Episode #96 Part 2 - Seeking Our Accountability Partner To Share Our Hearts: An Interview With Kaneshi Hart

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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode number

96, part two of Speaking From The Heart.

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Now, if you weren't able to join us in

part one, I'm going to ask you to stop

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and go back and listen to part one,

because it was such a powerful part one

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that it will set up the conversation that

we have in part two, but just in case,

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if you're joining us, Kaneshi Hart was

my guest, and I'm going to give a little

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bit of her background again, in case you

want to learn a little bit about her.

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Kaneshi is a Jesus loving, home

inhabiting businesswoman who does

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and enjoys a variety of things.

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In the business world, she hosts the

Coach UP podcast, where she interviews

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six and seven figure coaches about

how they build their businesses.

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She also connects businesses

looking for places to advertise

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her podcast who have the audiences

those businesses want to target.

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Kaneshi is also a budding trader in the

stock market and believes everyone needs

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to know how to extract money at any time

from this multi trillion dollar industry.

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Kaneshi arrived at the wonderful world of

podcasting after spending almost 20 years

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in corporate America where she led and

coached high performance teams and was

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responsible for over 600 employees and

over 300 million in revenue generation

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in the course of her work, but now,

on the other side of corporate life,

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she's enjoying helping other people

build their businesses through the

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power of connection and conversation.

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I have to say that when we got through

this interview, my mouth dropped open.

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You see, back in episode 26 in which

I interviewed Matthew Roda, I made the

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promise at the end of part 2 of that

episode that I would let him know when

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I found somebody that was living an

authentic life, and my goodness ladies

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and gentlemen, I think I found this lady

not just because we were meant to connect

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on this important topic, but there was

a promise that we made to each other

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at the end of this episode that even

to this day, I am still thinking about

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the importance of why it's so entailed

to have a coach, to have somebody that

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truly believes in you, and is willing

to go, no matter what kind of distance,

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to help you show what kind of hope that

you have to make the future better.

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It isn't just about making a six or seven

figure business, but it's about having

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accountability, love, and that ability,

and that reality to say what you really

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have to say when it counts the most.

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Kaneshi was one of those guests that

at the end, I just couldn't hold myself

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back from saying what was truly on my

heart, because this episode, overall,

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really epitomizes the importance of

why I started this project in the first

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place, and why it's so important to

always, truly, speak from the heart.

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But with that let's go to the

conclusion, part two of my

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interview with Kaneshi Hart.

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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, so you're

telling me you don't know your why?

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I mean, I feel that, Kaneshi, you have

this why inside of you that you've

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been literally articulating to me,

so I feel that you need to define

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that a bit for me and the audience.

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Explain what you mean by you

haven't figured out your why yet.

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Kaneshi: Okay.

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Wait, Josh.

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Okay.

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You said you feel like I've

been articulating it for you.

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I'm going to ask you to be

a mirror for me real quick.

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What have you heard, because

you might be able to help me.

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Joshua: I have to explain

this to the audience.

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Kaneshi: OK.

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Joshua: So one of the things that

I think as a coach, I always say to

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people is: what is it that you really

want to be, so kind of laying that out,

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what is it that you want to achieve?

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You've talked about even earlier what

you want to achieve with opening a

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business, wanting to help people, really

connecting because you love people.

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You have all those elements, right, so

usually in my business, I've talked about

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this in other episodes about SMART goals,

so it's being specific, measurable,

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attainable, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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You have those aspects already in your

head and you're articulating them so

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eloquently to me and our listeners,

so I feel that you have some of that.

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To build upon this, I feel like what

you're saying is that you like to

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help people, so why not be a coach?

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Why not help others to achieve

greatness as you are achieving that

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greatness right now through the love

that you have for Jesus, for the things

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that you've done to achieve what you

have been achieving for the podcast.

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You are doing the work, and I think this

is an important lesson for listeners that

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this is essentially what we have to do.

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We have to kind of negotiate with

ourselves what we're trying to achieve,

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so tell me today, on this episode,

that you are going to open a business.

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You're going to help the people

that you really want to help, but

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more importantly, you're going to

achieve that success that you define.

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You're going to do that for me, right?

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Kaneshi: It's inevitable, right?

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It has to be done.

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I either we have to do it or we just

live with regret and disappointment and

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who wants to live in that space, so I

like what you said, and I appreciate

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the challenge, Josh, because as you

were making that point, there were

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some things that, that came up for me,

which tells me you're a good coach.

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I can already see that.

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Joshua: Thank you for that.

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Kaneshi: Because that's

exactly what coaches do, right?

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You draw out, you make your client, and in

this case, your guest, really think about

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things for ourselves, right, and reflect

back to us, so thank you for doing that,

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so as you talked about that; all right.

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Why am I not a coach, and what do

I already do that already helps

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people maybe would be in that space.

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I'll tell you a quick story

with my substitute teaching.

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Right now as a substitute teacher

in my district, it's beautiful.

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I go online either the night before

or the morning of, and I get to pick

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where I go to work that day, if I want

to work that day, and it's super easy.

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I don't know the children.

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I don't have a connection.

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I'm going in to facilitate what a teacher

needed me to do, and then I'm gone.

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No connection, but over the last month

and for another 30 days coming, I actually

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have taken on what they call a long term

sub position where I'm with the same

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kids for eight weeks and I'm responsible

for their learning, and Josh, to your

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point, I have so much more purpose.

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I have so much more drive.

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I have so much more investment and joy in

knowing that these little minds who get

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on my last nerves quite often, but they

are precious, but these little minds are

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my responsibility to mold, to grow, to

help become better in this time space,

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and that truly drives me, right, so when

I think about my why, I can reflect on

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that and say, "I've not had that in a

long time", because working for myself,

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I don't have a team yet, right, but I

did leadership: leading teams, managing

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teams, supporting teams for almost two

decades, over two decades, and that is-

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yeah, there's a joy that comes, and I

think, to your point again, like your

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why, when you know it, but when you're

operating in it, or your purpose, like

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there is a joy that just naturally comes.

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It doesn't mean stuff isn't hard.

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It doesn't mean there's not parts

that you don't enjoy, but like I

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truly walk away with a sense of

joy, and so why am I not a coach?

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I don't think at the moment that's

supposed to be my space, because in this

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season where I'm getting to be with these

children for a time and lead them, and I

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compare that to like one on one coaching,

I realized I really do well with the team.

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I really do well with the group, right?

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Joshua: Why don't you

do team coaching then?

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Kaneshi: I'm tired of you.

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I'm tired of you Josh.

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Joshua: No, seriously, because if you

don't like working on an individual

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basis, because there are various

different types of coaching for that

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matter, and we all work in different

avenues, or modalities if you will,

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to create those spaces for helping

others, so if you like working with

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multiple people, why not team coaching?

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Why not something in that field, whether

it's not coaching, it's something else?

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Kaneshi, I am challenging you.

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Kaneshi: You are.

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Joshua: I'm putting you on the spot, but-

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Kaneshi: I like it.

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Joshua: I see this passion and this

energy, and my listeners, I'm just

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going to describe what I see right now.

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I see a beautiful lady smiling from chin

to chin and she is; well, cheek to cheek,

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I should say, and definitely creating

this value for all of us that we need

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to be able to learn to just have these

tough conversations that we're so afraid

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of having, because we're not living our

fullest potential, and I know and my heart

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goes out for those people, especially

you right now, it's like, how about put

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you as the victim here of my sort of

charade of questions, but I think it's

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so important because of the people that

you surround yourself with to do this.

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Kaneshi: Yes, because you've got

to have people to challenge you,

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right, because we can talk ourselves

out of stuff in a heartbeat and we

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let ourselves off the hook so very

much, and again, to your point.

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There's a disconnect.

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I can tell the difference when I'm

working on my own on the podcast.

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When I'm working in the business.

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I'm having to do the marketing.

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I'm having to do the admin.

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I'm having to do all that stuff.

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That does not bring me any joy.

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There's a difference in that

when I'm talking to a guest.

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We're having this amazing

conversation today.

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There's a different light.

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There's a different energy.

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There's a different light and energy for

me when I'm working with these children

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that I get the privilege of helping,

and so, yes, to your point, when I'm

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not there it's not as fun of a place,

and so why not push myself, challenge

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myself, to do what you're talking about?

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I don't know what it looks like, but I can

agree with you, and I will say I enjoy one

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on one coaching in the midst of a group,

so I love that one on one because, and you

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know this Josh, and I know you've seen it.

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We talked about it earlier.

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Where you get to see

people's lives change.

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They overcome obstacles.

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They reach new heights.

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Okay.

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Let me, let me share this with your,

with your client; your guest, okay.

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Guys-

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Joshua: Listeners.

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Kaneshi: Your listeners!

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Your guests.

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You all our guests today-,

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Joshua: They're all my guests, but

you're my listeners, but I hope you'd

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be my guests at some point, along with

even my clients, but anyways, go on-

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Kaneshi: All of that.

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Joshua: Yes.

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Kaneshi: I want people to know, no

matter what you're doing, and who you're

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working with, if you work with people

in any capacity or on your own, set

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your bar high, and set the bar high

for people around you, because people

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will rise to the bar that you set for

them and then they will thank you for

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believing in them more than they believe

in themselves, for seeing more in them

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than they saw in themselves, and you

know, temper it with how they are.

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Don't set unrealistic standards for

people, but I've truly have seen when

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you hold people to a higher standard,

they rise to that and people love it.

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One of my team members told me- it's been

almost eight years, but one of the things

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for me is I think on things for 48 hours,

like I don't make decisions immediately.

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Everybody's different, but that's me,

but in my one on one session with her.

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We had that conversation.

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She was going through some stuff and years

later, she sent me a message on Facebook.

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This has been in the last year, and

she was like, "I still make decisions."

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She had done something.

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I congratulated her on her, and she said,

"Well, I made the decision because I still

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wait 48 hours before I make a decision."

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When you have those moments that

you know you've impacted somebody,

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yeah, and you've helped them to

make adjustments in their lives.

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You're right.

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There's a joy, and so I do.

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I know my why is to help people.

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I just need to figure out, in addition

to the podcast, in addition to the

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business that I'm building, how else

that looks that's also fulfilling

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for other people, as well as me,

so I think I have some work to do.

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Joshua: I'm going to throw one more

challenge on you because you said

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about not liking the marketing,

the admin stuff for that, but

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we were just talking about that.

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That's why we have interns.

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Those are the people that do that work.

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You are designed to do the

things that you enjoy that you're

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passionate about, so hire somebody.

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Here; this is some advice for the

listeners to even for you, Kaneshi, hire

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the people that love doing the accounting.

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Hire the people that

love to do the marketing.

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I have two people in my life.

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I'm going to give them a quick shout out

because I haven't yet, but I'm hoping to

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have them yet on the show at some point.

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Deborah Mawson, who is my bookkeeper.

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She's been a phenomenal person; make

sure I'm staying in the clear and

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making sure that I have everything

accounted for, but I also have a media

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marketing firm that's helped me with my

social media postings and my website.

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Corey and Brittany Hart

of Enzo Digital LLC.

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Those two groups helped me so much so that

I don't have to worry about those things.

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I get focused on what I love: coaching

and podcasting, which at some point I

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would love to pass along the editing of

my podcast, because I absolutely despise

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it to somebody else because I'm not

that tech savvy when it comes to that

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sometimes, and I know people have more

of a creative niche, but here's my deal.

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This is why I'm saying all this, not only

to you Kaneshi, but to the listeners.

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You have a gift.

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Use it to its fullest potential

because you only have one life to

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live, and we only have so much finite

time, like we were just talking

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about earlier about time management.

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I think that you have this heart of gold

that you've been sharing so far that I

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think that you are destined for greatness.

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I will say that to you, because

you do the Coach UP podcast.

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You surround yourself with six,

seven figure business owners that

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have created so much significant

value, not just monetarily, but with

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relationships, because above all else,

that is what's really important, and,

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you have a relationship with Jesus.

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You have a relationship

with people that love you.

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Why not?

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Make me a promise, okay?

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Can you make me a promise?

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Kaneshi: Let's see what

this promise is, Josh.

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What's you got?

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Joshua: By the next time that you're on

my show, which you will be back on my

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show at some point, I want to hear that

not only did you open your business, not

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only are you doing what you are called

to do, you found your why, but you're

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also one of those six or seven figure

business owners that I get to interview.

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Can you make me that promise?

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Kaneshi: I will commit to

that with a caveat for you.

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Joshua: What's the caveat to me?

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Kaneshi: Yes.

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That likewise, the next time I'm on

your podcast, you will be a six or

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seven figure business owner, and I

will get to have you on my podcast.

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Joshua: Deal.

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If I'm going to hold you the same

standard, I'm going to be doing

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the same work because it's about

accountability; that's what coaches do.

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Kaneshi: Yes.

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Joshua: And that's what's really creating

a lot of those different things, so here.

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I want to put this back into the

general conversation, because I've

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really just been challenging you

the last 20 minutes and I feel like-

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Kaneshi: I appreciate it.

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Joshua: I've been doing that, but I

think this is just a real life example

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for people of sometimes the things

that we wrestle with, but you've been

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through so much with the layoffs.

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A lot of people have been through

a lot of things with COVID.

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I struggled and I've even let my listeners

know way in the past about my struggles

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with that, especially after I tried

suicide, and go on a recovery process

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that was prolonged because of Covid.

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Kaneshi: Mm-hmm.

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Joshua: You have gone through hell.

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Let's be real.

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You have gone through hell having

to stick to your beliefs and

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stay confirmed to those beliefs.

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Kaneshi: Mm-hmm.

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Joshua: What is your purpose?

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I really want you to answer that question.

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It isn't just about the why

that we were just talking about.

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Kaneshi: Mm-hmm.

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Joshua: What is your real purpose?

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Kaneshi: You know, I think it is to be,

man, thank you for this question, and I

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say that because we really- we don't ask

ourselves these enough, and even if we do,

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answering ourselves is hard, but when you

have to say it to somebody else, it really

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makes you think about it, and it hopefully

it makes you honest, so thank you.

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Joshua: You know, I don't like asking

that question to myself, because I

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would be, "Uh, well, but, you know", I

would have all kinds of filler words,

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which for my Toastmaster audiences,

I know I just counted them all.

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It was about four or five.

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Don't worry.

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I got a tracker, but it's part of that.

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We are so concerned about what those

things are that we obsess about it, so

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I think that we kind of overcompensate

for it, so I understand, because I would

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feel uncomfortable about it too, but

putting you on the spot is probably the

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best thing for not only myself, but for

other people listening to this that need

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that hope and know that they do have

that purpose, so I'll ask you again.

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What is your purpose, Kanisha Hart?

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Kaneshi: When you ask me that question,

this is what comes to mind; two things,

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and hopefully they're interrelated.

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One is, it is to be an example to people,

and maybe slightly more with an emphasis

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on women, but not necessarily, but I am

a woman, and love being a woman, and so-

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Joshua: You know, and honestly, let's

just call it out for what it is.

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You're a black woman.

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Kaneshi: Amen.

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Joshua: But you know what?

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You are a successful, powerful black

woman, and I will go to my grave

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appreciating everybody, regardless

of skin color, sex, creed, origin.

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Who cares?

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You're doing it, so

anyways, I have to say that.

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I really do.

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I feel that we shy away from that

conversation, me being a white dude.

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I get it.

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" Oh, he has all the power.

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He controls it."

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No, he doesn't.

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Kaneshi: Right.

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Joshua: No, we all have this equal

shot, and I know that we sometimes

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say, "Well, society tells us we don't."

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Bullshit.

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Kaneshi: Right.

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Correct.

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Society doesn't dictate

the decisions that we make.

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Society doesn't dictate what we choose to

do and not to do, right, and so we have to

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forge our own path by our own decisions,

and so, yes, so I am a lover of Jesus.

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I am a woman and I am born to

amazing parents who are black.

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All of that applies to me, and so

my purpose is to show others what is

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possible, and to be that example for them,

and the second thing that comes to mind

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is I believe the Lord has given me this

dream, and I believe it was spoken over

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me that I am supposed to help women who

are in sex trafficking and Josh, it's

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not just helping them get back on their

feet, but it is the totality of showing

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them what confidence looks like again.

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Showing them what hope looks like again.

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Showing them that as a woman,

you can walk powerfully.

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You can walk confidently.

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You can walk in the dreams, right?

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You can, like you were just talking about.

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It's not society that dictates what we do.

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It is us.

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We make those decisions, regardless of

our background, our sex, all of that,

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and so I feel like my purpose is to

provide that hope to be that example

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of that hope for people who are in

my space, that God sends to my space,

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because we all have space, like we were

talking about earlier for you, you have

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a story, Josh, that people need to hear,

and you have gone through so much of

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yourself, but you are on the other side,

like, and not even on the other side.

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I guess that's a bad way to look at it

because we're all still living life,

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but you have overcome something that

is truly difficult, and you're still

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walking forward, and you're choosing

to make a difference for other people.

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You're choosing to be

courageous every single day.

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You're choosing to pour back into people

when you had a time when you didn't feel

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like anybody was pouring into you, right?

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That is powerful, and there are

people who will connect only with

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you, so you have to share your story.

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You have to continue to be brave,

and so I challenge you to continue

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to do that, and more, because

people need to hear from Josh.

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They absolutely hear from you.

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There are people who will

consider taking their lives.

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There are people who will

consider starting a business.

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There are people who

will want to be a coach.

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There are people who want to do a podcast,

and they will not do it if they don't

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get to hear Josh on Speaking From The

Heart, or they don't get to hear Josh on

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a stage sharing his story or sharing about

how he built his coaching business, or

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sharing the insights you have as a coach.

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They won't, because they need your voice,

because you are unique and special and

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made for a reason, and the life that

you're living correlates with thousands,

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if not millions, of other lives that

need to connect with you, and every

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single person has that, and so I think

for me, my purpose is to be that example

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for those people who need to come that

possible is probable for you, and yeah.

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Okay.

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Man.

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Thanks.

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Wow.

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Joshua: I have to say this, and

for my listeners, this is me being

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really authentically speaking

from the heart for a moment.

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I'm literally on the verge of tears, as

I usually sometimes am when I have these

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long winded conversations with people,

and the last time I can even think back

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was episode 26, for those that have been

longtime followers, you know that was

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the famous Matthew Roda episode in which

I found out that Matt was doing drugs.

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He found his guardian angel, Helen,

his wife, and has really changed his

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life for the better of running three

businesses, so putting that all to the

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side, I had, Kaneshi, this gentleman,

next morning he says to me, "That was

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the most impactful interview that I've

ever done on any podcast, and you've

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changed my life forever.", and to hear

you say that to me, even in this very

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moment, makes me reaffirm the fact that

I'm literally four episodes away from

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episode 100, and this has been a life

changing experience for me, because what

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originally started as a concept where

I just wanted to really get myself out

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there, to get my story out there, to let

people know a little bit about who I am

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and what this is all about, has turned

into something that has significantly and

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forever changed my life, and it's because

of people like you that live that life

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wholeheartedly, that want to explore and

inspire others to create not only those

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opportunities, but to share what has been

on our hearts, and being a fellow podcast

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host, I think you're going to relate to

this next question that I have for you.

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There's been many people probably on

your show that have been inspired,

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which just to remind people, because

we've been talking for a while about

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your Coach UP podcast that you have.

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Who has been the most impactful person

that you've had on the show and how

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has that changed you for the better?

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Kaneshi: First, I want to say, I

have to echo your guest, because this

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conversation, Josh, you not backing down

and challenging me to really articulate

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what my purpose is; dig into that why.

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There's a fire.

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A new fire, like the fire is

being rekindled in me, so thank

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you, so this conversation.

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It's in the top five right now,

and I'm not even interviewing you.

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OK.

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Joshua: Yeah, so you can't say me

to the answer to that question.

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Kaneshi: I can't say you, but

I'll tell you, so one of them-

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two of them come to mind.

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One is Maya Herodette, so her episode

came out about September: 2023

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you want to check that out, amazing.

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She's an amazing woman, but what I loved

about her interview, and really the

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after conversation, like you and I had an

amazing conversation before we started.

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I really think you should record some

of those conversations and use them

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as outtakes because it was a fire.

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Y'all missed some fire

conversation with Josh and I.

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Joshua: Absolutely.

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Kaneshi: But her conversation in mind even

after we got done, she was the catalyst

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to help me birth my business that I'm

building as the extension of my podcast.

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We were talking about

sponsorships for podcasts.

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You have a podcast.

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I have a podcast.

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People who have podcasts

usually want sponsors.

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That's one way that we monetize our

podcasts, and I wanted to help with that,

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but because of how she is, who she is,

how she has a heart to serve, she was

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talking to me about my idea of connecting

businesses with podcasts, and so helping

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businesses find the podcast that they

want to advertise on, so the podcast can

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get the money that they're looking for.

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The business can get in front of

the audience that they want, and the

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business and the podcast don't have

to do the work to find each other.

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I will do that.

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That's the business that I'm building.

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Now you're going to ask

me about that earlier.

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There it is, but-

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Joshua: Boom!

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There it goes what it is that she

is doing because she will do it

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because she's a successful woman.

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Kaneshi: And I've committed it to you.

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Joshua: You did.

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Kaneshi: Yeah-

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Joshua: You're doing it.

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Kaneshi: Absolutely.

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Already done, so her asking me questions

that helped to really sink that idea,

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and then she said these words to

me, Josh, similar to what you said.

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She said, "I need what you're going

to offer, because I'm not going-"; She

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has a coaching business, obviously,

and so she needs people to find a

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podcast that has her audience, and

she said, "I need people to do what

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you're doing and that is a seven figure

business.", and just to hear somebody

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breathe that belief into that idea.

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There was such a peace, praise the

Lord, that just came and sat with me.

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I just knew, okay, that's what I'm

supposed to do, so she was amazing,

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and then really quickly, the other one

that really impacted me was Tim Winders

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is a coach who in the first, I think,

quarter of a year, he and his wife

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had gone from like multi millions to

homeless and their homeless life was

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: 00:26:20

crazy, but that's a whole other story.

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You can go listen to the episode, but then

the first three months after they bounced

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back, they made like 300, 500 dollars

in three months, and then at the end of

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the year, they had 12 streams of income.

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Sometimes you just need, and just

to hear him talk about it, sometimes

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you just need those belief barriers

broken, right, because we hear the

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thing, "Anything is possible", but

do we really believe it, like, okay,

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Josh, I'm going to ask you a question.

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Joshua: Yes.

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Kaneshi: What is that thing that you want?

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You mentally know that it's possible,

but you have a belief barrier that's

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keeping you from really, truly 100

percent believing it's for you?

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Joshua: Wow.

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That is really the toughest question

that any podcast host has asked me, and

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even on my own podcast for that matter,

it's been the toughest question asked.

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You know, I think that sometimes we hold

ourselves back from really the ultimate

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true selves that we have lying dormant,

and I'll tell you, I have that same fire

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that you've just talked about earlier,

and I have many times tried to take a

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bucket of water and try to extinguish it,

but it keeps on lighting itself back up.

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I will say that, without disclosing the

names of individuals, there have been

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certain individuals that have held me

back, and I am so ready to lead a life

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in which I'm not dictated or detailed by

some people, or profiled, for what I've

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done as actions because that was old Josh.

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That was the old Josh that, at 32

years of age, wanted to pick up a

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kitchen knife and slit his wrist.

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Dead serious.

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Was ready to be done with it.

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The bricks on my back, as I've even

mentioned on being guests on other shows,

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was too much to bear, but now, those

bricks, they are the building materials

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that I'm using to create not just the

best version of who I am, but ultimately

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what I was destined to be, and that is

the single most biggest revelation that

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I've ever had in my entire life, which

is why I ask you the question of who has

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been your biggest inspirations on your

podcast, because I can mention Matthew

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Roda who was really an awesome person.

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I had Brianne DiDino who was also a coach.

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She really challenged me to think

about my thought patterns and

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ways in which I've been who I am.

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I've had classmates on

the show saying, "My god.

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You've changed so much",

but then there's you.

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Challenging you has been the single

most rewarding thing I have done yet on

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: 00:29:07

this show, and because of that, I think

it means so much to me to know that

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you're willing to carry that forward,

and even if you say to yourself, even

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immediately afterwards that you can't

do it, there's something else inside

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of you that will say, you can do it.

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Kaneshi: Absolutely.

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Joshua: And that's the voice

you have to keep listening to.

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That's what is so important, so

those are some of the lessons I've

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learned, and that's really what

leads into my final question for you.

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We've had an awesome conversation

for an hour, literally, about

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all kinds of different things.

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You've challenged me.

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I've challenged you.

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We have our own promises

that we have to uphold-

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Kaneshi: Mm-hmm.

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Joshua: But we haven't yet challenged

the listeners, so I'm going to

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give you the final word here.

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Here's my question.

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What would you say to our

listeners to help challenge them?

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What's the challenge that you put out to

them today to help them become not just

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the best versions of themselves, but

with everything that you've been through,

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what is that one important thing that

they should hear from such an awesome,

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talented, successful woman like yourself?

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Kaneshi: Find an accountability partner.

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You don't necessarily

like and hear me well.

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It can't be a sandpaper person, right,

like you got to get along with them,

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but when I say you don't necessarily

like, you won't like the fact that

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they've done what I have been blessed

to have Josh do for me today: challenge.

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That they will challenge you, that

they will not let you off the hook,

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and why am I saying accountability,

because I can give you the normal

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cliche answers of, "Get clear."

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That's important.

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I could give you the normal

cliche answer of, " Make sure

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that you are giving your all."

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: 00:30:50

We know all that.

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No, I'm going to say get an

accountability partner, and it's

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not somebody who is where you are.

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It's somebody who's a

little bit further than you.

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Not quite a mentor, even though they may

mentor you in a little bit of a way, but

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: 00:31:06

the reason you need an accountability

partner who's just a little bit ahead of

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you and you've got to figure out what that

is, and I'll give you an example, right?

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: 00:31:12

You're starting a business.

533

: 00:31:13

This person has had a business that is

profitable, or at least generating revenue

534

: 00:31:19

for six months, or for a year, right?

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: 00:31:21

It doesn't have to be a coach that's

had a business for 10 years and

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: 00:31:24

they're generating six figures.

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No.

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That's a coach.

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That's different.

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Get an accountability partner, so

somebody that you are somewhat close

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to that you're going to tell them

this is what I'm committing to, what

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: 00:31:35

Josh has done for me today, and that

likewise, they're going to do and

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: 00:31:40

you're going to hold them accountable.

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It is a two way partnership, but it is

a statistic that is proven that when you

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tell someone that you will- it's somewhere

between 92 and 98, 92 and 98 percent more

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: 00:31:55

likely to achieve your goals if you write

it down, we all know this, tell somebody,

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: 00:32:02

and then have that person- this is the

important part, have that person check

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: 00:32:08

in with you to make sure you're doing it.

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: 00:32:10

You're the 90 percentile more likely

to achieve the goal if you add

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that, and so it's uncomfortable.

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: 00:32:18

It is, I love what Josh said, the

voice you have to listen to, not the

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: 00:32:22

one that says, "Oh, maybe I'm not."

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: 00:32:23

No, you choose to listen to the

one that says, no, I committed.

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I will.

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You do that by you finding someone.

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You're willing to put yourself out

there to be honest with them about

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what you are doing, because if you

have an accountability partner, and you

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: 00:32:36

don't tell them everything related to

what you are asking them to hold you

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: 00:32:39

accountable for, it does you no good.

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: 00:32:41

You're willing to be honest

and you're willing to allow

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: 00:32:43

them to be honest with you.

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: 00:32:45

Your feelings will be okay.

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: 00:32:47

They'll catch up.

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: 00:32:49

You can go cry later if

they hurt your feelings.

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: 00:32:52

You will thank them because you'll have

cried tears of joy six months down the

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road when you have hit your goals, right?

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: 00:32:58

We all have feelings.

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None of us like this, but what is

important is that there's somebody to hold

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you accountable, to help you get to where

you want to go, and for you to do that for

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: 00:33:08

somebody else, that would be the single

most important thing I would tell people,

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Josh, and I would tell you, you guys, as

listeners, because that accountability

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piece is what's so often missing from

our goal setting, our dreams, and our

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execution, and if you will be willing

to do that, you will see an exponential

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growth in yourself first, and in

whatever it is that you're working to do.

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: 00:33:32

Joshua: I'm not adding anything to that.

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That was so well said.

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Kaneshi, we're at the end of our time,

but before we wrap up, I would like

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to have a moment or so to say some

final words, but how can people reach

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: 00:33:45

out to you if they're interested and

maybe talking with you some more?

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: 00:33:50

If you want to pitch your coaching

podcast, Coaching UP podcast, I should

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: 00:33:54

say, that's the time to do it too.

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: 00:33:56

I would love for you to share a little bit

about that as well, in terms of how people

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: 00:34:00

can access it, but I'm going to give

you these last few moments to do that.

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Kaneshi: Thank you.

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IThat i so kind and generous.

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: 00:34:06

I just want y'all to know what amazing

podcast hosts y'all have, because

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: 00:34:09

not every podcast host is willing

to do this, and so thank you, Josh.

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Y'all can find me at The Connection

Collaborator on Instagram.

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You can find me at LinkedIn.

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My name: Kaneshi.Hart.

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Kaneshi Hart.

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I know when you spell that

you're going to be like, what?

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But yes, it is Kaneshi.

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Kaneshi Hart.

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There is no A at the end of

my name, just so you all know.

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: 00:34:34

Connect with me there, but yes,

come listen to the Coach UP podcast.

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: 00:34:38

I think it's amazing.

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: 00:34:40

Obviously, y'all have an amazing

podcast host here, and so

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: 00:34:45

just add it to the playlist.

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: 00:34:46

That's all.

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: 00:34:47

Make sure Speaking From

The Heart stays in there.

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: 00:34:49

Absolutely.

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: 00:34:50

Oh, my goodness, because it's

going to be added to mine, and

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: 00:34:53

so add the Coach UP podcast.

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: 00:34:55

If you are a podcast host or you're

a small business owner, and small

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: 00:34:59

business owner includes service based,

product base, brick and mortar, online,

607

: 00:35:04

all of that, so coaches, consultants,

all of those social media people.

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: 00:35:09

Aqueduct people, what have you.

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: 00:35:11

If you follow in either those categories

and you want to receive advertising

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: 00:35:17

dollars, because you're a podcast host, or

you want to find the podcast to advertise

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: 00:35:21

on, reach out to me and I'll be happy to

connect you, so that your business can

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: 00:35:25

get the exposure and the marketing that

you want to the audience that you want,

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: 00:35:29

and your podcast can be monetized, so that

is how you can find me and as Josh has

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: 00:35:37

challenged me, as you continue to follow,

there may be coaching coming up somewhere.

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: 00:35:43

Joshua: Oh, there will be coaching.

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: 00:35:45

Absolutely.

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: 00:35:47

It's just a matter of when.

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Kaneshi: Yeah.

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Joshua: Kanisha,e want to

take a moment to say this.

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There's been many people, 96 episodes,

many of them monologue, many of

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them predominantly have been guests.

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: 00:36:02

I told Matthew Roda, which is why I

brought him up earlier, that when I

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find the person that is leading an

authentic life just like him, that I

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would reach out to him and let him know.

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: 00:36:12

I found the person and I really mean that

because sometimes we don't know what it

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: 00:36:18

means to just lead a life in which we

might have the stupidest things happen

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: 00:36:23

for no reason whatsoever and then they're

out of our control, but there's really

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: 00:36:27

two choices in which we have to lead.

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: 00:36:30

It's either we get sucked into that and

we just become a funnel of negativity

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: 00:36:35

alongside all of them, or we decide

to stand outside that box and be bold;

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to be beautiful, and to be willing

to challenge what we are to the core,

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: 00:36:46

because we know we have an awesome gift.

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I promise you that when you're back

on this show, we will celebrate

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those successes together, but until

then, Kaneshi, I really mean this.

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Thank you for Speaking From The Heart.

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: 00:37:03

It has been not only a tremendous

honor, but it's been a privilege

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: 00:37:07

to hear from you today.

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Kaneshi: Thank you.

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Joshua: I, from the bottom of my heart,

want to thank Kaneshi Hart so much for

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being part of this show, and being the

authentic person that she truly is,

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: 00:37:22

because if it wasn't for this interview,

I don't think that even now, as I record

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: 00:37:27

this a few months later after this

interview, I would have felt the feeling

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: 00:37:32

that I have about my business, let alone

the ability to know that I can keep

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: 00:37:37

pushing forward, because even though that

we do these episodes and we do them way

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: 00:37:44

in advance, I try to have a little bit of

a break in between, but unfortunately, a

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: 00:37:48

lot of things personally happened to me

after this interview that I'm not quite

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: 00:37:54

yet ready to share with all of you, but

in episode 100, I will certainly talk

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a little bit about it, but I will say,

to at least give you some context, that

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Kaneshi is one of those spirited beings

on this world that I don't think she

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: 00:38:10

even realizes her true talents and gifts,

which is why I even challenged her.

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If I'm going to do a six figure coaching

business, I want her to do the same as

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: 00:38:21

well, and I think that we have to be able

to learn some of the techniques that she

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: 00:38:27

even discussed in part two that I want

to recap now, so here's a couple things

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: 00:38:32

that I think are really interesting

about our conversation in this part.

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First off, you have to challenge

yourself for what you have and give

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: 00:38:41

yourself those opportunities to develop

yourself, but at the same time, which

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: 00:38:46

I find is the most important piece of

advice, is that you should wait 48 hours

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before you make any type of decision.

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: 00:38:53

Now, I get it.

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Some of you are already saying, "Josh.

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: 00:38:57

Hello?

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It's the real world.

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Sometimes I don't even have two

seconds to even think about it.

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: 00:39:03

Why do I have to wait 48 hours?", and that

is a true point, and I respect that, but

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: 00:39:09

there are certain things that we should

really wait to do until we actually give

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: 00:39:14

ourself a little bit of breathing room to

actually think about it, and the promise

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: 00:39:18

is that we have to be able to learn how

to make that decision for ourselves so

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: 00:39:25

that we are able to feel a little bit

more comfortable down the road that

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we truly made a thought out decision.

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How can we be an example to others through

that process, and I love the fact that

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Kaneshi talked about a very important

subject even to me which is the whole

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: 00:39:44

human trafficking process, specifically,

helping women that have been through sex

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: 00:39:48

trafficking as well, because there are

a lot of things that are not covered as

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: 00:39:53

explicit as this subject, and I think

that it's so fascinating to me that we

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: 00:39:59

don't give this topic more consideration.

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: 00:40:02

I know churches local to me have

discussed this subject matter with

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their congregation and have opened it

up to the public for public dialogue

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: 00:40:10

and solution making, but I don't think

that's enough to be able to understand

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and make some actionable consequences

against these people that do these

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sort of topics, so who are the people

that we need to be really speaking to?

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: 00:40:27

What are the people that would help

us to create that catalyst in our

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: 00:40:30

lives, especially on a subject such

as trafficking, how can we address

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: 00:40:35

those things, but more importantly,

I think the question that underpins

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everything in our entire lives, and

is really the underpinning of this

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: 00:40:43

whole entire show, is about this:

what is making your heart vibrate?

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: 00:40:51

What is making it go, thump, thump?

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: 00:40:56

I need to tell you something that was

really pivotal about this episode in

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: 00:41:01

itself is that even when we are talking

about in part one the importance of

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: 00:41:05

making that connection with people, is

that we have to be able to understand

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that those people, those very same

people, are the ones that we will

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: 00:41:13

depend on for our very livelihood, so

when we get on social media, especially

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: 00:41:20

with when I was talking about this

very subject with Matthew Roda back

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: 00:41:23

in episode 26, it's not really helping

us to really have that conversation

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: 00:41:28

with people and smack them down, make

them feel like they're not worthy,

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: 00:41:32

make them feel like that's impossible

for them to even create that value.

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: 00:41:36

Why spend our time with the trolls of

Facebook, Instagram, X, whatever social

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: 00:41:42

media platform that you want to choose?

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: 00:41:44

Why is it worthy of spending our time

doing that when we could use our time

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: 00:41:49

to build our seven figure business?

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Find that accountability partner.

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Don't let it just be people that use

you as sandpaper, and I know that

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you will easily be able to find out

who those people are because all they

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: 00:42:04

will be looking for is this and that.

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This and that.

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It's almost like a clock ticking.

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You know at what approximate time

there will be coming knocking

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: 00:42:15

on your door wanting something a

little bit more than what they just

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: 00:42:18

received from you previously, but

it isn't just about what you are.

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You have rights.

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: 00:42:25

You have abilities to create that

opportunity, and you should be able

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: 00:42:30

to serve who you think you need to

serve, but that person that's checking

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: 00:42:35

in on you is a little bit different.

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: 00:42:39

They're not always

asking you for something.

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: 00:42:42

They just want you to think a little

bit further ahead in maybe what you're

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: 00:42:46

making as an important decision.

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: 00:42:49

Maybe they're just checking in with

you not only for the physical well

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being, but for the mental as well.

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I think that I had so many people in my

life at one point that cared about me;

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had always wondered what was going on and

especially when I dealt with my suicide

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four years ago now, I realized that maybe

I had a lot more support than I first

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thought, but at the same time, I also was

neglecting their willingness to help me

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out because I was so ashamed of who I was.

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I was not being that accountability

partner when they were

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asking me to help them out.

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I was the victim of creating my own

issues, so I don't look for pity.

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: 00:43:36

Why do I share this though?

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I know that there are people

still out there holding a grudge.

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: 00:43:42

They're still feeling that I am some sort

of monster, and I think that the monsters

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: 00:43:48

that we create from those experiences

can be slayed once and for all through

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love, and after we had this conversation,

Kaneshi and I had a heart to heart

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about what is really important, and it's

that love; that crazy undeniable love.

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: 00:44:06

Say what you say and say it like you

mean it, because it's out of love.

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I didn't love myself for the longest

time, and I think that when I started

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my business, I was thinking that

maybe I could just extend myself a

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: 00:44:20

little bit more to find that love,

but I think through this process,

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especially of even starting my podcast,

I learned a little bit about myself.

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: 00:44:32

Yeah, there's a lot of the

common things that we've talked

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about: the autism diagnosis.

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: 00:44:37

The people that I wanted to forgive.

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: 00:44:40

The people that I knew that if I stood

up to them, maybe they would finally

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: 00:44:44

listen to me because I had shown some self

confidence, but something has happened

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: 00:44:50

in me over these last few months after

listening again to Kaneshi's episode

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that I want to share with all of you that

might be helpful, especially if you're

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: 00:45:00

struggling in this time period of not

quite knowing how to best move forward.

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Just wait 48 hours to make any decision.

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I waited a long time, and I even took

longer than 48 hours for that matter,

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to make a decision of my own, which is

to finally deal with a problem that I

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had for the longest time, and it was

actually something that was holding me

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: 00:45:24

back, and not to get into particulars,

because on this show, I always respect

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: 00:45:28

the confidentiality of others, I will

say that it is not just about the things

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: 00:45:34

that we deal with at the present, but

what we ultimately deal with as problems

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: 00:45:40

in the future if we don't decide to

address them, and I was not addressing

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: 00:45:45

something that was the biggest monster

of them all for the longest time.

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: 00:45:50

As a result of that, I

didn't love who I was.

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: 00:45:54

I didn't love what I was becoming,

and I needed to find deep inside

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: 00:45:59

myself what makes my heart vibrate,

and then I realized that the biggest

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: 00:46:07

thing that I always wanted to do was

be able to live independently free,

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: 00:46:13

not being able to be held back, and

knowing that if I would just accept

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: 00:46:19

who I am and love who I was with that

crazy, undeniable feeling, I would be

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: 00:46:26

able to achieve the ultimate success.

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: 00:46:30

Since my interview with Kaneshi, I have

made significant strides in my business,

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: 00:46:34

to the point that I am so proud of what

I have become, and I know that there's a

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: 00:46:40

lot more work ahead of me, and I know that

there's a lot of things yet to do, but

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: 00:46:44

there's something about the challenge that

Kaneshi and I made that I want her to know

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: 00:46:49

after listening to this today, that I want

all of you to know, too after listening

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to this amazing two part interview.

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: 00:46:57

If we're able to live the most authentic

type of lives in which we're free of

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: 00:47:02

the persecution, the promises that might

have been broken, and even the pursuit of

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: 00:47:09

what we hold dear, we are able to create

an identity for ourselves that isn't

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: 00:47:17

just about trying to find who we want to

match make with, or even find the best

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: 00:47:22

company to work with, or even some other

reason for our own purpose of our lives.

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: 00:47:29

If we can just say what we say and

really mean it, and just love from

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: 00:47:34

a place in which it's crazy and

undeniable, and if we're able to make

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: 00:47:38

a promise to each other that we will

hold each other accountable no matter

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: 00:47:42

what that's what's really important.

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: 00:47:47

We need to be able to connect with

each other in a way in which we

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: 00:47:50

never thought we could connect.

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: 00:47:52

We need to be able to focus on

what we're doing because it all

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: 00:47:55

brings value at the end of the day.

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: 00:47:57

We need to stop putting

the bad messages on.

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: 00:48:02

Take that record off.

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: 00:48:05

Stop saying that you can't do it,

because you are able to do it.

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: 00:48:13

You are.

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: 00:48:15

I'll give you a moment to think about

that, because it is so important for

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: 00:48:19

you to know that it isn't just about

what is happening in the business

786

: 00:48:23

world, it's what's happening with you.

787

: 00:48:27

Do you want to be laid off three more

times before it finally settles in

788

: 00:48:31

that maybe you shouldn't be living

the life that you're living now?

789

: 00:48:36

Are you trying to bypass or

ignore the issues that you have?

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: 00:48:45

Stop doing it.

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: 00:48:47

You're worth it.

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: 00:48:50

What can we do to get you help today?

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: 00:48:53

As a coach, I want that to be the question

that you are left with, because there

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: 00:48:58

are amazing people out there that are

doing the good work and that means that

795

: 00:49:03

you should have a piece of that pie as

well, because hope is out there, and

796

: 00:49:10

we need to find catalysts just like

Kaneshi is, to be able to do just that.

797

: 00:49:17

If you've been waiting this whole

entire time to start your journey, now

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: 00:49:21

is the time to stop waiting, because

you've got to love yourself, in that

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: 00:49:27

crazy undeniable way, and challenge

yourself, so that you're not stuck

800

: 00:49:33

in a situation such as a trafficking

problem, and find what you have to

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: 00:49:38

offer, because you have so much to offer.

802

: 00:49:43

You are the example that other

people need to see, and by you not

803

: 00:49:49

doing what you need to do, you're

just putting off the inevitable.

804

: 00:49:55

Find your accountability partner.

805

: 00:49:59

Find the person that will treat you

for who you are, because you are worth

806

: 00:50:04

it, and all the success is just waiting

for you on the other side, and that

807

: 00:50:11

success will not just define you.

808

: 00:50:15

It will not just help you get to that

new plateau, but it will allow you to

809

: 00:50:21

share what's on your heart with that

incredible love that you have to give.

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: 00:50:28

Thanks for listening to part two of

episode number 96 of Speaking from

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the Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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: 00:50:38

Outro: Thanks for listening.

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: 00:50:39

For more information about our podcast

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814

: 00:50:43

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: 00:50:48

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: 00:50:52

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: 00:50:56

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: 00:50:59

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