feeling happy.

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Society is not looking for

people to be happy yet.

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I think so.

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That's what it looks to me.

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Joshua: It's all about what we are able

to do to achieve not only that happiness,

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but to resist the fact that there

are societal, cultural pressures that

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might be creating some of that, or even

individual pressures for that matter, to

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: 00:32:47

be able to lead that happiness life, so,

Piret, thanks again for sharing that.

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Thanks again for being part of the show.

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I appreciate it.

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Piret: Yeah.

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Thank you, Joshua.

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Thank you for doing your show.

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It's really important.

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Joshua: I want to thank Piret so much

for allowing me to not only be on her

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show, but allowing me to interview her

for my own podcast, because not only has

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this been a conversation worth diving

into, but it really dives into a simple

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concept in itself, which I mentioned

in the beginning of this episode.

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Are you happy?

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That's it.

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It's as simple as that.

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Can you just be happy with who you

are, or maybe what you want to achieve,

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for that matter, so that you can be

happy in the most simplistic form.

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We don't need to dive into all kinds

of different types of techniques

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in which you can be happy.

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Pierrette's already done that for us, and

I highly encourage you to take a listen

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again to some of those opportunities

that she has mentioned, that maybe You

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have forgotten that could be some of

those simple ways for you to be happy,

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but what thoughts, what self talk do we

really give ourselves, that really puts

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us behind the wheel of whether we're going

to be happy on a particular day or not,

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and I've heard it time and time again.

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If you get up in bed, and before you

even put your two feet on the floor of

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your bed, you have to think about all the

different blessings that you have in your

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life: that you're able to breathe, that

you're able to eat, you'd be able to have

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: 00:34:18

another day in your life, but regardless

of all those different things, it's just

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about, simply, what are you happy about,

and I think that if we don't keep that

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conversation tone in place about that

happiness aspect, it's going to just take

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longer for what we want to do to achieve

what is ultimately in the cards for us.

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I don't know many of you to really decide

whether I think that you're going to

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be happy if you just simply do that.

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It might be more involved; might be more

intense; it might be more exhilarating

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of a life that you lead, to the

point that you might be asking, "This

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episode is completely out of my league.

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: 00:35:03

I don't think that I will ever be able

to learn the happiness aspect that Piret

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shared with you today, Josh," but, I think

that you may be missing the mark as to

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what this episode really is all about.

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It isn't always about the things that

we do that might be the happiest of

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moments because let's face it, we

have to do things that don't give us

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great joy or great pleasure, therefore

not contributing to that happiness,

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but it's about what the long term

aspirations of what our intentions are.

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That's what makes us create some

of the best opportunities in our

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lives to either be happy or not.

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It's about the books that we read.

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: 00:35:42

It's about the television shows

that we might spend time watching.

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It might be some of the close

associations of the people.

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That might all, in cumulation, make

us happy, or make us not happy, but

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you have to address this from the many

different angles that it comes from.

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It isn't just about doing one

thing and thinking that once

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: 00:36:03

you perfect that you'll be okay.

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It's simply not true.

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: 00:36:08

There's so much more than what meets

the eye sometimes when it comes to

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: 00:36:12

being happy, but I think that if you

overindulge into many different things

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: 00:36:18

that are helping you to make yourself

happy, you might be also missing the

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mark, because it isn't just about

having an underindulgence or having

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: 00:36:28

an overindulgence of being happy.

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: 00:36:31

It's about really meeting the balance

of what you can be from not only

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: 00:36:36

helping others, helping yourself,

but also interacting with the various

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: 00:36:42

other modalities in life that you

have to interact with, so it's really

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: 00:36:46

about finding that platform that

makes you really happy to begin with.

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Don't know what I mean?

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Let's break it down in an example.

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Say for me, I wanted to have something

that makes me happy all the time.

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Well, if that was the case, I would be

strapping on my hiking boots, getting

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: 00:37:04

my sticks out, putting my backpack

together, and be hiking on the Appalachian

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Trail every time something goes wrong,

because I'm so fortunate enough to live

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: 00:37:14

close to where the Appalachian Trail

connects, and I would be able to hike

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: 00:37:18

either south or north, it doesn't matter.

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: 00:37:20

Whatever way I want to go on the

Appalachian Trail, I can do that.

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I have that opportunity, but the

question is, is that really reasonable

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: 00:37:28

to do every time something goes wrong?

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Absolutely not.

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: 00:37:32

I have a job; matter of fact, two jobs.

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: 00:37:35

I have to appease for both of those jobs

in order to create that opportunity that

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: 00:37:40

I can have down the road if I really

wanted to, to work on the Appalachian

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Trail from the northern point to

the southern point where it ends.

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: 00:37:50

I can do that, but that isn't balanced.

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: 00:37:54

That's an overindulgence.

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Now, at the same term, if it was something

that I was reading that I really enjoyed,

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that I wanted to continue reading,

but then I put it to the side and I

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: 00:38:05

forgot about it, and then after that

amount of time that passes by before I

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: 00:38:11

realize that I haven't read that book

in a while, that it might be time to

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: 00:38:14

pick it up again, and then I forgot

where I was even at, does that make me

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: 00:38:19

happy that I have to start all over?

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Probably not, because that

was a really good reading of

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: 00:38:24

a book that I had in my hand.

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: 00:38:26

Now I have a underindulgence.

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: 00:38:29

The right balance is that I can take

short sprints on the Appalachian Trail

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and continuously have a schedule in

which I read at least 20 to 30 pages

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a day of a book just so that I can

keep abreast of everything that I want

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to do in terms of my time management.

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That would make me happy, but that's just

one platform out of many things that we

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can address to create the opportunities

that we have in our lives to be happy.

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The tools and the concepts that Piret

even mentions about writing things

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out, dealing with the past, helping

you flush out that negativity so that

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you can be happy with who you are, are

just some of the basic building blocks

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that might help you to get started.

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It doesn't mean that you have to know

it all, and it doesn't mean that you

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have to be happy every day, because we

are emotional creatures, and if there's

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anybody that knows who is an emotional

creature, it is me, myself, and I, your

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podcast host, that has struggled from

time and time again of the emotional

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rollercoaster that takes place in my life,

but I think we all have those emotional

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rollercoasters because of the various

things that are demands in our time.

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Not only of our time, but also of our

space, the occupation of the things that

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we need to work on in order to have the

quality that we desire, whether that

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is with our significant other, whether

that's with our children if we have them,

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whether it's even with our mom and dad

that might be still living to this day.

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Regardless of the motivation or even

the technique in which you're trying to

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utilize, it's really about understanding

what those thoughts and perceptions

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are that help to create not just that

happiness that you have, but that

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ability to keep moving forward; to keep

thinking that positive angle in your

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life is really important to maintain.

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It really begs the question: should

I look for sadness, and I think

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this is the antithesis of really

this whole entire conversation.

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Don't take that time to look for sadness

if you're wanting to give it space.

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If you really are trying to give

it a opportunity to grow, you

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don't look out for that sadness.

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You look out for the happiness, and

as much as sadness wants to creep up

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in our hearts and minds from time to

time, especially if we have that as a

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medical condition, which is true with

the things that we have learned in

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the science of depression and anxiety.

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Over the last 10 and 20 years, we know

for a fact that sadness can crawl into

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our brains and make us feel like we

are just sacks of nothingness, but

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we don't have to choose that path.

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We have a constant opportunity to keep

moving forward, and keep choosing the

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things that we want to choose, in order to

create that best value of who we are, so

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the next time that you want to feel sad,

you're allowing it to occupy that space.

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Don't do it.

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You can be a happy person, and

I think Piret demonstrates today

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the importance of being able to

understand that happiness is a choice.

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A very conscious choice, and in

the matter of those choices that

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we have, one thing rings true: we

don't have to sit in that forever.

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We don't have to sit in that happiness

all the time, but it is okay to have

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that perspective of happiness no matter

where we go, but we don't have to

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be part of the group as a whole, not

being happy, because I think happiness

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doesn't just come from what's in the

inside, but what we experience on the

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outside, so next time that you're walking

down the street, or you're walking to

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your office, or you're on that video

chat with someone, give them a smile.

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Make sure it's from cheek to cheek,

and let those people know that you are

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showing that distinguishment of happiness.

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You might not be feeling it, but that

other person might feel it for the

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better, and I think that's what really

matters the most, that we can all be

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happier no matter what we're going

through, because we have that ability

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to project whether we're happy or sad.

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I'd rather be happy more than anything

else, and I'd rather see your happy

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face as I'm walking to my office,

walking to my car, maybe even on that

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video chat the next time I see you,

because happiness is not just a gift.

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It's an honor to receive.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 84 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart, very soon.

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